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User currently offlineFutureUALpilot From United States of America, joined May 2000, 2608 posts, RR: 8
Posted (8 years 8 months 7 hours ago) and read 1334 times:

Hey all,

I recently posted a thread regarding my girlfriend and I and our situation in which I got many helpful replies.

Her and I decided to try and see how the last two weeks we had here at school went and go from there. Last week went really well, and today we got in a fight because she kept claiming how "fun" and :wild" next year would be and I got tired of it so I said I hope you keep in mind how I feel about it and she kept saying how she was gonna do whatever she wanted. we had a fight and didnt talk for most of the day until recently when she said she was done and didnt care about us and didnt want to try anymore and ended it. I guess three and a half years came down to today.

I guess the hardest part is being the one who does care, and who still thinks we could have made it. I wanted to try but I guess now its time to move on.

Anyway, enough of my rambling. Thank you all for your support in the last post I put up and any words of advice are greatly encouraged and I am very grateful.


Life is better when you surf.
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User currently offlineDLKAPA From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 1, posted (8 years 8 months 7 hours ago) and read 1324 times:

let the b!tch go.



User currently offlineAerospaceFan From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 2, posted (8 years 8 months 7 hours ago) and read 1309 times:

Quoting FutureUALpilot (Thread starter):
Last week went really well, and today we got in a fight because she kept claiming how "fun" and :wild" next year would be and I got tired of it so I said I hope you keep in mind how I feel about it and she kept saying how she was gonna do whatever she wanted. we had a fight and didnt talk for most of the day until recently when she said she was done and didnt care about us and didnt want to try anymore and ended it.

I want to express to you my sympathies for what just happened. It's tough breaking up with someone, especially if you're not the one who wants to do it.

However, my first reaction is that it seems strange that you report that "last week went really well", when all of a sudden this week it seems to have fallen apart. This suggest to me that maybe it's too early to draw a firm conclusion as to what happened today. I'm in no position to really judge, but it seems to me that maybe you shouldn't conclude that everything is over and done with just from what she said today.

Please keep in mind that I don't doubt your word; not at all. But, I do wonder if maybe you shouldn't sleep on it, at least, and think about what happened today in the morning. Sometimes people say things in the heat of passion that they really don't mean.

Whatever happens, it's not going to be easy to deal with, and there will be moments of sadness, or at least awkwardness; things may get worse before they get better. But there is one truth, I guess, that you might consider: If you and she were never meant to be, then it's better that you find out now rather than later.

I hope you have friends and relatives in the non-online world in whom you can confide, as well; these are the times when their advice and support can come in handy.

I'm glad you found the advice of your online friends here helpful; I think you'll find that many of us feel for you, as yours is a position not uncommon in the world today. Rest assured, however, that things will get better.

My best to you, and I hope that things improve for you soon.  

[Edited 2006-05-02 06:32:44]

User currently offlineFutureUALpilot From United States of America, joined May 2000, 2608 posts, RR: 8
Reply 3, posted (8 years 8 months 7 hours ago) and read 1283 times:

Thanks guys, I forgot to add the "for anybody who cares."

Aerospacefan,

Thanks for the advice, and I am certain its over since she specifically said: Its over, Ive thought about it, and we're done. I'm talking to my close friends about it and essentially it hurts but I'll get over it. Just gonna take time. I appriciate your support.

Everybody else....well hell, I needed a laugh. Sorry for wasting bandwidth, I just needed to vent.


Suggest deletion.

[Edited 2006-05-02 06:51:09]


Life is better when you surf.
User currently offlineMaury From United States of America, joined May 2005, 532 posts, RR: 2
Reply 4, posted (8 years 8 months 7 hours ago) and read 1270 times:

Ha! They may not care, but they do take the time to dro a note to let you know!

Don't let it bug you...these are *not* busy people...nor are they the ones who originally participated in your other thread. They do like to boost those important posting-ranking figures though--so take a major grain of salt with their comments.


User currently offlineAirWillie6475 From United States of America, joined Jan 2005, 2448 posts, RR: 1
Reply 5, posted (8 years 8 months 6 hours ago) and read 1260 times:

UAL doesn't hire pansies. I wish I had that picture of the empty heavy cargo plane bay that says "Here is the cargo bay of those who care" If you want to be a pilot you wont be attracting any ladies with your 1000/month paycheck anyways. Forget about serious relationships untill your through the entry level flying.

User currently offlineAirWillie6475 From United States of America, joined Jan 2005, 2448 posts, RR: 1
Reply 6, posted (8 years 8 months 6 hours ago) and read 1260 times:

Quoting DLKAPA (Reply 2):

That's funny especially from some one from Liberia.


User currently offlineFutureUALpilot From United States of America, joined May 2000, 2608 posts, RR: 8
Reply 7, posted (8 years 8 months 6 hours ago) and read 1254 times:

Quoting Maury (Reply 6):
Don't let it bug you...these are *not* busy people...nor are they the ones who originally participated in your other thread. They do like to boost those important posting-ranking figures though--so take a major grain of salt with their comments.

Lol I know man, I've seen it all before. Its all good, Im actually honored to finally have gotten a couple of these from such "esteemed" a.netters.  Wink



Life is better when you surf.
User currently offlineAirWillie6475 From United States of America, joined Jan 2005, 2448 posts, RR: 1
Reply 8, posted (8 years 8 months 6 hours ago) and read 1254 times:

Quoting DLKAPA (Reply 2):
let the b!tch go.

