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Do What I Want? Or What Others Want For Me?  
User currently offlineHUYguy From United Kingdom, joined Apr 2006, 274 posts, RR: 0
Posted (7 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 hour ago) and read 1451 times:

I've got a bit of a dilemma.

I'll give you all a bit of background information. I'm 17 and I'm currently at college doing 4 AS Levels. Ever since I was about 10, I've wanted to be a flight attendant, I suppose its my dream. My mum knows I want to be an F/A, and she's been very supportive until recently.

Anyway, my tutor told me that she thinks I should maybe apply to university, because she seems to think I'd suit it and have the potential and all that. I told my mum, and we got a bit carried away talking about open days for universities, and applying and such and such, yet really, I'm not too sure about the whole thing. We've arranged to go to the open days.

Recently, mum's been saying things like she really wants me to get a good job with a good wage, job security and all that, and all the benefits that university will bring. I know she just wants what she thinks is best for me, but I kinda feel pressured into going to university as many of my friends will be going, and I just feel I have to do the family proud, I know that sounds a bit wierd.

So, a bit of a dilemma really. Should I go to university, for the wrong reasons but come out with a better paid job that I don't enjoy at the end? Or should I do what I want and get job satisfaction, instead of what others want for me?

What would you do if you were in my situation?

Thanks for any replies

Shane

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User currently offlineSTLGph From United States of America, joined Oct 2004, 9371 posts, RR: 26
Reply 1, posted (7 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 hour ago) and read 1447 times:

Quoting HUYguy (Thread starter):
What would you do if you were in my situation?

Major in Dance.



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User currently offlineBaylorAirBear From United States of America, joined Jan 2005, 2913 posts, RR: 49
Reply 2, posted (7 years 3 months 3 weeks 1 hour ago) and read 1442 times:

Go to university, and then become a flight attendant. You get the best of both worlds.

Quoting STLGph (Reply 1):

Major in Dance.

 rotfl   rotfl   rotfl   rotfl   rotfl 

BAB



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User currently offlineNWOrientDC10 From United States of America, joined Mar 2005, 1404 posts, RR: 4
Reply 3, posted (7 years 3 months 3 weeks ago) and read 1424 times:
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Quoting HUYguy (Thread starter):
What would you do if you were in my situation?

This:

Quoting HUYguy (Thread starter):
do what I want and get job satisfaction

Good luck  bigthumbsup 

Russell



Things aren't always as they seem
User currently offlineMir From United States of America, joined Jan 2004, 21637 posts, RR: 55
Reply 4, posted (7 years 3 months 3 weeks ago) and read 1421 times:

Quoting BaylorAirBear (Reply 2):
Go to university, and then become a flight attendant. You get the best of both worlds.

 checkmark  Definitely go to university if you can. It will open a lot more doors for you if the F/A thing doesn't work out.

-Mir



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User currently offlineGo3Team From United States of America, joined Mar 2004, 3267 posts, RR: 16
Reply 5, posted (7 years 3 months 3 weeks ago) and read 1415 times:

Is it better to have a good paying job and be miserable because it's not something you like, or get paid less and be happy in your post (as long as you don't want to work for NW, US or some other company where they have miserable FAs).


Yay Pudding!
User currently offlineSTLGph From United States of America, joined Oct 2004, 9371 posts, RR: 26
Reply 6, posted (7 years 3 months 3 weeks ago) and read 1415 times:

Quoting Mir (Reply 4):

or...go be a flight attendant and then at the very least, take your first "intro" gen ed classes online or distance learning.

you could eventually get seniority to get the schedule to fly on the weekends, take classes during the week, and then perhaps use the degree to move up and become a Flight Attendant Supervisor or even a trainer, or what have you...



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User currently offlineDoona From Sweden, joined Feb 2005, 3771 posts, RR: 13
Reply 7, posted (7 years 3 months 3 weeks ago) and read 1412 times:

Quoting HUYguy (Thread starter):
So, a bit of a dilemma really. Should I go to university, for the wrong reasons but come out with a better paid job that I don't enjoy at the end? Or should I do what I want and get job satisfaction, instead of what others want for me?

BAB and Mir are right. I'm at university just for the hell of it. Majoring in Human Rights, with a minor in Peace and Conflict Research. Really interesting stuff, but I don't have the faintest idea what I'll be doing when I'm done here. But I'm having the time of my life, and wouldn't do anything else at the moment. Doesn't hurt to have a higher education, even if it won't be relevant in one's career.

Cheers
Mats



Sure, we're concerned for our lives. Just not as concerned as saving 9 bucks on a roundtrip to Ft. Myers.
User currently offlineRichPhitzwell From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 8, posted (7 years 3 months 3 weeks ago) and read 1407 times:

I say apply for both and if you get the FA position, take it. If after a year or so you dont like it, go to school. Many people take a year off, the only real issue is you will be ayear older than the others in the dorm and with different experiences than they have.

