USAFHummer From United States of America, joined May 2000, 10685 posts, RR: 51 Posted (8 years 6 months 2 days 18 hours ago) and read 3259 times:
Ok...for a while now, my neighbors in my apt. complex have frequently been making a ruckus...while I can deal with loud music and stuff, one thing that they do that bothers me is that there's frequently the sound of stuff banging against the wall, which I assume they don't realize transmits really loudly into my apartment...its a young couple, maybe around my age or a little older that lives next door (I don't really know them too well beyond an occasional "hello" when we are coming and going at the same time), and of course some of the banging sounds are associated with their, um, overly ferocious love-making...it seems quite obvious that the banging is probably caused by their bed's headboard slamming into the wall repeatedly during said sex...there also, occasionally, is banging sounds that arent related to their sexual adventures...almost like they are constantly hammering stuff into the wall...
Not wanting to be unneighborly, I've basically done my best to ignore it, but I can ignore it no longer...last night, I wasn't feeling too well and trying to sleep, but its very hard to sleep when your bedroom wall is shaking like theres an earthquake going on and sounding like a gun battle...
So, with that in mind, I don't really know what I should do...I've come up with a few options here...
1. I saw a suggestion on another website that said for situations like this, an idea would be to obtain a copy of Phil Collins' "I can hear through these walls" and blare it really loudly at the appropriate time...
2. Complain to the complex management...the downside is that once the complaint gets down to the neighbors, it will single me out as the complaintant (even if they keep it anonymous), because the apartments in the building are lined up in a row...and the banging is coming from the wall that abuts mine...so it will be very obvious who ratted them out...and I dont want a reputation as a rat...
3. I write a note and leave it at their door outlining my side of things and asking them if they could possibly move their bed away from the wall a few inches or put some form of cushioning between their headboard and the wall (I'm sure there must be some serious denting there that management will be thrilled about regardless)...
4. Next time I encounter them outside, I go for the formal introduction and outline it verbally:
"Hi, how's it going? My name's Greg, and I live next door to you? Nice to meet you too...listen, could you two stop screwing each other so loudly please? Thank you!" I dont think this is a good one...
Thanks for reading...
[Edited 2006-11-28 22:57:44]
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PlymSpotter From Spain, joined Jun 2004, 11943 posts, RR: 59
Reply 1, posted (8 years 6 months 2 days 18 hours ago) and read 3253 times:
Quoting USAFHummer (Thread starter): "Hi, how's it going? My name's Greg, and I live next door to you? Nice to meet you too...listen, could you two stop screwing each other so loudly please? Thank you!" I dont think this is a good one...
I would actually be very interested to know what happens if you try that approach Although, say it politely and you might get away with it and have your problem solved, so it could be worth a go. After all, if you don't know them too well you're hardly about to lose two friends.
...love is just a camouflage for what resembles rage again...
Bagpiper From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 2, posted (8 years 6 months 2 days 17 hours ago) and read 3239 times:
hey, i bet no matter how loud they are, I'm louder... see my user name. But then, I dont live in an apartment...
But, that is besides the point.
I'd say the best thing to do is tape a peice of paper to their door, asking them to quiet down.
A different approach is to make up an official looking paper, warning the people about noise restrictions, etc. Then, add a note at the bottom saying the managment has gotten multiple complaints of the noise coming from their apartment.
We tried that on our neighbors, who were continually parking on the grass. We made a paper looking like a county code notice, to let them know it is illegal to park on the grass, max fine, etc, and they stopped!
David L From United Kingdom, joined May 1999, 9620 posts, RR: 42
Reply 3, posted (8 years 6 months 2 days 17 hours ago) and read 3232 times:
Quoting USAFHummer (Thread starter): I write a note and leave it at their door outlining my side of things and asking them if they could possibly move their bed away from the wall a few inches or put some form of cushioning between their headboard and the wall
It might be better not to be so specific at this point. Just point out that things hitting the wall are quite loud. Let them work out what's banging against the wall. If they don't do anything about it, then you can start embarrassing them.
