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Myth of Male Flight Attendants  
User currently offlineSpike From United Kingdom, joined Feb 2004, 1170 posts, RR: 5
Posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 20 hours ago) and read 21128 times:

As this forum seems to have a high count of flight attendants participating, perhaps you could clarify or dispell the myth of male flight attendants 'always' being gay. What percentage would you say are? Is is more common in the US or Europe to be a gay FA?
Not that it matters eitherway to me, just wondering...

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User currently offlineFA4UA From United States of America, joined Nov 2003, 812 posts, RR: 20
Reply 1, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 19 hours ago) and read 21054 times:

yes... In my experience I'd say 90% of Male FA's are gay at UA. The remaining 9% of the male FA population goes out of their way to prove their "straightness" by hitting relentlessly on women or talking about sports to drive home the fact that they are straight. The last 1% are the secure type who are genuinely nice to everyone and have nothing to prove. They're the best!

As I've flown other Carriers: Virgin Atlantic, All Nippon, US Airways, Delta and American... I'd say that an overwhelming majority of the men are also gay with these carriers, but that's just my limited experience.

Gay Men have a natural talent for attention to detail and being a good, warm host, which is what the carriers look for when hiring.

FA4UA

(Shout out to you Gordo!)



The debate continues... Starwood or Hyatt... which is better
User currently offlineArtsyman From United States of America, joined Feb 2001, 4745 posts, RR: 34
Reply 2, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 19 hours ago) and read 21046 times:

Continental is roughly 50/50 in HTA/HOS, cant speak for domestic these days or EWR Based crews

J


User currently offlineSpike From United Kingdom, joined Feb 2004, 1170 posts, RR: 5
Reply 3, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 19 hours ago) and read 21024 times:

Good point FA4UA, hence the Queer Eye for Staright Guy detailing on TV.

User currently offlineCOAB767 From Guam, joined Nov 2003, 1377 posts, RR: 9
Reply 4, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 19 hours ago) and read 20992 times:

I am a F/A. I'm BI. So there's also Bi-sexual F/A's as well


Continental Micronesia: "Fly With The Warmth Of Paradise"
User currently offlineRoberta From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 5, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 18 hours ago) and read 20982 times:

Continental is roughly 50/50

I am a F/A. I'm BI. So there's also Bi-sexual F/A's as well


i guess that was pretty accurate then. Big grin

Rob


User currently offlineSEAPete From United States of America, joined Mar 2004, 67 posts, RR: 0
Reply 6, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 18 hours ago) and read 20968 times:

I've been generally really happy with the service I have had from the the F/A's on the flights I've had. I really don't care if they are gay or from another planet so long as they have decent customer service skills.


SEA No other place like it
User currently offlineACEregular From United Kingdom, joined Aug 2003, 676 posts, RR: 1
Reply 7, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 17 hours ago) and read 20902 times:

Who gives a s**t what sexuality your F/A is, it's nothing to do with anyone apart from them or thier partner. If thats all passengers wonder when they see a male F/A onboard and by the way I am straight, then that passenger is a little sad. Or perhaps curious LOL.

User currently offlineJacobCAL From United States of America, joined Oct 1999, 197 posts, RR: 1
Reply 8, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 15 hours ago) and read 20845 times:

I would have to agree with Artsyman. I am based in HTA (Houston International) and it seems that the base is about 50/50. People don't really seem to care who is straight, gay or bi as long as they get the job done. I however find it extremely embarrassing flying with guys who are very feminine. I am gay but most wouldn't know that.

JacobCAL


User currently offlineCOAB767 From Guam, joined Nov 2003, 1377 posts, RR: 9
Reply 9, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 15 hours ago) and read 20796 times:

JacobCAL
I take it you fly for CO? What are favorite routes to fly. I work for Continental Micronesia. Let's Chat sometime

Brandon



Continental Micronesia: "Fly With The Warmth Of Paradise"
User currently offlineAA777223ER From United States of America, joined Feb 2004, 220 posts, RR: 2
Reply 10, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 11 hours ago) and read 20741 times:

I'd guess AA is about 80/20 (G/S) or so. Funny story from when I was new: I was flying DFW-OKC on a 727, 29 minute flying time to do a full liquor/beverage service for 150 PAX. We were rushing needless to say and this PAX with his big slow southern drawl asks me "I know they call the girls Stewardess, what do they call you?" I smiled and said "Stewardess"  Smile/happy/getting dizzy


time flies, seize the day
User currently offlineSpike From United Kingdom, joined Feb 2004, 1170 posts, RR: 5
Reply 11, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 10 hours ago) and read 20668 times:

Thanks guys. You proved it.

