BristolFlyer From United Kingdom, joined May 2004, 2135 posts, RR: 0 Posted (7 years 1 week 1 day 18 hours ago) and read 1375 times:
I never thought I'd be the one asking for dating advice on this forum, but I'm a little out of my depth on this one...
So I've been dating a real nice girl for a couple of weeks, and she recently said she's jewish (but not overly religious, nor am I). In fact neither of us care at all for religion.
So what, if any, are the differences (lifestyle, background etc) that I could expect. I know it's a stereotype that jews are typically boring, straight laced people but she certainly isn't that.
ArmitageShanks From UK - England, joined Dec 2003, 3362 posts, RR: 16 Reply 1, posted (7 years 1 week 1 day 18 hours ago) and read 1368 times:
Well, if she's not really into being a "serious Jew" then I wouldn't worry much about how it will affect your relationship. Ask her what her parents will think because that could be a problem if they are serious about it.
Talk to her about it. If it's enough to make you worry about it then there has to be something there.
Flyingbabydoc From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Reply 3, posted (7 years 1 week 1 day 9 hours ago) and read 1305 times:
Quoting BristolFlyer (Thread starter): So what, if any, are the differences (lifestyle, background etc) that I could expect. I know it's a stereotype that jews are typically boring, straight laced people but she certainly isn't that.
I completely disagree with that. If she is ok with you not being Jewish you should have no major problem, except...
...if her grandmother is very conservative or orthodox. Then you are in for some big trouble
Now, seriously, I think one of the biggest advantages of a mixed-marriage is that you get to enjoy all the religious festivities without having to divide yourself between families. You can have a wonderful Seder for Pessach or Yom Kippur with her family and then enjoy Christmas with yours.
Enjoy the relationship. She is a human being, not a stereotype based on which faith she follows. If you really love her and vice-versa, problems like this just dissipate in the bliss of the relationship.
TedTAce From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Reply 4, posted (7 years 1 week 1 day 9 hours ago) and read 1300 times:
I dated a jewish girl for a year and while sex was nice, there were certain ....limits..... As long as your comfortable with eachother there, your pretty much good to go. Make sure your on the same page about kids...
The other problem with my ex was that while she was smart; she was as shallow and materialisic as Paris Hilton.
Miamiair From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Reply 6, posted (7 years 1 week 1 day 6 hours ago) and read 1265 times:
Quoting Ba757gla (Reply 5): i have no probs with jewish people but they can seem to look down on you and they have very expensive tastes . you should consider yourself lucky!
Rolfen From Germany, joined Jan 2006, 1764 posts, RR: 2 Reply 10, posted (7 years 1 week 4 hours ago) and read 1183 times:
Quoting BristolFlyer (Thread starter): So I've been dating a real nice girl for a couple of weeks, and she recently said she's jewish (but not overly religious, nor am I). In fact neither of us care at all for religion.
So what, if any, are the differences (lifestyle, background etc) that I could expect. I know it's a stereotype that jews are typically boring, straight laced people but she certainly isn't that.
When I get something going with a girl and discover later that she's a different religion (like muslim - and i'm christian) it makes me feel better about this world and this country. It is also an opportunity to discover another religion and see how people integrate it with their lifestyle.
AirPacific747 From Denmark, joined May 2008, 2091 posts, RR: 23 Reply 14, posted (7 years 3 days 11 hours ago) and read 1112 times:
We should seriously create a new forum for these kinds of threads. Name it Love & Relationship forum. Or how about a more specific one called "Dating Advice"
AR385 From Mexico, joined Nov 2003, 4848 posts, RR: 27 Reply 16, posted (7 years 3 days 11 hours ago) and read 1102 times:
In this country Jewish communities are very tight. They have their own schools, they do business between themselves and they only marry each other. Let alone date. Too bad for their gene pool.
My advice is that if you've only been seeing her for two weeks it's too early to say how thing will go. Play it by ear and wait at least 3 months. Women tend to start showing their true colors as the relationship progresses.
Stereotyping? Maybe. But such is my experience and I'm no stranger to relationships.
Jafa39 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Reply 17, posted (7 years 3 days 9 hours ago) and read 1091 times:
Mrs Jafa is part Jewish, the part that keeps her tanned throughout the winter and makes her a marvellous cook!!!
Look mate, any woman, regardless of culture creed or persuasion can be heaven or hell, take a deep breath and dive in, enjoy the process of exploration.
But watch her grandmother!!!!!!!! Mind you, same goes for Hindu girls and American girls...same shit...different kitchen!!
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