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Ex Girlfriend Wants To Meet Up. Yay Or Nay?  
User currently offlineAA61Hvy From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 13977 posts, RR: 57
Posted (8 years 3 months 6 days 4 hours ago) and read 25879 times:

Alright I'll give the brief scoop.

I dated a girl during high school and part of college. She dumped me the night before my 20th birthday (the night before 3 major tests) on the phone. We dated for two and half years.

I am currently dating a chick who I've been with for almost 2 years (2 years exactly in one week). She strongly dislikes my ex girlfriend, for screwing me over..Her words "she dumped you, she lost"

Now my ex girlfriend has been texting me and actually just called me 5 minutes ago about meeting up. She goes to school a few hours from here, but does not come to DFW much. I don't know if I should meet up with her. We broke up 2 and 1/2 years ago. I am not bitter towards her now. But I don't know if I should meet up with her. The convo I just had with her was real awkward.
Exact conversation: (M:her R: me)
M: hey whats up
R: nothin just chillin
M: I was just letting you know I'll be in Dallas on Sunday, if you want to meet up.
R: Oh for real? I don't know what I'm doing Sunday, I don't plan that far ahead.
M: Oh. I mean no pressure, whatever.
R: No worries, I'll be in Dallas for a long time, so there is no rush.
M: Okay well that's fine, I'll guess I'll talk to you later.
R: Alright, later.
---
Now keep in mind, I'm a little drunk right now.
Do I have a desire to see her? Sure, I want to rub it in her face that I'm doing fine. I always feel like we get into a competition every time we talk. Do I think some feelings may be kicked up to the surface that I still have for her when I see her? Sure. Do I owe it to her to see her? Should I see her? Should I tell my current girlfriend if I do see her?

I told me Ex the day she dumped me-'You will regret this, and you will realize you made a mistake.' Was I right?

The breakup was messy-very messy-KROC can attest to this as he heard most of it (thanks again brother).

So what do you guys think I should do? I'm clueless right now.
Thanks guys!

If you guys need more info ask away I'm not shy.


Go big or go home
61 replies: All unread, showing first 25:
 
User currently offlineAC777LR From Canada, joined Apr 2006, 487 posts, RR: 40
Reply 1, posted (8 years 3 months 6 days 3 hours ago) and read 25873 times:

Ryan man, I would not even go near that, that's asking for trouble, you got a great thing going with Jac, this other girl could harm something that is good. I would just ignore her and move along with out her.


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User currently offlineCO7e7 From United States of America, joined Dec 2004, 2849 posts, RR: 2
Reply 2, posted (8 years 3 months 6 days 3 hours ago) and read 25871 times:

Quoting AC777LR (Reply 1):
Ryan man, I would not even go near that, that's asking for trouble

I 2nd that!

X-GFs are nothing but trouble! Trust me.. i learned the hard way.


User currently offlineAA61Hvy From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 13977 posts, RR: 57
Reply 3, posted (8 years 3 months 6 days 3 hours ago) and read 25862 times:

The best advice I have ever heard was: 'Ex girlfriends are called Ex for a reason, they aint your girl anymore so leave em alone.' That was from my former trainer at the gym.

I'm thinking that applies here.



Go big or go home
User currently offlineGQfluffy From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 4, posted (8 years 3 months 6 days 3 hours ago) and read 25848 times:

Yup. I flew 2500 miles, albiet I was able to N/R all but 900 miles of it, and I was only out $35, for an ex. Sure I suppose you can say I payed $35 to get laid...Stupid...I know...  banghead 

But once I got back on that A320 in RDU headed to MSP to come back home, I realized why we broke up. Don't do it, you'll regret it, and if your current GF hates her, and you keep it from her the fact that you met up (even if it's just for lunch and/or coffee or whatnot), she'll never trust you again. Better to just leave well enough alone...


User currently offlineAA61Hvy From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 13977 posts, RR: 57
Reply 5, posted (8 years 3 months 6 days 3 hours ago) and read 25843 times:

GQ-I think you are right man. Every time I talk to her, I think why did I just do that. Could be a possible hook up-lord knows it was good- but it was screw things up so bad in my life and thats the last thing I need right now.


Go big or go home
User currently offlineTedTAce From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 6, posted (8 years 3 months 6 days 2 hours ago) and read 25817 times:

Ryan, Unless you know for a fact you aren't going to marry your current girlfriend, don't do it. You are too old for this shit.

