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Ok, Thats It, Had Enough, Advice On Moving Out!  
User currently offlineKazzie From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 7 hours ago) and read 2780 times:

Had enough of the mother, She is starting to edge me over the line as far as I can go... If I get 1 more comment like

"your father f**king hates you, that's why he is moving to Spain"

or

" you selfish f**king bitch" .. I will scream....

So I plan to be out of here within the next what 2 months? So what Advice can you guys give? maybe take out a loan to fun myself until I get an apartment and a new job? Eventually I want tp the leave the UK all together..

71 replies: All unread, showing first 25:
 
User currently offlineMyt332 From United Kingdom, joined Sep 2003, 9112 posts, RR: 71
Reply 1, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 7 hours ago) and read 2770 times:

Quoting Kazzie (Thread starter):
maybe take out a loan to fun myself

I recommend that. Go out and get pissed, great fun. Get an Indian takeaway too!

Quoting Kazzie (Thread starter):
I want tp the leave the UK

Toilet paper our country? Sad



One Life, Live it.
User currently offlineUAL747 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 2, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 7 hours ago) and read 2770 times:

How old are you Kaz?

Living by yourself is such a great blessing. No one to bump into you when you are in a bad mood, and only people at home when you invite them in. I say go for it if you can find an affordable place. You've got a job..no reason why you shouldn't have your own place.

I could never go back and move in with my parents. They would drive me nuts.

And about your mother, I'm in a fight with my mom right now too. It all started over me saying that we needed to get the piano tuned...go figure.

UAL


User currently offlineSpeedbirdie From United Kingdom, joined May 2006, 915 posts, RR: 52
Reply 3, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 7 hours ago) and read 2755 times:

Taking a loan out to fun youself will do nothing. Taking a loan out to FUND yourself will do nothing either, as you will end up paying back double, maybe even triple by the time you realise how much you are spending on food etc.
My advice? get stuck into work, put up a few notices around asking for a flat share or room in the area. Will save you a hell of a lot of money if you can get bills included. Start off small, single room etc. But honestly, get stuck into work first, earn some cash, bury your head in the sand and it will work out.
God i feel old... (no comment please)



Never give up..
User currently offlineKazzie From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 4, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 7 hours ago) and read 2755 times:

Quoting UAL747 (Reply 2):

And about your mother, I'm in a fight with my mom right now too. It all started over me saying that we needed to get the piano tuned...go figure.

Its an Endless argument!, how mature was she today to switch off all the socets in my room so i lost all my power haha, its not that hard to turn back on?

Anyway im selling all my guitar gear to help my funds.. if anyone wants PM me.


User currently offlineSpeedbirdie From United Kingdom, joined May 2006, 915 posts, RR: 52
Reply 5, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 7 hours ago) and read 2735 times:

Oh we wanna talk about arguments with mothers?????
I threw mine out of my house the other day for constantly slagging my friends off. She wouldnt even apologise.
Now she refuses to speak to me which is totally upsetting me.
Guess i see where i get my stubborn side from.



Never give up..
User currently offlineAir380 From United States of America, joined Jul 2005, 181 posts, RR: 0
Reply 6, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 7 hours ago) and read 2735 times:

I can only recommend moving out. Get all your stuff together, like washing machine and basic furniture and try to find a cheap place to live. Do not go home unless it is weekend, etc. and don't rely on your Mom to cook. It is a lot of responsibility to pay your bills, clean,cook,etc but it is great fun to live by yourself, if you can afford it.
By the way, I am quite a bit older than you and my Mom still tries to control me and she still gets to me. Oh, I will visit them tomorrow for 4 weeks with the kids, Help!


User currently offlineMyt332 From United Kingdom, joined Sep 2003, 9112 posts, RR: 71
Reply 7, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 7 hours ago) and read 2707 times:

Quoting Speedbirdie (Reply 5):
Guess i see where i get my stubborn side from.

And the shape of your head is from your dad!

Random I know.


For you two girls, http://www.relate.org.uk/familylife/familycounselling/.



One Life, Live it.
User currently offlineBMIFlyer From UK - England, joined Feb 2004, 8810 posts, RR: 58
Reply 8, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 7 hours ago) and read 2707 times:

Quoting Kazzie (Thread starter):
Ok, Thats It, Had Enough, Advice On Moving Out!

Kazzie, moving out is a big thing, and takes planning.

If you rush into this you could end up worse off than you are at the moment, remember that. It is a big decision to make, and to be honest, not something you will be able to pull off alone.

If you need my help let me know  Smile

I have 8 years experience of living on my todd so I guess i know everything there is to know about this.


