Diamond From United States of America, joined Apr 2004, 3279 posts, RR: 60 Posted (9 years 7 months 3 weeks 5 days 7 hours ago) and read 2464 times:
Americans' circle of close friends shrinking
Friday, June 23, 2006; Posted: 7:15 p.m. EDT (23:15 GMT)
WASHINGTON (Reuters) -- Americans are more socially isolated than they were 20 years ago, separated by work, commuting and the single life, researchers reported on Friday.
Nearly a quarter of people surveyed said they had "zero" close friends with whom to discuss personal matters. More than 50 percent named two or fewer confidants, most often immediate family members, the researchers said. . . .
LTBEWR From United States of America, joined Jan 2004, 13767 posts, RR: 17
Reply 5, posted (9 years 7 months 3 weeks 5 days 6 hours ago) and read 2415 times:
The computer, the internet, air conditioning, too much time at and going to/from work, both parents working or single parents, needing to spent the remaining time with their kids, economic pressures all have added to this isolation. With less 'free' time, we no longer have the time for church or community activities that brought people together and offered opportunities for and maintain friendships.
The competition among employees at our jobs along with the insecurity situations many face at work kills off the opportunities for friendships there. The cost of housing in decent areas means we have to move away from where we had friends and extended family. The flow and mobility of people, with neighbors moving away and new ones coming in, with different ethnic, religious and economic backgrounds, adds even more to the isolation. In the 1950's, people lived in neighborhoods of similar ethnic and economic situations, like Italian or Irish and Roman Catholic while today, your neighbor may be Asian Indian and Hindu or Islamic.
People also value privacy more today and self-isolate to retain that, thus limiting contact with others. People don't want too much know of them by others and often may have situations that they do want others to know about them.
The range of entertainment available at home, larger homes, other issues mentioned at the beginning of this post, along with the changing attitudes toward alcohol has killed off many bars, social clubs, or situations where alcohol is consumed and contacts with people in the community. In my town, many of the bars are strongly connected with the Polish community and contacts by other Polish immigrants, with few if any bars for non-immigrant members of the community.
GQfluffy From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 7, posted (9 years 7 months 3 weeks 5 days 6 hours ago) and read 2395 times:
Quoting Derico (Reply 4): but everything comes at a price, obviously.
Exactly. In my post...I said we sacrifice just about anything for a buck or two....I didn't say...which I should've...that it's not a good thing. But whatelse are we to do? The cost of living (at least by our standards...which are getting unreasonable) is increasing rapidly...but you still see Americans trying to live the same way we did five years ago...regardless of cost.
Cptkrell From United States of America, joined Sep 2001, 3220 posts, RR: 12
Reply 8, posted (9 years 7 months 3 weeks 5 days 5 hours ago) and read 2366 times:
Guess I'm a lucky guy...my circle of friends has been expanding ever since I got out of grade school in the late 1950's (except here on A-dot...point acknowledged, Harry).
Not to totally bash LTBEWR's (Rep5), but practically every point he presented is so much "excuse-trash-poll-media-bullshit" that I have a difficult time even recognizing the general thrust of the statement...UNLESS...of course it reflects his own personal experiences, to which I can only offer "too bad".
My experiences have been diametrically opposite of the "polls". Back in the late 1950's and now into the early 2000's. Know their name. Offer a hand or help. Watch out for them when they're out of town. Loan a tool. Recommend professional help or a good new restaurant or a mechanic that won't rip you off. I've always experienced the same, even in "today's" hustle-bustle bullshit.
To use progress as a "reason" for isolation is a phoney excuse. This typical "blame somebody/something" as opposed to one's own robotism smacks of the good, ol' "blame somebody/something" for evry other ill. Bullshit, I say. Bullshit. Look in the mirror before you rally away from your own personal failings.
Newark777 From United States of America, joined Dec 2004, 9348 posts, RR: 27
Reply 9, posted (9 years 7 months 3 weeks 5 days 5 hours ago) and read 2364 times:
Quoting LTBEWR (Reply 5): In my town, many of the bars are strongly connected with the Polish community and contacts by other Polish immigrants, with few if any bars for non-immigrant members of the community.
Speaking of Polish bars/nightclubs in NJ, have you ever heard of the Navajo?