User currently offlineNIKV69 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 12, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 10 hours ago) and read 20622 times:

I would have to say that 90% is not really true. That is a stereotype. I would estimate roughly half or maybe just a little less than half. I would also venture to say some of them are Bi-sexual. Who cares. They do their job well is the only thing I care about. CO's FAs do a great job and if they indulge in sex with each other or with men or whatever. Leave it in the bedroom, or hotel room for all you FAs.  Smile/happy/getting dizzy

User currently offlineSevenair From United Kingdom, joined Feb 2001, 1728 posts, RR: 0
Reply 13, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 10 hours ago) and read 20616 times:

well, i am gay, and always oggle @ the FAs, gay or not! But i do agree, a lot of FAs are gay. But its not the gayest-try fashion retail and health n beauty!

User currently offlineNwacrew From United States of America, joined Apr 2003, 311 posts, RR: 0
Reply 14, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 10 hours ago) and read 20556 times:

I think the 50/50 ratio may well apply as well at Northwest, and I agree with FA4UA that some of the straight guys have an obsession with letting everyone know they are NOT GAY. Frequently their heterosxuality is all too apparent; BAD haircut; nicked face from shaving in a hurry;un-ironed uniform shirt; collar button undone; necktie yanked down; slacks that are too short/long/baggy/in need of dry-cleaning; scuffed shoes; and a total lack of interest in trying to see that a service is done as nicely for the passengers as possible. (Serving meals and drinks cuts into the time they can hit on women in the cabin.) They're also only temporarily in cabin service while working towards their manly pilot's rating - even though they have 14 years seniority...

Then there are the really gorgeous, totally pulled-together straight guys (whom both the gays, and the girls, are in awe of), who are so supremely confident about themselves that they have nothing to prove to anyone, and treat the gay guys just like regular buddies. As it should be.These guys are hard-working and friendly to everybody.

I'm generalizing like crazy, of course. But I've flown for 5 different airlines over the past 30 years, so I've had the opportunity to observe a great many flight attendants.

P.S. My partner's brother is a flight attendant for British Airways, and says gays are very much the minority at BA. I do think European airlines tend to employ more heterosexual men in the cabin. What do you guys flying in Europe think? Am I off-base here?


User currently offlineUwoAviation From Canada, joined Mar 2004, 39 posts, RR: 0
Reply 15, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 10 hours ago) and read 20475 times:

On a short hop AC flight from YXU-YYZ, the male F/A wouldn't stop staring at my shoes and asking me questions about them.

Josh


User currently offlineJAL777 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 16, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 10 hours ago) and read 20405 times:

Of all the male F/A's that I personally know (about 7) none of them are gay.





Or so they say.  Big grin


User currently offlineRjnut From United States of America, joined Dec 1999, 1242 posts, RR: 0
Reply 17, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 10 hours ago) and read 20371 times:

I have observed that most of Southwest's male FA's appear straight..not many gays.. I dont think the goofy and corny in-flight culture(i do like WN BTW) appeals to the gay psyche as much as the legacy carriers' willlingness to allow them to be bitchy and hauty .

OK flame me starting.... NOW!


User currently offlineUAL747DEN From United States of America, joined Dec 2003, 2392 posts, RR: 11
Reply 18, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 9 hours ago) and read 20264 times:

All these comments are so funny! It seems that when I fly on F9 to and from RSW there is always the same FA on board. I think he really likes me, he always gives me free TV, free drinks, talks to me throughout the entire flight, and has even given me cash and TV vouchers. I feel kind of weird with him checkin me out the whole time but hey he is very nice and does his job well. I have thought about giving him my number to go have some drinks or play cards (he tells me that he loves to do that) but im scared he'll think Im gay too! Yeah so anyways I think its about 50/50 but don't matter to me as long as they do their job, however I am very pleased when I get a hot young female FA to flirt with. (and get non rev tickets from!)


