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If A Girl Says, "you Had Your Shot"  
User currently offlineLehpron From United States of America, joined Jul 2001, 7028 posts, RR: 21
Posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 4 days 10 hours ago) and read 3094 times:

To answer I'd say "I know", but what else to say and what to do, I don't know.

[Edited 2006-04-16 02:37:16]


The meaning of life is curiosity; we were put on this planet to explore opportunities.
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User currently offlineStirling From Italy, joined Jun 2004, 3943 posts, RR: 21
Reply 1, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 4 days 10 hours ago) and read 3094 times:

There's many a fish in the sea my friend.


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User currently offlineAloges From Germany, joined Jan 2006, 8705 posts, RR: 43
Reply 2, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 4 days 10 hours ago) and read 3074 times:

I'd probably have trouble getting over my sarcasm and answer "Yes, and the doctor who gave it to me was really cute, too."


Walk together, talk together all ye peoples of the earth. Then, and only then, shall ye have peace.
User currently offlineBoeingfanyyz From Canada, joined Jul 2005, 991 posts, RR: 2
Reply 3, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 4 days 9 hours ago) and read 3043 times:

I'd probably say "Dont worry baby, I've got another bullett all loaded up". Seems pretty cheesy, but it would get the point across.  wink 

Cheers,
Boeingfanyyz  airplane 



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User currently offlineFlightShadow From United States of America, joined Jun 2005, 966 posts, RR: 6
Reply 4, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 4 days 9 hours ago) and read 3036 times:

"you had your shot" ... ?

Signed,
FlightShadow in need of enlightenment



"When the tide goes out, you can tell who was skinnydipping."
User currently offlineIhadapheo From United States of America, joined Sep 2001, 6027 posts, RR: 55
Reply 5, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 4 days 9 hours ago) and read 3028 times:

"you had your shot..."

"Not to worry, I shoot blanks"


IHAP



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User currently offlineLehpron From United States of America, joined Jul 2001, 7028 posts, RR: 21
Reply 6, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 4 days 9 hours ago) and read 3020 times:

Quoting Stirling (Reply 1):
There's many a fish in the sea my friend.

i understand and accept that old saying, just having a hard time believing it applies to me.

Quoting Boeingfanyyz (Reply 3):
I'd probably have trouble getting over my sarcasm and answer "Yes, and the doctor who gave it to me was really cute, too."



Quoting Boeingfanyyz (Reply 3):
I'd probably say "Dont worry baby, I've got another bullett all loaded up". Seems pretty cheesy, but it would get the point across.

thanks for the short laugh

Quoting FlightShadow (Reply 4):
you had your shot" ... ?

everyone deserves a second chance, supposedly; that was my shot. admitting wrongs just doesn't cut it. i'm still happy despite everything, she was awesome and because of her, i am who i am and proud of it. I just i miss her, I might always for the rest of my life. i abused her kindness for being a dick and i'll never forgive myself. she's the only one ever so far that i cared about, just didn't act like it before and i cant forget that stuff.



The meaning of life is curiosity; we were put on this planet to explore opportunities.
User currently offlineAloges From Germany, joined Jan 2006, 8705 posts, RR: 43
Reply 7, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 4 days 9 hours ago) and read 3013 times:

Quoting Ihadapheo (Reply 5):
"Not to worry, I shoot blanks"

Erm, your profile says otherwise.  Wink



Walk together, talk together all ye peoples of the earth. Then, and only then, shall ye have peace.
User currently offlineRolfen From Germany, joined Jan 2006, 1807 posts, RR: 2
Reply 8, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 4 days 7 hours ago) and read 2938 times:

I would bury my head in regrets but I have learned to know better then that. Doubt feeds doubt, so dont doubt what you did that's who you are and if they dont like them, well, you know, s**** them.

There probably was nothing to shoot at in the first place. That's funny though I never heard a girl say that. Usually if they like you they're open until you take your shot (of course, dont wait monthes), and then well, for me, they close up and I end up the messed up one.

Dont put yourself in the position of blame. Why? Why my friend? What crime did you do?



rolf
User currently offlineL-188 From United States of America, joined Jul 1999, 29795 posts, RR: 58
Reply 9, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 4 days 7 hours ago) and read 2929 times:

Quoting Lehpron (Thread starter):
"you Had Your Shot"

Just tell her that hunters pass up non-trophy shots.



OBAMA-WORST PRESIDENT EVER....Even SKOORB would be better.
User currently offlineConfuscius From United States of America, joined Aug 2001, 3853 posts, RR: 1
Reply 10, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 4 days 7 hours ago) and read 2925 times:

If A Girl Says, "you Had Your Shot"

But you didn't swallow....let's try again.



