Tbar220 From United States of America, joined Feb 2000, 7011 posts, RR: 27 Posted (7 years 10 months 3 weeks 7 hours ago) and read 1555 times:
So we're all human, we're not perfect. If you're religious, than its pretty well understood that we're not perfect and we make mistakes. So how do we learn from these mistakes? Is it enough to acknowledge that we did something wrong and say, "I won't do that again"? I personally think something more is needed as it can be all too easy, almost an excuse, to say that without any deep thought into what was done.
Also, is this tied into repentence? If you truly repent and feel remorse for what you did, does that help towards the learning process? How about repentance with God?
My approach is to try to find out why I did it in the first place. Was I out for revenge? Was I doing it out of anger (i.e. "heat of the moment")? Or maybe my intentions were good, I just didn't really know what I was getting myself into.
Knowing why will help me find the behavior that led to my mistake in the first place. I will then be able to avoid doing it in the future, hopefully.
Repentance involves telling God that A) you know what you did was wrong, B) you know why it was wrong, C) you truly fell sorry for your actions, and D) you need and ask for forgiveness. Personally, in addition to all that, I ask for the strenght and wisdom to avoid repeating my mistakes, as I have a tendancy to backslide. Your mileage may vary.
Jafa39 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Reply 3, posted (7 years 10 months 3 weeks 5 hours ago) and read 1534 times:
Quoting DLPMMM (Reply 2):
Beating yourself up over a past poor decision does nothing to better yourself or Humanity in the long run.
Yup, you said it.
Repentance is fine, it works and i try to do it whenever I suddenly find myself thinking "Dumbass, that was stupid" but I have met religious nuts who think that it means you can do bad stuff and shrug it off with a bit of repentance...I don't belive that at all, it's like treating the man upstairs as if he's stupid and you can pull the wool over his eyes..hmmmm, dangerous assumption to make!
If you stuffed up with out meaning to, or things got out of shape in the heat of the moment, don't go all droopy over it, you did your best.
BUT if you set out to be bad and suddenly you regret it, well maybe some form of atonement or repair work is needed to put it right.