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Sad Milestone - Found Out Today  
User currently offlineRedngold From United States of America, joined Mar 2000, 6907 posts, RR: 44
Posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 1 day 13 hours ago) and read 2517 times:

I just received word of the first of my high school graduating classmates to die. Legista "Leggie" Beckford was 33, killed by a drunk driver. It just doesn't seem right that he never made it to our 15 year reunion. It's that much worse that he left behind a wife and three young children.

I suppose I'm lucky - the first and second of my sister's classmates died three and nine years after graduation. I also knew both of them - perhaps better than my sister, since I was on teams with them.

You never realize how much you miss the people you went to school with until you find out you'll never see them again.

Hopefully that's the last bad thing I'll learn today. It's not been an easy day from the start.  Sad

If anyone's interested...
http://www.nyjnews.com/obits/Obit1.php?pid=2093480&fulldate=2006-10-15


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User currently offlineKaiGywer From United States of America, joined Oct 2003, 12241 posts, RR: 35
Reply 1, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 1 day 13 hours ago) and read 2504 times:
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Sorry to hear that Redngold. Never fun when somebody you know dies. I gotta go to a funeral on Saturday for a cop I never met, that died the other day. They want as many uniforms there as possible, badges shined, black band around. Lights and siren parade. It'll be touching.


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User currently offlineDavestanKSAN From United States of America, joined Sep 2005, 1678 posts, RR: 13
Reply 2, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 1 day 13 hours ago) and read 2485 times:

 Sad Sorry to hear about that. I hope his wife and kids are doing okay. Thoughts with them and the rest of Mr. Beckford's family. Thanks for sharing your memories of him and the link to his obituary.

Dave



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User currently offlineRedngold From United States of America, joined Mar 2000, 6907 posts, RR: 44
Reply 3, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 1 day 13 hours ago) and read 2459 times:

Leggie was a great guy - you know, sometimes aloof but I could tell he was a genuinely friendly person. He was very popular. The funny thing is that I watched him through college, because I went to a college in the same football conference as University of Massachusetts. So every time they called "Beckford" on the PA during our games with U Mass, I would cheer inside "Go Leggie." Funny how things happened that way.

I'm sort of a coordinator for my class, and it came across the local news briefing I subscribe to for my high school town in the middle of each month.

I guess after starting the day with insomnia, having only 3 hours' sleep, getting chewed out by a college classmate upon arrival to my clinical site, and then getting it again later even though my instructor was there, finding out about Leggie puts things in perspective. I'm still alive.



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User currently offlineTedTAce From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 4, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 1 day 13 hours ago) and read 2448 times:

I was in my sophmore year when I lost a good acquaintence, Ned Troutman.
I still remember his face, though he has been dead for over 20 years now.
He was bright, athletic, and smart. As I recall it he died of stomach cancer.
I guess he is part of the reason I have such a cold attitude towards death. It hurt me a lot that someone so young and such a good guy could be taken. I'll never forgive any god for taking a person who could have made a bigger diference in the world.


User currently offlineAirCop From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 5, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 1 day 12 hours ago) and read 2437 times:

Quoting Redngold (Thread starter):
It just doesn't seem right that he never made it to our 15 year reunion.

Sorry about your classmate. But 15 years is a long time not to have anyone die after graduation. When I graduated a long time ago, we had a couple die in traffic accidents that summer, another die within a couple of years when the comerical fishing boat sank in Alaska, and one died in a waste of a war across the Pacific, this from a class of about 100.


User currently offlineArmitageShanks From UK - England, joined Dec 2003, 3619 posts, RR: 15
Reply 6, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 1 day 12 hours ago) and read 2426 times:

That's terrible, but you're lucky.

There's been 4 or so from my class that have died since I graduated in 2003.


