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Topic: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: FlyboyOz
Posted 2011-05-06 17:10:28 and read 1771 times.

I watched a TV program about parents on Facebook/myspace. A teenager was angry to his mother that he didn't like to add his mother as a friend in his facebook. I know it's odd but I know some has parents in his/her sites.

Is it acceptable to be friends with your parents on Facebook?? What do you think?

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: bananaboy
Posted 2011-05-06 17:22:41 and read 1765 times.

Quoting FlyboyOz (Thread starter):
Is it acceptable to be friends with your parents on Facebook?? What do you think?

Thankfully, my parents aren't interested, but my MOL is. It's OK, though my partner doesn't like it. As they live in a different country, it gives her, and consequently, the rest of the family, an idea of the things we're up to. I'm OK with that, as although we speak regularly, I am not so good at email updates. This helps save on those.

The weirdest thing is when your mother-in-law "pokes" you and you then feel obliged to "poke" her back.

Now that is very strange.


Mark

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: varigb707
Posted 2011-05-06 17:28:36 and read 1762 times.

I donĀ“t have a problem with that. The more the merrier!!!!

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: JetBlue777
Posted 2011-05-06 19:08:52 and read 1732 times.

My mom tried to add me on facebook, so I ignored her. I have a rule that I only add people who's 21 or younger. When I used my dad's computer and forgot to logout, she went on my account and added herself as my friend. Long story short, I blocked her, created a new account for family members only which I never use. Problem Solved.

 

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: seb146
Posted 2011-05-06 19:09:53 and read 1732 times.

Parents want to get involved in their childrens lives. So what? That is what parenting is! If the kids don't like it, too bad. Now, when the kids are adults, that is another story, entirely...

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: Dreadnought
Posted 2011-05-06 19:33:03 and read 1715 times.

Quoting JetBlue777 (Reply 3):
My mom tried to add me on facebook, so I ignored her. I have a rule that I only add people who's 21 or younger.

She should have a rule that anyone 21 or under does not have internet access in her home. You sound like a brat.

The internet is full of bad stuff and ways to get you in trouble. It is their duty as parents to keep an eye on what you do. Personally, I think these 'social networks' should be banned for anyone under 18.

Go out and find some real friends. Try actually TALKING to them.

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: Lowrider
Posted 2011-05-06 19:44:51 and read 1710 times.

When my kids are old enough to use social networking websites, their use of them will be contingent upon my being "friended" or otherwise having access. There are too many bad people out there, and too much bad material, to allow unfettered internet usage.

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: JetBlue777
Posted 2011-05-06 20:04:41 and read 1699 times.

Quoting Dreadnought (Reply 5):
She should have a rule that anyone 21 or under does not have internet access in her home. You sound like a brat.

I was being sarcastic lol.

Just for the record, I am not a brat. If I was then I'd be living in my grandparent's farm in the Philippines and playing the real life Farmville. Same thing will happen if my grades are not to her "standards"  

I just want to keep my friends and my family separate. I dunno, it's not like I use vulgar words on facebook or do anything suspicious but it feels awkward when my parents interact with my friend.

Though I must admit, facebook has been taking away a part of my study time and has gotten me in deep trouble before. So far, my grades hasn't been affected yet, if my GPA would go down, no internet for me for weeks.

[Edited 2011-05-06 20:10:17]

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: joffie
Posted 2011-05-06 20:33:22 and read 1679 times.

Facebook is the only way my parents communicate to me these days, I dont live with them!

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: sunking737
Posted 2011-05-06 20:37:01 and read 1675 times.

My whole family has Facebook, I have all my kids as friends except one and I am cool with that. If my kids want me as a friend or not I'm cool with it. I think for Facebook as a newspaper, I can see whats happening to all my friends and family from all around the country.

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: Stabilator
Posted 2011-05-06 20:58:45 and read 1666 times.

I rejected my mother's friend request. I don't see the point as I am a phone call away i she needs me. She knows how to text so yeah...no point.

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: seb146
Posted 2011-05-06 21:14:26 and read 1659 times.

For the record, my nephew is on FB and he has friended me. So what? I post things I know he will see. So what?

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: aa61hvy
Posted 2011-05-06 21:33:19 and read 1647 times.

I am friends with my dad on facebook. My mom does not use it. I don't care about being friends with my dad. The things I don't want him to know, I don't post on FB.

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: aa757first
Posted 2011-05-06 22:04:16 and read 1636 times.

Quoting Dreadnought (Reply 5):

She should have a rule that anyone 21 or under does not have internet access in her home. You sound like a brat.

The internet is full of bad stuff and ways to get you in trouble. It is their duty as parents to keep an eye on what you do. Personally, I think these 'social networks' should be banned for anyone under 18.

Go out and find some real friends. Try actually TALKING to them.

Life is full of bad ways to get people into trouble. Hopefully, by the time a high school aged kid gets a Facebook, the parents have managed to teach them judgment. Checking up on a kid's Facebook postings is, in some ways, a lot like eavesdropping on them while they have friends over. Also, I don't think many people add strangers as friends on Facebook.

I think Facebook's downfall will be their popularity. I've realized how segmented my life is: work, relatives, parents and friends. I add friends on Facebook and some relatives, but on complete limited profile (they cannot even see my wall).

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: JetsGo
Posted 2011-05-06 22:24:25 and read 1627 times.

I'm friends with my entire family on Facebook. Mom, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and so on. I don't mind it at all. Yeah, I had to tell my grandmother to stop constantly liking my Friday night outings with the friends, but other than that... it's a great way to stay in communication.

