I Like To Fly From United States of America, joined Feb 2001, 1188 posts, RR: 2 Posted (12 years 14 hours ago) and read 4505 times:
This is starting to piss me off & I know how much everyone likes to read about girl problems around here... so have fun reading this. I have been single for about 2 months now... it has been fun. But I am really wanting a girl. In this time I have run into 5 girls I wouldn't mind dating. They are all fairly attractive, one is just simply hot as hell. She's a bitch to everyone besides me & a few close friends of hers, but I still like her because she is a goddess as far as physical appearances go. Well anyway, all of these girls "like" me... it sounds good but it is really starting to piss me off. The hot girl will even do everything, I mean everything, with me if I want her to. I thought this was a dream come true, basically an all physical relationship with a girl all my guy friends drool over. But she never let me buy her anything more than a dinner once in a while or see a movie. We finally talked about dating each other because I really had some feelings for her more than just her perfect body... she said I was too good for her. I didn't know what to say. I have been talking to her for about a week about this, she says she gets hit on all the time @ clubs and stuff & she says she would just hurt me by cheating on me... she doesn't want to see hurt me because I am such a great person so we shouldn't be more than close friends. Well that entire situation sucks, but I can't be mad because she was only being honest and I respect that. What else can I say? I can't say she should have lied and said she wants to be with only me if she knows she can't do that. So I figured maybe I was batting out of my league & called up a few other girls that I flirt with all the time and probably aren't hit on constantly, but I do like them all a lot and would treat them good. Most I have known for a while, one I had even fooled around with about a month ago. I couldn't believe what they all did... four more girls & every single one of them "like" me a lot, think I'm great, charming, sweet, & funny but just want to be friends. That's 5 girls that think I'm one of the best guys they know, but really don't want a relationship with me. Now I'm pissed & depressed. I have lost all of my confidence, I really can't believe I am so friggin great, charming, funny or whatever if they don't want to go out with me. But it's weird they all said all that great stuff and still don't want to do more than flirt and once in a while get physical. It's like they all got together and came up with the same lie to tell me. Why let me be all over them if they don't like me? I always thought if a girl let you do certain things it meant she liked you enough to date you, but I guess not. Well, this all really sucks. Liz, the girl that's really hot that I really want, called me today & said she met a guy a lot like me. "Just as cute with your personality and all..." then complained that he "is kind of broke & doesn't have a nice car and sometimes has trouble getting a good job..." well WTF??? She wants to go out with guys that are almost exactly like me but have crappy cars, less money, and can't hold a reliable job like I can? Nothing makes sense, I think god or someone is just screwing with my head. If any of you have any suggestions on what I should do I would love to hear them, I'm out of things to do. I know in the past I said girls make great friends, but this is ridiculous. Liz said she wanted to be with me Christmas Eve and just cuddle and talk because I said I felt really bad not having anyone to be with for the holidays, so I do think she cares for me considering I know there are some other guys I know she likes that want her that night. I just don't understand how I am so "likable" and can't get a decent relationship.
American_4275 From United States of America, joined Aug 1999, 1076 posts, RR: 0 Reply 1, posted (12 years 13 hours ago) and read 4388 times:
It's time to stop whining about how you're getting girls, making me feel bad because my girl troubles are worse than you. Take some action, ask one of these girls out. Chances are if they really like you, they're not going to give you that B.S. excuse about "hurting" you or what-not. Take the initiative and stop complaining.
I Like To Fly From United States of America, joined Feb 2001, 1188 posts, RR: 2 Reply 2, posted (12 years 12 hours ago) and read 4353 times:
American_4275, I asked them all out... they all just want to be friends but think I am an awesome guy. That's what has me so mad. If I am so great I don't understand why I can't get a relationship. Now at least one of these girls is trying to hook me up with a good friend of hers, so I'm feeling a little better. But still...
Also, sorry if I am just complaining, but I needed to vent somewhere, sorry.
I Like To Fly From United States of America, joined Feb 2001, 1188 posts, RR: 2 Reply 4, posted (12 years 9 hours ago) and read 4311 times:
It's tough, lol. But no, its just that it's the holidays and all and I would kind of like a official "girlfriend" to go to the parties and stuff with and to take to the family stuff. I won't get into what happened to the girl I was with the past 2 1/2 yrs, it's kind of why I have been away from here, been really sad about everything. But anyway, 2 months seems like a while just because I am used to having someone and now I don't, I guess, that's at least what I am told. I think it's long period.
