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Topic: So, Today I Turned 40
Username: AR385
Posted 2012-09-12 17:21:56 and read 2768 times.

It´s probably not one of the biggest news out there today. But there are a couple of things I have been reflecting on for a while.

I thought the stereotype is that you are not supposed to feel happy about reaching the big 4 0. So I sort of felt that way for a while. Then I decided to try and understand why I felt that way, beyond the stereotype. It came to two things:

1) I have reached this age not accomplishing half of what my father had by the time HE turned 40 and I´ve had countless more opportunities in life. That made me sad. But then I also realized that I am not my father and that he lived at another time, another age. I´ve done my best to live a decent, hardworking life so not being my father is ok. I am me.

2) I don´t have a partner. That bothered me a lot too. Then I went to my first highschool reunion about 2 years ago and saw how a pretty high precentage of my classmates who married "when you are supposed to" are already divorced, abandoned, single parents, or have pretty messy relationships.

So. All in all. I think I´m turning a good 40 years old and I am happy and satisfied wih myself. Celebrated with the family, my stable relatonship and a few, chosen great friends. Here´s to me and another 40.

Topic: RE: So, Today I Turned 40
Username: Ken777
Posted 2012-09-12 19:36:09 and read 2743 times.

Congratulations!

Making 40 for many is an achievement - certainly not something you can assume to reach. We lost our first class mate before before graduation and the next (from a drunk driver) during his Freshman year at University. We just had our 50th reunion and that list is now longer than I would have thought.

Lesson of that: don't waste time thinking about "what could have been" and start looking for the future and what might be.

Topic: RE: So, Today I Turned 40
Username: Airstud
Posted 2012-09-12 19:50:40 and read 2741 times.

¡¡Felíz cumpleaños!!

I shall hit that exact milestone one week from tomorrow; and I am going through many of the feelings you've described. I actually had an absolute breakdown two Fridays ago thinking about it all, all the time that's gone by... I think I have it out of my system now and am looking forward to a quiet marking of the occasion.

Don't you have a master's degree and your own business? Those are both big accomplishments.

Topic: RE: So, Today I Turned 40
Username: DocLightning
Posted 2012-09-12 20:27:51 and read 2734 times.

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v254/WILCO737/MD11FCargoBay.jpg
This is the cargo bay full of people who care.   

(Sorry, it's tradition...and stuff).

Happy birthday, feliz cumpleaños, etc. etc. etc.

Topic: RE: So, Today I Turned 40
Username: Braybuddy
Posted 2012-09-13 00:50:41 and read 2679 times.

Quoting AR385 (Thread starter):
So. All in all. I think I´m turning a good 40 years old and I am happy and satisfied wih myself. Celebrated with the family, my stable relatonship and a few, chosen great friends. Here´s to me and another 40.


Congratulations, and the rest! Like everyone else, I dreaded reaching the big 4-0 (like we do with all ages with a zero in them), but I can honestly say that I had the most fun and exciting times of my life between 40 and 50. Earlier decades were full of insecurities, perceived uncertainties and a lack of confidence which meant I only really grew into my skin in that decade, which, of course, translated into a very positive effect on my social and personal life. Here's hoping you find the same!

Topic: RE: So, Today I Turned 40
Username: BNE
Posted 2012-09-13 02:32:10 and read 2665 times.

Happy Birthday and welcome to the 40s.

I turned 40 at the beginning of the year.

Some interesting remarks from those that have already reached the milestone.

Make the most of the next 40.

Topic: RE: So, Today I Turned 40
Username: flyingturtle
Posted 2012-09-13 06:39:21 and read 2656 times.

Congrats!

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 3):

Next time, a terminal building full of people who care. 



David

Topic: RE: So, Today I Turned 40
Username: comorin
Posted 2012-09-13 07:28:58 and read 2643 times.

Quoting AR385 (Thread starter):

The fifties are the best years IMO so you have a lot to look forward to. In your forties, you are still preoccupied with achievement and climbing the hill. Let me tell you that downhill is a lot more fun. Don't worry about finding a partner, as you want to become this man:

Topic: RE: So, Today I Turned 40
Username: ScarletHarlot
Posted 2012-09-13 08:06:24 and read 2631 times.

I also hit 40 earlier this year (yeah 1972 babies!!). Like Ken777 said we lose some of our friends too early and so every year should be celebrated in their honour. (A few years ago we lost three friends in the same year - 30 year old brand new mom; 35 year old dad of 2; 50 year old. That makes you reassess what's really important in life.)

There are only a couple of things that bothered me about turning 40. It sounds like such a grown-up age and yet I don't feel at all like a grown-up. That is fine with me! Physically I am hitting the end of my reproductive years and even though I don't want kids it is weird to think that my body is getting too old to do something. 35 bothered me for the same reason. But - I am in pretty darned good health and so I have nothing to complain about.

Quoting AR385 (Thread starter):
So. All in all. I think I´m turning a good 40 years old and I am happy and satisfied wih myself. Celebrated with the family, my stable relatonship and a few, chosen great friends. Here´s to me and another 40.

Congratulations and happy birthday. As long as you're happy with yourself, that is all that matters.

Topic: RE: So, Today I Turned 40
Username: RobertNL070
Posted 2012-09-13 13:14:53 and read 2582 times.

Many happy returns of the day. Welcome to the club of      gits

Topic: RE: So, Today I Turned 40
Username: EA CO AS
Posted 2012-09-13 13:42:00 and read 2570 times.

Happy Birthday! As others have said, turning 40 is an achievement, not something to fret about. Like you, I've been benchmarking myself and my progress in life vs. where my parents were at the same age, and again, like you, I've come to the realization that what ultimately matters is how we live our lives rather than comparing ourselves to others.

