Cxsjr From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Posted (7 years 10 months 2 weeks 4 days 10 hours ago) and read 3695 times:
I was watching a show last night in which a bride and groom allowed their friends to organise the whole of their wedding day, from the venue to the guests and the wedding outfits. The cost of the day was .... £15,000 or $30,000!!
I went to a wedding last year which cost £12,000 (the fact that I was told how much it cost says a lot!) and the couple had split within 6 months!
I personally think that people seem to put far too much emphasis on the wedding day instead of concentrating the marriage itself - my day cost less than £1,000 ($2,000), we invited a small select group of friends and we had a super and memorable time!
So, what are your thoughts on big, flashy and costly weddings?
Nice day, nice people. Gershwin Gang provided the music (http://www.gershwingang.fsnet.co.uk/) and they did play "Lets face the music and dance."
My mother's hairdresser's daughter got married at some lavish and expensive do and her and new husband came back from the honeymoon on separate flights after things obviously didn't work out.
Quoting Cxsjr (Thread starter): I personally think that people seem to put far too much emphasis on the wedding day instead of concentrating the marriage itself
"people" seems to be mothers.
My cousin had 3 "weddings" to the same person.
Long story, but she was working as a nanny in Moscow (the russian one) and met a US CB at an embassy bash. In order to go back to the US with him it was a whole lot easier to get married, so they had the quickie wedding. But her mum wanted the big white wedding in church, so they had to do that at a later date having fallen for the emotional blackmail of "after all I've done for you". And his family had to have their ceremony because they couldn't come to the UK for the others.
ManuCH From Switzerland, joined Jun 2005, 3021 posts, RR: 45
Reply 3, posted (7 years 10 months 2 weeks 4 days 9 hours ago) and read 3679 times:
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Me and my partner are waiting to get married until we can afford what we want to organize... we want to charter a Saab 2000 for a sightseeing flight. The only limit is that we can't invite more than 48 people (50 seats )
You can figure out yourself how much this can possibly cost, but that's something we've always wanted to do.
Not my thing, but certainly don't want to criticise those who choose to have a big wedding. It certainly never figured in my wish list, but I know a few people who have been planning / hoping for a massive white wedding their entire lives!
Our civil partnership is going to cost all in about £5000.
Yes, it's more money than I've ever spent on anything, but it's going to be the biggest party I've ever organised. We are spending very little on the actual "ceremony" - ie no flashy suits or venue, everything else is going toward the "important" stuff, in my mind. I've never had the chance to have so many family and friends together at one time, and want to show them a good time, so the money is going towards feeding them and entertaining them.
It has surprised me how much it has cost though, considering we wanted to keep it fairly simple. There have been more things to provide for than I initially thought of...
Presents for parents / special friends, particularly those who have travelled a long way
Fortune cookies (not totally essential, but we liked the idea!)
Photographer (man, they can be expensive - nearly 20% of the total cost!)
Activity packs to keep the kids happy
Meal post - ceremony
Canapes during the evening
Flights for family / friends from US to UK
Invites / stationery
I didn't want a flashy "do", and was hoping to get it done for less. However, came to a point that, although we know it is only one day, and we have other more important priorities ahead (don't want to bankrupt ourselves over this), we also want to look back at a day we can be proud of.
Our philosophy for the day has been that we want to get the ceremony over and done with pretty quickly, then get to enjoying the rest of the day with our family and friends.
Can't wait... 2 weeks to go.
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Cornish From United Kingdom, joined Feb 2005, 8187 posts, RR: 53
Reply 18, posted (7 years 10 months 2 weeks 4 days 5 hours ago) and read 3500 times:
Quoting Gkirk (Reply 15): Can't be Cornish's house...his new hubby JGPH1A would never be able to fit in it!
I hardly think so. there's no way I'd marry that old harpy.
Anyway JGP is already "owned" by his Ukrainian Mafia pimp down on the Riviera. Also not forgetting he is also already married to 49 Algerians, 36 Tunisians, 26 Moroccans, 15 from Chad, 11 Cote D'Ivoirians, 6 Maurtianeans, 3 Cameroonians and a Djiboutian great granddad with a gammy leg in order to help them get French citizenship in exchange for cash and favours:D
Just when I thought I could see light at the end of the tunnel, it was some B*****d with a torch bringing me more work
707CMF From France, joined Mar 2002, 4885 posts, RR: 28
Reply 22, posted (7 years 10 months 2 weeks 4 days 4 hours ago) and read 3468 times:
In France, the tradition is that the familly of the bride pays for the wedding.
In our case, though :
My familly and my wife's familly paid for the reception (room and food).
My wife and I paid for the Church (celebration and music - although the choir was not really expensive, as we asked a selection of friends/familly who knew how to sing to handle that).
I also paid for the honeymoon - and will probably paying for that for a long time, as the result of this trip is now starting to speak.
As for the cost, I think the cost by plate at the reception was around 100 euro.
Church costed us 150 euro, plus 100 euro for the organ player (no, not that organ willou).
Add another 100 euro for the photographer friend who did no want to get paid and ended up using that money maknig us a quite nice photo album.
Add to that the tux renting for me (don't remember the price), the dress for the wife (every price is possible from 99 euro to 10000 euro, and no, I'm not telling how much that costed)
We (wife and I ) also paid for the housing of the close friends (best men and al).
Gkirk From UK - Scotland, joined Jun 2000, 25183 posts, RR: 55
Reply 24, posted (7 years 10 months 2 weeks 4 days 4 hours ago) and read 3449 times:
Quoting Cornish (Reply 23): good god no. Believe me, his parents have offered me an absolute fortune to take the old slapper off their hands. But sometimes all the money in the world just isn't enough*
So you're sticking with Pe@rson then you old slag?
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