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User currently offlineCarmenlu15 From Guatemala, joined Dec 2004, 4761 posts, RR: 30
Posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 5 days 6 hours ago) and read 2782 times:

Mind you, it's not happening to me, and I'm not planning on it to happen either. Big grin But the other day I was talking with my best friend, and started discussing whether a relationship with someone you've only met through the internet would really work. I said I'd find it very doubtful, due to factors such as distance, and the fact that you don't really know the person, can't really tell if he/she is being truthful... and even if he/she is, there's the element of face-to-face interaction that is just not there. In reply, my friend told me the story of his cousin, who met a woman in Uruguay through a chatroom. After about a year of online relationship, they finally met in person, married a short while after, and are living happily in Uruguay. So, in short, it does work, according to him.

So, what do you, my fellow a.nutters, think about it? Has it ever happened to you?  Silly And even if it hasn't, your opinions are most welcome!

- Carmen


Don't expect to see me around that much (if at all) -- the contact link should still work, though.
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User currently offlineAeroWesty From United States of America, joined Oct 2004, 20640 posts, RR: 62
Reply 1, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 5 days 6 hours ago) and read 2779 times:

I think situations you can end up in as a result of being online may certainly lead to romance (I know of one current example), but I'm only aware of one direct chatroom hookup that ever resulted in a happy marriage/long-term relationship, and that covers 15+ years of being online.


International Homo of Mystery
User currently offlineLY744 From Canada, joined Feb 2001, 5536 posts, RR: 9
Reply 2, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 5 days 6 hours ago) and read 2772 times:

One thing's for certain: maybe.


LY744.



Pacifism only works if EVERYBODY practices it
User currently offlineIAH777 From United States of America, joined Mar 2008, 0 posts, RR: 4
Reply 3, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 5 days 6 hours ago) and read 2770 times:

Physical love, definitely.  scratchchin 

Its been my observation that the best relationships are born from friends hooking-up friends. After all, they know you when you're a schmuck and when you're Prince Charming/Cinderella (either moniker applies to Gavin). Mine was born in a bar, which may explain why I'm entertaining thoughts of how to dispose of the body.  irked 


User currently offlineANCFlyer From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 4, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 5 days 6 hours ago) and read 2759 times:

I only know of one guy that ever really "found love" on the internet. He's an Apache Pilot. I was stationed with him in DC. Hellofa decent fella.

He tried that internet dating mess. Much to everyone's surprise, cause Jack was/is a strapping man, and not bad looking. He played around there for a while, and finally - after several months - he went on a blind date to meet "Kelly". And they hit if off.

Last I saw Jack, he was stationed at Bragg, still flying Apaches, he and Kelly were married and had a crumb snatcher inbound.

I guess one time out of a thousand, it might work out.

Quoting IAH777 (Reply 3):
Prince Charming/Cinderella (either moniker applies to Gavin).

 rotfl 


User currently offlineIAH777 From United States of America, joined Mar 2008, 0 posts, RR: 4
Reply 5, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 5 days 6 hours ago) and read 2750 times:

Quoting ANCFlyer (Reply 4):
crumb snatcher

 laughing 
Curtain Climber? Tricycle Motor? Urchin? Ankle-Biter?


User currently offlineIFEMaster From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 6, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 5 days 6 hours ago) and read 2750 times:

The kinds of love that are freely available on the Internet can be sought after and found with much less hassle at 'Glitter Gulch'. Ask any of this year's LAS meet attendees; they know what I'm talking about. That's the kind of place where you'll get to show your 'O' face...

Actually, in all seriousness, I do know someone who married a girl he met on the Internet. They were friends for a few years before hooking up, and it's working out pretty good for them. I think they just passed 3 years of marriage and they have a bun in the oven.


User currently offlineLegoguy From United Kingdom, joined Jun 2006, 3313 posts, RR: 39
Reply 7, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 5 days 5 hours ago) and read 2721 times:

I'd have to say yes, it is possible  Smile


Can you say 'Beer Can' without sounding like a Jamaican saying 'Bacon'?
User currently offlineKBFIspotter From United States of America, joined May 2005, 729 posts, RR: 1
Reply 8, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 5 days 4 hours ago) and read 2708 times:

Quoting Legoguy (Reply 7):
I'd have to say yes, it is possible

I have to agree with Legoguy. It is possible. I met my girlfriend on match.com, and we are quite happy together... In fact, there is the possibility that she could have a ring on a certian finger in a few months. I got on match after a friend kept bugging me for a few months to do it, and within two weeks, I had met my Julie. After chatting through email an dover the phone for a couple of weeks, we met at a local starbucks and we hit it right off from the start. I have never been happier and have no regrets about how we met...