So, celebrate your successes in life - whatever they may be, they're successes, and you should feel good about them.  
Quoting ScarletHarlot (Reply 8):
I also hit 40 earlier this year (yeah 1972 babies!!).

Wow, we do have a lot of 1972 kids here - I just turned 40 in mid-August!   

Topic: RE: So, Today I Turned 40
Username: mirrodie
Posted 2012-09-13 19:15:35 and read 2537 times.

Enjoy your birthday!

Onwards upwards and to the beyond!

Topic: RE: So, Today I Turned 40
Username: AR385
Posted 2012-09-16 03:53:13 and read 2431 times.

Quoting Ken777 (Reply 1):
Congratulations!

Making 40 for many is an achievement - certainly not something you can assume to reach. We lost our first class mate before before graduation and the next (from a drunk driver) during his Freshman year at University. We just had our 50th reunion and that list is now longer than I would have thought.

Lesson of that: don't waste time thinking about "what could have been" and start looking for the future and what might be.

Neve thought of it that way, but it´s true. Thanks for putting things in perspective.

Quoting Airstud (Reply 2):
¡¡Felíz cumpleaños!!

I shall hit that exact milestone one week from tomorrow; and I am going through many of the feelings you've described. I actually had an absolute breakdown two Fridays ago thinking about it all, all the time that's gone by... I think I have it out of my system now and am looking forward to a quiet marking of the occasion.

Don't you have a master's degree and your own business? Those are both big accomplishments.

About your breakdown. I went through that, but gradually, in the end I decided I was alive, as opposed tot he altenative, so the only choice was to be happy about it. I do have what you say, in terms of scholar achievement and my business, but still, society is there to nag you on the things you don´t have at a certain age. Their problem, I say.

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 3):
This is the cargo bay full of people who care.

(Sorry, it's tradition...and stuff).

Happy birthday, feliz cumpleaños, etc. etc. etc.

You have a lovely sense of humor. But, I know you mean well.

Quoting Braybuddy (Reply 4):
ongratulations, and the rest! Like everyone else, I dreaded reaching the big 4-0 (like we do with all ages with a zero in them), but I can honestly say that I had the most fun and exciting times of my life between 40 and 50.

i´m looking forward to follow you in your footsteps.

Quoting BNE (Reply 5):
Happy Birthday and welcome to the 40s.

Thank you.

Quoting flyingturtle (Reply 6):
Congrats!

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 3):

Next time, a terminal building full of people who care.

Yeah. I know. It´s just him and how he laughs.

Quoting comorin (Reply 7):
The fifties are the best years IMO so you have a lot to look forward to. In your forties, you are still preoccupied with achievement and climbing the hill. Let me tell you that downhill is a lot more fun. Don't worry about finding a partner, as you want to become this man:

That is an interesting way to look at it. Very interesting. having fun is up to you. I certainly have no intention of letting that pass me by.

Quoting ScarletHarlot (Reply 8):
Congratulations and happy birthday. As long as you're happy with yourself, that is all that matters.

Thank you. Your words really do mean a lot to me.

Quoting RobertNL070 (Reply 9):
Many happy returns of the day. Welcome to the club of gits

I do feel welcome. Thank you for taking the time for the itnroduction.

Quoting EA CO AS (Reply 10):
Happy Birthday! As others have said, turning 40 is an achievement, not something to fret about. Like you, I've been benchmarking myself and my progress in life vs. where my parents were at the same age, and again, like you, I've come to the realization that what ultimately matters is how we live our lives rather than comparing ourselves to others.

So, celebrate your successes in life - whatever they may be, they're successes, and you should feel good about them.

It took a while, but I decided it was the best way to keep on going. Thanks for confirming what I had in mind.

Quoting mirrodie (Reply 11):
Enjoy your birthday!

Onwards upwards and to the beyond!

Thank you very much!

Topic: RE: So, Today I Turned 40
Username: HAWK21M
Posted 2012-09-19 23:40:31 and read 2175 times.

Firstly stop comparing.....
how do you know that the people you quoted took the road that was the best.....it could be you find a better one.......

Quoting AR385 (Thread starter):
thought the stereotype is that you are not supposed to feel happy about reaching the big 4 0

Age is all in the thinking....be disclipined , eat well,sleep well,exercise well and keep a sense of humour......it will work for you and all around you.....try it.

Topic: RE: So, Today I Turned 40
Username: AR385
Posted 2012-09-24 18:45:47 and read 1954 times.

Quoting HAWK21M (Reply 13):
Firstly stop comparing.....
how do you know that the people you quoted took the road that was the best.....it could be you find a better one.......

Thanks. Good advice. I don´t know if the road taken by me is the best. But it certanly is mine. No one to compare it to.

Topic: RE: So, Today I Turned 40
Username: TSS
Posted 2012-09-24 20:42:16 and read 1937 times.

Here's wishing you a (slightly belated) Happy Birthday AR385!

Quoting AR385 (Reply 12):
I do have what you say, in terms of scholar achievement and my business, but still, society is there to nag you on the things you don´t have at a certain age.

Society is, on an individual basis, miserable and will not rest until it has made you miserable as well. Until society starts paying your bills, tell it to get bent and do what you want to do.

Quoting AR385 (Reply 12):
Their problem, I say.

There ya go! That's the spirit! 

Topic: RE: So, Today I Turned 40
Username: HAWK21M
Posted 2012-09-27 11:24:21 and read 1806 times.

Quoting AR385 (Reply 14):
Thanks. Good advice. I don´t know if the road taken by me is the best. But it certanly is mine. No one to compare it to.

Exactly.....you never know,if things work out...your road will be the standard for others.....nothing says there is only one way to success.....Attitude matters... 


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