Quoting Go3Team (Reply 5):
Is it better to have a good paying job and be miserable

Its not that simple. What will bring in the greatest overall joy in your life is what you should do. Is it worth being miserable for 8 hrs a day, but have an incredible life the other 16hrs? Is it worth being happy for 8hrs but struggle the other 16?

Overall, Im going to say you are too young to worry about the above statement. Its more important to just do at this point and experience as much as you can. Except for very few people at your age, you wont and dont know what will make you happy in life. You just have ideas, but you wont know until you do.


User currently offlineKFLLCFII From United States of America, joined Sep 2004, 3303 posts, RR: 30
Reply 9, posted (7 years 3 months 2 weeks 6 days 19 hours ago) and read 1374 times:

Quoting HUYguy (Thread starter):
So, a bit of a dilemma really. Should I go to university, for the wrong reasons but come out with a better paid job that I don't enjoy at the end? Or should I do what I want and get job satisfaction, instead of what others want for me?

Depends...Are *you* paying for the university?



"About the only way to look at it, just a pity you are not POTUS KFLLCFII, seems as if we would all be better off."
User currently offlineDoona From Sweden, joined Feb 2005, 3771 posts, RR: 13
Reply 10, posted (7 years 3 months 2 weeks 6 days 11 hours ago) and read 1343 times:

Quoting KFLLCFII (Reply 9):
Depends...Are *you* paying for the university?

The obvious question (why didn't I think of that...?). Anyway, I don't pay for it, which is why my conscience let's me carry on like this :P

Cheers
MAts



Sure, we're concerned for our lives. Just not as concerned as saving 9 bucks on a roundtrip to Ft. Myers.
User currently offlineSpeedbirdie From United Kingdom, joined May 2006, 917 posts, RR: 52
Reply 11, posted (7 years 3 months 2 weeks 6 days 11 hours ago) and read 1337 times:

You dont need to go to University to be an FA, end of! So if you reeeeeely want to be an F/A, get the University bit out of your mind.
I knew I always wanted to work with aeroplanes since being a kid. So when I got out of college, I knew what I had to do and that was 9 years ago. I am now an FA and I wish I had become one sooner.
University are for people who dont know what they want to do as a profession, but you do, so dont hold back!!
Good Luck!
 Big grin



Never give up..
User currently offlineNighthawk From UK - Scotland, joined Sep 2001, 5157 posts, RR: 33
Reply 12, posted (7 years 3 months 2 weeks 6 days 11 hours ago) and read 1329 times:

Quoting Speedbirdie (Reply 11):
University are for people who dont know what they want to do as a profession, but you do, so dont hold back!!

no, university is for those that DO know what they want as a profession and need a qualification to do it.....

As mentioned earlier, the key is to do what makes you happy. Work is a large proportion of your life, so make sure you are happy with what you do. Your idea of doing a job you dont enjoy but pays well is flawed, you are assuming money will make you happy, but that is not always the case.



That'll teach you
User currently offlineKaiGywer From United States of America, joined Oct 2003, 12251 posts, RR: 35
Reply 13, posted (7 years 3 months 2 weeks 6 days 11 hours ago) and read 1325 times:
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I'd recommend doing what you want. It's easier to survive on a FA salary NOW than after getting a college degree and student loans. You can always go to college later.

Quoting Speedbirdie (Reply 11):
University are for people who dont know what they want to do as a profession, but you do, so dont hold back!!

 rotfl 

In some people's case, maybe. Otherwise, no.



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User currently offlineCO7e7 From United States of America, joined Dec 2004, 2849 posts, RR: 2
Reply 14, posted (7 years 3 months 2 weeks 6 days 11 hours ago) and read 1325 times:

Here's a tip: You only live ONCE.............. make the best out of it.. Do what makes YOU happy.. not your mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, cat or dog....

Follow your dreams... and GOOD LUCK!


User currently offlineSpeedbirdie From United Kingdom, joined May 2006, 917 posts, RR: 52
Reply 15, posted (7 years 3 months 2 weeks 6 days 8 hours ago) and read 1311 times:

Quoting Nighthawk (Reply 12):
no, university is for those that DO know what they want as a profession and need a qualification to do it.....

Someone doesn't have a sense of humour...



Never give up..
User currently offlineLegoguy From United Kingdom, joined Jun 2006, 3313 posts, RR: 39
Reply 16, posted (7 years 3 months 2 weeks 6 days 7 hours ago) and read 1299 times:

I'd suggest going to university. It gives you something to fall back upon if things do not work out further down the line.

Quoting Doona (Reply 7):
I'm at university just for the hell of it.

Also, like Doona, most people go to Uni for the hell of it. There was a thread recently which showed the percentage of people who's university degree was in any way related to their current jobs... there was a low percentage of people in jobs related to their university studies.



