Cxsjr From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Posted (5 years 10 months 1 week 4 days 15 hours ago) and read 2891 times:
I was watching a show last night in which a bride and groom allowed their friends to organise the whole of their wedding day, from the venue to the guests and the wedding outfits. The cost of the day was .... £15,000 or $30,000!!
I went to a wedding last year which cost £12,000 (the fact that I was told how much it cost says a lot!) and the couple had split within 6 months!
I personally think that people seem to put far too much emphasis on the wedding day instead of concentrating the marriage itself - my day cost less than £1,000 ($2,000), we invited a small select group of friends and we had a super and memorable time!
So, what are your thoughts on big, flashy and costly weddings?
Oly720man From United Kingdom, joined May 2004, 6177 posts, RR: 11 Reply 2, posted (5 years 10 months 1 week 4 days 14 hours ago) and read 2875 times:
The in-laws (to be) spent around £6k on ours in 2001 for around 60 people. My parents provided the champagne (that we went to France to get) and the cars.
Wedding at Tabley house (also used for some scenes in the Forsyte Saga tv series a couple of years ago) http://www.tableyhouse.co.uk/
Nice day, nice people. Gershwin Gang provided the music (http://www.gershwingang.fsnet.co.uk/) and they did play "Lets face the music and dance."
My mother's hairdresser's daughter got married at some lavish and expensive do and her and new husband came back from the honeymoon on separate flights after things obviously didn't work out.
Quoting Cxsjr (Thread starter): I personally think that people seem to put far too much emphasis on the wedding day instead of concentrating the marriage itself
"people" seems to be mothers.
My cousin had 3 "weddings" to the same person.
Long story, but she was working as a nanny in Moscow (the russian one) and met a US CB at an embassy bash. In order to go back to the US with him it was a whole lot easier to get married, so they had the quickie wedding. But her mum wanted the big white wedding in church, so they had to do that at a later date having fallen for the emotional blackmail of "after all I've done for you". And his family had to have their ceremony because they couldn't come to the UK for the others.
Man City p3 w3 d0 l0 f4 a0 P9 - hey it may never happen again!
ManuCH From Switzerland, joined Jun 2005, 2971 posts, RR: 51 Reply 3, posted (5 years 10 months 1 week 4 days 14 hours ago) and read 2875 times:
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Me and my partner are waiting to get married until we can afford what we want to organize... we want to charter a Saab 2000 for a sightseeing flight. The only limit is that we can't invite more than 48 people (50 seats )
You can figure out yourself how much this can possibly cost, but that's something we've always wanted to do.
BananaBoY From United Kingdom, joined Oct 2004, 1558 posts, RR: 26 Reply 4, posted (5 years 10 months 1 week 4 days 14 hours ago) and read 2873 times:
Quoting Cxsjr (Thread starter): So, what are your thoughts on big, flashy and costly weddings?
Not my thing, but certainly don't want to criticise those who choose to have a big wedding. It certainly never figured in my wish list, but I know a few people who have been planning / hoping for a massive white wedding their entire lives!
Our civil partnership is going to cost all in about £5000.
Yes, it's more money than I've ever spent on anything, but it's going to be the biggest party I've ever organised. We are spending very little on the actual "ceremony" - ie no flashy suits or venue, everything else is going toward the "important" stuff, in my mind. I've never had the chance to have so many family and friends together at one time, and want to show them a good time, so the money is going towards feeding them and entertaining them.
It has surprised me how much it has cost though, considering we wanted to keep it fairly simple. There have been more things to provide for than I initially thought of...
DJ
Cake(s)
Champagne
Welcome cocktails
Favours
Presents for parents / special friends, particularly those who have travelled a long way
Fortune cookies (not totally essential, but we liked the idea!)
Photographer (man, they can be expensive - nearly 20% of the total cost!)
Flowers
Activity packs to keep the kids happy
Meal post - ceremony
Canapes during the evening
Guestbook
Wedding website
Flights for family / friends from US to UK
Invites / stationery
Rings
I didn't want a flashy "do", and was hoping to get it done for less. However, came to a point that, although we know it is only one day, and we have other more important priorities ahead (don't want to bankrupt ourselves over this), we also want to look back at a day we can be proud of.
Our philosophy for the day has been that we want to get the ceremony over and done with pretty quickly, then get to enjoying the rest of the day with our family and friends.
Can't wait... 2 weeks to go.
Mark
All my life, I've been kissing, your top lip 'cause your bottom one's missing
Cfalk From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Reply 6, posted (5 years 10 months 1 week 4 days 14 hours ago) and read 2863 times:
My wedding cost a little bit more than $200,000.