Kris



Proud to be an A&P!!!
User currently offlineKunoichi From Denmark, joined Jan 2007, 796 posts, RR: 15
Reply 9, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 5 days 4 hours ago) and read 2702 times:

I've had two relationships that started out online. One of them ended after a three-year period (only being physically together for a week in total) and the other, after 6 months.

The latter is actually an a.netter- he cheated on me, stole money from my mom, got me pregnant and then left me a month after talking me into having an abortion.  Yeah sure

Needless to say, I'm not really intending to go there again...

[Edited 2007-03-30 03:11:18]


"Do you speak fluent Canadian?"
User currently offlineRara From Germany, joined Jan 2007, 2089 posts, RR: 2
Reply 10, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 5 days 4 hours ago) and read 2697 times:

I got into an uncomfortable situation once when I was talking to the assistant at my dentist's practice. She was walking around doing some preparatory stuff and was talking to me about this and that. Me, lying on that torture chair. Somehow, the topic of relationships came up and I mentioned my long-distance relationship and how it's difficult to keep close and all that. "I suppose much of the contact happens over the internet then?", she asked, and I gloomily said. yeah, it does, and love via the internet is not really possible and so on. "Oh really", said she, "I met my boyfriend online and we're really happy together.." DAMN. I put my foot in it, didn't I. So I hurried to say how many exceptions to the rule there are and how the internet can be really helpful and whatnot.  Smile

It happens more and more often, it seems.



Samson was a biblical tough guy, but his dad Samsonite was even more of a hard case.
User currently offline2H4 From United States of America, joined Oct 2004, 8955 posts, RR: 59
Reply 11, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 5 days 4 hours ago) and read 2688 times:
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A friend of mine met a guy through Eharmony.com. They lived about 6 hours apart, but dated for a year before finally getting married. They're doing great.


2H4





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User currently offline767Lover From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 12, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 5 days 2 hours ago) and read 2655 times:

One of my best friends met her guy online and it's working out really well...they recently moved in together and appear to have a healthy relationship.

I don't think it's all that different from meeting someone in some random place, like a park or a bar.


User currently offlineBeefer From United States of America, joined Jun 2003, 390 posts, RR: 0
Reply 13, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 5 days 1 hour ago) and read 2620 times:

I actually met my wife through a Yahoo! personal classified.

Emailed for about a week, talked on the phone every day for a couple of weeks. Finally met each other about three weeks after the first email.

Dated for about 10 months before getting engaged while on a Caribbean cruise.  bigthumbsup 

As I type this we have been married for 6 years and almost three months. We have two beautiful daughters (3.5 years and 15 months), and everything is going really well.

I guess you could say I am living proof that it can happen.


User currently offlineZippyjet From United States of America, joined Sep 2001, 5478 posts, RR: 12
Reply 14, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 5 days ago) and read 2608 times:

Quoting LY744 (Reply 2):
One thing's for certain: maybe.

You don't know until you try. The Internet has opened up so much just like commercial aviation has enabled many of us to travel almost anywhere in this world. And, if you keep saying it won't work, chances are, it won't work. Just be careful and research it.



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User currently offlineUSAFHummer From United States of America, joined May 2000, 10685 posts, RR: 52
Reply 15, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 5 days ago) and read 2596 times:

While I think theres nothing wrong with searching and finding love online, I do think that romantic relationships cannot be just online-based...there has to be more face-to-face dating than just IM chatting or whatnot...this means that if you do seek out love online, do it with people in your own area!!! Don't seek out long distance relationships online...that just seems like trouble for me, though your view may vary...


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User currently offlineManuCH From Switzerland, joined Jun 2005, 3011 posts, RR: 46
Reply 16, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 4 days 23 hours ago) and read 2577 times:
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I've met my current partner over the Internet. "Distance" wasn't really a problem - he was living 30 driving minutes from where I lived. 5 years have passed, and we're still together - obviously it's not an Internet relationship anymore, we moved together in the meantime  Smile

So yes, there are exceptions, but I don't know many other people who found their significant other this way. I just consider ourselves lucky...



Never trust a statistic you didn't fake yourself
User currently offlineCaptOveur From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 17, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 4 days 23 hours ago) and read 2572 times:

Quoting IAH777 (Reply 5):
Curtain Climber? Tricycle Motor? Urchin? Ankle-Biter?