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User currently offlineJamesbuk From United Kingdom, joined May 2005, 3968 posts, RR: 4
Reply 17, posted (7 years 3 months 2 weeks 6 days 7 hours ago) and read 1288 times:

Quoting Legoguy (Reply 16):

So what the hell is the point going to uni and getting into all that student debt crap if its not even going to help you in your job?!

Rgds --James--



You cant have your cake and eat it... What the hells the point in having it then!!!
User currently offlineLegoguy From United Kingdom, joined Jun 2006, 3313 posts, RR: 39
Reply 18, posted (7 years 3 months 2 weeks 6 days 7 hours ago) and read 1286 times:

Quoting Jamesbuk (Reply 17):
So what the hell is the point going to uni and getting into all that student debt crap if its not even going to help you in your job?!

So you have something to fall back upon if thing's do not true out as you planned. It's basically a back up plan.



Can you say 'Beer Can' without sounding like a Jamaican saying 'Bacon'?
User currently offlineTZ757300 From United States of America, joined Aug 2005, 2868 posts, RR: 6
Reply 19, posted (7 years 3 months 2 weeks 6 days 7 hours ago) and read 1281 times:

Quoting Jamesbuk (Reply 17):
So what the hell is the point going to uni and getting into all that student debt crap if its not even going to help you in your job?!

You could always get a degree in something like Public Relations, Communication, or a foreign language to help enhance your marketability to the airline world. Excellent communication, I feel, is necessary in the flight attendant world.



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User currently offline767Lover From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 20, posted (7 years 3 months 2 weeks 6 days 7 hours ago) and read 1280 times:

I'll give you the advice of a 40 year old.

Go to college. You may think you know what you want to do for the rest of your life now. However, you made this decision when you were, what, 10 years old? There are a lot of other careers that are out there that you might like even better. Going to college will expose you to other subjects that you might discover you have an interest in, or are good at.

Then, when you are finished, you can make a more well informed decision about what you really want to do. Also, you could major in a foreign language, which would put you in higher demand as an F/A with those skills.

I decided in high school that I wanted to do what I am currently doing. I not unhappy, and I make a really good living, but if I had been more open minded about it back then, I would have seen that there are a lot of other occupations that interest me that I am well suited for. Now I am kind of stuck, because it is not really practical or possible for me to go back to school to get the education I would need to pursue those career paths.


User currently offlineCastleIsland From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 21, posted (7 years 3 months 2 weeks 6 days 7 hours ago) and read 1269 times:

When I was 17 years old and just graduated High School, I was playing in a band that was locally successful, and I wanted nothing more than to pursue music rather than go to college. After much thought on my part and aggressive convincing by my parents, I went to college. Since graduating, I've had not only the opportunity for good employment, but I was also able to pursue the music career to the point of realizing that it's not all it seemed it might be. Now I can play music for fun and some profit, while maintaining a good job.

Do yourself a favor: go to college. You can always become a FA afterwards, and as 767Lover stated, some skills from college may make you in higher demand in that profession. If being an FA turns out to be not what you envisioned, then you'll be poised to do something else to support yourself. Best of both worlds; that's a no-brainer to me. Good luck.


User currently offlineMCOflyer From United States of America, joined Jun 2006, 8675 posts, RR: 15
Reply 22, posted (7 years 3 months 2 weeks 6 days 7 hours ago) and read 1266 times:

Go to college as others are saying. I'm 20 and will attending college for this reason. I wanted to be an f/a, but now that companies prefer college, ill be able to make the most of it once I get my AA degree.

Hunter



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User currently offlineTZ757300 From United States of America, joined Aug 2005, 2868 posts, RR: 6
Reply 23, posted (7 years 3 months 2 weeks 6 days 7 hours ago) and read 1264 times:

Quoting MCOflyer (Reply 22):
ill be able to make the most of it once I get my AA degree.

Just wondering, why aren't you going to go for your BS/BA instead. Much more marketable than a AA degree



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User currently offlineIFEMaster From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 24, posted (7 years 3 months 2 weeks 6 days 6 hours ago) and read 1257 times:

Quoting Speedbirdie (Reply 11):
University are for people who dont know what they want to do as a profession

Correction: Degrees in 'Liberal Arts' or 'Social Studies' are for people who don't know what they want to do as a profession. The rest of us either got down to finding a job right out of school/college, or got a degree that mattered.


User currently offlineKaiGywer From United States of America, joined Oct 2003, 12251 posts, RR: 35
Reply 25, posted (7 years 3 months 2 weeks 6 days 6 hours ago) and read 1252 times:
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Quoting TZ757300 (Reply 23):

Just wondering, why aren't you going to go for your BS/BA instead. Much more marketable than a AA degree

Can always get the AA now at a cheap community college, then apply to a four year university to get the BA/BS.



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