Its hard being gorges!



/// UNITED AIRLINES
User currently offlineKhushdesi From United States of America, joined Jan 2004, 85 posts, RR: 0
Reply 19, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 9 hours ago) and read 20208 times:

ual747den, it must also be hard not to know how to spell gorgeous.  Smile

i agree about southwest- i fly them all the time and their f/as are usually straight and older than other carriers.


User currently offlineCRFLY From Costa Rica, joined Jan 2004, 197 posts, RR: 1
Reply 20, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 9 hours ago) and read 20139 times:

OMG not his topic again... Lesbian ramp agents, Gay F/A, bisexual pilots, who cares???


With Age comes Wisdom...
User currently offlineLucky727 From Canada, joined Sep 2003, 602 posts, RR: 1
Reply 21, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 9 hours ago) and read 20123 times:

UAL747DEN : you just gave away your *obvious* heterosexuality with your spelling of "gorges" (!?)

and p.s. "free TV, free drinks, talks to me throughout the entire flight, and has even given me cash and TV vouchers. I feel kind of weird with him checkin me out the whole time but hey he is very nice and does his job well. I have thought about giving him my number to go have some drinks or play cards (he tells me that he loves to do that)" ...make sure he only wants to drink & play cards - you're a sitting duck, all of 21 and cute in 14A  Big thumbs up

cheers, Lucky



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User currently offlineGreg From United Kingdom, joined May 2005, 0 posts, RR: 0
Reply 22, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 9 hours ago) and read 20064 times:

99.999999% gay--or just don't know it yet. I can't think of a straight dude that would want to be a stewardess. But it's fine, I think the male f/a's are generally better in customer serivice and more willing to make small talk on longer flights.

But, it's not the type of job straight men would gravitate to (oh Dad...I wanna be a flight attendant!!!)...and yes that does sound a bit sexist..but it's true. Try finding a straight male manicurist!


User currently offlineN743AS From United States of America, joined Aug 2000, 124 posts, RR: 0
Reply 23, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 9 hours ago) and read 20026 times:

its not a myth...its a fact


If the airplane is one piece, don't cheat on it...ride the bastard down! -Ernest K. Ghann
User currently offlineRjnut From United States of America, joined Dec 1999, 1242 posts, RR: 0
Reply 24, posted (10 years 8 months 3 weeks 3 days 8 hours ago) and read 19856 times:

just like the famous comedian, Judy Tenuta has said,!

" A good hard prison sentence could turn any man gay, but most flight attendants she has seen would only require a parking ticket"