User currently offlineItsjustme From United States of America, joined Apr 2004, 2768 posts, RR: 9
Reply 7, posted (8 years 3 months 5 days 23 hours ago) and read 25787 times:

Quoting AA61Hvy (Reply 5):
Every time I talk to her, I think why did I just do that.

Looks like you just answered your own question my friend. Wait until you're sober, you don't have the beer goggles on, and you're not thinking with your dick (well, not as much anyway).


User currently offlineBMIFlyer From UK - England, joined Feb 2004, 8810 posts, RR: 58
Reply 8, posted (8 years 3 months 5 days 23 hours ago) and read 25772 times:

Nay, i'm afraid.

Been there, done that, not good.

Stay well clear man, trust me  Smile



Lee



Sometimes You Can't Make It On Your Own
User currently offlineN1120A From United States of America, joined Dec 2003, 26538 posts, RR: 75
Reply 9, posted (8 years 3 months 5 days 23 hours ago) and read 25772 times:

With no current girlfriend in the picture, I would have said go for it just to see how you feel. In the midst of a 2 year relationship, however, don't do it.


Mangeons les French fries, mais surtout pratiquons avec fierte le French kiss
User currently offlineLSPA From Switzerland, joined Jan 2006, 190 posts, RR: 4
Reply 10, posted (8 years 3 months 5 days 23 hours ago) and read 25768 times:

i don't know man. I'm going through a smiliar thing right now. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend 2 months ago and she wants to keep contact with me. But I'm not too fond of it tbh.
I mean it's up to you, but make sure you don't hurt your current gf with it, cause that's not worth it.
I would sort your feelings first and be sure what you really wand and what you really think of her.

greez

matt



~reach for the sky!
User currently offlineMyt332 From United Kingdom, joined Sep 2003, 9112 posts, RR: 70
Reply 11, posted (8 years 3 months 5 days 23 hours ago) and read 25768 times:

Quoting AA61Hvy (Thread starter):
Now keep in mind, I'm a little drunk right now.

Well then drink some more and go see her.  Wink



One Life, Live it.
User currently offlineBMIFlyer From UK - England, joined Feb 2004, 8810 posts, RR: 58
Reply 12, posted (8 years 3 months 5 days 23 hours ago) and read 25761 times:

Quoting Myt332 (Reply 11):
Well then drink some more and go see her

How typical of you Alex  Wink



Lee



Sometimes You Can't Make It On Your Own
User currently offlineHAWK21M From India, joined Jan 2001, 31684 posts, RR: 56
Reply 13, posted (8 years 3 months 5 days 23 hours ago) and read 25757 times:

If you are happy Currently with your Partner.Don't Screw it up.
regds
MEL



Think of the brighter side!
User currently offlineZKSUJ From New Zealand, joined May 2004, 7107 posts, RR: 12
Reply 14, posted (8 years 3 months 5 days 22 hours ago) and read 25728 times:

I presume your current girlfriend will kill you before you even manage to meet up if she finds out.

User currently offlineDiamond From United States of America, joined Apr 2004, 3279 posts, RR: 63
Reply 15, posted (8 years 3 months 5 days 21 hours ago) and read 25721 times:

Quoting AA61Hvy (Thread starter):
Do I have a desire to see her? Sure, I want to rub it in her face that I'm doing fine.

The most effective way to show her that you're doing fine is to show her that you don't see much purpose in getting together anymore.

If you've really moved on, then move on.



Blank.
User currently offlineJetset7E7 From United Kingdom, joined Jul 2004, 1090 posts, RR: 15
Reply 16, posted (8 years 3 months 5 days 21 hours ago) and read 25709 times:

Quoting Myt332 (Reply 11):
Quoting AA61Hvy (Thread starter):
Now keep in mind, I'm a little drunk right now.

Well then drink some more and go see her.

Classic Alex!  Wink

Mark



Retrofitted Blended Winglets - The Future Is On The Wing
User currently offlineKaddyuk From Wallis and Futuna, joined Nov 2001, 4126 posts, RR: 26
Reply 17, posted (8 years 3 months 5 days 20 hours ago) and read 25689 times:

Quoting Myt332 (Reply 11):
Well then drink some more and go see her.

So that is why you sleep with such ugly women...



Whoever said "laughter is the best medicine" never had Gonorrhea
User currently offlineJap From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 18, posted (8 years 3 months 5 days 19 hours ago) and read 25657 times:

What are you guys on about?  Silly

I highly doubt she wants to see you because she wants to start a new relationship- but because she wants to talk about what happened. Nothing more, nothing less- this isn't an attempt to win you back (if it was, she would've tried sooner, not two years into the future), but probably an attempt to "kiss and make up" and win you back as a FRIEND- nothing more.