Tha'ts great


User currently offlineJap From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 9, posted (8 years 8 months 6 hours ago) and read 1238 times:

I'm sorry to hear that- it's never easy when a relationship ends, especially not the way yours did  Sad

Quoting FutureUALpilot (Thread starter):
I guess the hardest part is being the one who does care, and who still thinks we could have made it. I wanted to try but I guess now its time to move on.

Exactly how I feel at the moment... it may take a while for you to move on, but keep your chin up- someday, you WILL feel better, and when you're with the right girl, you're gonna look back at this and go "what the hell was I thinking?! What did I see in her?"  Wink


User currently offlineBMIFlyer From UK - England, joined Feb 2004, 8810 posts, RR: 58
Reply 10, posted (8 years 7 months 4 weeks 1 day 9 hours ago) and read 1098 times:

Quoting FutureUALpilot (Thread starter):

Truly sorry to hear that man  Sad

I know exactly how you feel, as your situation has also happened to me.

Chin up mate...

Quoting Jap (Reply 11):
you're gonna look back at this and go "what the hell was I thinking?! What did I see in her?"

That is exactly what i did when i finally forgot about my ex. Im glad now that we did break up when we did.


Lee



Sometimes You Can't Make It On Your Own
User currently offlineCasInterest From United States of America, joined Feb 2005, 4796 posts, RR: 3
Reply 11, posted (8 years 7 months 4 weeks 1 day 7 hours ago) and read 1053 times:

Trust me,
you are way to young for a serious relationship.
Nowadays anyone that gets into a long term relationship that leads to marriage before 25 should get smacked by their buddies.

It is a big world out there, explore it and experience it. In the future you will look back and realize she is one heartbreak out of many.

Having said that. It hurts. You feel like you got sucker punched and your throat is sitting in your stomach. Go ahead and feel it and experience it.


However don't try to "make it work out".

Let her go, and move on to other people and experiences. Like I said, there are a lot of them out there.



Older than I just was ,and younger than I will soo be.
User currently offlineZKSUJ From New Zealand, joined May 2004, 7111 posts, RR: 12
Reply 12, posted (8 years 7 months 4 weeks 1 day 1 hour ago) and read 997 times:

Hey

Sorry to hear about what happened. It may be tough in the n next few weeks, my advise is to keep busy and it should help pass the time and get your mind off things.
I know it feels like a huge kick in the guts, but time heals all wounds (eventually)

Hang in there and take it easy

All the best

SUJ


User currently offlineBraybuddy From Ireland, joined Aug 2004, 5816 posts, RR: 31
Reply 13, posted (8 years 7 months 4 weeks 1 day ago) and read 975 times:

Good to see you have such a positive attitude FutureUALpilot and are not wallowing in misery, which is so easy to do.

You got three-and-a-half great years out of it and now you are preparing yourself to move on. That's a great attitude to have.

Good luck and you've got plenty of time on your side.


User currently offlineRolfen From Germany, joined Jan 2006, 1809 posts, RR: 2
Reply 14, posted (8 years 7 months 4 weeks 18 hours ago) and read 938 times:

Welcome to the club mate!

Oh wait you're still at school? Hey it's not that bad. Keep your eyes open for your soulmate, you dont know when you'll meet her.



rolf
User currently offlineSenorcarnival From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 15, posted (8 years 7 months 4 weeks 17 hours ago) and read 925 times:

You're in the 16-20 range and you've already been in a 3.5 year relationship so just have fun. By fun, I'm not saying get drunk every weekend and have a one-night stand although you will find this to be extremely healing the first time. By fun, I'm saying do everything you didn't do because you had a girlfriend.
Don't go finding some other girl to get serious with, just enjoy everything there is about being single. And most importantly, live, dammit, LIVE!

[Edited 2006-05-03 20:05:42]

User currently offlineCedarjet From United Kingdom, joined May 1999, 8199 posts, RR: 54
Reply 16, posted (8 years 7 months 4 weeks 16 hours ago) and read 878 times:

Dude, one piece of important advice: you can leave with your dignity if you choose. There is sometimes more dignity in defeat than in victory. Hang on to your pride and don't call her, text her, appear outside her place in the middle of the night etc. You might be in giant amounts of pain and miss her but don't pick up the phone. If it's over, it's over. If it's not over, going weepy-stalky will ensure it IS over. If you maintain a level of radio silence, she'll miss you a lot more than if you're on her case. Stay cool and hang in there. Been there a few times, it hurts like fuck but maintaining your pride sure takes the edge off it, especially a bit further down the line. Being upset and humilated is much worse than just being upset. Good luck.


fly Saha Air 707s daily from Tehran's downtown Mehrabad to Mashhad, Kish Island and Ahwaz
User currently offlineA332 From Canada, joined Feb 2005, 1644 posts, RR: 2
Reply 17, posted (8 years 7 months 4 weeks 15 hours ago) and read 860 times:

Remember, it also takes two to tango... so, if she is leaving the relationship, it probably wasn't all just on her part...

Anyways.. get over it and move on to something better... if it didn't work out, then it wasn't meant to be.



Bad spellers of the world... UNTIE!
User currently offlineAndesSMF From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 18, posted (8 years 7 months 4 weeks 15 hours ago) and read 859 times:

Quoting Cedarjet (Reply 16):

Cedarjet, congratulations on such a good response. Couldnt say much more myself, and not long ago had a discussion with the wife about keeping your dignity in a relationship. Keep your dignity, because it will turn into respect, which helps to maintain a long term relationship.


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