Leftseat86 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Posted (14 years 4 weeks 1 day 16 hours ago) and read 1808 times:
I know, this is another "help i have problems!" thread, but I'm just going insane...
I dont know if most of you gathered, but I moved to Toulouse France, after 15 years of living in Los Angeles, California. My dad is french, and was tired of the U.S., and wanted to come back here, where he *claims* to be much happier. I was dragged here aswell, along with my mom and little bro.
Baisically, I've had it up to here with ANYTHING french. I go to a normal french school, which means no English, no saying American swear words, no talking about that funny part in American Pie 2, nothing....
I'm going nuts. I pretty much left my life in Los Angeles, my girlfriend of 2 years, all my very close friends, a great school that was like a 2nd family, and my whole family. I am slowly loosing contact with most of my friends from over there, because with the timezones i can almost never geta ahold of them by phone.
Also, the school system here is different, and it is much harder to become a pilot. You have to be a whiz in Math, a subject that i'm not too fond of.
Ontop of that we only have a 2 room apartment for now, which was supposedly temporary, but that we've had since our arrival in August. September 11 has just made me want to feel more American, while enduring anti-American remarks 24/7. I'm in a damn hole here, and I dont know how to get out.
I was thinking of moving in with my grandparents in Los Angeles, they are waiting with open arms, but leaving my bro and mom will be hard...I dont know what to do. My dad has NO intention of coming back, he loves france, and I cant blame him, its his country.
I however, aint a fan, and its getting very tough. Thank god for this computer, Linkin Park, and Airliners.net, where I can speak English...
PHX-LJU From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 7, posted (14 years 4 weeks 1 day 15 hours ago) and read 1712 times:
Here is what may work for you, Leftseat86...
If you get a chance, visit the United States for a few weeks. That will probably help you sort out your post-Sept. 11 emotions. You may also realize that America isn't that far away after all. I bet you'll feel a whole lot better when you'll return to France.
Take me, for instance: When I'm in Slovenia, I really miss the US, and when I'm in the US, I really miss Slovenia. I'll always feel that way, but I've discovered that reading the hometown paper on the Web is a great way to fight homesickness.
If time zones are a problem for you, can't you stay in touch with your friends via e-mail?
And look on the positive side of all this: How many Americans have the chance to live in Europe and perfect their knowledge of a foreign language? Think of all the advantages this will give you when you'll apply to your favorite college or your first big job. Many people would love to get a chance to broaden their horizons by living in a foreign country. You have that chance, so take advantage of it!
Leftseat86 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 10, posted (14 years 4 weeks 1 day 15 hours ago) and read 1703 times:
That comment was destined to Aviatista.
I already speak french with zero accent. People dont believe I'm American. I had to bring one dude a dollar bill so that he would believe me. I can write very well in french, better than some of my french classmates.
I'm just tired of this place. Its not for me. I will never MISS frence, because I like to visit, not to live.
-thanks for your opinion
Airlinelover From United States of America, joined Jun 2001, 5580 posts, RR: 20
Reply 16, posted (14 years 4 weeks 1 day 15 hours ago) and read 1672 times:
Dude, if you have someone here in the states WAITING for you, who would WELCOME you, then by all means.. COME BACK!!!! France may be a good place for your dad, but I think you would be happier here, in the USA.. So, COME BACK!!
Lets do some sexy math. We add you, subtract your clothes, divide your legs and multiply
Turbolet From Cape Verde, joined Nov 2007, 0 posts, RR: 1
Reply 17, posted (14 years 4 weeks 1 day 15 hours ago) and read 1664 times:
Well what can I say... my parents are Czech but I was born in Malta and I've lived here almost all my life. My dad will be retiring in two years' time and going back to Brno along with my mum and I'll be going to university at that time but I'll have to go with them cos there's no way I can support myself here. Do I have to tell you how happy I am about it? I'm a proud Maltese citizen, I love Malta and I wanna stay here, not go back to the Czech Rep! I'll have to though...
Scooter From United States of America, joined Jun 1999, 878 posts, RR: 1
Reply 18, posted (14 years 4 weeks 1 day 15 hours ago) and read 1652 times:
Normally I stay out of the non-aviation forum, but...
Dude, as someone mentioned before, take advantage of your time abroad. It looks good on a resume, it's an incredible learning experience, and more importanly, think of all the stories you'll be able to tell when you try to pick up women!
As an American, it disgusts me to see how narrow-minded many of us are. I only wish I could have experienced another culture like that when I was your age...
Demoose From Canada, joined Mar 2001, 1952 posts, RR: 21
Reply 19, posted (14 years 4 weeks 1 day 14 hours ago) and read 1639 times:
Well if you can't get over to the states soon you should hop over to England where we all LUV to speak english and the place is becoming more like the states everyear! Being half french yourself, you probably wouldn't want to come over here though! Or of course you could spend some of your Euro's on a McDonalds! Thats all I ate when I went to France with college!
Teahan From Ireland, joined Nov 1999, 5377 posts, RR: 59
Reply 21, posted (14 years 4 weeks 1 day 13 hours ago) and read 1620 times:
I grew up (well until I was 11) between Switzerland and France (between the Swiss-French part of Switzerland near Geneva and about 10km away in neighbouring France) My dad being Irish, we spent nearly every holiday in Ireland before finally moving after my mum decided to leave Swissair in 1996.
At least I am/was pretty lucky. Already spoke fluent French and returned (and still return) to Switerland a few times an year where still on property.
However, it is still the hardest thing I ever had to do. I lost all but one or two of my Primary-school friends, people I grew up with, spent every day with for 5 years which I can't hide really hurts me. It is easy to say that you will keep in touch, much harder in pratise. You are 1000km away leading out own life, and they are leading there's.
I did have problems fitting in in Ireland, still kind of do I guess. My first school was a nightmare, after 1.5 years changed to the current school I am i which totally improved things (loads of foreigners like me) It is only after 2-3 years that I really felt adapted but still not really Irish, not even after 6 years, I am seriously considering going back to Switzerland for University next next.
My advice for you? I may not be right but if you hate it that much, look into going back? I am happy now, but I still wonder what if had gone back or did not leave at all.
Hope that helps. Do you have ICQ/AOL/MSN Messenger/Yahoo Messenger?
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