I say go see her. Make it clear from the beginning that you have a girlfriend (in fact, tell her before you even go see her- if she then tells you not to come, you certainly know what she was trying to do...). If she tries to make any "approaches", leave. But seriously, man- isn't what you have going with your current girlfriend strong enough to keep you from having feelings for this girl again? If not, I say your relationship is doomed  Wink Sorry.

Oh, and do tell your current girlfriend- if she learns that you went to see your ex from someone else, you'll be in deep shit, because THAT, my friend, is VERY suspicious Big grin

And while you're at it, ask your girlfriend what she thinks. You COULD also take her along (unless you think she's gonna go nuts and kick the living daylights out of your ex that is). If she's really, really, REALLY against it (not in a "I hope you know what you're doing" way, but "IF YOU DO THIS, I'LL FRIGGIN LEAVE YOU!" way), don't... and explain to your ex that your girlfriend would be uncomfortable with you going.

Do you owe it to her? Not really. She dumped you. But if she just wants to talk to you, maybe explain why, how and so on, I think it'd be a good idea.


User currently offlineGQfluffy From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 19, posted (8 years 3 months 5 days 19 hours ago) and read 25642 times:

Quoting Jap (Reply 18):
ask your girlfriend what she thinks

His current GF already said she doesn't like the ex because of what she's done to him, so why would she be cool with lettting him see her just to catch up on old times? I see warning lights, and I'd say just avoid a fight and avoid any ruffled feathers and just don't go. It would probably be better on the current relationship. It might be pretty interesting to bring his current gf with...assuming she's open to the idea. Then he can just sit back and watch the fur fly...  bigthumbsup 


User currently offlinePope From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 20, posted (8 years 3 months 5 days 18 hours ago) and read 25624 times:

I say you grow a pair and decide for yourself. Did you ever consider that the reason she dumped you may be because you make decisions based on the input of strangers on an internet message board?

User currently offlineKaddyuk From Wallis and Futuna, joined Nov 2001, 4126 posts, RR: 26
Reply 21, posted (8 years 3 months 5 days 17 hours ago) and read 25594 times:

The fact that you have to ask means its a bad idea...


Whoever said "laughter is the best medicine" never had Gonorrhea
User currently offlineAA61Hvy From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 13977 posts, RR: 57
Reply 22, posted (8 years 3 months 5 days 17 hours ago) and read 25591 times:

Quoting Pope (Reply 20):
I say you grow a pair and decide for yourself. Did you ever consider that the reason she dumped you may be because you make decisions based on the input of strangers on an internet message board?

No she dumped be because I was 1,000 miles away for over a year...And guess what? Now I'm 3 miles away from her.

Everyone else-thanks. I may talk to her on AIM for now and attempt to figure out her motives. But for now I don't plan on meeting with her.

[Edited 2006-06-30 16:29:13]


Go big or go home
User currently offlineIFEMaster From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 23, posted (8 years 3 months 5 days 17 hours ago) and read 25575 times:

The quesiton on everyone's mind (already, maybe just mine) is...

When you broke up, did you have break-up sex?


User currently offlineAA61Hvy From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 13977 posts, RR: 57
Reply 24, posted (8 years 3 months 5 days 17 hours ago) and read 25569 times:

Quoting IFEMaster (Reply 23):
When you broke up, did you have break-up sex?

No as she was in DFW and I was in DAY...I did go on a pot/beer binge drinking and smoking every night for two weeks. I felt like a rock star  Wink

I talked to my current girlfriend. She doesn't mind if I meet with my ex. She isn't thrilled about the idea, but she understands my curiousity.

I just send a text to my ex telling her to give me some more heads up when she is coming so I can make time for her. She tried to brush me off by saying 'I may be back in August, but I don't know. I'll let you know.' She'll be back in August and she will call me...I got the upper hand (Sienfeld?)



