Carmenlu15 From Guatemala, joined Dec 2004, 4763 posts, RR: 27 Posted (8 years 10 months 2 weeks 6 days 19 hours ago) and read 3488 times:
Mind you, it's not happening to me, and I'm not planning on it to happen either. But the other day I was talking with my best friend, and started discussing whether a relationship with someone you've only met through the internet would really work. I said I'd find it very doubtful, due to factors such as distance, and the fact that you don't really know the person, can't really tell if he/she is being truthful... and even if he/she is, there's the element of face-to-face interaction that is just not there. In reply, my friend told me the story of his cousin, who met a woman in Uruguay through a chatroom. After about a year of online relationship, they finally met in person, married a short while after, and are living happily in Uruguay. So, in short, it does work, according to him.
So, what do you, my fellow a.nutters, think about it? Has it ever happened to you? And even if it hasn't, your opinions are most welcome!
Don't expect to see me around that much (if at all) -- the contact link should still work, though.
AeroWesty From United States of America, joined Oct 2004, 20822 posts, RR: 60
Reply 1, posted (8 years 10 months 2 weeks 6 days 19 hours ago) and read 3485 times:
I think situations you can end up in as a result of being online may certainly lead to romance (I know of one current example), but I'm only aware of one direct chatroom hookup that ever resulted in a happy marriage/long-term relationship, and that covers 15+ years of being online.
IAH777 From United States of America, joined Mar 2008, 0 posts, RR: 4
Reply 3, posted (8 years 10 months 2 weeks 6 days 19 hours ago) and read 3476 times:
Physical love, definitely.
Its been my observation that the best relationships are born from friends hooking-up friends. After all, they know you when you're a schmuck and when you're Prince Charming/Cinderella (either moniker applies to Gavin). Mine was born in a bar, which may explain why I'm entertaining thoughts of how to dispose of the body.
ANCFlyer From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 4, posted (8 years 10 months 2 weeks 6 days 19 hours ago) and read 3465 times:
I only know of one guy that ever really "found love" on the internet. He's an Apache Pilot. I was stationed with him in DC. Hellofa decent fella.
He tried that internet dating mess. Much to everyone's surprise, cause Jack was/is a strapping man, and not bad looking. He played around there for a while, and finally - after several months - he went on a blind date to meet "Kelly". And they hit if off.
Last I saw Jack, he was stationed at Bragg, still flying Apaches, he and Kelly were married and had a crumb snatcher inbound.
I guess one time out of a thousand, it might work out.
Quoting IAH777 (Reply 3): Prince Charming/Cinderella (either moniker applies to Gavin).
IFEMaster From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 6, posted (8 years 10 months 2 weeks 6 days 19 hours ago) and read 3456 times:
The kinds of love that are freely available on the Internet can be sought after and found with much less hassle at 'Glitter Gulch'. Ask any of this year's LAS meet attendees; they know what I'm talking about. That's the kind of place where you'll get to show your 'O' face...
Actually, in all seriousness, I do know someone who married a girl he met on the Internet. They were friends for a few years before hooking up, and it's working out pretty good for them. I think they just passed 3 years of marriage and they have a bun in the oven.
I have to agree with Legoguy. It is possible. I met my girlfriend on match.com, and we are quite happy together... In fact, there is the possibility that she could have a ring on a certian finger in a few months. I got on match after a friend kept bugging me for a few months to do it, and within two weeks, I had met my Julie. After chatting through email an dover the phone for a couple of weeks, we met at a local starbucks and we hit it right off from the start. I have never been happier and have no regrets about how we met...
Rara From Germany, joined Jan 2007, 2444 posts, RR: 2
Reply 10, posted (8 years 10 months 2 weeks 6 days 17 hours ago) and read 3403 times:
I got into an uncomfortable situation once when I was talking to the assistant at my dentist's practice. She was walking around doing some preparatory stuff and was talking to me about this and that. Me, lying on that torture chair. Somehow, the topic of relationships came up and I mentioned my long-distance relationship and how it's difficult to keep close and all that. "I suppose much of the contact happens over the internet then?", she asked, and I gloomily said. yeah, it does, and love via the internet is not really possible and so on. "Oh really", said she, "I met my boyfriend online and we're really happy together.." DAMN. I put my foot in it, didn't I. So I hurried to say how many exceptions to the rule there are and how the internet can be really helpful and whatnot.
