Kay From France, joined Mar 2002, 1884 posts, RR: 3 Posted (8 years 2 weeks 6 days 21 hours ago) and read 3947 times:
I happened to read Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman last month. Eventhough it sometimes listed more statistics than necessary, it ended up being a powerful read on the lasting effect of childhood experiences, recognizing and reacting to emotions in a constructive manner, developping a "repertoire" as the author likes to call it to handle situations, learning to recognize what we perceive as threats, our reactions to them and how they affect relations with people, and giving the reader an all around firmer understanding of the functioning of the brain.
After reading this "self competence" book, I remembered another such book that was sitting on my shelf for 7 years now: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. I never was interested enough to read more than the first 50 pages.
After the interesting "Emotional Intelligence", I decided to give this one another shot. But compared to Emotional Intelligence, 7 Habits seemed to structure things from a completely different angle that I did not appreciate: singling out character from personality and listing all external behavior as firmly secondary to character, advocating solitary self-work to sort one's perecption of the world, which isn't the best way to grow an emotionally and socially capable brain in my opinion.
It used terminology and vision that seemed today, in my opinion, old and outdated. I already wasn't that impressed the first time around, and even though we're only talking about the first 50 pages of the book, it seemed as if it would go on in that direction.
However, it seems 7 Habits is one of the biggest, most successful best seller books out there. Is it because the audience is larger than Emotional Intelligence or because it is really that better?
Coz From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 1, posted (8 years 2 weeks 6 days 16 hours ago) and read 3928 times:
I read the Emotional Intelligence book as part of orientation for a job a while back. It's definately an informative and very helpful book on understanding yourself and fellow man. I definately recommend people read it. Perhaps if more people did so, many wouldn't behave like such neanderthals.
Sorry if I have offended any cavemen who read this...