Ndebelebev From Sudan, joined Apr 2004, 877 posts, RR: 38 Posted (9 years 8 months 4 days ago) and read 2008 times:
Ok here goes... I've been seeing someone now for quite a while. Things are going great but while we want to be together certain circumstances just don't allow that right now. Things will change in the future and we will be together. However there is also another person who I know very well. He has made it clear his feelings for me and would like me to move in with him. Now don't get me wrong I like this person very much but not really sure its what I want long term. I have always been a believer in always giving something a go because you never know it just may work out great and you could be happy forever. So what do I do? Follow my heart and wait for the other guy or move in with the second guy and see what happens?
Cue the cargo bays anyhow.
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BaylorAirBear From United States of America, joined Jan 2005, 2913 posts, RR: 45
Reply 1, posted (9 years 8 months 4 days ago) and read 2003 times:
Go on and give it a go, but not with the fellow that wants you now. If you know things will change, and you will be with the person you have been seeing, then go get him. Don't waste another moment. Whoever your choice is, go to him right now.
Cornish From United Kingdom, joined Feb 2005, 8187 posts, RR: 52
Reply 2, posted (9 years 8 months 4 days ago) and read 1993 times:
Quoting Ndebelebev (Thread starter): I've been seeing someone now for quite a while. Things are going great but while we want to be together certain circumstances just don't allow that right now. Things will change in the future and we will be together.
That's a very firm statement and you seem very sure of this. If so, what sort of message would you send out to him if you started seeing someone else ? You say you're seeing him, but if you start going out with someone else he's going to think you don't want him and he may look for and meet someone else who he falls in love with.
If he's the one for you do you want to risk that?
Seems like you have to go with your heart on this one. If you go out with the other guy now you might well lose the one you really want.
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Aloges From Germany, joined Jan 2006, 9428 posts, RR: 39
Reply 3, posted (9 years 8 months 4 days ago) and read 1993 times:
That depends on your personal priorities. Mine has been personal freedom so far, which may be changing, but if I were to take a decision like yours I'd base it on several practical factors as well as on personal ones. There's no use in living with someone who'll get on your nerves as soon as the two of you get out of bed/stop cudling; pardon my bluntness.
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Femme From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 4, posted (9 years 8 months 3 days 23 hours ago) and read 1976 times:
Quoting Cornish (Reply 2): Seems like you have to go with your heart on this one. If you go out with the other guy now you might well lose the one you really want.
Could'nt have put it better myself........from one female to another, hang on and wait for the guy you really want to be with, if you move in with the guy who has declared his love(or whatever) for you and you DO'nt feel the same then it will end in tears (so to speak)
You already have said that this is NOT who you want long term....steer clear of him and wait for the one you DO want, it'll be worth it and you'll be glad you did'nt do anything in haste......good things are worth waiting for - remember!!