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Why Does This Bother Me?  
User currently offlineCadet57 From United States of America, joined Jul 2005, 9085 posts, RR: 30
Posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 5 days 1 hour ago) and read 2121 times:

About two months ago my girlfriend, well ex obviously. Broke up. Which I accepted as there were things we decided were beyond our control. So she asked If we could be friends. I was not sure as then, and still now I have so many feelings for her. But I said yes. And everything was going fine until last night.

She came over to talk to me about my trip to New Orleans and about our situation. It was mostly a round of crying and saying it was going to be "all right" So then as she was leaving I stupidly asked if there was a chance we could be together again. I knew the answer but I had to ask. She told me no but then she kissed me. At which point I left as I was un comfortable. Later that night she sent me an email saying that she began dating an old ex while I was on vacation. I accept this as there is nothing I can do as we arent dating but last night was horrible for me. I couldn't sleep as every time id close my eyes Id think of her with him and I would be furious. Why does this bother me so much? I know it shouldn't but it does. What can I do?


edit for spelling

[Edited 2007-01-08 15:43:40]


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User currently offlineKaddyuk From Wallis and Futuna, joined Nov 2001, 4126 posts, RR: 26
Reply 1, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 5 days 1 hour ago) and read 2113 times:

Quoting Cadet57 (Thread starter):
What can I do?

I'll whack her for $5000...



Whoever said "laughter is the best medicine" never had Gonorrhea
User currently offlineMiamiair From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 2, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 5 days 1 hour ago) and read 2099 times:

I hope that wasn't your first piece of @$$. If it was, go get some. You'll be ok, most everyone goes through one of these; the sun will rise again tomorrow.

User currently offlineCadet57 From United States of America, joined Jul 2005, 9085 posts, RR: 30
Reply 3, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 5 days ago) and read 2086 times:

Quoting Miamiair (Reply 2):
I hope that wasn't your first piece of @$$

Second really "serious" relationship and longest as well. Just under a year.



Doors open, right hand side, next stop is Springfield.
User currently offlineKieron747 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 4, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 5 days ago) and read 2078 times:

Same turdy situation happened to me with my Canadian ex girlfriend.

I felt pretty shitty for a long time, but hey, it passes. Give it a couple of months, find someone new.

Kieron747


User currently offlineVikkyvik From United States of America, joined Jul 2003, 10101 posts, RR: 26
Reply 5, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 5 days ago) and read 2078 times:
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Quoting Cadet57 (Thread starter):
Why does this bother me so much? I know it shouldn't but it does. What can I do?

Ron Livingston said it best in "Swingers" (of course, I can't remember the exact quote). Every day, it gets a little easier and a little less painful. Just gotta give it some time.

As much as it sucks, you may want to consider NOT seeing her for awhile (couple months maybe). Cause trying to do the whole friend thing right after breaking up doesn't make it any easier for either party to move on.

Anyway, good luck.

~Vik



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User currently offlineRJ100 From Switzerland, joined Nov 2000, 4120 posts, RR: 29
Reply 6, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 5 days ago) and read 2071 times:

Quoting Cadet57 (Thread starter):
I stupidly asked if there was a chance we could be together again. I knew the answer but I had to ask. She told me no but then she kissed me

That's further proof that we will never be able to understand women. They must be from a different planet.

Cheers,
RJ100  Wink



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User currently offlineMiamiair From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 7, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 5 days ago) and read 2057 times:

Quoting RJ100 (Reply 6):
That's further proof that we will never be able to understand women.

And if they didn't have one of them thingamajiggers down there, there would be a bounty on their heads.


User currently offlineQueso From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 8, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 4 days 23 hours ago) and read 2013 times:

Quoting Miamiair (Reply 2):
I hope that wasn't your first piece of @$$.

 rotfl 

Quoting Cadet57 (Thread starter):
It was mostly a round of crying and saying it was going to be "all right"

Well, first of all, don't cry about it. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Second of all, have some respect for her because she was telling you that it will be "all right".

