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User currently offlineHAWK21M From India, joined Jan 2001, 31573 posts, RR: 57
Posted (8 years 5 months 1 week 3 days 6 hours ago) and read 1349 times:

Whats the better Family.A big one with 4-5 Siblings & Parents or the Small one with just one Kid.
Personally I prefer a bigger Family.Whats your call.
Is a Bigger family peaceful.I've heard different stories.
How about your Ancestors.What were their family size like.
regds
MEL


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User currently offlineJap From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 1, posted (8 years 5 months 1 week 3 days 5 hours ago) and read 1344 times:

I'm in a family with one brother only (as well as both parents- they're going on their 20th year of marriage right now). I think I would've preffered more siblings but I'm not sure... as for the one I'd like to have someday...
Probably 1-3 children- I don't think I'd be able to have more kids than that for starters and I don't think I'd be able to take care of them and give them equal attention- which could then break out into a full-fledged war  Silly A single mom is not something I'd like to be, that's for sure...  eek 

My ancestors... well, they certainly seemed to be into big families! 10 children were the norm until my grandmother couldn't have more than 5(!). My aunt had 3, my uncle had 4 and my other uncle had 2 (due to being married late I think. Got his first kid at 35). My parents however only had two (my brother and I) but I think that was due to a few miscarriages my mom had- she simply couldn't HAVE more than 2.
So I've grown up with big families and what-should've-been-big families all around me and I've absolutely loved it... I think I prefer to have 1-3 children myself and have a "smaller" family though (depends on the man too of course).  Wink


User currently offlineScarletHarlot From Canada, joined Jul 2003, 4673 posts, RR: 56
Reply 2, posted (8 years 5 months 1 week 2 days 22 hours ago) and read 1310 times:

Small. I am an only child, and that was fine with me. If I ever have a kid, which is unlikely, I'll probably only have one.

My parents both have (had) big families. I have about a million cousins. Mr. Harlot's parents come from medium size families, so he has a good number of cousins, but not an unmanageable number.



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User currently offlineHAWK21M From India, joined Jan 2001, 31573 posts, RR: 57
Reply 3, posted (8 years 5 months 1 week 2 days 11 hours ago) and read 1290 times:

Can having a large family lead to Disputes or I guess it depends on the Individuals concerned.
regds
MEL



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User currently offlineN1120A From United States of America, joined Dec 2003, 26196 posts, RR: 76
Reply 4, posted (8 years 5 months 1 week 2 days 10 hours ago) and read 1279 times:

My mother is the middle of 7 and my father is the youngest of 8, so it is no wonder I am an only child  Silly. I personally want a small, tight knit family like my own. Just a wife, 1 child (2 only if twins) and that's it.

BTW Mel, you are on a posting spree



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User currently offlineHAWK21M From India, joined Jan 2001, 31573 posts, RR: 57
Reply 5, posted (8 years 5 months 1 week 2 days 7 hours ago) and read 1268 times:

Personally 2-3 kids ideal.

Quoting N1120A (Reply 4):
BTW Mel, you are on a posting spree

I got a rare holiday & no work to do until 2300hrs tonight  Smile

regds
MEL



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User currently offlineXr8FordGirl From Australia, joined Jun 2005, 89 posts, RR: 0
Reply 6, posted (8 years 5 months 1 week 2 days 7 hours ago) and read 1267 times:

Being one of three siblings I vowed to never have an uneven number of kids and I have two boys and I'm NOT having any more.

My husband on the other hand is one of 6 and even though my mother-in-law wanted more than two kids out of her daughter-in-laws that's all she got anyway


User currently offlineJap From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 7, posted (8 years 5 months 1 week 2 days 2 hours ago) and read 1256 times:

Quoting HAWK21M (Reply 3):
Can having a large family lead to Disputes or I guess it depends on the Individuals concerned.

All families have disputes (ok, ok... MOST families do...)- big or small. I don't think it matters. I don't think a big family has a bigger chance of having disputes than a small one- of course, in a big family, there're more people to get in an argument with, but I haven't really encountered anything..

I do think it depends on the individuals concerned.

Quoting N1120A (Reply 4):
I personally want a small, tight knit family like my own. Just a wife, 1 child (2 only if twins) and that's it.

I can understand that. However, I must say your kid will be in for a hard time when your wife and you pass and he/she doesn't have a sibling to support him/her emotionally- I know that from my own mother- she wouldn't be here today, had it not been for her siblings and their support.  Smile

Don't worry, I'm not trying to change your opinion- just expressing my own  Smile


User currently offlineOYRJA From Denmark, joined Feb 2007, 78 posts, RR: 15
Reply 8, posted (8 years 5 months 1 week 2 days 2 hours ago) and read 1254 times:

I'm coming from a family with 5 kids and 2 adults.
I have 2 brothers. 1 is older than me and 1 is younger than me.
And then I have my twin sister and my little sister.