Lee



Sometimes You Can't Make It On Your Own
User currently offlineKazzie From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 9, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 7 hours ago) and read 2707 times:

Alex, Its not a joking matter.

User currently offlineAirPacific747 From Denmark, joined May 2008, 2376 posts, RR: 21
Reply 10, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 7 hours ago) and read 2707 times:

Kaz,
I am sorry to read about this. I am sure the best solution is to move out. I don't really understand how your own mother is able to treat you like that. I myself can't wait to get my own place either!


User currently offlineMyt332 From United Kingdom, joined Sep 2003, 9112 posts, RR: 71
Reply 11, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 7 hours ago) and read 2694 times:

Quoting BMIFlyer (Reply 8):
Alex, Its not a joking matter.

Nor this a site for personal matters if you ask me but there you go. Relate is actually good.



One Life, Live it.
User currently offlineUAL747 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 12, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 6 hours ago) and read 2681 times:

Quoting Kazzie (Reply 4):
Its an Endless argument!, how mature was she today to switch off all the socets in my room so i lost all my power haha, its not that hard to turn back on?

LOL, my argument with my mom was via email. Which, is probably the reason she took what I said out of context. Anyway, she's not answering my phone calls or emails right now, even though my recent calls and emails have nothing to do with what we were fighting over in the first place.

UAL


User currently offlineSpeedbirdie From United Kingdom, joined May 2006, 915 posts, RR: 52
Reply 13, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 6 hours ago) and read 2671 times:

WTF?? the shape of my head?? What are you on??


Never give up..
User currently offlineCarmenlu15 From Guatemala, joined Dec 2004, 4756 posts, RR: 31
Reply 14, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 6 hours ago) and read 2671 times:

Ugh. I've wanted to move out ever since I was 18... Actually I did move with my grandma for about 6 months in 2002, then moved back thinking things would change for the better... wrong.  banghead 

What has stopped me from moving to my own place is money, as I spent most of last year out of a job. And now that I have a job, I have a lot of debts to pay.  irked  I'm planning to pay off everything, save up some money, and then off I go!

Advice: be patient. As Speedbirdie said, don't ask for a loan; before you know it, you'll be buried in mountains of bills to pay! Work your a$$ off to save some money, so you'll be set for a better start.

Good luck!
Carmen



What do I know, I'm just an 'immature troublemaker with only a passing interest in aviation' (or so they say)
User currently offlineCFCUQ From Canada, joined Sep 2005, 712 posts, RR: 0
Reply 15, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 6 hours ago) and read 2671 times:

Quoting BMIFlyer (Reply 8):
Kazzie, moving out is a big thing, and takes planning.

Lee is spot on. Sit and figure out a budget for all things, rent, food, appliances, clothes, utilities, transport, etc. Compare that figure to your income. Does this move look doable ?


User currently offlineSaintsman From United Kingdom, joined Mar 2002, 2065 posts, RR: 2
Reply 16, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 6 hours ago) and read 2664 times:

House share is the best option. Moving out into a place of your own can be quite lonely and not to mention expensive.

There are always adverts in the local papers needing someone to share a house, usually for about £70 per week (which I assume you can afford). The benefits of this type of accommodation is that it is relatively cheap, you meet new friends and if you find you don't like it, you can move on without much hassle.

One warning. Don't expect to party every night because its easy to do but you end up broke with nothing to show for it. You can still have fun of course but when you move out you suddenly become an adult with responsibilities. Living at home you don't have so much.

Now's the time to grow up.

It'll be great though.


User currently offlineMuddydwagon From United States of America, joined Apr 2005, 657 posts, RR: 4
Reply 17, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 6 hours ago) and read 2636 times:

Kaz sorry thing are not going ok at home.

Quoting BMIFlyer (Reply 8):
If you rush into this you could end up worse off than you are at the moment, remember that. It is a big decision to make, and to be honest, not something you will be able to pull off alone.

Have to agree with spuds on this one.

You know how to get in touch with me if you need some help.


Cheers Peter


User currently offlineNIKV69 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 18, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 6 hours ago) and read 2636 times:

Quoting Kazzie (Thread starter):
you selfish f**king bitch" .

Hmmmmmm


Well you can always move in with Flairport.


User currently offlineBMIFlyer From UK - England, joined Feb 2004, 8810 posts, RR: 58
Reply 19, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 6 hours ago) and read 2609 times:

Quoting Myt332 (Reply 11):
Quoting BMIFlyer (Reply 8):
Alex, Its not a joking matter.

Nor this a site for personal matters if you ask me but there you go. Relate is actually good.