I was always partial to "fuck trophy"


User currently offlineGraphic From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 18, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 4 days 23 hours ago) and read 2565 times:

No Carmen, I will not gagoogidy your geshmoigan!

User currently offlineAndesSMF From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 19, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 4 days 23 hours ago) and read 2563 times:

Quoting IFEMaster (Reply 6):
Ask any of this year's LAS meet attendees; they know what I'm talking about.

What, who, where? I know NOTHING about that, and there are no pictures either!  razz 

Yes, I do believe online relationships can work, but it depends on the person at the other end.

I'll use the LV meet as an example. IMHO, those who attended the meet act the same way online and they do in real life. I had a great time and will certainly attempt to go to other meets in the future. The same would apply to online relationships, if both parties are truthful and honest with each other, I can see where a real-life meeting could be successful.


User currently offlineShyFlyer From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 20, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 4 days 22 hours ago) and read 2556 times:

Quoting Carmenlu15 (Thread starter):
So, what do you, my fellow a.nutters, think about it? Has it ever happened to you?

Besides myself, I know two people who have tried online dating (Match.com). One is now married with child. The other did find someone, but the relationship ended after a few months. As for myself, I had absolutely zero luck. I found plenty of women in my area that I found attractive, but none of them bothered to respond.

I tried to use Eharmony.com, but after filling out their "free personality profile" on two separate occasions I was informed that they couldn't find a match.

Despite my experience, I don't think online dating is bad, just another option to choose from along with finding someone in a bar, at work/church/grocery store, or friends playing matchmaker.


User currently offlineFemme From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 21, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 4 days 21 hours ago) and read 2536 times:

Quoting Carmenlu15 (Thread starter):
So, what do you, my fellow a.nutters, think about it? Has it ever happened to you?

Yup, I met my Husband of now on the Net - via a dating site and we hit it off straightaway. Met in the March, got engaged the following Xmas then got married in the June the following year !

Never looked back, and I was getting older and thinking about who was gonna dust me when i sat on the shelf !! But no, found him (well kind of mutual) and here we are 5 happy year's on....

So yes it can and does work !!

Claire  cheerful 


User currently offlineHAWK21M From India, joined Jan 2001, 31684 posts, RR: 56
Reply 22, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 4 days 21 hours ago) and read 2527 times:

The Net can be only a source of getting contacts.One has to Physically meet up to go further.There are many untrustworthy fake people using the Net.So one has to be cautious.
regds
MEL



Think of the brighter side!
User currently offlineRammstein From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 23, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 4 days 21 hours ago) and read 2526 times:

Quoting Legoguy (Reply 7):
I'd have to say yes, it is possible

Indeed. I met my current fiancee over the Internet and, surprising, not via a dating site but in a simple chat.

Quoting Kunoichi (Reply 9):

The latter is actually an a.netter- he cheated on me, stole money from my mom, got me pregnant and then left me a month after talking me into having an abortion. Yeah sure

 Wow! No comment.


User currently offlineViaggiare From Costa Rica, joined Jan 2007, 2122 posts, RR: 7
Reply 24, posted (7 years 5 months 3 weeks 4 days 21 hours ago) and read 2525 times:

Mother Nature intended these online meeting/dating places/tools to provide relief for all those poor folks who would otherwise be rejected after 30 seconds of face-to-face interaction. Now the playing field is finally being leveled.

 duck 

Actually, true love finds you. Mysterious forces at play. No coincidences. Just prepare and be ready to seize it. The thing passes like a train... that doesn't stop anymore.

 bouncy 

è passato come un treno
che non ferma più.


