BCAInfoSys From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Posted (8 years 3 months 3 weeks 2 days 3 hours ago) and read 1337 times:
OK guys, I could use your advice. I'm graduating from college in about 4 weeks, and have received a pretty decent job offer. I'm from the SEA area originally but will be relocating from LGU to SLC. I've found an amazing apartment in a great location. So all seems right in my world, right?
Well quite frankly, I'm a little nervous. This is my first real, non-college apartment, and the first time I've ever lived alone. Additionally, this will be the first time I've ever lived anywhere without knowing somebody virtually, family, or friends. So I'm really moving out onto a branch here; a new guy in a new town. I'm a little nervous about being lonely. What kind of advice do you have for somebody in my situation? What's the best way to get acclimated to a new situation with which you have very little experience? Do you think I'm crazy for renting a 1-bedroom on my own; should I have a 2-bedroom and try to find a roommate to keep me sane?
The location is the key. Make yourself "noticed" by your neighbors. Do you have a porch? Do you have a balcony? Just be out there...or something...and when someone walks by, say hi. Or if someone enters your building or complex, say hi to them or what not at the very least. Find a neighborhood bar or grill or something like that. Become a regular. Sit at the bar. Talk to the bartender. *DONT* be overbearing though, kitten!
Also, when you meet someone, and they are older than you, don't rule them out. I have a several shit tons load of friends here but a few tons of that are people whom are older than I am. They are awesome and I wouldn't trade them in for the world. Ask -ILIKEYYC-. He's met some of them. ;p
They're anywhere from say 40 to their 60's or what not. I've officially been adopted by about 15 to 18 families/couples in town and know a bunch of them that are single or what have you that just like to get together and frequent a circuit of neighborhood bars and meet up and shoot the shit or what have you. Then there's the people I met randomly and formed a bowling team with. I consider a few of these people my "true" family here in STL. There's always fun and adventure in a great deal of prospective people that you may meet. Never rule anybody out.
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