I didnt say that, u peanut  Wink



Lee



Sometimes You Can't Make It On Your Own
User currently offlineBMIFlyer From UK - England, joined Feb 2004, 8810 posts, RR: 58
Reply 20, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 6 hours ago) and read 2609 times:

Quoting Muddydwagon (Reply 17):
spuds

Jeez people, quit calling me that!  Wink



Lee



Sometimes You Can't Make It On Your Own
User currently offlineNosedive From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 21, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 6 hours ago) and read 2582 times:

Kaz, you're in London, yes? try these guys everyone loves craigslist, and theres many Euro and UK cities on craigslist.

User currently offlineTod From Denmark, joined Aug 2004, 1724 posts, RR: 3
Reply 22, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 6 hours ago) and read 2560 times:

As stated above, don't go into debt.
Work hard and buy the stuff you will be too broke to buy later.
Load your bedroom up with all the kitchen, bathroom, living room goodies you will need. That process can be fun too. Every new box is another step closer to independance. I moved out at 18 and it was a fun conversation with my Dad when he finally figured out what all the stuff in my room was about.

Dad: going somewhere?
Me: yep

...and have been living happily ever after  Smile

Tod


User currently offlineBaylorAirBear From United States of America, joined Jan 2005, 2913 posts, RR: 50
Reply 23, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 6 hours ago) and read 2560 times:

Quoting Kazzie (Thread starter):
So what Advice can you guys give?

I have an empty bedroom  bouncy 

Quoting BMIFlyer (Reply 8):
I have 8 years experience of living on my todd

WTF is a todd? You British heathens really must get on with moving to the moon.

Kaz, I'm reminded of an old saying: Haste makes...a shitty life. Or something like that. DO plan ahead. Unless she is throwing lamps and chairs at you, you should expect to spend no less than twelve weeks at home, planning every detail of your move. You have to budget for EVERYTHING. I never had an allowance when I was at home, and I paid my own bills, but after I moved out, it wasn't just rent to add on. There's the electric bill, cable, internet, gas, water, sewer, insurance, food, furniture, etc...all just for the apartment. If you have a car, then you have gas, maintenance, insurance, "Oh shit!" budget, etc. Don't forget medical expenses, clothing, toiletries, cleaning supplies, and so on.

I don't mean to discourage you by telling you what lies ahead, rather, I hope you will stop and appreciate the significance of the decision you are about to make.

Once you have done that, go out and attack the world!

Good luck, Kaz,
BAB wave 



I'm just skipping stones...
User currently offlineBMIFlyer From UK - England, joined Feb 2004, 8810 posts, RR: 58
Reply 24, posted (8 years 2 months 1 week 6 hours ago) and read 2542 times:

Quoting BaylorAirBear (Reply 23):
WTF is a todd?