But there was a lot of family involved, and we basically took over a 5-star hotel for the event (The Palace in Luzern, Switzerland, for those of you who might know it)
ManuCH From Switzerland, joined Jun 2005, 2971 posts, RR: 51 Reply 7, posted (5 years 10 months 1 week 4 days 12 hours ago) and read 2840 times:
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Quoting Cxsjr (Reply 5): Chartering a plane is a much cooler idea because it's what you want and your guests will see it as a day to remember too .... go for it ManuCH!
Thanks, I'll make sure to post a trip report when it happens
Quoting Cfalk (Reply 6): My wedding cost a little bit more than $200,000.
Quoting Cfalk (Reply 6): But there was a lot of family involved, and we basically took over a 5-star hotel for the event (The Palace in Luzern, Switzerland, for those of you who might know it)
You... took... over the Palace in Luzern?? OH MY! How cool is that? Congratulations
LHMARK From United States of America, joined Jan 2000, 7255 posts, RR: 51 Reply 8, posted (5 years 10 months 1 week 4 days 11 hours ago) and read 2826 times:
Mine cost $42.36. We even had an open bar.
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EasternSon From United States of America, joined Jun 2006, 660 posts, RR: 1 Reply 16, posted (5 years 10 months 1 week 4 days 10 hours ago) and read 2726 times:
My in-laws paid for the wedding, for which I will be forever grateful.
Weddings in the Northeast United States are a bit of a racket. Everything costs you money. Just as a starting point, I'll give you this:
We had 165 guests at $175.00 a plate. So, the reception alone cost almost $29,000.
Then, there was the cost of the church, the flowers, my wife's dress, transportation etc, etc,.
I believe the total cost of the wedding was close to $45,000.00
This is not far off from what most people pay in this part of the country. Both of my sister's weddings were much more expensive.
"The only people for me are the mad ones...." Jack Kerouac
Cornish From United Kingdom, joined Feb 2005, 8187 posts, RR: 56 Reply 18, posted (5 years 10 months 1 week 4 days 10 hours ago) and read 2696 times:
Quoting Gkirk (Reply 15): Can't be Cornish's house...his new hubby JGPH1A would never be able to fit in it!
I hardly think so. there's no way I'd marry that old harpy.
Anyway JGP is already "owned" by his Ukrainian Mafia pimp down on the Riviera. Also not forgetting he is also already married to 49 Algerians, 36 Tunisians, 26 Moroccans, 15 from Chad, 11 Cote D'Ivoirians, 6 Maurtianeans, 3 Cameroonians and a Djiboutian great granddad with a gammy leg in order to help them get French citizenship in exchange for cash and favours:D
Just when I thought I could see light at the end of the tunnel, it was some B*****d with a torch bringing me more work
RJdxer From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Reply 19, posted (5 years 10 months 1 week 4 days 9 hours ago) and read 2689 times:
10k in 1986 with 150 guests. We paid for basically the whole thing ourselves. It went by real quick too.
Quoting BananaBoY (Reply 4): There have been more things to provide for than I initially thought of...
I know I'll probably get for this but a woman would have no trouble thinking of all those things and much much more. I think they are taught it in little girl 101.
707CMF From France, joined Mar 2002, 4885 posts, RR: 33 Reply 22, posted (5 years 10 months 1 week 4 days 9 hours ago) and read 2664 times:
In France, the tradition is that the familly of the bride pays for the wedding.
In our case, though :
My familly and my wife's familly paid for the reception (room and food).
My wife and I paid for the Church (celebration and music - although the choir was not really expensive, as we asked a selection of friends/familly who knew how to sing to handle that).
I also paid for the honeymoon - and will probably paying for that for a long time, as the result of this trip is now starting to speak.
As for the cost, I think the cost by plate at the reception was around 100 euro.
Church costed us 150 euro, plus 100 euro for the organ player (no, not that organ willou).
Add another 100 euro for the photographer friend who did no want to get paid and ended up using that money maknig us a quite nice photo album.
Add to that the tux renting for me (don't remember the price), the dress for the wife (every price is possible from 99 euro to 10000 euro, and no, I'm not telling how much that costed)
We (wife and I ) also paid for the housing of the close friends (best men and al).
Cornish From United Kingdom, joined Feb 2005, 8187 posts, RR: 56 Reply 23, posted (5 years 10 months 1 week 4 days 9 hours ago) and read 2657 times:
Quoting Banco (Reply 21): Just carry on living in sin instead, eh?
good god no. Believe me, his parents have offered me an absolute fortune to take the old slapper off their hands. But sometimes all the money in the world just isn't enough*
*Anyway I can get good money from Southern African hydroelectric projects without anywhere near the downsides of accepting a JGP mere et pere dowery.
