PanAm330 From United States of America, joined Mar 2004, 2679 posts, RR: 9 Posted (8 years 4 weeks 1 day 3 hours ago) and read 2456 times:
Not to be a total whiner, but I just don't know how to deal with this. I'm at ERAU's Daytona Beach campus as a freshman, and I'm only here on my third day so far. I visited the college twice, and loved it both times, but now that I'm here, I hate it. There aren't any other words for it, really- I just don't like it at all. Perhaps it's just the fact that it's still orientation and real classes haven't started yet, or that I (gasp) actually miss the comforts of home. I've been miserable and there is nothing to do to keep my mind off of it.
I know that I most certainly shouldn't write it off yet, but everything is seemingly awful. If anyone could just... help, I'd appreciate it more than I think I can explain right now.
DesertJets From United States of America, joined Feb 2000, 7780 posts, RR: 16
Reply 6, posted (8 years 4 weeks 1 day 2 hours ago) and read 2425 times:
I was pretty stoked to move into the res halls and start college when I was your age. But I can understand where you are coming from. Until you get started in class, make some friends, and get used to your living arrangement (probably the biggest adjustment for most) it can easily suck.
If you still feel this way by mid-September then maybe you might want to seriously reconsider being down there, where else to go, etc.... You'd be better off withdrawing before the deadline than having a shitty first semester and having grades to match. That will make whatever plans you try to make afterwards a helluva lot more difficult to do.
Stop drop and roll will not save you in hell. --- seen on a church marque in rural Virginia
AirxLiban From Lebanon, joined Oct 2003, 4512 posts, RR: 53
Reply 7, posted (8 years 4 weeks 1 day 2 hours ago) and read 2417 times:
You're in a transitionary phase right now and transition is tough for everyone. That's why you've got the mild distaste.
There is going to be a day in the next month or so where you'll be entirely aware of what your situation is. You'll have started classes, made some friends, gotten used to your surroundings, gotten into the groove of going to class, studying and hanging out. You'll then be able to think about what it is that you like and don't like about it, and you'll be in a position to make a decision about what you don't like.
Remind yourself of what you're doing there - I presume you're getting a degree of some sort. You've obviously decided that this sort of education is important to you and before you write it off, give it a chance.
Missing the comforts of home is natural. If I read right you're from Syracase and you're now in Florida. That's a fairly big deal to move away from home to a place where you're going to be have to do lots of things for yourself. You've effectively been thrown into adulthood. But look at it as a great learning opportunity. Imagine if you had gone to school in Syracase and you'd still be living at home? Yeah it would be easier for you but in the long term, you'll be learning things about life that you simply wouldn't be if you stayed at home.
For one thing, I hope you have started to make some friends. If you haven't yet given that its only 3 days, start being friendly with some people. Once you have people to socialise with and hang out with you'll all of a sudden start to feel a lot less lonely. If you're at ERAU then presumably your mates will all share your interest in aviation. Also, explore the city. Grab some people from your dorm or living hall and see if they want to come with you. If you need more ideas, just holla.
The experiences in life which we learn the most from are those which scare us the most. You'll come out of this experience a changed person - for the better.
Vikkyvik From United States of America, joined Jul 2003, 10036 posts, RR: 26
Reply 8, posted (8 years 4 weeks 1 day 2 hours ago) and read 2395 times:
Quoting DesertJets (Reply 6): If you still feel this way by mid-September then maybe you might want to seriously reconsider being down there, where else to go, etc....
Personally, I'd give it more than a month. I didn't have a particularly good first semester, at least socially. I pretty much felt the exact same way you do at some points. I distinctly rememebr sitting at my desk in my dorm room, looking out the window over campus, and thinking, "I don't think this is the place for me." And I definitely considered transferring after the semester. But then I decided to stick it out for one more semester, and finish up freshman year. Then I could take a break and think about whether I really wanted to transfer.
Well, lo and behold, by the time 2nd semester was over, I wasn't going anywhere else. I'd made some good friends, and had started to really enjoy being there. Sophomore year rolled around, and things just kept getting better and better. It's definitely an adjustment at first, and it'll take a different amount of time for each person to fully adjust.