IAH777 From United States of America, joined Mar 2008, 0 posts, RR: 4
Reply 4, posted (8 years 6 months 2 days 17 hours ago) and read 3224 times:
Leave a note reading: "While lovemaking, please move a bit to the right. My web customers are not satisfied with the lighting on her face. And would some make-up kill her? You could use a back waxing."
When passing in the parking lot, mention it sounded like she was faking it.
If she's home alone and you see him returning to the apartment, look bewildered and say, "Wait a minute! If you're out here, then who's in there pounding away?"
Pound your own headboard against the wall while playing a CD of farm animal noises.
MBMBOS From United States of America, joined May 2000, 2651 posts, RR: 1
Reply 8, posted (8 years 6 months 2 days 17 hours ago) and read 3206 times:
A lot of it depends on the psyche of your neighbors.
On one occasion, I lived in an apartment next to a couple of just-out-of-college kids who like to party but were okay dudes. It was merely a matter of me reminding them on occasion that things were getting a little loud...or we could smell the pot seeping underneath their door. They responded politely and toned it down.
On another occasion, we had the psychotic family who lived in the house next to ours. It was impossible for them to hold any sort of conversation without screaming it, desperately, from the top of their lungs. "Tiffany-Amber-goddammit-you're-gonna-miss-the-bus!!!" It was no use trying to reason with them. They enjoyed a feud, so any sort of interaction merely fueled the fire.
All I can say is try very hard not to escalate it into a bigger problem. Once you get the law involved it starts getting ugly.
Femme From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 9, posted (8 years 6 months 2 days 17 hours ago) and read 3206 times:
Personally I think I would approach either one of them and point out in a pleasant manner ( to start with) that the noise late at night is becoming a real nuisance ( don't let on that you know what it is!!) and is stopping you sleeping etc. Be friendly and courteous and then see if your remarks have made any difference. If not, then again I'd approach them, but be more assertive this time mentioning that you are seriously thinking that you may need to take this further but giving them the option to tone it down. Last chance - if it continues then I'd go for option 2 - They have been warned and you have no choice.... (Either that or move !!)
Bobster2 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 11, posted (8 years 6 months 2 days 17 hours ago) and read 3198 times:
I used to have neighbors who slammed the toilet seat down everytime they used the bathroom. I silently tolerated it for a long time. Never tried to get revenge ... until one night I had to go to the bathroom at 4 AM and I slammed the seat down as hard as I could. Amazingly, the neighbors never again slammed their toilet seat after that. Since I'm such a quiet neighbor they probably never realized what sounds were going through the wall and how annoying they were. I guess you say that my toilet slam was the wake up call.
Tom in NO From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 7194 posts, RR: 31
Reply 13, posted (8 years 6 months 2 days ago) and read 3142 times:
I'd get in touch with the FAA, and initiate an FAR Part 150 noise study. Depending on the conclusions from that you may be eligible for a complete buyout of your place of residence, or at the very least be eligible for sound insulation.....
.....oh wait, those studies are for airports.....uhhh, never mind
Tom at MSY
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Miamiair From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 15, posted (8 years 6 months 1 day 23 hours ago) and read 3128 times:
Quoting IAH777 (Reply 4): Pound your own headboard against the wall while playing a CD of farm animal noises
Damned near pissed myself laughing so hard!
My suggestion is talk to them first, saying the walls aren't that thick or well insulated. After that, when you head out at night, leave your speakers blaring some ghetto bass, repeat if necessary. They'll get the picture.
RichardPrice From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 16, posted (8 years 6 months 1 day 23 hours ago) and read 3122 times:
Keep a diary for a week, and then present them with the results in a verbal manner: 'Hi, you had sex 16 times this week - once on monday, four times on tuesday, twice on wednesday.... oh and I think shes faking it.'
LTBEWR From United States of America, joined Jan 2004, 13423 posts, RR: 16
Reply 17, posted (8 years 6 months 1 day 23 hours ago) and read 3109 times:
Maybe you should rearrange your bed, putting the headboard up against the offending wall of their apartment and put a loud stereo in the room. Then get a box of condoms, go to find a horny woman and bring her to your apartment, turn up the stereo to 11 with heavy metal music then get into wild, oh-my-God loud, headboard banging against the wall, mad monkey sex at 3 am.