 banghead 



Entre le fort et le faible c’est la liberté qui opprime et la loi qui affranchit.
25 Rammstein : Absolutely. In the good ol'days, when Internet was used only by physically and mentally full grown adults, trusting someone was easier.
26 Post contains images Femme : Emmmm you may well duck....I had to kiss a lot of frogs before I found my Prince The internet was non existant then !!
27 Post contains images BananaBoY : Definately worked for me. Bit of a long saga.... He is a US Citizen and I am a Brit. We started chatting in some random chat room and agreed to swap e
28 Post contains images HPLASOps : I'd like to toss my in, seeing as how I've already spilled alot of my dating troubles before on this forum, might as well spill a few more. Most of my
29 Post contains images Gkirk : This could get interesting
30 Post contains images TedTAce : But unfortunately it didn't go long term as I was in school and her husband was working for a living. Something about bailing on her hubby with her t
31 Post contains images RobertNL070 : Friends of ours found true love on the internet. They've been married now for about five years and they have delightful two-year old twins. Robert
32 MD11Engineer : I know one couple, he is from Wisconsin, she a Filipina who at this time was working in California, who met on a chat room. After a while they decided
33 KaiGywer : Before I left home at 16, I had three school offers all in different parts of Norway. Went to local IRC chatrooms for each of the cities, and met a g
34 Post contains images 767Lover : Ironically, just got notified that they are officially engaged!
35 Post contains images Kunoichi : That's the way I would have wanted it too. In my own and his defense, we did what we could to prevent pregnancy, but I've always believed that if you
36 Post contains images Gkirk : There's as much chance of you knocking someone up, as there is of LHMark giving up alcohol.
37 Post contains images Kieron747 : Signed, KaddyUK
38 LTBEWR : First of all, there are plenty of websites, incluing subscripton sites similer to our A-net, that specialize in dating leads, including some for same-
39 Post contains images ORFflyer : And KROC starting to like soccer. Back on topic - Says it all....
40 Post contains images KaiGywer : Seems like that is already being done
41 TedTAce : A) I do have children B) Unlike you: my children don't go 'baaaaa'.
42 Post contains images Gkirk : Do they go A) Who's my real dad? or B) Hawd yer wheesht
43 Post contains images Carmenlu15 : Thanks for all your replies, people... lots of interesting opinions here! And it's good to see some happy stories as well, You'll eventually find a go
44 Post contains images Superfly : Yes, I agree that you should stay away from the rest of these guys here at A.net.   The whole idea of finding a date on the Internet still seems a l
45 Post contains images Gkirk : Yikes 7 years of Superfly's flirting on a.net Back in the days of RealHigh, VirginLover etc etc. And you've hit on every female a.netter since. Congr
46 Post contains images Superfly : Gkirk: LOL! I haven't hit on every female here at A.net. Just the one's I like. RealHigh lived here in SFO and I let stay at my place before she moved
47 Post contains images KaiGywer : Carmen, don't break the little boys' hearts like that
48 Post contains images Gkirk : Which would be them all you sly old dog you
49 Post contains images ORFflyer : Then you better tighten up!! You have a reputation to keep.
50 Post contains images Superfly : If I hit on every lady, then I'd look desperate and in-genuine.
51 Post contains images Gkirk : You are a member of a.net however
52 Post contains images ORFflyer : But you'd have more chances at success.
53 IFEMaster : or C) Gonnae naw dae that
54 Post contains images Superfly : ..and a god damn liberal! The ones I chose not to flirt with are either married or too skinny.
55 Post contains images Gkirk :
56 Post contains images BigOrange : Same here and November will be our 10 year wedding anniversary! That's because they don't exist. You are setting your sights waaay too high! Same her
57 Post contains images Kunoichi : I'm TOO SKINNY?! Now there's a compliment if I ever saw one!
58 Superfly : I don't know what you look like. I see you are very new to Airliners.net. Your home page only has animated photos.
59 Gkirk : She used to be Jap
60 Post contains images Superfly : I don't know who that is either.
61 Post contains images Carmenlu15 : Too late for that...
62 KaiGywer : Jap aka Dragogoalie aka Kunoichi
63 Post contains images Kunoichi : If he doesn't know Jap, be doesn't know any of the other usernames, I'd say... Well, you said everyone you hadn't hit on were either too skinny or ma
64 Superfly : Dragogoalie is a guy. If I am not mistaken, wasn't he the guy who played Scretch on Saved By The Bell? According to Tbar220 he was.
65 Post contains images Kunoichi : Well, Dragogoalie IS a guy- he's one of my good friends (and has never been on TV. His name is Joe Riegel.). He never used this site and gave his acc
66 STLGph : Holy cow. This has gone 65 posts and no one has called on Doctor-of-Internet-Love-STLGPH to come to the rescue and chime in? I'm flabberghasted. It is
67 Post contains images ANCFlyer : Gavin, you're priceless Dude. . . We may not have called you but we sufficiently picked on you early on:
68 KBFIspotter : DARN!!! there goes my chances with the lovely Carmenlu15... Oh well... I guess I will have to settle with the girl I already have... bummer
69 STLGph : hi! i'm blind! ooops!
70 Post contains images OYRJA : A friend of mine suggested to do a profile on a dating site. And I tried it. I will never do that again. Thats for sure. But I have met a girl on the
71 Ajd1992 : Wow.... Sorry to hear that Janni. Hope you faired well after all that. To the n00b that got Janni preggers, WTF? FUCKING OWNED!!!! ROFL, if you email
72 STLGph : ...........
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