Keep in mind that despite feeling low, you can still concentrate on classes once they start. Even though I was somewhat depressed my first semester, I still did well in classes.
Just stick it out, man. Trust me, you don't want to miss any of college.
"Two and a Half Men" was filmed in front of a live ostrich.
Aloges From Germany, joined Jan 2006, 8707 posts, RR: 42
Reply 9, posted (8 years 4 weeks 1 day 2 hours ago) and read 2378 times:
Dude, your homesick. Nothing wrong with that. I don't want to repeat all that has been said before, so I'll keep this short. Ask someone/some people from your orientation class if they'd like to join you for some coffee, a little tour of the campus and surroundings or whatever else you'd like to do. Just start talking to people, and start it now.
During my orientation week, I did one of those silly-funny "rallies" through town with a couple of fellow students. Two years down the road, they still are my closest friends in college and I'd feel pretty damned lonely without them.
Oh, and for the love of God DON'T start hitting on ANY girl in ANY of your classes yet. I'm not speaking from experience, but you'll need time to find out who's "worth" your effort.
Walk together, talk together all ye peoples of the earth. Then, and only then, shall ye have peace.
MD-90 From United States of America, joined Jan 2000, 8507 posts, RR: 12
Reply 10, posted (8 years 4 weeks 1 day 2 hours ago) and read 2363 times:
Well, as a current college student, permit me to offer you some advice.
1. Some people don't deal well with being away from home. It's nothing to be embarassed about, but odds are very good that you will become comfortable at school. As a very wise man once said, "This too shall pass."
2. Get involved in campus groups. I had the advantage of being in the band, so I spent a week with 250 people 10 hours a day a week and a half before classes started. I also went to the BSU (Baptist Student Union) for weekday worship and joined one of their Bible studies. And I pledged Kappa Kappa Psi that fall. These kinds of activities keep you busy and help you meet people and make friends.
3. Even if you ultimately decide that ERAU is not where you want to be, you need to stay there at least for your first semester. It's really too late now to transfer, as most schools have already started (my school, Miss. State started Aug 17) or will start on Monday. Make sure your grades are good this first semester and don't goof off and DON'T cut class. Class attendence is EVERYTHING! Then, you'll have good grades and you can transfer to another school.
Boeinglover24 From United States of America, joined Apr 2006, 305 posts, RR: 4
Reply 11, posted (8 years 4 weeks 1 day 2 hours ago) and read 2357 times:
Stop whining....: )
At least you don't have to work to get money for college....
I work full time 8-6am and I take my classes in the morning...
On a very good day I get 6 hours some days I have to sleep in my car because of the damn gas prices..I don't have any time for friends and the only reason I'm in here this forum is I'm slacking from work or can't get to sleep because of the heat and the light in my room.....The only thing that's getting me by is the thought that I will be making a lot of money after it all.....: ) At least I hope....
Home sick. That's probably all. Give it some time.
If that doesn't work, and I know that this will require some effort, join a gym and get in shape. You're in Daytona Beach man. Start getting in shape and don't be afraid to talk to people in your classes. I think you'll start feeling better when you start getting some more confidence. Try it and tell me what you think. You'll be surprised how much better you feel after you start working out.
AA777 From United States of America, joined May 1999, 2544 posts, RR: 28
Reply 13, posted (8 years 4 weeks 1 day 1 hour ago) and read 2341 times:
I went to Uiversity of MD College Park for my first semester of college. It was by far the last place on earth that I wanted to be. Somehow though, I made it through it, and I know you will also. I made some really great friends, which helped ease the fact that I hated the location, the dorms, the horrible food, the size of the school, and the HUGE distance between my classes. This is the best thing you can do is to really put yourself out there and try to get to know as many people as you can. You will find your niche, and you'll be much much happier. My friends are what made that semester bearable- and later on even FUN for me.