25 Jcs17 : But, it's not the type of job straight men would gravitate to (oh Dad...I wanna be a flight attendant!!!)...and yes that does sound a bit sexist..but
26 MidnightMike : COAB767 Bi Sexual, as Robin Williams, said you have a better chance of getting laid on a Friday night than us Uni Sexual folks, & with the airlines on
27 Sk945 : Its hard to give a figure, but I guess its more common among F/A than in other groups, but as many has said before. Who cares?
28 Sevenair : Its defo common in FAs. but as I said, retail has a lot of gays. I just got a letter published in IKEAs employee magazine about being gay in the workf
29 Airnondo : This is all very entertaining and interesting too. but I would have to agree with CRFLY---not again. So what's with the bi pilot stereotype?
30 Leneld : This forum is so funny sometime! Here are my two cents. Most of my male friends who are flight attendants for Delta and Alaska Airlines living here in
31 Vulindlela744 : Well, I have a friend who is a pilot for AA and 100% gay. His partner is a F/A with AA as well. Unfortunately, up front it's still very much a macho k
32 AMSMAN : Interesting question, I've wondered why that is myself.
33 Leneld : Oh I forgot to mention that my partner, who happens to be Italian, flies international out of JFK with Delta and he's gay ofcourse! So I guess there i
34 MD88Captain : At DAL the male FA's are mostly gay. Probably 75% if I had to guess. The staright guys are funny. They break your hand when shaking hands and then sho
35 777d : I heard about 70% of the male population is gay. These guys that are light in the loafers are the same guys that is going to save my ass if there is a
36 GoAibusGo : I'm a F/A and a straight one. And yes most male F/As are gay or bi-sexual. I flew for several companies and at all these companies most male F/As were
37 RockyRacoon : I'd definitely consider it, as well, if other things fall through. For someone who loves avaition and travel, it'd be right up a straight man's alley
38 Greg : AA76744....I date a little higher up the food chain than F/A's! Although I do have two close (very gay) friends who work for Continental as F/A's. The
39 AirT85 : I'm a straight guy who wants to become a flight attendant. I love to serve people, I love to travel and I love to be around airplanes so its the perfe
40 GoAibusGo : AirT85 Good for you. It is a fun job, you will like it.
41 Rjnut : ok Greg, who is the particular hockey player...come on , tell! Do we get an outing right here on airliners.net.. Kidding, but I wouldnt think a hockey
42 Blueskies31 : Hi all...as a F/A for Alaska, I can say with confidence that there are, indeed, some very straight F/A's out there. As was mentioned prior, one can us
43 WindowSeat : Well said, Blueskies31, you just made my respected users list. cheers
44 Post contains images CPDC10-30 : I date a little higher up the food chain than F/A's! Well, feast all you want higher on the scale and spare the rest of us. I am sure all the decent
45 Post contains images Blueskies31 : Thanks Windowseat...though I HATE defending my choice of career! For the record as well, I am HUGE aviation junkie, and so being around airplanes is a
46 Ultrapig : Remember the flight attendant on the movie Airplane who said "Put your head between your legs----no Mr. ____ your own legs!" I think this thread has g
47 VC745d : I date a little higher up the food chain than F/A's! Although I do have two close (very gay) friends who work for Continental as F/A's. You're entitle
48 Jafa : Labeling str8 guys as messy and sloppy is a form of stereotyping. This is a dumb topic that has been discussed several times. Who cares what anyone do
49 Post contains images Boo25 : In the UK, i would say the stewards are 60-70% gay, 30-40% straight at BA/VS. I have operated a VS flight with 11 straight stewards, 2gay & 3 girls!!
50 Greg : I'm always amazed by the 'tired old lawyer' tag. Guys, I'm 30 y/o and my career hasn't even peaked. And no, I have no trouble in the dating arena, tha
51 Post contains images Boeing747_600 : UAL747DEN wrote: Its hard being gorges! Is it harder than spelling it?!
52 Jfklganyc : Staying with the gay thing---I'm a gay pilot. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one, but I have met a few. What do you think is the percentage of gay
53 AA767400 : Greg, I am not arguing your stupid point about most Flight Attendants being gay. What I am saying is that you have a problem with Flight Attendants, i
54 Post contains images HALFA : I found this thread here today and thought it was interesting and it made me wonder how many of my co-workers at Hawaiian Airlines are gay. I decided
55 Greg : Uhmmm...AA767...I'm actually a native Californian..from Los Angeles. And yes, if I had to grade job professionals, being a flight attendant would be f
56 Ozzie : Who cares whether their flight attendent is gay, bi, stragiht, an alien, or a illegal. As long as they provide good service and get you to your destin
57 Post contains images CPDC10-30 : And no, I have no trouble in the dating arena, thank you. 1. Tell me about a gay man that has trouble picking up guys. I still haven't met one yet. Y
58 KaiGywer : I thought about becoming an F/A, mostly because my plans of becoming a pilot fell through. But, I am scared of all the stereotypes. Like "all" male F/
59 Post contains images Drewwright : I would say 90% of male flight attendants are gay. It doesnt really matter though. I dont think the pax or the crew for the most part really care. The