[/humor]

Nothing really ends unless it ends badly. You need to call her and cuss her out. You know at this point that she won't have you again and she's damaged goods as far as you're concerned anyway since she got together with her ex while you were gone. She a disgusting tramp, a two-timing slut that can't even wait till the taillights of the car you are in are out of sight before she goes off shagging on someone else.

And don't let her give you any sob stories again. She can watch Lifetime or Oprah and get over that shit without having to bring you down with her.


User currently offlineKaddyuk From Wallis and Futuna, joined Nov 2001, 4126 posts, RR: 26
Reply 9, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 4 days 23 hours ago) and read 2001 times:

Quoting Queso (Reply 8):
Nothing really ends unless it ends badly. You need to call her and cuss her out. You know at this point that she won't have you again and she's damaged goods as far as you're concerned anyway since she got together with her ex while you were gone. She a disgusting tramp, a two-timing slut that can't even wait till the taillights of the car you are in are out of sight before she goes off shagging on someone else.

I dont want to ever have to break up with you... Haha!

Quoting Cadet57 (Thread starter):
She told me no but then she kissed me

She's clearly a d!ck tease... Move on!



Whoever said "laughter is the best medicine" never had Gonorrhea
User currently offlineLHMARK From United States of America, joined Jan 2000, 7255 posts, RR: 46
Reply 10, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 4 days 23 hours ago) and read 2001 times:

What's to understand? She's a friggin' drama queen. It's not enough that she gets a fun new relationship, she also has to open the waterworks and keep you feeling miserable and "on the hook" as well. Uggh! I HATE it when people do that!

Cut off all contact with her, then just get over it with time. Just be confident, go out, and pick another girl off the girlfriend tree.



"Sympathy is something that shouldn't be bestowed on the Yankees. Apparently it angers them." - Bob Feller
User currently offlinePope From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 11, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 4 days 23 hours ago) and read 1988 times:

Dude, do your panties hurt?

Signed by,

KROC


User currently offlineKaddyuk From Wallis and Futuna, joined Nov 2001, 4126 posts, RR: 26
Reply 12, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 4 days 23 hours ago) and read 1985 times:

I'll teach you everything i know about dating, It'll only take a second...

Signed By,
BMIFlyer



Whoever said "laughter is the best medicine" never had Gonorrhea
User currently offlinePope From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 13, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 4 days 23 hours ago) and read 1968 times:

I suggest you sign up for a dating service. It's a great investment!

Signed by,

HPLasOps


User currently offlineQueso From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 14, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 4 days 23 hours ago) and read 1952 times:

My girlfriend wrote this note to me, can anyone tell me what it says?

Signed,
Shinkai


User currently offlineDeskflier From Sweden, joined Jan 2007, 537 posts, RR: 0
Reply 15, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 4 days 23 hours ago) and read 1949 times:

As a general rule, if there are no children in the relationship, stay away from her at least until You are sure You are over her. Then You can say "Hi!" if the two of you meet on the street, but don´t let her lay any sentimental burdens on You, like crying at Your shoulder, that´s what her girl-friends are for.

Meanwhile, go out and get down partying! There is no reason why You should sit at home all weekend yearning for something that never will be Yours. If You are around people there is less risk for You to start sobbing, and it will divert Your thoughts for a while. Find that Someone New, and make sure You have a good time while looking for Her.



How can anyone not fly, when we live at a time when we can fly?
User currently offlineKieron747 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 16, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 4 days 23 hours ago) and read 1944 times:

Ahhhhhhh Speedbirdie, can you send me some of your used panties?

Signed,

AirframeAS


User currently offlineBirdwatching From Germany, joined Sep 2003, 3823 posts, RR: 51
Reply 17, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 4 days 23 hours ago) and read 1937 times:

Just give me her flight number, I'll handle the rest.

Signed,
FLAirport



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User currently offlineLHMARK From United States of America, joined Jan 2000, 7255 posts, RR: 46
Reply 18, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 4 days 22 hours ago) and read 1929 times:

Yeah. Just go pick up a new chick at Hooters.

