Ilyushin96M From United States of America, joined Sep 1999, 2609 posts, RR: 13 Reply 1, posted (13 years 2 months 3 weeks 11 hours ago) and read 596 times:
Hey, I'm adopted. And just because you're adopted doesn't mean you're a bastard! I've known since I was a kid; my folks never made any secret of it, and explained the hows and whys. I feel I am very lucky to have the family I have, and can't imagine it any other way!
Lax2000 From United States of America, joined May 1999, 541 posts, RR: 0 Reply 2, posted (13 years 2 months 3 weeks 11 hours ago) and read 591 times:
I was just joking about being a bastard I have also known as a kid and feel fortunate for having great loving parents, but recently I have been thinking about looking for my biological mom. I really never wanted to untill recently, I am now 31.
Adam84 From United States of America, joined Jul 1999, 1400 posts, RR: 2 Reply 4, posted (13 years 2 months 3 weeks 6 hours ago) and read 579 times:
My dad was adopted, I dont like it much because he knows who his real parents are, where they live, and he knows who is real family is, but he refuses to meet them or even try to contact them.I would really like to meet my real grandparents, because I have never had any real grandparents cause my dads adoptive parents died before I was born and grandma from my moms side dropped off the face of the earth (she just packed up and left one day and no one knows where she is).
Lax2000 From United States of America, joined May 1999, 541 posts, RR: 0 Reply 7, posted (13 years 2 months 2 weeks 3 days 11 hours ago) and read 534 times:
Being adopted doesn't bother me at all either in fact I'm proud to be adopted. I never thought of looking for my biological mom until recently, I'm still not sure if I want to do it, who knows I could be one of Manson's children (hopefully not) I was born in LA in 1969. Anyway I guess you would have to be prepared for anything, and I don't know if I am.
Don't get me wrong my parents are great but I want to know what it feels like to meet someone who shares the same genes. I don't know how much genes matter in the way you turn out or what your into, I'm sure it's mostly the way you were raised.
I guess I'm interested because the little information I know about my birth parents is that they were musicians/artists and so am I (weird?) Anyway I can't help thinking about it lately, but I don't want to hurt my parents feelings.
Hey JETPILOT, maybe your biological dads the Boeing test pilot who did the barrel roll in the 707 in the late 50's! What made you want to fly? maybe its in your genes.
Aa777dr From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Reply 8, posted (13 years 2 months 2 weeks 11 hours ago) and read 534 times:
Dude I don't think it will be good to search for your real mom. It's not worth it. If she gave you up for adoption was because she didn't want you in her life. So why bother trying to enter her life at this stage. If I were you I wouldn't look for her.
Ilyushin96M From United States of America, joined Sep 1999, 2609 posts, RR: 13 Reply 9, posted (13 years 2 months 2 weeks 11 hours ago) and read 530 times:
That was a pretty callous way of putting things. It's a rather bold (and entirely incorrect) assumption to think that a child was given up for adoption because the birth mother or parents simply "didn't want" the child.
Sometimes, parents give up their children for adoption because they know they can't provide for the child, and want the child to live a good life. Others are forced by their parents to give up their children (in cases of unwed mothers, or even rape). So the reasons for it vary greatly. And from what I know, for the most part, the decision to give up a child for adoption is a very difficult one for the parents.
I for one don't question the decision of my birth parents to give me up. They could have terminated the pregnancy, and I wouldn't be here today. I thank them for the chance they gave me to become part of the extraordinary family I have now.
Lax2000 From United States of America, joined May 1999, 541 posts, RR: 0 Reply 10, posted (13 years 2 months 2 weeks 9 hours ago) and read 526 times:
Ilyushin96M's post pretty much summed it all up.
The first step to finding your biological mother is to contact the association where you were adopted from and see if there is a request from her to find you. It is common for birth mothers to say they do not want contact with there child and then change this as they get older. If I found out there's was no request for my birth mom to meet me I would probably not peruse it further.