Kcle From United States of America, joined Feb 2001, 686 posts, RR: 0 Posted (14 years 1 month 3 weeks 2 days 4 hours ago) and read 1713 times:
Well, I've looked at your suggestions and asked my schoolmates, and now I have three friends that are girls, they think I'm really funny, but they would not go out with me, they just think of me as a good friend.
But here's the bad news. I got in a fight with this one girl, and she's friends with these 3 other girls, all of which at one time, or presently do, dislike me. So, after the class with this one girl, (it's a long story) I heard from the one girl that does not hate me say that I made this girl cry. Now I don't know what to do. This is a popular girl and now all the other girls besides the ones that think I'm funny are going to hate me. Now, I did not physically assualt this girl, it was basically a shouting match between me and her, and my teacher, who is really cool, took my side which fed fuel to the fire, as my teacher is a guy and he doesn't understand women very well either, (this is a Christian Theology Class, my teacher is one of the few male theology teachers not been through the seminary, and he is not married, never was, and has an 8 year old daughter, and he is 29).
So, now I'm totally confused as to what to do. But wait, there's more.
A friend of mine from one of my classes told me that this presumably homosexual guy likes me. Now, I don't want to start any wars here, but I'm not gay, and so far, I'm batting 0-2, as this is the second gay guy that's liked me. The first was the manager of an IHOP in Orlando, Florida. Now, besides staying far away from this gay kid, what else can I do about it, as I have no interest in him, and he is actually quite ugly, constantly bleaching and spiking his hair, strange T-shirts, and a high-voice.
Also, I need to get in shape too. I tried some of the exercises that I will be doing in my final exam in June for P.E. and I can do 1 push-up, 1/2 sit up, sit and reach, where you sit on the floor, legs straight in front of you, and reach your toes, I can get to my knees.
The passing grades are as follows: 45 push-ups, 45 sit ups, reach 5 cm past toes (here is a problem, I physically can't get my hands past my knees. My legs are 3 feet long, my arms two feet long, my back is only two feet long and it won't curve enough to let me reach my toes.)
If you say go out for an early morning jog, forget about it. A guy in my biology class got jumped running in his neighborhood the other night, he had scratches on his face and all, but here's the scary part...he lives behind me, and he was jumped at the end of my street.
So, with all that past, I have a few questions.
How do I get my reputation back?
How do I apologize to this girl?
How do I get the gay kid to not like me?
How do I get more girls to think I'm funny and not evil, as that girl said I was?
How do I do simple exercises? My school has a weight room where all the guys go after school, but I would not feel comfrotable being the twiggy guy who cant lift anything
How can I do exercises that involve the comfort, safety and security of my home?
Kcle From United States of America, joined Feb 2001, 686 posts, RR: 0
Reply 2, posted (14 years 1 month 3 weeks 2 days 4 hours ago) and read 1664 times:
Baxter, I've often considered becoming a priest, but I have slight stage fright and I freeze up in front of large crowds and plus I'm not a very extremely religious person.
Iainhol, that may work in the U.K., but here, 14-15 year old's aren't concerned about getting coffee or talking things over. Most teenagers are more into any type of sex, drugs, and money. Yes, your ideas would work, if I was in college, but I'm not, and this girl also said that even when I don't talk or do anything, she can't stand the sight of me.
Continental From United States of America, joined Jun 2000, 5557 posts, RR: 14
Reply 3, posted (14 years 1 month 3 weeks 2 days 4 hours ago) and read 1664 times:
For your exercise, if someone comes to jump you, carry a weapon. And say that you are carrying a knife! It will probably work. Go to the weight room, that what I was like a while back, I work out everyday, and out of three workouts (squat, bench, and hang clean) I do 700 pounds total. I started with about 400! To get super ripped, squat, bench, then hang clean. Stay in the room for at least 1-2 hours! Go to the girl, and say that you are sorry, and that you were outraged about something totally different at the time, and that got you pissed. Talk to lots of girls, crack jokes!
Kcle From United States of America, joined Feb 2001, 686 posts, RR: 0
Reply 4, posted (14 years 1 month 3 weeks 2 days 4 hours ago) and read 1660 times:
Continental, cracking jokes and makin funny accents was what made the three girls that are my friends like me. So, I got that down, now I just need to work out just a little bit, to get me enough muscle to get me through those insane tests.
Iainhol From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 5, posted (14 years 1 month 3 weeks 2 days 4 hours ago) and read 1662 times:
KCLE - I grew up in the socal, most of what I say is from a US prespective. Do not call her for a couple days and then make the move, and say you want to talk thing through. You are putting to much drama into this, no one wants to dislike anyone!
We're Nuts From United States of America, joined Jun 2000, 5722 posts, RR: 17
Reply 11, posted (14 years 1 month 3 weeks 1 day 23 hours ago) and read 1600 times:
And what's worse is that you care!
The most useful piece of advise I ever had during high school came from a senior I had a class with. He told me that one day, while walking down the hall, a complete stranger came out of one of the classrooms, looked at him, and said,
Turbolet From Cape Verde, joined Nov 2007, 0 posts, RR: 1
Reply 12, posted (14 years 1 month 3 weeks 1 day 17 hours ago) and read 1586 times:
Ok, so here goes my advice: How do I get my reputation back? Well, this is probably the hardest one. I suggest you be cool, be nice to everyone, help people out... Soon, people will know you and respect you for that How do I apologize to this girl? Get her a box of chocolates. Chocolates work, believe me. Tell her you're really sorry about it, that you didn't mean it etc. I'm sure if you try your best, she'll forgive you. How do I get the gay kid to not like me? This is a tough one. There's nothing you can do about physical attraction, but you can tell the guy that you're not gay, that should put him off. (Oh, and as for bleached hair - I have highlighted dark blonde hair and I'm anything but gay!!!) How do I get more girls to think I'm funny and not evil, as that girl said I was? See point two. Be nice to girls, be a friend, do them little favours here and there, joke around. How do I do simple exercises? My school has a weight room where all the guys go after school, but I would not feel comfrotable being the twiggy guy who cant lift anything
How can I do exercises that involve the comfort, safety and security of my home? As for myself, I go to the gym (at a hotel) around twice a week. It has helped me lose around nine kg in six months and I've worked out. Now if you want to do some fitness exercises, check out http://www.ediets.com/myediets/myplan/Exercises/Exercises.cfm. The animated instructor will guide you (she's cool, but nowhere like my real female instructor ).
Hope this helps,