Also, use this transitory period to really get ahead on your studies- I worked REALLY hard in my first semester of college and it paid off with a 3.8 GPA. I had my friends, but I had NOTHING to do in the way of partying because I dont drink. So i had time to study...I used my breaks between classes to read my texts, and later on I made a goal for myself to complete every night....I even got more than 100% average in a couple of my classes.....lol. If you study and just put forth the right amount of time, you'll simply breeze through it (I am not as big of a loser as I sound, I dress well and have friends.....) Remember that if you really continue to hate it, you probably can always go somewhere else if you keep your grades up. But try to stay optimisitc about it, you've only just arrived a few days ago. Go out and have fun! (The beach is nearby! go hang out)
I promise you, you'll be fine. I will admit to sort of being a spoiled brat, and I lived through what I would define as hell- communal showers, no A/C and 90+ degree weather, two disgusting roommates in a shoe-box dorm who simply lived to release gas into the room, food that I wouldnt feed to my dog, and walking at least a mile or two every day around campus.....and because of that (and not eating), dropping my weight to 138 pounds at 6'2".... lol. Everyone goes through some type of transitory phase, and it can be really hard. But if I can do it, so can you !
You went to ERAU and I imagine that you really love aviation. That is THE place to be if you love aviation. Just give yourself some time to adjust, and to get into the swing of things. I promise you in one month's time (which will fly by) you will feel very differently.
Best of luck, and feel free to contact me if you want more advice from a recent college grad
PS, I only went to UMD for one semester, because I had gotten into GW for the second term. That was my goal from the beginning, and lucky for me, I already knew many people who were at GW so my transition there was easier. I still have my friends from UMD, and because I met them, I dont regret going there for that one semester at all, despite the uh....adverse environment
SlamClick From United States of America, joined Nov 2003, 10062 posts, RR: 68
Reply 14, posted (8 years 4 weeks 1 day 1 hour ago) and read 2332 times:
The "homesick" thing above!
Here's a simple test: Drop out. Go out and get some Joe-job, entry-level, no college required wage-slavey thing. See how you like it.
If you don't, and I find that rather probable, then bear in mind that that boring job and its unexciting paychecks are for the rest of your life!!! College is only four years (or so)
If you really want to conduct a thorough test, get married. You'll find that non-college educated people tend to attract non-college educated partners. Have a few kids. Support them on your combined income, minus whatever it costs for her maternity downtime. Then don't send your kids to college so they can follow the same lifestyle. After all, the children of non-college educated parents face uphill struggles getting through college. Statistics are just not on their side.
Or decide that you could do four years standing on your head if you had to for this kind of result. You will make friends there. You will find things to entertain you, study included.
Stay on the forum so we can congratulate you when you graduate.
Oh, and when you do - DO NOT make a little wallet-size copy of your Embry-Riddle dipoma and flash it to every person you meet. That is so tacky and impresses so few!
Happiness is not seeing another trite Ste. Maarten photo all week long.
Faustino927 From United States of America, joined Mar 2006, 263 posts, RR: 0
Reply 16, posted (8 years 4 weeks 1 day 1 hour ago) and read 2307 times:
Quoting VonRichtofen (Reply 1): Give it a bit more time. This early in the game you're probably just a little home sick. Soon you'll make friends and stuff and things will be better.
Hey Pan Am. I agree with Kris, give it a little more time and don't drop out. When I was 19 years old back in 1979 I was hired by Pan American World Airways as a flight attendant. At that same time I was going to college to become a Registered Nurse and dropped out because I wanted to see the world and I took the job with Pan Am. I worked with Pan Am until 1991 and then started with American until 2003. Already had seen the world and thought I would stop and start were I left off in 1979. I started college in 2004 because I still wanted to be a Registred Nurse. I just started the Nursing program at Florida Internaitonal University and I hated it at first but now I love it. Don't give up keep going. I hope my story helps you.
Obsessed is just a word the lazy use to describe the dedicated.
Seriously, what's with people lately and their whining about college? I'm f*cking whining I just graduated. In a way I wish I would've taken the decision to stay one more year. Best four years of my life!
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