I wouldn't mind have 3 kids when I start a family. I think 1 kid is not enough. If something happens to that child and it dies you suddenly don't have kids left. That is why I want at least 3.


User currently offlineHAWK21M From India, joined Jan 2001, 31573 posts, RR: 57
Reply 9, posted (8 years 5 months 1 week 1 day 6 hours ago) and read 1237 times:

Three Kids is just great spaced 2-3 yrs Apart.
As a Dad. I'd like a Son & 2 Daughters  Smile
regds
MEL



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User currently offlineSmithAir747 From Canada, joined Jan 2004, 1619 posts, RR: 29
Reply 10, posted (8 years 5 months 1 week 16 hours ago) and read 1216 times:

I come from a large family! At age 3 (in 1978), I was adopted by my "forever family", which consists of 9-10 siblings. All but one were adopted from different family backgrounds; all of us were unwanted by our biological parents because of medical or other disabilities. I myself was given up for adoption by my Irish-native parents due to my severe facial deformities and life-threatening complications. I was raised by an elderly foster mother for my first 3 years of life, while hanging on for dear life with a tracheostomy. My parents, by then with about 20 years experience already with adopting special-needs children, took me onboard and renamed me and baptized me after St. Francis of Assisi (as per a unanimous family vote). My older brothers and sisters helped care for my medical needs as well as my autistic behavior training (my autistic tendencies were due to deafness). Our family ranges from age 25 (my younger sister) to the mid 50s; I'm 30. Now there are 15 grandchildren!

When I was first adopted at age 3, we filled all 14 rooms of our home (which is an ex-funeral parlor), and required 2 big station wagons (1976 Buick Century and 1978 Chrysler LeBaron Town & Country), and we took up an entire pew at church every Sunday! The school run every day was quite an undertaking (because we were spread out between several local schools)! All through my life, I have seen 2 funerals (a brother killed in an auto accident in 1982, and my father in 1995). Also, I have seen no less than 6 weddings in my family! I am an uncle 15 times over, since the birth of my first nephew in 1981. Many of us have gone onto college and careers along with raising their own families. We are scattered all over northeastern Indiana.

My parents are something special, to have raised all of us! My dad served in the US 8th Air Force in Eye, England, during World War 2 (with the 490th Bomb Group) and after the war, spent the rest of his life working for Magnavox. My mother was a factory worker in the 2nd World War, at the huge Douglas C-54 plant that was where ORD is at now. When the two of them met and married in 1950, they started on their lifelong mission of raising a large family--by adopting kids nobody else could handle.

And now here I am, the family member who has ventured the farthest from home, studying at King's College London here in England! I am the "world traveller" of the family!

SmithAir747



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User currently offlineSaxdiva From United States of America, joined Jun 2004, 2382 posts, RR: 43
Reply 11, posted (8 years 5 months 1 week 15 hours ago) and read 1212 times:

Quoting SmithAir747 (Reply 10):
I was adopted by my "forever family", which consists of 9-10 siblings. All but one were adopted from different family backgrounds; all of us were unwanted by our biological parents because of medical or other disabilities.

Man, I can't even be trusted with more than three DOGS. Your parents must have been saints.

Well, then again... you said they named you after St. Francis of Assisi. Does that mean you got your whippings just like all us other Catholic kids?  Wink

-Leanne


User currently offlineSmithAir747 From Canada, joined Jan 2004, 1619 posts, RR: 29
Reply 12, posted (8 years 5 months 1 week 15 hours ago) and read 1208 times:

Response to Saxdiva:

Yes, of course, I got my fair share of whippings!

The idea to name me after St. Francis came from my dad, who incidentally was a third-order, lay Franciscan. He wanted to name one of his sons someday after the saint. When my parents first discovered me in a large book (similar to a real-estate catalogue) back in the late 1970s, they immediately fell in love with me (I was only 2 or 3, in need of a loving permanent home). I still have that page to this day--it shows my little 2-year-old skinny form on a swing in a black-and-white photo.

Dad saw something in me that reminded him of St. Francis, so he and Mom put it to a family vote--and I got that name unanimously, and was baptized at our local parish church (St. Mary's in downtown Fort Wayne, IN). My previous name had been Hugh Dermott O'Connor, from my Irish birth parents studying in Indiana.

SmithAir747



I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made... (Psalm 139:14)
User currently offlineHAWK21M From India, joined Jan 2001, 31573 posts, RR: 57
Reply 13, posted (8 years 5 months 1 week 4 hours ago) and read 1193 times:

Quoting SmithAir747 (Reply 12):
My previous name had been Hugh Dermott O'Connor, from my Irish birth parents studying in Indiana.