Living on my Todd = living on my own  Wink



Lee



Sometimes You Can't Make It On Your Own
25 Post contains images BCAInfoSys : Wow.. I'm surprised its taken 22 replies for someone to hit on her and offer her a bed at their place.. Nothin against you BAB.. Just think the femal
26 Go3Team : I heard it was Potato Head or something like that. I hear you can get hookers off of craigslist. Havn't tried it though.
27 Post contains images BaylorAirBear : My sentiments, exactly. That's why I added that bit. And, if you didn't know by now, I'm the last one you should take seriously around here Thanks, L
28 Post contains images Nosedive : Suuuuure Truff. Part of this also is knowing your city like the back of your hand. Where can you get the cheapest quality shit? Who rips you off the
29 CFCUQ : When's that house wrec.....warming party, anyway ?
30 Post contains images BMIFlyer : When is the housewarming steve? I'm still up for flying over sometime Lee
31 BaylorAirBear : I forgot to mention that. Take the time to find a place that you are comfortable in. If you think it's bad now with your mum hating on you, wait 'til
32 Post contains images BCAInfoSys : Perhaps in a month or so after i have a few paychecks and some real furniture! Right now I have a couch, bed, TV stand and table for the computer, th
33 CFCUQ : Great minds, huh Lee?
34 Post contains links and images BMIFlyer : Just thinking back to the Finally - My Own Place! (by BCAInfoSys Apr 24 2006 in Non Aviation) thread man Lee
35 Babybus : What are the events leading up to such a scene? It would be great if you could resolve your issues with your mother. Instead of moving out why not hav
36 CFCUQ : C'mon up to YLW, I have a basement and garage full of furnishings from the kids' move in-out-in experiences, now they've all left for good and left a
37 Post contains images Jafa39 : As parents it is our duty to become such a pain that our kids move out, otherwise none of you would leave home and we'd have to have sex with the TV
38 Post contains images Texan : Kaz, Sorry to hear about the troubles at home. My mom gave me an ultimatum: move out by the start of baseball season I went through an apartment locat
39 Post contains images Rossbaku : I'm in the same predicament so I know how you're feeling at the moment! RossBaku
40 BR715-A1-30 : Kaz, as much as your mother may piss you off, you really should put more thought than what airliners.net can offer you. Everybody has different experi
41 Post contains images Rolfen : I dont think that you can get a loan if you dont have a job, but what do I know, my daddy pays for me. Anyways, Good luck from all my heart. Come to
42 KiwiinOz : I'm sure there's two sides to the story with your mother, but then that's life growing up in a house with parents I guess. What's with the Danish flag
43 Post contains images Jafa39 : Having to keep your loo roll under lock and key!
44 AirxLiban : Sorry to hear that things are not going well at home Kaz. Though I wouldn't be too eager to move out immediately until you figure out a couple of thin
45 Wingscrubber : Kazzie, I don't know you but you sound alot like my sister, I remember her and my mum having some proper barnies when she was your age, anyhoo... I'm
46 Pope : Here's my suggestion. Start saving every possible penny because you'll need it. That will mean giving up some things that you really like so that you'
47 Post contains images Kazzie : Thanks for the advice guys! A looong day at work made me think a lot, im just going to save some money and go from there
48 AndesSMF : One question Kaz: How long has your mom spoken to you like that? I mean, as a parent myself, that is a fucked up way to talk to your children. Glad yo
49 Kazzie : Since my Dad left...
50 Post contains images AndesSMF : OMG, that is really heartbreaking. I dont mean to pry, and dont feel obliged to answer, but why did your dad leave? Was your mom a little mean to him
51 Kazzie : Id rather not say to be honest... Thats something that stays with me.
52 AndesSMF : OK, I respect your decision.
53 Post contains images Jap : Pack your bags and come to denmark, sweety stay with me until you have your own place- could be fun
54 KaiGywer : If you plan on leaving, then this wouldn't be the smartest idea. Then you'll just have to sell the place later. Just rent until you get your mind tog
55 MIAspotter : Kaz... Sorry to hear this. Like the other guys have suggested, you should start low, look on the local paper and get a room in a shared flat/house, ma
56 Banco : With all due respect, Kazzie, this is not the place to be discussing such a move. You're still very young, and moving out is a big decision. Get some
57 Post contains images ScarletHarlot : Kazzie, there's lots of good advice here. That totally sucks what your mom is doing to you - you'll have to develop a thick skin and just have her evi
58 Post contains images Pawsleykat : Kazzie, you are really brave to have stuck it out this long, i would have totally walked out by now if i were in your shoes. I can't really say that I
59 Post contains images Boeingfanyyz : Come to Canada. Buy a shack in the far north. It's cheap, and it's easy to evade the government. That's the life! Cheers, Boeingfanyyz
60 Kazzie : Its not only my mum now, Its my dad.... Basically, He is moving to reus in a few months, He just picked me up from work and I told him my plans to go
61 BHXFAOTIPYYC : Be careful with this one too. We get a bunch of people come to the Algarve (and I suspect places like southern Spain, Greece etc are the same) every
62 Post contains images RobertNL070 : Maybe. But sacrificing a bit of fun in exchange for driving lessons, and hopefully soon a driving license, would mean a little bit more of that indep
63 Post contains images LOT767-300ER : Damn, some controlling parents. Come live with me in the USA. Chicago, Illinois or Daytona Beach, Florida are your choices.
64 Post contains images NZPM : Some good advice here. As others have said, it will be a struggle financially, but once you experience that independence there's no going back. I wish
65 Pilot3033 : While it may be harsh, it does sound reasonable (although perhaps yelling was a bit over the top). While moving out seems like the ideal answer, it's
66 Post contains images RJ111 : I've been in a similar situation when i was younger - I'm at uni now. I dunno the background of your case, but personally i'd take a break and stay wi
67 FLYtoEGCC : If you move to somewhere where there's a sizeable student population, you might well be able to find a shared house/flat in the 50-60/week bracket. It
68 Post contains images EmiratesA345 : Sounds like the beginning of a good lesbian porn movie. Mark
69 YVRtoYYZ : What happened to FR?
70 4holer : Kaz, You mom sounds like a disgrace to parenthood. If you really want to piss her off, save the cash that you'd spend on rent every month and stay on
71 Braybuddy : Looks like it's time to move out! If you can afford it you won't regret it. . . looks like you're going through a particularly bad patch with your mot
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