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User currently offlineAR385 From Mexico, joined Nov 2003, 6216 posts, RR: 30
Posted (8 years 5 months 2 weeks 2 days 21 hours ago) and read 1342 times:
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My father passed away 1 year ago. My mother and him were together for 35 years. I finally convinced my mother to start going out again, and today she went to a daughter's best friend wedding. She was sitting in a table with her friends, when this couple sat. The guy, ended up next to my mother, and he starts chatting her up, and then, "feeling her up" to the point my mother had to leave. Now I feel like an idiot. I've been telling her to go out more etc. and when she starts, she has this experience.

My mother is a distinguished, elegant 64 year old widow. She does not deserve this type of crap from a 42 year old piece of sh...

I feel like getting together with my brother and teaching this guy a lesson. We know him after all.

Is this reasonable? Have you been in similar situations? Should I go and teach this ass...how to behave? I'm really angry now.

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User currently offlineKiwiinOz From New Zealand, joined Oct 2005, 2165 posts, RR: 5
Reply 1, posted (8 years 5 months 2 weeks 2 days 21 hours ago) and read 1336 times:

Don't bother with the whole, "teach him a lesson" violence thing. If there's one thing that will distress your mother further it would be if you and your brothers open yourself up to getting in trouble or hurt, as a result of her situation.

This is clearly a situation that would embarass him a lot. Why not just publically shame him by telling the story to a few mutual friends?


User currently offlineNWOrientDC10 From United States of America, joined Mar 2005, 1404 posts, RR: 4
Reply 2, posted (8 years 5 months 2 weeks 2 days 14 hours ago) and read 1308 times:
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Quoting KiwiinOz (Reply 1):
Why not just publically shame him by telling the story to a few mutual friends?

good answer! I like this idea

Russell



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User currently offlineAR385 From Mexico, joined Nov 2003, 6216 posts, RR: 30
Reply 3, posted (8 years 5 months 2 weeks 2 days 9 hours ago) and read 1276 times:
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Quoting KiwiinOz (Reply 1):
Don't bother with the whole, "teach him a lesson" violence thing. If there's one thing that will distress your mother further it would be if you and your brothers open yourself up to getting in trouble or hurt, as a result of her situation.

Of course you are right. You are suggesting the sensible thing to do. Still, the first time you are told the story, there's something visceral inside your brain that kicks in (and it has nothing to do with any macho ideas) when a close person to you is bothered, especially in such circumstances by such a bum.

In this case the situation is more complex, as I feel responsible for insisting so much on her to go out. What could go wrong at you daughter's best friend wedding right? Well, an ass.. seating next to you.


User currently offlineAirCop From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 4, posted (8 years 5 months 2 weeks 2 days 9 hours ago) and read 1270 times:

Quoting AR385 (Reply 3):
In this case the situation is more complex, as I feel responsible for insisting so much on her to go out. What could go wrong at you daughter's best friend wedding right? Well, an ass.. seating next to you.

This type of behavior can happen anywhere today.

Quoting KiwiinOz (Reply 1):
This is clearly a situation that would embarass him a lot. Why not just publically shame him by telling the story to a few mutual friends?

Do the above, and by the time the story gets around, he really will look like an ass.


User currently offlineKiwiandrew From New Zealand, joined Jun 2005, 8565 posts, RR: 13
Reply 5, posted (8 years 5 months 2 weeks 2 days 9 hours ago) and read 1269 times:
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Quoting AR385 (Reply 3):
In this case the situation is more complex, as I feel responsible for insisting so much on her to go out.

it is not your fault ... you were absolutely right to try to get your mother to go out and socialise ... don't let one total wanker stop you from trying again either ... your mother (and the 'name & shame' idea is brilliant ...but just think first about whether it is going to eventually end up getting back to your mother and upsetting her even more . )



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User currently offlineAndesSMF From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 6, posted (8 years 5 months 2 weeks 2 days 6 hours ago) and read 1252 times:

Quoting Kiwiandrew (Reply 5):

Agree

I would at least scare the piss out of him. Damn fool!


User currently offlineAR385 From Mexico, joined Nov 2003, 6216 posts, RR: 30
Reply 7, posted (8 years 5 months 2 weeks 23 hours ago) and read 1197 times:
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I have started the telling other people thing today. I hope it works. The two things I hate more in the world are abuse to women and abuse to animals. Probably that's why my reaction in the beginning was so strong. I guess cooler heads are the ones that need to prevail these days. Anyway, thanks for the advice.

User currently offlineBristolFlyer From United Kingdom, joined May 2004, 2297 posts, RR: 0
Reply 8, posted (8 years 5 months 2 weeks 23 hours ago) and read 1192 times:

That's unfortunate that this should happen on her first social event like this. After you've done shaming the guy, make sure you don't forget your mother and encourage her to go out again. There are lowlifes out there but thankfully they're the minority.

If she's nervous about going out offer to escort her (either discretely or indiscretely) - this will give her the confidence that you're there watching her back.

BF



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User currently offlineHAWK21M From India, joined Jan 2001, 31684 posts, RR: 56
Reply 9, posted (8 years 5 months 2 weeks 22 hours ago) and read 1185 times:

Quoting AR385 (Thread starter):
I feel like getting together with my brother and teaching this guy a lesson.

Teach him a lesson.But see that your mom does not know.
regds
MEL



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