User currently offlineEMBQA From United States of America, joined Oct 2003, 9364 posts, RR: 11
Reply 7, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 1 day 12 hours ago) and read 2396 times:

Quoting Redngold (Thread starter):
I just received word of the first of my high school graduating classmates to die

I lost my first classmate just months after graduation. Self inflicted gun shot. At that time I was going to college for Criminal Justice and Law Enforcement and working for a local Police Dept. The Detective working the case came in and was talking about the case (at the time I didn't yet know about his death) He said "Hey, you might know this guy,, he graduated in your class" I was stunned when he said the name....

[Edited 2006-10-20 03:58:10]


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User currently offlinePROSA From United States of America, joined Oct 2001, 5643 posts, RR: 4
Reply 8, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 1 day 9 hours ago) and read 2323 times:

A girl who was in my high school class was stabbed by her boyfriend just a couple of weeks after graduation. The same year as my graduation, a Catholic high school in town had four seniors/graduates die in separate incidents (3 car crashes and one drowning IIRC) within a period of a few weeks on either side of the school's graduation, and that school had only about 150 students in its graduating class.


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User currently offlineFlyingTexan From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 9, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 1 day 8 hours ago) and read 2298 times:

Thoughts and sympathy, Red.

Fifteen years and no deaths? Must gone to a small school? I graduated 10 years ago with 800 others. My brother, 12 years ago from the same school. Between the two of us, a least a dozen passed away. Car wrecks, motorcycle wrecks, murder, sucide, drug overdoses, etc. And at least 2 more are on Texas death row - one for killing 3 classmates point blank with a shotgun.


User currently offlineBravo45 From United States of America, joined Sep 2001, 2165 posts, RR: 11
Reply 10, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 1 day 8 hours ago) and read 2293 times:

So sad to hear that. The world is crazy and sooo undependable. The topic you chose brought back the haunting memory of my late teens when I reached that milestone, and probably the strangest thing is that I was describing it exactly the same way as you did.
Anyway it was in grade 11 during fun days that some organisation came in our school to collect blood donations and this healthy looking, nice guy was one of the many to donate. The process as we learned was that they tested the blood and sent back the reports within a week or two before giving the blood to anyone (I didn't know that). Well one report came back within a day or two informing the donor that he was suffering from some kind of cancer, and as it turned out, the cancer was in its last stages and by the time he went to the hospital it was already too late. I don't remember he ever came back to class after that day and it was within a few months that he was no more. It was such an indescribable shocker that I don't think anyone who was there would ever forget it as a whole or the drive we started to collect cash donations for his treatment.


User currently offlineLucky42 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 11, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 1 day 7 hours ago) and read 2278 times:

Quoting Redngold (Thread starter):
I just received word of the first of my high school graduating classmates to die. Legista "Leggie" Beckford was 33,

I too have found out how fragile life is. A friend who also was 33 had a massive heart attack died day before yesterday I am 43 and it shook my to the core. His wife tried CPR to no avail. It maid me think about how we can be gone in a flash. He had no symptoms and he suddenly had convulsions and his head turned purple. His wife just keep saying "what am I going to do" It breaks my heart. He did everything paid the bills etc... She has no clue to what or where the life ins papers are etc... I think he did his wife a dissservice by doing this. She is now lost. So it has made me think to get my affairs in order even though I am single. I do not want to have anyone have to sort through and try to figure out my affairs.


User currently offlineRedngold From United States of America, joined Mar 2000, 6907 posts, RR: 44
Reply 12, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 19 hours ago) and read 2193 times:

Yes, all of you have good words of wisdom, but it still seems so wrong. I don't know, some other classmates that I haven't "found" for our reunions might also be dead, but this is the first one for which I've gotten confirmation.

Those two classmates of my sister? One was in marching band with me for four years, and she died at 21, on board the ill-fated TWA Flight 800. (I've mentioned her many times on A.net.) The other played soccer and was in National Honor Society with me, and died of injuries sustained in a car crash at 27.

I read all the time about death and destruction in the news but when it's someone I know/knew personally it's different.

