Jaws707 From United States of America, joined Aug 2001, 708 posts, RR: 1 Posted (9 years 2 weeks 4 days 12 hours ago) and read 2216 times:
So about 3-4 weeks ago I met this girl at a bar. We hit it off pretty well, so exchanged phone#'s. I called her up after a couple of days, and we have been talking pretty frequently since. She actually calls me or text messages me more often then I contact her. The only problem is that we have not gone out yet. I asked her out of few times, but each time she claims to be busy with work. She works as a social workers "family counsler" and I realize the hours are unpredictable and she is busy, but I find it insane we have not been able to get together for a couple of hours, I wouldn't mind doing something low key like going to Starbucks for a cup of coffee. I was even telling her the other night that I am forgetting what she looks like (havent seen her in 3.5 weeks.) She seems nice and I think we have a lot in common, but I don't think there is anything else I can do.
I am busy as well as I work full time and go to grad school part time, but I still have plenty of time to hang out. I find it incredible that we have not been able to go out. Today I sent her a text asking what she's doing later, but probably will not hear back till late tommarow night. She has this weird tendency to call me on Sat nights, after not talking on Thur/Fri, she'll call me Sat and during the course of the week.
I never knew it was so difficult for 2 people to go out on a date. The theory is quite simple, if they like each other, they go out again, if not, at least they tried and moved on. No big deal, or at least theoretically shouldn't be a big deal.
I suggest to just ignore her for a while and don't ask her to meet or go out anymore. I know it will be difficult, if you are somehow involved. But plenty of girls are attention seekers and if it will work correctly, it will have the opposite effect: when she will understand you lost somehow interest, she will start to worry
I don't give any warranty, but for me worked many of times.
N864DA From United States of America, joined Apr 2004, 259 posts, RR: 3
Reply 5, posted (9 years 2 weeks 4 days 10 hours ago) and read 2061 times:
Yep. The more you are into her, the less she is into you. Likewise, the less you become into her, the more she becomes into you. This is true for any women. Let it go for a while and, if she's interested, she'll do things to try to get you back. Trust me, that's always the case. If she doesn't try to reach you, then she wasn't into you in the first place. The most common mistake is that guys force things to happen when they shouldn't be forced to begin with.
WellHung From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 6, posted (9 years 2 weeks 4 days 5 hours ago) and read 1969 times:
If she wanted to see you, she would have made time. She most likely gave you her number because she didn't want to seem like a bitch. She calls you on Saturday nights because she knows you'll waste your time giving her attention when it would be better spent meeting new girls who are actually interested. Delete the number from your phone promptly and move on. If you think it's her calling, do not answer and do not call her back.