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25 YVRtoYYZ : Don't even do that, Ryan. It'll get the mind thinking, analyzing and justifying. Its not worth it, regardless of motives. You have been fine for the
26 BaylorAirBear : Hey, brother. PM me her details. I'll take one for the team, this time. I'll take her out, wine her, dine her, dance her, bed her...whatever it takes
27 AA61Hvy : Sorry bro she doesn't date smug, trash, wanna-be tough guys...So you guys aren't compatible
28 BaylorAirBear : I guess she dumped you when she read your signature. Go home was her only option. BAB
29 AA61Hvy : Yeah I guess so...? Still waiting for you to meet me and JCS
30 Post contains images Tom in NO : I was wondering who was going to offer to fall on the sword for AA61hvy.....and BAB didn't disappoint ..... Well said, Diamond..... Tom at MSY
31 AA61Hvy : Well at the time, the break up was so sudden. It was not on my terms and I was not ready for it. So she always has a peice of me, and part of me will
32 Express1 : women are nothing but trouble none-stop
33 Aerobalance : Just meet her and see what happens - you don't have to do anything but listen.
34 Luv2fly : Well said! Please she wants to see what she gave up and see if she should hit it yet again. Pure evil if you ask me. Again well said.
35 BA787 : Go meet her but tell your girlfriend you're going. Its most likely she wants to put the past behind you and become friends. She probably feels guilty.
36 Post contains images WellHung :
37 DL021 : Stay away from this woman, she's looking for trouble. If you can't stay away, bring your current girlfriend with you so you can: a. Rub it in that you
38 AA61Hvy : c. Threesome
39 Skyman : If you want to get into a dangerous situation jay. Otherwise nay believe me.
40 DeltaDC9 : There is ALWAYS an ulterior motive when an ex wants to see you, it is never for the reason you would like to believe. There are always exceptions, but
41 Luv2fly : And yet you continue to think with the wrong "head"!
42 AA61Hvy : I'm just playing...Bringing my current girlfriend to meet my ex would be like putting a stick of dynamite in a fireplace...My ex knows I have a GF bu
43 AR385 : I am of the opinion that it is good that you are courteous with her, but the buck stops there. Going to see her has the potential to get you in a ver
44 Canuckpaxguy : Your girlfried may tell you she understands but she is NOT happy about this! I can assure you she does NOT understand why you would want to jeopardiz
45 TheSunseeker : Just invite her to your home, meet her together with your wonderfull new girlfriend and make sure she feels shit for breaking up with you on the phone
46 Don81603 : She had her chance, she blew it. Kick her butt to the curb, dude. She burned you once, what's stopping her from doing it again?
47 Post contains images BMIFlyer : For once, I have to agree with Kevin Lee
48 Post contains images Vaporlock : Ryan.....here's a news tip from a female. You are looking for big trouble...as Canuckpaxguy has noted in the quotes above....and believe me he is rig
49 Dc10s4ever : AA61Heavy If you are very happy with your current GF, then no, I would tell the ex that I am with someone I am happy with and commited to, so thanks,
50 Post contains images Vaporlock : Exactly!!! I wouldn't even give her the time of day!!! Phyllis
51 Post contains images LY744 : Why don't you give AA some credit. I'd be curious too under those circumstances. And BTW, if he did "get over her" then he should be able to see her w
52 Post contains images Vaporlock : LY744, well obviously he didn't get over her or he wouldn't be interested in meeting up with her sometime??? As for his current girlfriend, she shoul
53 Post contains images Saxdiva : Here's another opinion from a female point of view. Don't do it. Yes, I know you're curious. Stifle it. Just don't even go there. You want to impress
54 Post contains images LY744 : Women, so cruel... What if all she wants to do is apologize and explain her behaviour from whenever she broke up with him? I guess this ex of his cou
55 Post contains images Saxdiva : Um, you can do that with a postcard. That said, if she's feeling really guilty and AA61Hvy wanted to take advantage of that, far be it from *me* to s
56 ScarletHarlot : I'm with Phyllis and Leanne on this one. Don't go near her. It'll just mean trouble. She dumped you on your arse...why do you WANT to see her? You've
57 Post contains images LY744 : Ladies you make it sound like he's risking his life if he sees this chick. But what do I know, I'm on reasonably good terms with my exes and my GF doe
58 DrDeke : If this ex who treated you badly and dumped you in a rather rude and inappropriate manner has something to say to you, why can't she say it over the p
59 Nitrohelper : Me too, I was separated from my first wife (my idea) she talked me into getting back together. (things will be different, please give me another chan
60 Post contains images LHMARK : Dude, arrange a meet, then send JCS17 in your place. As I recall, you owe him one.
61 Post contains images Vaporlock : LY744...LMAO...you really mean to tell me that she needs to "apologize" and "explain" her behaviour... that is the most dum-ass excuse I have heard y
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