Ain't I a stinker?
User currently offlineBristolFlyer From United Kingdom, joined May 2004, 2291 posts, RR: 0
Reply 11, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 4 days 6 hours ago) and read 2908 times:

Without knowing any of the surrounding details, here's my 2 cents...

This woman has got a massive ego. She's kind of saying - 'I'm so special, you're gonna get one chance and you didn't achieve what was required'.

It's kind of like that other thread titled 'Girls' on the forum. A lot of men look at the female of the species as though they call all the shots when it comes to dating and that they have to fall in with whatever the girl wants in order for the relationship to go ahead (notice that I didn't say 'to be successful').

Indeed I used to be like this. Well a lot of men need to raise their game, and if the girl doesn't like what they're offering then that's just the way it is, don't change just to fall in with them.

Similar to getting a 'no' from an interview, it's normally not 'cos you're a bad person it's cos you're not compatable with the other party. Get out there and find a better match!

BF



Fortune favours the brave
User currently offlineAirwave From United States of America, joined Mar 2006, 1117 posts, RR: 3
Reply 12, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 4 days 6 hours ago) and read 2903 times:

Quoting Aloges (Reply 2):
I'd probably have trouble getting over my sarcasm

Same here. Although I don't know if it'd be sarcasm so much as ambivalence or even relief, lol. Though I'm sure some droll wit would shine through in the end. It almost always does.

Airwave  eyebrow 



When you do things right, people won't be sure you've done anything at all.
User currently offlineMD80fanatic From United States of America, joined Apr 2004, 2660 posts, RR: 9
Reply 13, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 4 days 6 hours ago) and read 2885 times:

If you care about her the way you say you do, then she'll be back....sooner or later. Don't close that book just yet.  Smile Give her the space she needs to decide what is real and what is not.

User currently offlineHAWK21M From India, joined Jan 2001, 31679 posts, RR: 56
Reply 14, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 3 days 22 hours ago) and read 2790 times:

The 1st was to check.The 2nd is the real one  Smile
regds
MEL



Think of the brighter side!
User currently offlineRolfen From Germany, joined Jan 2006, 1807 posts, RR: 2
Reply 15, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 3 days 15 hours ago) and read 2667 times:

Quoting Lehpron (Thread starter):
If A Girl Says, "you Had Your Shot"

I didnt want to waste my ammo on you.


Quoting Lehpron (Reply 6):
i abused her kindness for being a dick and i'll never forgive myself

Would you tell me what your crime was? The way I see it she's the one being a dick, and she's testing you with some pure bitch stuff by putting the blame on you. If she was halfway decent she'd have at least made up an excuse, like she's engaged, she has other plans, or simply she doesnt want to, instead of blaming you for being who you are... of course that's is unless you really are a dick and did some intentional evil to her and conscious efforts to hurt her. But dicks usually dont describe themselves as dicks and always deny being so. That's why your case looks more like exessive self-blame and a badly wounded ego.



[Edited 2006-04-16 21:41:47]


rolf
User currently offlineLSPA From Switzerland, joined Jan 2006, 190 posts, RR: 4
Reply 16, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 3 days 15 hours ago) and read 2658 times:

"you had your shot"

well..too bad i missed you.



~reach for the sky!
User currently offlineCopaair737 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 17, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 3 days 14 hours ago) and read 2643 times:

Quoting L-188 (Reply 9):
Just tell her that hunters pass up non-trophy shots.

I'll have to remember that one. Its great. I always come up with something cynical to say, but that one takes the cake.

-Copa


User currently offlineAr385 From Mexico, joined Nov 2003, 6187 posts, RR: 30
Reply 18, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 3 days 14 hours ago) and read 2619 times:
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Quoting Stirling (Reply 1):
There's many a fish in the sea my friend.

Not only that Lephron, but unfortunately that's life. You screwed up, fine, learn from your mistake, and move on. Before you know it, you will find someone who will fill your soul, mind and heart. Now, concentrate on your studies, exercise, and get an interesting hobby (preferably one where you can socialize with ladies) From your profile, any decent, intelligent woman who does not set her eyes on you would be plain dumb...and I'm not gay.

In 1998 on my second year at UVA's MBA program, my wife to be broke up with me because she found another guy. I also got the "You had your shot" speech. Well, yes, I was devastated, took a lot of energy just to get up every morning to get to class, but then, after a while, the pain just went away, to a more "I'm glad I didn't marry her" attitude. I mean if she can exchange a three year relationship for one where she met a guy for only two months, well, her freaking loss.

