BradWray From United Kingdom, joined Jun 2005, 650 posts, RR: 1 Posted (7 years 7 months 1 week 4 days 19 hours ago) and read 5086 times:
It has been around one year since I split up with my ex girlfreind and I cannot get over her and we havent realy seen each other since we split up and seeing as tho we live 30 seconds walk away from each other I am quite suprised about that.
I am wanting to send her some flowers for her birthday which will be her first since we split and hoping to impress her I am wondering if I should deliver them by hand to her door or get Interflora to deliver them with a written card and a nice message.
Photopilot From Canada, joined Jul 2002, 2545 posts, RR: 19 Reply 2, posted (7 years 7 months 1 week 4 days 19 hours ago) and read 5077 times:
Instead of using the traditional flower shop "Baby's Breath" greenery intermixed with the flowers, might I suggest Poison Ivy leaves.
Wilted flowers are definately called for, as are some creative spider webs sticking to the flowers. Just dust around your attic with the flowers till a suitable supply of webs are stuck all over the flowers.
Itsjustme From United States of America, joined Apr 2004, 2765 posts, RR: 10 Reply 5, posted (7 years 7 months 1 week 4 days 19 hours ago) and read 5063 times:
Instead of sending her flowers, why not take them to her yourself? All it will take is a few dollars (pounds?) and a 30 second walk. You'll not only be sure she receives them but, depending on her reaction, you might get an indication if there's any chance of reconciling. If she throws them at you.....probably not much of a chance.
Mham001 From United States of America, joined Feb 2005, 3234 posts, RR: 3 Reply 7, posted (7 years 7 months 1 week 4 days 19 hours ago) and read 5054 times:
Its no accident you haven't seen her even though she lives within a 30 second walk. If she wanted to see you, she would.
Showing up at her doorstep with flowers in hand will make you look like a fool. You already has confidence issues, you don't need any more. Move on. Send her a text if you want, why not just text her your questions?
Itsjustme From United States of America, joined Apr 2004, 2765 posts, RR: 10 Reply 8, posted (7 years 7 months 1 week 4 days 19 hours ago) and read 5044 times:
Quoting Mham001 (Reply 7): Showing up at her doorstep with flowers in hand will make you look like a fool.
Nah, I disagree. Gotta take the bull by the horns. Communicating via txt, email, smoke signals, etc... is lame. Take the flowers to her, tell her how you feel and find out once and for all if it's over. If it is...then move on (and ask for the flowers back).
BristolFlyer From United Kingdom, joined May 2004, 2239 posts, RR: 0 Reply 16, posted (7 years 7 months 1 week 4 days 18 hours ago) and read 4994 times:
Have you had any other girlfriends beside this one? According to your profile you're fairly young, and quite often first love is the hardest to get over. It's time to move on, don't bother with the flowers.
BradWray From United Kingdom, joined Jun 2005, 650 posts, RR: 1 Reply 17, posted (7 years 7 months 1 week 4 days 18 hours ago) and read 4988 times:
Quoting BristolFlyer (Reply 16): Have you had any other girlfriends beside this one? According to your profile you're fairly young, and quite often first love is the hardest to get over. It's time to move on, don't bother with the flowers.
I have had plenty of girlfreinds but none like her and out of every woman in the world, I wouldnt chose them over her. When I was with her my life seemed perfect and she seemed perfect!
BradWray From United Kingdom, joined Jun 2005, 650 posts, RR: 1 Reply 19, posted (7 years 7 months 1 week 4 days 18 hours ago) and read 4979 times:
Quoting CO7e7 (Reply 18): I agree !!! That's why a 2nd love would be helpful
I dont think I could go out with anyone other than her. Everything was perfect about her and by getting another girlfreind would seem like using a 1D then using a IXUS, It just wouldnt seem right thats why I would do everything possable to get her back!
CO7e7 From United States of America, joined Dec 2004, 2848 posts, RR: 2 Reply 20, posted (7 years 7 months 1 week 4 days 17 hours ago) and read 4970 times:
Quoting BradWray (Reply 19): I dont think I could go out with anyone other than her
Bradley ma man, i am by no means a "Dr. Phil." However, from a previous experience i can tell you that moving on is very hard especially if you really still have strong feelings for the girl.
But at the same time, you should not "give up on moving on" and finding another nice girl.
After my "first love" and i broke up, i was 18. I was very depressed and for the longest time i didn't think i was ready to move on. I thought she was the ONLY one for me... but here i am 5 years later... smooth sailing in a 3 year old relationship.
Good Luck again.. and if you wanna chat, feel free to IM me.
Tercer From United States of America, joined Dec 2005, 142 posts, RR: 0 Reply 23, posted (7 years 7 months 1 week 4 days 17 hours ago) and read 4958 times:
Quoting Nordair (Reply 11): Bradley, how can I be diplomatic about this?
1. She doesn't want you anymore.
2. Are you some sort of sucker for punishment and rejection?
3. It's fine to still care about her on some bittersweet level, but it is still dominating you! Let it go.
4. Have you considered counselling to find out why you think so badly of yourself that you pursue some dream that won't come true, and even if it did it would not be what you thought it was?
5. Where is your dignity?
6. She has probably been with several other guys since you broke up and not once did she think of you while doing the narsty.
7. Love is often blind, but does it have to be ridiculous as well?
How many girls have been interested in you but you've ignored because of your obsession for some silly git who lives near you yet SHE has managed to AVOID seeing you since you broke up?
9. Take the lolly you would have spent on flowers and give it to a reputable charity. They will appreciate it far more than she ever will.
10. Take Jap's advice. She pretty much summed it up in it's entirety.
Very well put!
Dude, instead of blowing your cash on a girl that is most likely on her knees doing the same to her NEW boyfriend while you write your cheesy card (not to mention the possibility of getting your ass kicked by her current boyfriend) use your money to get back out there.
If she hasn't made an attempt to contact you after 360 days then you might want to take a hint and move on. Come on, you cant throw a rock and not hit a good looking women, they are everywhere. Use your cash for a one month at a dating site as a confidence builder (you never know it might work).
But when you start talking to girls again DO not I MEAN DO NOT, sulk and talk about your ex from one year ago!!!!, do not bring flowers and a nice card on your dates, do not let her decide were to go, do not be a wimpy, snot nose that kisses her ass, look her in the eye with confidence when you talk and do not, DO not sulk and talk about your EX! You can be a nice but unconfident guy, making 300K a year that drive a Mercedes but if you bring Mr. Wimpy to the table you might as well have stayed at home becasue a women would rather have poor but self assured, confident, proud ditch digger any day. Dating is not that hard, in fact it is easy once you get past that fear of rejection..
It's politically sensitive, but it's going to happen.