Just when I thought I could see light at the end of the tunnel, it was some B*****d with a torch bringing me more work
Gkirk From UK - Scotland, joined Jun 2000, 24621 posts, RR: 59 Reply 24, posted (5 years 10 months 1 week 4 days 9 hours ago) and read 2645 times:
Quoting Cornish (Reply 23): good god no. Believe me, his parents have offered me an absolute fortune to take the old slapper off their hands. But sometimes all the money in the world just isn't enough*
So you're sticking with Pe@rson then you old slag?
When you hear the noise of the Tartan Army Boys, we'll be coming down the road!
26 Superfly: For chumps that allow there soon-to-be wives control them. It's for show off purposes only. Of the happiest married couple that I know, none of them
27 LHMARK: Our wedding, with around 100 guests, cost about $4000. We had the ceremony and the reception in the same hall, and an after party at my dad's house. W
28 Banco: Oh, I do believe you. Ever wondered why his parents asked you?
30 Saxdiva: No flames from me... it's a weird syndrome that seems to prey on the psyches of 18-25 year-old women. The wedding industry doesn't refer to many of i
32 Superfly: ...and a great guy with an awesome sense of humor! Glad you dragging him up to Las Vegas last year! That comes to only $40 per-person. A start man yo
33 UH60FtRucker: I was married less than 2 years ago. Both my wife and I come from large, very close, families... so our wedding was large. I was also leaving for Iraq
34 IFEMaster: My wife and I had a smaller wedding than most - about 70 guests - and we kept it simple. We got married in a local wedding chapel, then had an evening
35 LOT767-300ER: Alcohol in Florida and I wasnt invited? Im speechless. Thats fine dude I see how it is.
36 STT757: Got married in October, it was about $185 per plate, almost 300 people. That does not include the photographer ($4000), Videograpger ($3-4000), Limo,
37 Banco: I can't believe some of this expense on one day. Put the money down on your house. Hell, go out and buy a decent car!
38 Gkirk: Aye, but don't follow Cornish and JGPH1A's example:
39 ScarletHarlot: Now this is one where I have to disagree with you, 'Fly, because the size and tone of our wedding was set by Mr. Harlot's family. We got married in 1
40 Superfly: ScarletHarlot: Congrats and yes there is always exceptions such as in your case. $20,000 in and $17000 return, you two did very well. That comes out t
41 AirTran737: $25.00 for the cake his and hers outfits $85.00 thaks to a sale at Gander Mountain After the ceremony we all went fishing (free, thanks Katrina!!!) Th
42 Gordonsmall: I've never actually been married, but I've now been engaged twice and bottled it both times at the last minute. Total cost even before the actual wedd
43 Gkirk: Those wouldn't be weddings. I believe what you would have had is called a civil ceremony
45 Banco: Still better than your best chance - a laboratory-enforced mating for the purposes of scientific research.
46 Dougloid: $30. $25 for the marriage license and $5 for the special county commissioner of Clark County to officiate. That was 27 years ago.
47 Allstarflyer: I'm sure there's women out there who read that and went . Hey, it's an expensive day - why not figure out the economics of it. -R
48 Superfly: In ScarlotHarlot's case, it was a cultural thing and most gave her & her husband money and nice gifts. Many here in the US do it show off. Too many s
49 MCOflyer: I do not want a big wedding, just one on the beach and doesn't cost a fortune. My sisters was about 100 something a plate and trust me, this was consi
50 ScarletHarlot: Hey, my bridesmaids' dresses were $25 each, so don't laugh. We spent a day looking and looking and coming up with the usual $200 and $300 suspects, w
51 Superfly: I've met a few guys like that. They were total freaks! Not in a good way either. They were the Norman Bates types, if you know what I mean.
52 JFK69: My wedding cost about $125,000. It was 350 people and involved lots of family and friends flying from NY to SEA. Lots of rooms in the Seattle Sheraton
53 Superfly: Earth Wind & Fire? Most have been a cool band to see.
54 MD11Engineer: Still cheaper than the divorce! Jan
55 Allstarflyer: You're right. Most guys just want to get it over with and get onto the honeymoon. -R
56 AndesSMF: My wedding was cheap in some ways, with only about 60 guests. Total was about $15,000, with more than half going for the ring and 2 week honeymoon. Th
57 Jafa39: I think they are the work of big, flashy and costly mothers'.....if i was getting hitched again I'd do it somewhere quiet with a few good mates and s
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