Vafi88 From United States of America, joined Apr 2001, 3116 posts, RR: 18 Reply 5, posted (12 years 9 hours ago) and read 4314 times:
Ask the second hottest girl out if the first hottie doesn't want to. I got Girl problems as well, a lot of them like me and are pretty hot but don't like me as a B.F. (boy friend) all of them keep saying how nice I am to everyone (which I am) and how they can always come to me. Well WTF (what the F**k) if I'm nice to everyone havning nothing to show for it, then WTF is the point of being nice and smart and helping everyone with homework and life and projects?
I'd like to elect a president that has a Higher IQ than a retarted ant.
I Like To Fly From United States of America, joined Feb 2001, 1188 posts, RR: 2 Reply 6, posted (12 years 9 hours ago) and read 4299 times:
Finally, someone understands where I am coming from. Thanks Vafi88! I don't want to sound shallow, it is not all looks. I can usually manage good looking girls, but if she is sweet and stuff I really don't care. But I think it is a slap in the face to say I'm the nicest guy you know but not willing to give me a chance. I dunno, like I said, I'm just venting.
VirginLover From United States of America, joined Mar 2000, 958 posts, RR: 15 Reply 8, posted (12 years 1 hour ago) and read 4277 times:
Two months? Geez, you'd hate to be me, I've been single since May In all seriousness though, this is what makes me happy being a "singleton:"
I have guys interested in me, but none of them seem likely to go into a relationship, probably they're thinking the same thing, (except one of them...ex's best friend...woo boy) but I flirt like crazy, and they flirt like crazy back. It's great having 5 guys paying attention to you instead of 1.
Trust me, keeping them friends will work out so much better in the long run. My brother's best friend is totally gorgeous (and four years older), after awhile I stopped trying, but we have an awesome friendship that I wouldn't want to ruin with a short-term relationship thing. Same thing happened with my middle school crush- I obessed over him, he went to Catholic HS, I went to my local HS, so the attraction died because I never saw him, but I was one of the only girls who kept in touch with him, and we talk ALL the time online and he's my best guy friend and male confidante. You'll find a girl. Don't worry.
American_4275 From United States of America, joined Aug 1999, 1076 posts, RR: 0 Reply 9, posted (12 years 1 hour ago) and read 4269 times:
LOL you're so helpful.
I Like To Fly,
Is it possible maybe theyre not looking for someone who's exceedingly nice etc.? I've often known girls to like guys that actually treat them like crap (i'm not suggesting you do this in ANYWAY) and i also know girls who like the dangerous or risky type that aren't so polite etc. I'm like you, though. I'm a nice guy. I'm just saying that girls can sometimes be confusing so maybe you shouldn't feel so bad because you're not going to (you shouldn't) change yourself for these girls. I don't know what their problems are, but if they say they like you I don't see why they won't go out with you.
Try to act like you're moving on. This might get their attention and then they might start really wanting you.
P.S. I hope I didn't sound angry or annoyed in my first post, I kinda just envy the fact that you have a few girls that like you. But now i know the situation is a bit more complicated
KaiTakFan From United States of America, joined Oct 1999, 1587 posts, RR: 7 Reply 13, posted (11 years 12 months 4 days 16 hours ago) and read 4208 times:
its sounds to me like the classic situation... "i like you and your a great guy, but I dont want to date you". Prehaps you are overestimating these girls and think they are all ga ga over you. prehaps they do like you more than usual, but it seems very obvious you arnt what they are looking for. And if that is the case and they dont want a relationship and you do... then its time to walk on and find someone else. Plus girls that like you for your car usually are the wrong girls to attract. I try to hide my car (1996 Mustang GT) from any possible girl I may like so she wont show interest in me just for the car! So anyways I know your pain my friend and its not fair. What is even worse is my situation... I am kind envolved with this one really great girl, very attractive, smart, and really likes me, but now I have 3 other girls that I really have wanted in the past and they are showing alot of interest in me! Prehaps its time to watch "how to be a player, by Bill Bellamy" to make this work out! So you see we all have our problems with girls, we just need to deal with them in the correct manner! Best of luck with your ordeal!
Turbolet From Cape Verde, joined Nov 2007, 0 posts, RR: 1 Reply 14, posted (11 years 12 months 4 days 16 hours ago) and read 4197 times:
Stop complaining man! You like five girls, so ask them all out! Just ask any girl you like out! Honestly, your girl 'problem' is a joke.
I'm madly in love with this girl, Maria, she's totally perfect in all respects (no, it's not looks only!!!) and she told me she doesn't want a serious relationship with a guy. But I just can't help my feelings, she's the only girl in the world I give a damn about, there's many other girls who are good looking but I just don't care about them, I want her, I want her, I want her!
So if there's many girls who fancy you, just ask them out. From what it seems, you don't lack eloquence.
