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Dating Advice Needed  
User currently offlineBristolFlyer From United Kingdom, joined May 2004, 2290 posts, RR: 0
Posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 2 days 1 hour ago) and read 2020 times:

I never thought I'd be the one asking for dating advice on this forum, but I'm a little out of my depth on this one...

So I've been dating a real nice girl for a couple of weeks, and she recently said she's jewish (but not overly religious, nor am I). In fact neither of us care at all for religion.

So what, if any, are the differences (lifestyle, background etc) that I could expect. I know it's a stereotype that jews are typically boring, straight laced people but she certainly isn't that.

Hit me with it!

BF


Fortune favours the brave
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User currently offlineArmitageShanks From UK - England, joined Dec 2003, 3608 posts, RR: 15
Reply 1, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 2 days 1 hour ago) and read 2013 times:

Well, if she's not really into being a "serious Jew" then I wouldn't worry much about how it will affect your relationship. Ask her what her parents will think because that could be a problem if they are serious about it.

Talk to her about it. If it's enough to make you worry about it then there has to be something there.

Communication is the key to most relationships.


User currently offlineNighthawk From UK - Scotland, joined Sep 2001, 5126 posts, RR: 34
Reply 2, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 1 day 19 hours ago) and read 1974 times:

Dont expect a present at Christmas.......


That'll teach you
User currently offlineFlyingbabydoc From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 3, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 1 day 16 hours ago) and read 1950 times:

Quoting BristolFlyer (Thread starter):
So what, if any, are the differences (lifestyle, background etc) that I could expect. I know it's a stereotype that jews are typically boring, straight laced people but she certainly isn't that.

I completely disagree with that. If she is ok with you not being Jewish you should have no major problem, except...

...if her grandmother is very conservative or orthodox. Then you are in for some big trouble  Smile

Now, seriously, I think one of the biggest advantages of a mixed-marriage is that you get to enjoy all the religious festivities without having to divide yourself between families. You can have a wonderful Seder for Pessach or Yom Kippur with her family and then enjoy Christmas with yours.

Enjoy the relationship. She is a human being, not a stereotype based on which faith she follows. If you really love her and vice-versa, problems like this just dissipate in the bliss of the relationship.

Good luck to you both.

Just my  twocents 

Alex


User currently offlineTedTAce From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 4, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 1 day 16 hours ago) and read 1945 times:

I dated a jewish girl for a year and while sex was nice, there were certain ....limits..... As long as your comfortable with eachother there, your pretty much good to go. Make sure your on the same page about kids...

The other problem with my ex was that while she was smart; she was as shallow and materialisic as Paris Hilton.


User currently offlineBa757gla From United Kingdom, joined Mar 2006, 760 posts, RR: 2
Reply 5, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 1 day 16 hours ago) and read 1929 times:

i have no probs with jewish people but they can seem to look down on you and they have very expensive tastes . you should consider yourself lucky!

User currently offlineMiamiair From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 6, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 1 day 13 hours ago) and read 1910 times:

Quoting Ba757gla (Reply 5):
i have no probs with jewish people but they can seem to look down on you and they have very expensive tastes . you should consider yourself lucky!

Talk about stereotyping...


User currently offlineBa757gla From United Kingdom, joined Mar 2006, 760 posts, RR: 2
Reply 7, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 1 day 13 hours ago) and read 1909 times:

I was not taking offence ,

User currently offlineAndesSMF From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 8, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 1 day 9 hours ago) and read 1869 times:

Quoting Ba757gla (Reply 5):
i have no probs with jewish people but they can seem to look down on you and they have very expensive tastes

Obviously a young one, you are not describing Jews, boy, you are describing women!  duck 


User currently offlineHAWK21M From India, joined Jan 2001, 31667 posts, RR: 56
Reply 9, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 16 hours ago) and read 1843 times:

Its the Individual that matters not the Religon.
regds
MEL



Think of the brighter side!
User currently offlineRolfen From Germany, joined Jan 2006, 1800 posts, RR: 2
Reply 10, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 12 hours ago) and read 1828 times:

Quoting BristolFlyer (Thread starter):
So I've been dating a real nice girl for a couple of weeks, and she recently said she's jewish (but not overly religious, nor am I). In fact neither of us care at all for religion.