Also, both my class and my sisters were small - only 211 ranked students in mine, probably about 230 total. I could still name almost everyone from their yearbook picture.

[Edited 2006-10-20 20:21:29]


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User currently offlineUALPHLCS From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 13, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 19 hours ago) and read 2174 times:

Quoting Redngold (Thread starter):
I just received word of the first of my high school graduating classmates to die

WOW! I have to say your high school graduating class is very lucky. I know of several class mates that have died. 2 from auto accidents and one was shot and killed in a drug related crime. All were dead before our 5 year reunion.

I'm amazed that it took SO long with your class. Or maybe my class just lives under a dark cloud.


User currently offlineFalcon84 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 14, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 19 hours ago) and read 2159 times:

My sincere sympathies, Redngold. I know our class of 1980 has lost as least 3 or 4 of our members. One died our Sophomore year in HS, and the others after we graduated.

It's never pleasant to have someone die young.


User currently offlineAndesSMF From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 15, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 19 hours ago) and read 2149 times:

It is never pleasant to have someone die, period. I feel sorry for your loss, but what concerns me more is the wife left with 3 small children, who will always miss their father. That really bothers me, especially since I lost my father at the age of 6.

User currently offlineRedngold From United States of America, joined Mar 2000, 6907 posts, RR: 44
Reply 16, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 19 hours ago) and read 2139 times:

Quoting AndesSMF (Reply 15):
but what concerns me more is the wife left with 3 small children, who will always miss their father.

¡Por supuesto! I am trying to figure out if there is anything I can do to help them. I have already asked my parents if they can go to the wake and pass on my condolences, since I can't get all the way back there myself.



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User currently offlineSkidmarks From UK - England, joined Dec 2004, 7121 posts, RR: 55
Reply 17, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 18 hours ago) and read 2121 times:

I left school at 17 and had a group of friends who were still pretty close. One of them, Paul, had started an apprenticeship with British United Airways. He had been aeroplane mad forever and was so happy to have got the opening he had.

He and another mate went to Brighton one night to go to the cinema. On the way back it was foggy and the old Wolsley 1500 my friend had left the road on a sharp right hander on the A23 and went into the bushes. In those days seat belts weren't hardly heard of let alone compulsory and when the vehicle hit the kerb Paul fell out of the passenger door and apparently hit his head on the low railing at the side of the road. He must have died instantly. The other mate was thrown into a gorse bush and lay there with broken bones for nearly an hour. They were only found by an AA man who didnt remember the break in the railing and stopped to investigate.

The worse thing was the following morning. We had planned to go spotting and a couple of us turned up at Pauls house in Charlwood to call for him. His sister answered the door and simply said "He's dead" We didn't believe her and started to joke about him being too lazy to get out of bed. When his mother came through and confirmed it we felt so damn stupid and at 17 you just don't know what to do.

Suffice to say it has stayed with me these past 36 years. Less than 3 months into his apprenticeship and he had gone. such a tragic waste of a life full of promise.

Andy  old 



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User currently offlineTedTAce From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 18, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 18 hours ago) and read 2103 times:

Quoting Skidmarks (Reply 17):
 old 

Your ONLY 53 Big grin


User currently offlineJakeOrion From United States of America, joined Oct 2005, 1253 posts, RR: 2
Reply 19, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 17 hours ago) and read 2092 times:

Sorry to hear about your loss.

Since 2001 (my grad year) I've discovered no less than 10 of my graduating classmates have passed on. Three of them died during high school (2 in a traffic accident, 1 from Leukemia) and others for various or stupid reasons. (Most of them drug related.)

A crying shame.  Sad



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User currently offlineLTBEWR From United States of America, joined Jan 2004, 13073 posts, RR: 12
Reply 20, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 17 hours ago) and read 2085 times:

I know in my 1972 HS graduation class of about 200, at least 12 are dead due to health problems, car accidents and the like. One died in her 2nd year of college in Connecticut. One of my neighbors about the age of my younger brother and with the sister of one my my brother's best friends were killed in a drunk driving accident only 3 years after their 1973 graduation.
It is always sad to hear about people who you grew up with dying while relatively young.