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: elbandgeek
Posted 2011-05-06 23:01:23 and read 1612 times.

My parents aren't really interested enough to bother but my sister and I still both stated very clearly several years ago that they're welcome to have accounts if they want but not to expect either of us to friend them. So far they haven't had a problem with it. I'm still constantly igoring requests from my aunt however.

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: auntie
Posted 2011-05-07 02:22:19 and read 1573 times.

Quoting Dreadnought (Reply 5):
Personally, I think these 'social networks' should be banned for anyone under 18.

As far as I know, Facebook is banned for people under 13 but a lot of my cousins' kids are on it and most of them are under 13. They just put in a false year of birth. One, for example, is around 8 or 9 and has his dob as 1970. Whyyyyy his parents allow this I do not know.

A daugher of one of my cousins (16yrs) )has both of her parents as friends and one day she was having an argument back and forth on her wall with one of her friends and her mother put in a comment - something like "guys, can you take it down a notch" I must admit, I absolutely cringed for the poor girl when I read that!!!!!!

IMHO it's a good idea for parents to be on their kids facebook in those mid-teen years, so they can see that they are using it sensibly and not being bullied/bullying others, or befriending any weirdos!

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: Springbok747
Posted 2011-05-07 03:42:17 and read 1561 times.

Thankfully no one in my family is interested in facebook..I only have my sister on my friends list. If they want to reach me, I'm only a phone call away.

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: BAViscount
Posted 2011-05-07 07:11:33 and read 1517 times.

My 78 year old mother keeps asking me how she should go about getting on Facebook, but I keep telling her not to bother! To be honest, the only reason she wants to be on there is because I'm FB friends with a number of my cousins, so get to pick up on juicy bits of family gossip...Mum wants in on that too!! I'm happy to keep her up to date though if it means that she doesn't get to see my drunken (and sometimes not so drunken) FB ramblings...there are certain things she really doesn't need to know about her "little boy"! 

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: JBirdAV8r
Posted 2011-05-07 07:35:52 and read 1508 times.

Maybe I'm just old, but I'm friends with my parents, uncles, aunts, extended family on Facebook. I never post anything scandalous on there anyway.

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: lhr380
Posted 2011-05-07 09:01:59 and read 1492 times.

Quoting joffie (Reply 8):
Facebook is the only way my parents communicate to me these days, I dont live with them!

My mum, her BF, my step mum, sis and lots of aunts and uncles are on my FB. I have nothing to hide so why not.

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: sw733
Posted 2011-05-07 09:23:44 and read 1476 times.

Quoting JetBlue777 (Reply 3):
I have a rule that I only add people who's 21 or younger

Hey now, respect your elders...I am 27 and I was facebooking while you were just a glimmer in your parents eyes! Or, ya know, it was 2004 or something...

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: OA260
Posted 2011-05-07 09:48:32 and read 1470 times.

Quoting FlyboyOz (Thread starter):
Is it acceptable to be friends with your parents on Facebook?? What do you think?

I certainly dont want my parents on my FB , my Dad joined once and asked me to be friends on it and I was like ''No way'' spying on me etc... Not cool...

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: LFutia
Posted 2011-05-07 09:53:14 and read 1466 times.

I have both my parents on as friends. My dad doesnt really do anything on facebook but my mom does almost everything and some of my friends are friends with my mom :/

Leo/ORD

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: Ferminios
Posted 2011-05-07 10:04:36 and read 1458 times.

My parents aren't on Facebook, so that's no problem for me. However, I'm friends with my uncle/aunt, cousins, and (don't laugh) my grandma. I initially had my doubts about whether to accept such requests, but I really don't mind now. After all, I don't have anything to hide really. For me it's totally acceptable to be friends with your parents and/or family  

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: acidradio
Posted 2011-05-07 10:05:04 and read 1482 times.

I have both of my parents friended. I never see them on there though. My sister though in some childish tantrum decided to unfriend and block me. In her brilliance though she didn't unfriend my girlfriend or any of my other friends so they just feed me news anyways. C'est la vie.

I guess the problem or the concern with having people like parents friended is that Facebook does not allow any levels of discretion or easy separation of groups. Unless you have some elaborate groups scheme everyone sees your posts and links. There are certain things I tell one group of friends, there are certain things I tell another group of friends, there are certain things my coworkers should/should not see and there are certain things I tell my parents. They aren't necessarily the same. With Facebook there isn't a way to post a different set of information to each one of these groups.

[Edited 2011-05-07 13:23:27]

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: BOStonsox
Posted 2011-05-07 13:16:45 and read 1458 times.

I'm 24 and both my mom, two aunts,and an uncle have Facebooks, and while I wasn't too crazy with the idea, it's not like they interact much with me on it to cause problems, and I don't have anything to hide there anyway. My brother wasn't too happy with my aunt snooping around his Facebook though.

Topic: RE: Parents On Social Networking Websites.
Username: FRAspotter
Posted 2011-05-07 21:53:36 and read 1377 times.

I've actually gone out of my way to NOT friend my mom on Facebook... She keeps on asking to friend me but I decline. I talk to her once a week either on the phone or on Skype so it's not like I'm ignoring her...I know it sounds harsh but there's just something weird about my parents seeing the same things my close friends see. Not that there's anything bad on my page, it's just that I consider friends of my that are my age and my much older parents to be in separate categories and thus should be treated differently...


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