Aerorobnz From Rwanda, joined Feb 2001, 6745 posts, RR: 13 Reply 16, posted (11 years 12 months 4 days 15 hours ago) and read 4182 times:
I'm in a similar situation but with not as many chicks, the secret is to wait till after Christmas so you don't have to buy her a Christmas present
It also bypasses the holiday season, which is a stressful time for any relationship, let alone a new found one... In the meantime just chill and enjoy single life while you still can..
Modesto2 From United States of America, joined Jul 2000, 2730 posts, RR: 6 Reply 18, posted (11 years 12 months 4 days 14 hours ago) and read 4178 times:
If you have standards, nice don't cut it. You know how many nice people there are? A crapload. You have to go above and beyond the call of duty. Just because they think you're a great guy doesn't mean you're perfect for each other. I have female friends who I consider "great", but I wouldn't start a relationship because they possess certain flaws. Obviously, one must hold a relationship girl to higher standards than simply a friend. One more thing...maybe you should try being single. It ain't too bad. Besides, you don't want to define yourself by your new girlfriend. Have some independence and show some discrimination. If you like five girls, maybe you should up the ante and figure out which one is really good. In my opinion, that's too many girls to like. That mean that they're either all the same (highly unlikely) or you take anything with two legs and a great face. It's like college applications, you must select the right one. You can't just accept ANYONE... Even if that girl is a hot bitch, think about all the girls out there who are just as hot (if not hotter) and have a great personality...towards EVERYONE, not just YOU. Don't be selfish and just look at her attitude towards you. A person's true character and persona are revealed in their interactions towards strangers. If she's a bitch to others, then she's a bitch...and you don't want that, do you?
Ei 168 From Ireland, joined Oct 2001, 62 posts, RR: 0 Reply 20, posted (11 years 12 months 4 days 2 hours ago) and read 4141 times:
I was in the same boat you were in, 2 years ago. Move on like American4275 says. They will take notice if there interested in you. If they don't then they don't have feelings for you. Its funny, her name was Liz as well.
ILUV767 From United States of America, joined May 2000, 3141 posts, RR: 8 Reply 23, posted (11 years 12 months 3 days 11 hours ago) and read 4106 times:
Hey Man, I know what you're going through.
I went through the last few months not really liking anyone. Then, just earlier this month, two girls began to hit on me. One of them was a cheerleader, and the other I've liked on and off again for a while since freshman year. Both of them are attractive (at least to me).
It was hard for me to decide which one to go with, so, I pulled a Ross from Friends. I made a pros and cons list. I also asked some of my friends to help me decide who I should ask out. Last week, I asked out the girl that I've liked since freshman year. She actually said "yes." I have this fear of rejection...which makes me a very very shy person.
Aerialpingpong From United States of America, joined Nov 2001, 103 posts, RR: 0 Reply 24, posted (11 years 12 months 3 days 3 hours ago) and read 4088 times:
I like to fly!
I wouldn't let it get to you too much. Those girls, attractive as they may be seem to also be emotional basket cases who don't know who or what they want.
Also, they've probably been hit on by many, many men who probably also 'used' them to get what they wanted. Result, a 'sizzling hot' girl who has the self-esteem of a syphylic cockroach. Very sad, but that's for HER and the school couselor/shrink to deal with and it simply is not your friggin problem!!! You can't let other's emotional crises screw up your confidence.
I went through this whole bullshit scene in High School and College. A lot of girls 'liked' me and I always seemed to be in the company of a female, but nobody wanted to 'date' me. Unless you want to be a continual septic tank for other people's problems you ought to consider shutting out these 'drain people' and look after your own best interests a little more. Think of what YOU want. If you want a steady girlfriend I'd go for strength of character a little more than just plain looks (though looks can be a very good thing ). Make sure that it actually 'clicks' rather than you trying to make it click and fit a square peg in a round hole.
If you feel that they are using you to dump their problems on, maybe you should start by setting boundaries and let them know, explicitly what you will, and will not put up with, and stick with it!! You might feel like a total asshole for doing so for a while, but it shows people (including YOU!) that you value your worth, and people (including the ladies) will respect you for it.
25 SophieMaltese: It could be worse, you could be a girl and constantly meet guys who'd just like to SCREW you like I do. That gets even more old.
26 IMissPiedmont: Sophie, what do you do when you meet the nice guy who smiles at you but is too shy to ask you out? I assure you that there a lot of those around. Do y
27 SophieMaltese: IMissPiedmont, no, I don't just write off the shy guys. I try to get to know everybody. I guess it's just the jerks who stick out, and I seem to be me
28 IMissPiedmont: I had already pretty much figured that about you. I was venting a little. I know all women aren't like those I refered to, just as I know all women ar
29 Lapa_saab340: I Like to Fly Perhaps you should ask yourself this first: what do they have to gain if they go from being a good friend to being your gf? If they give