60 Aloha73g : HALFA, Ive noticed that on AQ and HA there appear to be more straight male F/A's than on other carriers. It might just be something about Hawai'i. I a
61 Post contains images Atrude777 : Hey- I am straight and would love to be a flight attendent. But, am scared to try for it due to the reactions of "you wanna be a f/a so are you gay?"
62 Greg : DC10-30... Man..what an insult. You think I'd date a Canadian hockey player??? Get real, eh?
63 Iflewrepublic : Atrude777.... I know you said that you do care what others think of you, but honestly, if you're going to live your live through other people's eyes (
64 Aerosvit : All right fine than...I would want to be a flight attendant just to travel around and be on a plane. 1. I am not gay 2. I have a girlfriend So...? In
65 Syncmaster : I don't care either way, what someone does in the privacy of their own home is their problem, not mine, I think it's good to be open, but I couldn't c
66 AA777223ER : I have to make a comment about my profession not being "enriching or rewarding". I used to go to an office every day, go home and sleep, back to the o
67 M&m : I'm considering becoming an FA should I not find an internship by the summer. I figured, hey if I can't find a job dealing with building/designing air
68 Post contains images PER744 : Well, there might be one more gay FA in Australia soon I had my final interview for ATC today and I think I did a pretty bad job of it. Seeing it was
69 Lufthansa : Per744, i never ever would have guessed! (seriously)
70 Greg : Oh please..stop with "I get to wander the temples of...blah"..and "sit on the beaches..of blah." It the standard F/A defense (snooze...). Not impresse
71 Post contains images TransIsland : CRFLY, you beat me to it. Who cares!
72 Aviaction : My, Greg did it again ... he very clearly showed us for the umpteenth time that he simply doesn't respect others. Even his profile says so. Happy and
73 AA767400 : Well Greg, keep insulting Flight Attendants. Just remember....When some one insults your job, remember why. I still think that this goes way deep, and
74 Pe@rson : I couldn't careless whether the cabin crew on the flights aboard which I fly are straight, gay, alien, black, white, green with blue spots, or anythin
75 QIguy24 : Male flight attendents have the same rights as female F/A's. And I must say they even goves better service than some of the female F/A's. And as Pe@rs
76 Atrude777 : iflewrepublic- Thanks for knowing what its like, I do know that i SHOULDN'T care what other people think but the fact is I do, and I cannot get over i
77 Greg : AA....people insult my job all time. Lawyers are likely the number one target for jokes (some ARE hysterical!). Does it hurt my feelings? Gimme a brea
78 VSLover : Atrude777- granted, you have had to make it past an enormous stereotype, which you had no control over. looking back now, think of how successful you
79 Post contains images Pe@rson : "Lawyers are likely the number one target for jokes (some ARE hysterical!)." I will hopefully be a qualified lawyer (barrister) in two years. If you d
80 Steve6666 : I do care about the sexuality of FAs. It would be appalling if one accidentally chatted up a straight one. I am really looking forward to my Virgin fl
81 Post contains images Worldperks : "I am really looking forward to my Virgin flight to SFO in June on Pride weekend - 'twill be as camp as Christmas...." Actually, San Francisco isn't l
82 Mauilono : Went through the whole seniority list at my base (approx 350 flight attendants), found that 57% of male flight attendants are gay. Found that the high
83 Azmi : I cannot tell whether flight attendants on middle eastern airlines are gay or straight.I don't know the criterion to judge,but I guess the ratio must
84 Post contains images SegmentKing : UAL747DEN -> Blonde haired guy with glasses, maybe 5'10, 160#s, name is Jeremy? I've had the same Frontier FA's on most of my flights out of Florida (
85 LTBEWR : I think, this from a straight male in the law business, there may be a high percentage of gay/lesbian f/a's in the USA compared to many jobs for a num
86 Greg : Pearson..the definition may be slightly different from yours. In the U.S.... Hysterical: [adj] marked by excessive or uncontrollable emotion; "hysteri
87 AA777223ER : Hmmm, definitions... Job: [noun] a piece of work; especially : a small miscellaneous piece of work undertaken on order at a stated rate Career: [noun]
88 Greg : You proved my point, thanks! Brgds.
89 Post contains images Pe@rson : Thanks Greg. My comment about them being hysterical was just a joke, as you probably guessed. You'll always come across people who are a little - or v
90 NonRevKing : 99.999999% of lawyers are jerks--or just don't know it yet. I can't think of a nice human being that would want to be a Satan's little helper. I'm str
91 Blueairbureau : I'm confused, not about who I am but about the double standard I get exposed to. The str8t guys I fly with love it when I take them to Lesbo nite at t
92 Steveswa737 : There are 3 guarantees in life: 1. Death 2. Taxes 3. Greg will respond to any thread about FAs. Is it really a surprise to anyone that he would use th
93 VC745d : Greg--If you actually are an attorney, you must be unemployed. I know of no other 30-year-old lawyer of any worth who has the time to post 4,404 messa
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