It happens more and more often, it seems.
Samson was a biblical tough guy, but his dad Samsonite was even more of a hard case.
You don't know until you try. The Internet has opened up so much just like commercial aviation has enabled many of us to travel almost anywhere in this world. And, if you keep saying it won't work, chances are, it won't work. Just be careful and research it.
USAFHummer From United States of America, joined May 2000, 10685 posts, RR: 51
Reply 15, posted (8 years 10 months 2 weeks 6 days 13 hours ago) and read 3302 times:
While I think theres nothing wrong with searching and finding love online, I do think that romantic relationships cannot be just online-based...there has to be more face-to-face dating than just IM chatting or whatnot...this means that if you do seek out love online, do it with people in your own area!!! Don't seek out long distance relationships online...that just seems like trouble for me, though your view may vary...
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ManuCH From Switzerland, joined Jun 2005, 3030 posts, RR: 44
Reply 16, posted (8 years 10 months 2 weeks 6 days 13 hours ago) and read 3283 times:
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I've met my current partner over the Internet. "Distance" wasn't really a problem - he was living 30 driving minutes from where I lived. 5 years have passed, and we're still together - obviously it's not an Internet relationship anymore, we moved together in the meantime
So yes, there are exceptions, but I don't know many other people who found their significant other this way. I just consider ourselves lucky...
AndesSMF From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 19, posted (8 years 10 months 2 weeks 6 days 12 hours ago) and read 3269 times:
Quoting IFEMaster (Reply 6): Ask any of this year's LAS meet attendees; they know what I'm talking about.
What, who, where? I know NOTHING about that, and there are no pictures either!
Yes, I do believe online relationships can work, but it depends on the person at the other end.
I'll use the LV meet as an example. IMHO, those who attended the meet act the same way online and they do in real life. I had a great time and will certainly attempt to go to other meets in the future. The same would apply to online relationships, if both parties are truthful and honest with each other, I can see where a real-life meeting could be successful.
Besides myself, I know two people who have tried online dating (Match.com). One is now married with child. The other did find someone, but the relationship ended after a few months. As for myself, I had absolutely zero luck. I found plenty of women in my area that I found attractive, but none of them bothered to respond.
I tried to use Eharmony.com, but after filling out their "free personality profile" on two separate occasions I was informed that they couldn't find a match.
Despite my experience, I don't think online dating is bad, just another option to choose from along with finding someone in a bar, at work/church/grocery store, or friends playing matchmaker.
Viaggiare From Venezuela, joined Jan 2007, 2291 posts, RR: 7
Reply 24, posted (8 years 10 months 2 weeks 6 days 10 hours ago) and read 3231 times:
Mother Nature intended these online meeting/dating places/tools to provide relief for all those poor folks who would otherwise be rejected after 30 seconds of face-to-face interaction. Now the playing field is finally being leveled.
Actually, true love finds you. Mysterious forces at play. No coincidences. Just prepare and be ready to seize it. The thing passes like a train... that doesn't stop anymore.
è passato come un treno
che non ferma più.
Entre el fuerte y el débil, la libertad oprime. Sólo la ley libera.
: Absolutely. In the good ol'days, when Internet was used only by physically and mentally full grown adults, trusting someone was easier.
: Emmmm you may well duck....I had to kiss a lot of frogs before I found my Prince The internet was non existant then !!
: Definately worked for me. Bit of a long saga.... He is a US Citizen and I am a Brit. We started chatting in some random chat room and agreed to swap e
: I'd like to toss my in, seeing as how I've already spilled alot of my dating troubles before on this forum, might as well spill a few more. Most of my