User currently offlineBMIFlyer From UK - England, joined Feb 2004, 8810 posts, RR: 58
Reply 21, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 17 hours ago) and read 2084 times:

Sad News  Sad

I too have lost a few school friends, some were the best pals I ever had.

I'll never forget them......



Lee



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User currently offlineSkidmarks From UK - England, joined Dec 2004, 7121 posts, RR: 55
Reply 22, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 16 hours ago) and read 2053 times:

Quoting TedTAce (Reply 18):
Your ONLY 53

And your point is?  devil 

Andy  old 



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User currently offlineDougloid From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 23, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 16 hours ago) and read 2035 times:

Quoting Skidmarks (Reply 22):
Quoting TedTAce (Reply 18):
Your ONLY 53

And your point is?

Andy

If he's 53 he's a young pup still wet behind the ears LOL.

One of my friends in college committed suicide in 1967 and I still don't understand it at all....he was a good guy but depression can come out of nowhere...

As far as my high school, I am proud that I call none of my classmates a friend or even an acquaintance, save one. They were truly detestable people. A pox upon them.

Still, they located me for the 40th reunion and I politely told them to get lost.


User currently offlineAndesSMF From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 24, posted (7 years 10 months 1 week 15 hours ago) and read 2031 times:

Quoting TedTAce (Reply 18):
Your ONLY 53

He doesnt look 53... old 

Quoting Dougloid (Reply 23):
One of my friends in college committed suicide in 1967 and I still don't understand it at all....he was a good guy but depression can come out of nowhere...

I had similar experiences, and knew somebody who shot themselves due to a girl. All I remember was that I had broken up with the girl, something happened in my head, and things went to shit w/o me ever finding out why. Suicide never came into my head, but that experience made me realize how quickly anyone could really lose their mind (matter of hours), and no one can help them at the time.

Quoting Redngold (Reply 16):
I am trying to figure out if there is anything I can do to help them.

Glad to hear that! Any time I hear of children losing a parent, it absolutely breaks my heart. My daughter is now the same age I was when I lost my dad, and I still think about it.


25 ME AVN FAN : I recently attended a school-class reunion and what is nice is that beside the 78 year old teacher most of the school-mates are still alive, I think
26 JGPH1A : True. Andy looks about 197. That's what pickling in alcohol will do for you.
27 TedTAce : Your not old...yet.
28 ME AVN FAN : Depends. I have schoolmates who still look "boyish" and others who look like "elder gentlemen". It is fascinating, and highly amusing.
29 Post contains images Skidmarks : Thank you. Makes a change from some of the more derogatory remarks certain people make about me seeing as I'm some years ahead of them! However, I do
30 Post contains images Gkirk : What a load of rubbish If 250 years old isn't old, then what is?
31 TedTAce : Your underwear.
32 PDXtriple7 : I'm a freshman in college and we've already lost two from my class (well three dating back to middle school). One died when he went overboard boating
33 Post contains images JGPH1A : Hahah - that's because he steals it from old ladies when he mugs them for their giros. Tsk tsk, kids today.
34 Post contains images Carmenlu15 : It's always sad to find out of events like this... I remember my last year of high school, I learned that a guy that was one year ahead of mine at my
35 Post contains images JGPH1A : Yeah - terminal death is so much worse than the non-terminal kind !
36 Redngold : I know we are all going to die eventually, yet it is only human to mourn a little. Now that I have done what I can, the sadness will fade. My sympath
37 Post contains images Dougloid : You young whippersnapper.
38 Falstaff : A guy I went to high school with was killed in a car accident a few days after graduation. His Jeep flipped and he wasn't wearing a seat belt.
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