So what, if any, are the differences (lifestyle, background etc) that I could expect. I know it's a stereotype that jews are typically boring, straight laced people but she certainly isn't that.

When I get something going with a girl and discover later that she's a different religion (like muslim - and i'm christian) it makes me feel better about this world and this country. It is also an opportunity to discover another religion and see how people integrate it with their lifestyle.



rolf
User currently offlineZChannel From United States of America, joined Jan 2006, 187 posts, RR: 0
Reply 11, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 7 hours ago) and read 1811 times:

Treat the sluts like queens and the queens like sluts...


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User currently offlinePawsleykat From United States of America, joined Jul 2005, 1978 posts, RR: 11
Reply 12, posted (8 years 2 months 3 days 19 hours ago) and read 1763 times:

Quoting Nighthawk (Reply 2):
Dont expect a present at Christmas.......

Yeah, but you get a present each day for 9 days at Hanukkah! ka - ching!!!!

JG



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User currently offlineNighthawk From UK - Scotland, joined Sep 2001, 5126 posts, RR: 34
Reply 13, posted (8 years 2 months 3 days 19 hours ago) and read 1761 times:

Quoting Pawsleykat (Reply 12):
Yeah, but you get a present each day for 9 days at Hanukkah! ka - ching!!!!

Any Jewish girls want to go out with me??? Big grin



That'll teach you
User currently offlineAirPacific747 From Denmark, joined May 2008, 2373 posts, RR: 21
Reply 14, posted (8 years 2 months 3 days 19 hours ago) and read 1757 times:

We should seriously create a new forum for these kinds of threads. Name it Love & Relationship forum. Or how about a more specific one called "Dating Advice"

User currently offlineRolfen From Germany, joined Jan 2006, 1800 posts, RR: 2
Reply 15, posted (8 years 2 months 3 days 18 hours ago) and read 1751 times:

Quoting ZChannel (Reply 11):
Treat the sluts like queens and the queens like sluts...

This thing stuck in my head and I think it's good advice.



rolf
User currently offlineAR385 From Mexico, joined Nov 2003, 6129 posts, RR: 30
Reply 16, posted (8 years 2 months 3 days 18 hours ago) and read 1747 times:
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In this country Jewish communities are very tight. They have their own schools, they do business between themselves and they only marry each other. Let alone date. Too bad for their gene pool.

My advice is that if you've only been seeing her for two weeks it's too early to say how thing will go. Play it by ear and wait at least 3 months. Women tend to start showing their true colors as the relationship progresses.

Stereotyping? Maybe. But such is my experience and I'm no stranger to relationships.



MGGS
User currently offlineJafa39 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 17, posted (8 years 2 months 3 days 17 hours ago) and read 1736 times:

Mrs Jafa is part Jewish, the part that keeps her tanned throughout the winter and makes her a marvellous cook!!!

Look mate, any woman, regardless of culture creed or persuasion can be heaven or hell, take a deep breath and dive in, enjoy the process of exploration.

But watch her grandmother!!!!!!!! Mind you, same goes for Hindu girls and American girls...same shit...different kitchen!!  Smile


User currently offlinePawsleykat From United States of America, joined Jul 2005, 1978 posts, RR: 11
Reply 18, posted (8 years 2 months 3 days 11 hours ago) and read 1716 times:

Quoting Nighthawk (Reply 13):
Any Jewish girls want to go out with me???

 rotfl  rotfl  rotfl  I was waiting for someone to say something along those lines. lol  Smile

JG



First Class passengers are my favourites. They can't get any further forward without an ATPL.
User currently offlineBristolFlyer From United Kingdom, joined May 2004, 2290 posts, RR: 0
Reply 19, posted (8 years 2 months 2 days 21 hours ago) and read 1671 times:

Thanks y'all. Went out on a few dates with her and it turns out that we're not overly well matched so  thumbsdown 

Oh, and just for the record, she did fit one Jewish stereotype - myroundaphobia. It was up to me to buy almost all meals/drinks etc.

Oh well, next please.

BF



Fortune favours the brave
User currently offlineJafa39 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 20, posted (8 years 2 months 2 days 21 hours ago) and read 1666 times:

Quoting BristolFlyer (Reply 19):
she did fit one Jewish stereotype - myroundaphobia. It was up to me to buy almost all meals/drinks etc.

Must be Mrs Jafa's long-lost love-child  Smile


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