Regards,
Dc10s4ever



"Sympathy is something that shouldn't be bestowed on the Yankees. Apparently it angers them." - Bob Feller
User currently offlineUsnseallt82 From United States of America, joined Jan 2004, 4891 posts, RR: 52
Reply 19, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 4 days 22 hours ago) and read 1914 times:

This too shall pass. Give it time. Get out, have fun, party your ass off and find others. Before you know it, she'll be a distant memory.

Shake it off.  yes 



Crye me a river
User currently offlineANCFlyer From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 20, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 4 days 22 hours ago) and read 1906 times:

Quoting Cadet57 (Thread starter):
What can I do?

The World is a smorgasbord.

What can you do?

Go out, get some of the smorgasbord and fugitaboutit.

It's history. It's done.

Next time you see her say hi, smile, be friendly, no need to be a prick, but it's done - move on.

Go get laid. Have a drink - or three. Enjoy life . . . it's too damn short to get your panties in a wad over a single relationship.


User currently offlineAerobalance From United States of America, joined Sep 2000, 4683 posts, RR: 47
Reply 21, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 4 days 22 hours ago) and read 1889 times:

Quoting ANCFlyer (Reply 20):
Go get laid. Have a drink - or three. Enjoy life . . . it's too damn short to get your panties in a wad over a single relationship.

+1



"Sing a song, play guitar, make it snappy..."
User currently offlineLuv2fly From United States of America, joined May 2003, 12119 posts, RR: 49
Reply 22, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 4 days 22 hours ago) and read 1887 times:
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Quoting Cadet57 (Thread starter):
So she asked If we could be friends. I was not sure as then, and still now I have so many feelings for her. But I said yes. And everything was going fine until last night.

Just because "she" wants to remain friends does not mean you have to, at least right now get some space between you and her. Do not remain friends in hopes you can win her back. Its over pack up and move on.

Quoting ANCFlyer (Reply 20):
Next time you see her say hi, smile, be friendly, no need to be a prick, but it's done - move on.



Quoting Usnseallt82 (Reply 19):
This too shall pass. Give it time. Get out, have fun, party your ass off and find others. Before you know it, she'll be a distant memory.

Shake it off.



Quoting Deskflier (Reply 15):
As a general rule, if there are no children in the relationship, stay away from her at least until You are sure You are over her. Then You can say "Hi!" if the two of you meet on the street, but don´t let her lay any sentimental burdens on You, like crying at Your shoulder, that´s what her girl-friends are for.



Quoting Deskflier (Reply 15):
Meanwhile, go out and get down partying! There is no reason why You should sit at home all weekend yearning for something that never will be Yours. If You are around people there is less risk for You to start sobbing, and it will divert Your thoughts for a while. Find that Someone New, and make sure You have a good time while looking for Her.



You can cut the irony with a knife
User currently offlineExpress1 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 23, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 4 days 21 hours ago) and read 1859 times:

try and forget her and move on,life is too short.

plenty of fish in the sea.

good luck
dave


User currently offlineAsturias From Spain, joined Apr 2006, 2156 posts, RR: 16
Reply 24, posted (7 years 9 months 2 weeks 4 days 21 hours ago) and read 1848 times:

There is no good answer. Life is what you make of it and to get what you want you have to be decisive.

Grab what you want with both arms and embrace it. However, looking at your profile, you're between 16 and 20.

At that age you know nothing. Nothing.

You have seen nothing. You have not met the girl you will spend your life with yet.