All in all, I got engaged a year ago, and if you ask me, my feelings for my fiancee have nothing to do with what I thought at the time I felt in 1998. I really love my fiance.

So, be patient, don't deny the pain, just let it roll, and soon you'll discover, it's just part of life.



MGGS
User currently offlineRolfen From Germany, joined Jan 2006, 1807 posts, RR: 2
Reply 19, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 3 days 13 hours ago) and read 2585 times:

I'm glad I never came across such a woman. "You had your shot". What's that? Does she really expect every guy that she crosses to be dying to "take shots at her" and change himself into what she wants? That is a messed up personnality.

[Edited 2006-04-16 23:47:13]


rolf
User currently offlineLehpron From United States of America, joined Jul 2001, 7028 posts, RR: 21
Reply 20, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 3 days 11 hours ago) and read 2549 times:

Quoting Rolfen (Reply 15):
Would you tell me what your crime was?

Years ago I used to have emotional problems and dumped them on anyone who could help me, even on A.net. Back then I was pretty selfish, I was more concerned about what was going on with me than how it affected anyone else. She claimed I was always a downer, my guess she could only take so much, that I may never change.

That I have and she didn't know and my guess that didn't matter was probably why she said that I had my last chance.

Quoting Ar385 (Reply 18):
So, be patient, don't deny the pain, just let it roll, and soon you'll discover, it's just part of life.

I've had this pain for years, I don't think it's going away. I'm getting pretty close to having the audacity of claiming no one know what this is like. There is a lot I haven't said, much of it doesn't make sense to me; my feelings, what has happened, my wishes, etc. I'm normally and extremely logical person -- I can't describe this shit, I lost my dream girl dammit, I pushed her away!

I'm not being dramatic, I figure now that maybe I'm not supposed to know, like I'm supposed to live with the pain I have. I get to keep these memories. Luckily though, I know how to hide it, as long as i pay attention to my career, no one knows.



The meaning of life is curiosity; we were put on this planet to explore opportunities.
User currently offlineYOWza From Canada, joined Jul 2005, 4881 posts, RR: 15
Reply 21, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 3 days 11 hours ago) and read 2539 times:

Quoting Confuscius (Reply 10):
If A Girl Says, "you Had Your Shot"

But you didn't swallow....let's try again.

Coming from confucius, I'd have to agree with this  Wink

Jokes aside, tell her what she means to you and that you know you've been a dick and that you probably don't deserve another chance. But if she were to give you a second chance that it would be the single most important act of forgiveness in her life and that you will dedicate yourself and your future to making her see that.

You don't need to believe the above to say it but it will work. After a little bit of her holding this over your head you can say "you can't hold this over my head forever" and you're in the clear.

YOWza



12A whenever possible.
User currently offlineAR385 From Mexico, joined Nov 2003, 6187 posts, RR: 30
Reply 22, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 3 days 10 hours ago) and read 2534 times:
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Quoting Lehpron (Reply 20):
I've had this pain for years, I don't think it's going away. I'm getting pretty close to having the audacity of claiming no one know what this is like. There is a lot I haven't said, much of it doesn't make sense to me; my feelings, what has happened, my wishes, etc. I'm normally and extremely logical person -- I can't describe this shit, I lost my dream girl dammit, I pushed her away!

I'm not being dramatic, I figure now that maybe I'm not supposed to know, like I'm supposed to live with the pain I have. I get to keep these memories. Luckily though, I know how to hide it, as long as i pay attention to my career, no one knows.

Ok, First of all you need to get this in your head. NO ONE is supposed to live with any pain. If there are memories you are hiding, you need them to come out, not in this forum obviously but somewhere with other people that can help you.

You appear to have been and are in a state of long-term, major depression. This is ok, it is normal. I have it, but I control it with therapy and medications. Since 15% to 20% of people with your condition and mine committ suicide, you are a good candidate for help. I would suggest you go to a psychiatrist who will certainly help you. Take it from me, life does not have to be that sad. It's just our neurotransmissors playing with us. Also, unless you are OK, you will never find someone OK for you. Think about that. But please, seek some sort of counseling. We all want to see you in this forum often.



MGGS
User currently offlineRolfen From Germany, joined Jan 2006, 1807 posts, RR: 2
Reply 23, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 3 days 10 hours ago) and read 2513 times:

Quoting Lehpron (Reply 20):
Luckily though, I know how to hide it, as long as i pay attention to my career, no one knows.

Yeah, hide your feelings away and live alone for the rest of your life.

Quoting Lehpron (Reply 20):
She claimed I was always a downer

Well maybe you are one, listen to yourself... you say that you lost the girl of your life... It makes me wonder how old you are... are you over 50?