Ever met your Biological Parents.
regds
MEL



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User currently offlineSmithAir747 From Canada, joined Jan 2004, 1619 posts, RR: 29
Reply 14, posted (8 years 5 months 1 week 3 hours ago) and read 1185 times:

Quoting HAWK21M (Reply 13):
Ever met your Biological Parents.

No, I never met my Irish biological parents; they gave me up immediately after birth to the Indiana state foster care/adoption system. All I know about them is second-hand information: they were graduate students from Ireland, studying at Indiana University in Bloomington (where I was born).

SmithAir747



I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made... (Psalm 139:14)
User currently offlineHAWK21M From India, joined Jan 2001, 31573 posts, RR: 57
Reply 15, posted (8 years 5 months 4 days 1 hour ago) and read 1151 times:

Quoting SmithAir747 (Reply 14):
I never met my Irish biological parents

Never felt the Currosity to.
regds
MEL



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User currently offlineFr8Mech From United States of America, joined Sep 2005, 5098 posts, RR: 12
Reply 16, posted (8 years 5 months 4 days ago) and read 1144 times:

My side: a brother and sister. My wife: 2 brothers. We: 1 girl, with 1 undetermined due in June.

My father: 3 brothers, 3 sisters. My mother: 2 brothers, 2 sisters.

My father-in-law: 4 brothers, 1 sister. My mother-in-law: 4 sisters, 1 brother died as an infant.



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User currently offlineHAWK21M From India, joined Jan 2001, 31573 posts, RR: 57
Reply 17, posted (8 years 5 months 2 days 3 hours ago) and read 1118 times:

Nowadays.
Smaller Families with One or Two kids are more common.Guess its Expensive to Run a huge Family.I wonder how the Folks Managed in the Earlier Days.
regds
MEL



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User currently offlineTLG From United States of America, joined Jul 2005, 364 posts, RR: 0
Reply 18, posted (8 years 5 months 18 hours ago) and read 1106 times:

My wife comes from a family of 4 kids, and my family has 6 kids. Both of us are the oldest child in our families. We are hoping to have 6 ourselves (we have 1 now with another one coming anytime, due on Friday the 25th!).

User currently offlineMatt27 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 19, posted (8 years 5 months 18 hours ago) and read 1103 times:

Mom, dad and two brothers + a dog...

User currently offlineUSAFHummer From United States of America, joined May 2000, 10685 posts, RR: 53
Reply 20, posted (8 years 5 months 18 hours ago) and read 1102 times:

Both my parents came from fairly small families (they each had one sibling) and my parents had two kids, myself and my older brother...unfortunately my brother passed away suddenly and unexpectedly when I was 6, so I have been an only child for most of my life, and having seen both sides of the only child issue, I definitely wished I had another sibling...when I start to have a family, I'd like to have 3 kids, I think...

Greg



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User currently offlineFlyingbabydoc From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 21, posted (8 years 5 months 18 hours ago) and read 1100 times:

Quoting SmithAir747 (Reply 10):
My parents are something special, to have raised all of us!

Not only that, but to dedicate themselves to children with special needs. Most admirable. Shame that we don't have more people like your parents in the world.

Alex


User currently offlineAn-225 From United States of America, joined Sep 2000, 3950 posts, RR: 41
Reply 22, posted (8 years 5 months 10 hours ago) and read 1085 times:

Planning to remain child-free and unmarried.

Alex.



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User currently offlineShyFlyer From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 23, posted (8 years 5 months 9 hours ago) and read 1076 times:

Quoting ScarletHarlot (Reply 2):
Small. I am an only child, and that was fine with me.

Hey, me too!

Everyone tells me that I would make a great father, but I have my doubts. Besides, small children scare me.  scared  And the fact that I can't even clean out my cat's litter box without gagging is another sticking point.  yuck 


User currently offlineN1120A From United States of America, joined Dec 2003, 26196 posts, RR: 76
Reply 24, posted (8 years 5 months 9 hours ago) and read 1075 times:

Quoting Jap (Reply 7):
However, I must say your kid will be in for a hard time when your wife and you pass and he/she doesn't have a sibling to support him/her emotionally- I know that from my own mother-

Well, I certainly know that I will be destroyed when either one, let alone both, of my parents die, given how close we are, but I hope to have my future wife and future child to rely on. Same for my child.

Quoting HAWK21M (Reply 17):
I wonder how the Folks Managed in the Earlier Days.

Well, life was a less expensive enterprise then. One of the biggest changes has been the expense of commuting with suburban sprawl farther and farther from work centers. Additionally, food prices have astronomically (and criminally if you ask me) out paced inflation, particularly fresh fruits and vegetables.



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25 QFA380 : I have a brother (very painful), my parents split up so I have 3 half siblings as well that my dad had. Its very different when I go to dads. Going fr
26 HAWK21M : I guess the Big Family starts becoming strong support when the KidsGrow up. regds MEL
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