Good luck and have confidence in yourself. It goes a long way.  Smile

cheers

Asturias



Tonight we fly
25 KFLLCFII : Because you're wondering how he's good enough for her, versus how you no longer are. Until you get over your feelings for her, nothing.
26 STLGph : I know a few good websites that can help you out. Signed STLGPH
27 IFEMaster : While I agree with the general sentiment here that he needs to stay away from her and not let her string him along, I don't think there's any need to
28 Kaddyuk : Ditto... My parents have been together since they were 21 (They're now in their 40's). My aunt and uncle have been together since they were 15. They'
29 NIKV69 : Welcome to the real world. Nothing you can do about it. Also being friends with her never works out. Move on and another girl will come along.
30 Cadet57 : Most signed by's in a single thread *signed by threads not included* That being said, I met up with my friends last night after work, went to dennys,
31 Pope : Boy do I need to grow a pair. Signed by, Cadet57
32 Cadet57 : Oh please. So its ok for her to fuck around with other guys while im on vacation? Ever hear the term, "Payback's a bitch"? Yeah, sure its a bit child
33 Pope : Forget growing a pair, I need to stop by Victoria's Secret and buy a pair of panties. Signed by, Cadet57
34 Aerobalance : When was your vacation. If you two were not an item then why should you care what she does? Not too wise, you never know when you may need her friend
35 Cadet57 : I have nothing better to do then spam threads with lame signed by's Signed By, Pope
36 Pope : Are you going to come cussed [me] out for an hour ... then walked over to Wal*Mart and [buy some] foam letters that spell out SPAMMER and put them on
37 LHMARK : Nice one, Cadet57. Now she's not your girlfriend, and you've validated to her that she made the right choice. Be a man, don't try to seek an impossibl
38 Post contains images Cadet57 : How the hell am I a wuss? Really. Yeah, maybe the thread was attention whorish. And the SLUT thing was all in fun. But really, how am I a wuss? Oh al
39 AndesSMF : Because its normal. It always will. Nothing. Obviously not. But two wrongs don't make a right. Let her look like a slut, and yourself like the wounde
40 Speedbird747BA : Hey, Pope, lay the hell off Justin. Maybe you need to grow some balls and take other peoples posts like a man, instead of insulting them. And you didn
41 BristolFlyer : Time to move on. You're not the first this has happened to, you won't be the last either. Plenty more fish in the sea. Don't dwell on it.
42 Matt D : Just get an inflatable. They've never broke my peck...excuse me....heart. Signed, TedTace
43 AndesSMF : True, true and true, but you have to remember that when we all first went thru this, it was horrible as hell. After a few heartbreak experiences, you
44 Queso : Well, I am honored that you took my advice.... Now, don't you feel much better? And you put that bitch in her place! She was never good enough for yo
45 Post contains images KROC : Wow, Teddy Ted just got beat down harder than Larry Coker!
46 Pope : Dude, if you can't figure this out from your own posts, then you are beyond help. It's not a crime to have your heart broken (most of us have at one
47 Post contains images Queso : Translation: Nail the bitch and don't call her back the next day.
48 Pope : Actually, I discovered long ago that the path to my happiness is never found in other people's misery. If someone broke your heart all that means is
49 HAWK21M : Get Busy....Move on.Time is the best cure. regds MEL
50 Itsjustme : Date her best friend. Then date her sister. Then date her mom. Then date her grandmother. Wait, you're probably too young for that. Give ANCFLYER 50
51 ZKSUJ : It's only been two months, so obviously things won't be crystal clear. All the best though and I hope things go your way
52 Cadet57 : Well... I had forgotten this was here... So that date playing pool went alright, we're going to hang out and see how it goes. But my friend is having
53 Post contains images Halcyon : Always move on and look ahead. That's all you can do. Glad to see that it is looking up for you though. Broken hearts heal very slowly, but they're b
54 Post contains images Adopim88 : That's good It helps to get out and just do things. I'm glad to hear that you're getting out and not sulking around.
55 Post contains images GQfluffy : Like Katie said, it's good that you're getting out and doing things. Word of caution though, it sounds as if you still aren't over your ex, so unless
56 Cadet57 : How? I really dont miss her now. I frankly dont care. Yeah sometimes I hear a song that we liked but oh well.. she can do whatever or in this case, w
57 Post contains images AerospaceFan : Cadet57, keep up the good work getting over her. Break-ups are always difficult. If you have a relapse, that's natural too. Best to you and happy hunt
58 Post contains images Jkw777 : I'd expect nothing less from you, Kev.... ^ Comment still stands... The best way to get over an ex (who is fu(king you around - btw) is to go and fu(
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