Maybe you're just stuck in a bad situation and you need to try to change things, and then something good will happen which will give you back some optimism. Dont say that you have already tried. You are never done trying in life, but a little counseling might spare your energy.

[Edited 2006-04-17 02:28:36]


rolf
User currently offlineNordair From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 24, posted (8 years 4 months 2 weeks 3 days 10 hours ago) and read 2502 times:

Quoting Lehpron (Reply 20):
Years ago I used to have emotional problems and dumped them on anyone who could help me, even on A.net. Back then I was pretty selfish, I was more concerned about what was going on with me than how it affected anyone else. She claimed I was always a downer, my guess she could only take so much, that I may never change.

Speaking as one of those on a.net whom you dumped on, I'd advise telling her how you feel and with any luck, she will have a measure of understanding about your state of mind then and now. If she still rebuffs you, then try to move on with some dignity.

She may have been your "dream girl", but dreams are just that...dreams. They are never what they seem and they are never real.

Take care of yourself first and don't worry about her.


25 ETStar : "you had your shot" "yup, and I chose to save it"
26 Rolfen : Yowza, you're a genius.
27 Post contains images Lehpron : I've done all that a long time ago, I'm not despressed anymore. I've been overall happy for over a year and a half. Just this one subject gets me; wh
28 Rolfen : We're obviously not in the same age and in the same situation / frame of mind, so I wouldnt want to give you any more "advice". Just dont be so pessim
29 EGTESkyGod : Lehpron, buddy, don't hang yourself up on it, it doesn't do you (or her) any good. I learned that a long time ago, and I only turn 20 next week. Thoug
30 AirframeAS : I think the best way to deal with it is to move on. What some women cannot understand is that we, guys, cannot take clues, hints or anything like that
31 DrDeke : Then, I think you may have to come to terms with the situation and move on. It may take a long time to do this, but what else could you do? -DrDeke
32 Lehpron : I don't know how to move on, I haven't exactly had enough experiences to justify knowing what I'm doing. Whatever most of ya'll done since your teens,
33 Post contains images Jafa39 : You will regret it forever, when you are 40 you will lay awake at night dreaming about how happy you would be now if only you hadn't blown it then. Th
34 Aerorobnz : "As you've stated your opinion I won't waste any more of my time with you, I have better things to be doing with my life than moping over something th
35 Post contains images ANCFlyer : Better adjust the sights . . . .
36 Rolfen : You can try making a "reset" or "recycle" like they say in aviation. Call her and tell her she's a bitch and everything you can think to hurt her. The
37 Post contains images Texan : That's because it was a warning shot. The next one is not Of course, the gracious thing to do would be to say, "Well, thank you for the chance. I wis
38 AndesSMF : Bad idea. The trick is if that you ever will be in a long-term relationship, you need to be able to deal with the good and the bad. Just ending a rel
39 AirframeAS : I was dumped, dude.... No warnings, no nuthin! She told me I had my shot when she came home one night and dumped me on the spot right when she walked
40 AndesSMF : Indeed it looks pretty much like her fault, after all I said it could be her. And the breakup seems pretty immature from my side. Maybe after the ini
41 Post contains images AirframeAS : No, its not. Its your opinion and I respect that. Im saying 'good riddance' now, but the pain is still there. I was trying to save a relationship tha
42 AndesSMF : I'm sorry, I meant to say more from her side, and it looks like you are proving that. The pain might disappear once you find someone else, but yes, i
43 Post contains images AirframeAS : I want to be with someone, no question...I just hate doing the dating thing again...its sort of like interviewing someone or being interviewed by som
44 AndesSMF : We still keep in contact and send Christmas cards to each other. Best description I heard in a long time, maybe ever.
45 AirframeAS : Makes sense. Id tell the whole story on the forum but it involves an A.netter who was totally attracted to him when me and my ex-gf met up with him f
46 Post contains images Lehpron : Someone else, there's a concept. We met 6 years ago and "it" technically ended a year ago, whatever we had be it nothing in the end... But see, ya'll
47 AirframeAS : I said that wrong: My ex-gf was attracted to another A.netter. My ex never was a member of A.net.
48 DeltaDC9 : Thats what everyone thinks until the next one comes along. Thats what I thought in 1985 when my first serious relationship ended. And all the ones be
49 Post contains images YeahitsK : Looking at this as an outsider, I think you should look in the mirror and figure out if you have really changed. That's the first thing you need to kn
50 Post contains images Rolfen : Sorry, btw, I gave you tons of "advice" without understanding that you were talking about a serious relashionship, and not a flirt like I assumed. Bes
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