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The Cost Of Your Wedding?  
User currently offlineCxsjr From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 18 hours ago) and read 3369 times:

I was watching a show last night in which a bride and groom allowed their friends to organise the whole of their wedding day, from the venue to the guests and the wedding outfits. The cost of the day was .... £15,000 or $30,000!!

I went to a wedding last year which cost £12,000 (the fact that I was told how much it cost says a lot!) and the couple had split within 6 months!

I personally think that people seem to put far too much emphasis on the wedding day instead of concentrating the marriage itself - my day cost less than £1,000 ($2,000), we invited a small select group of friends and we had a super and memorable time!

So, what are your thoughts on big, flashy and costly weddings?

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User currently offlineBofredrik From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 1, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 17 hours ago) and read 3361 times:

I have been married two times:

1st. We got married without telling anybody.
The cost was low. A nice dinner and a hotelroom.

2nd. My wife:s father paid 100 %.

I prefer 1st.


User currently offlineOly720man From United Kingdom, joined May 2004, 6702 posts, RR: 11
Reply 2, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 17 hours ago) and read 3353 times:

The in-laws (to be) spent around £6k on ours in 2001 for around 60 people. My parents provided the champagne (that we went to France to get) and the cars.

Wedding at Tabley house (also used for some scenes in the Forsyte Saga tv series a couple of years ago)
http://www.tableyhouse.co.uk/

Reception at Sutton Hall. Lower 2 photos on this site
http://www.thornber.net/cheshire/htmlfiles/macchalls.html

Nice day, nice people. Gershwin Gang provided the music (http://www.gershwingang.fsnet.co.uk/) and they did play "Lets face the music and dance."




My mother's hairdresser's daughter got married at some lavish and expensive do and her and new husband came back from the honeymoon on separate flights after things obviously didn't work out.

Quoting Cxsjr (Thread starter):
I personally think that people seem to put far too much emphasis on the wedding day instead of concentrating the marriage itself

"people" seems to be mothers.


My cousin had 3 "weddings" to the same person.

Long story, but she was working as a nanny in Moscow (the russian one) and met a US CB at an embassy bash. In order to go back to the US with him it was a whole lot easier to get married, so they had the quickie wedding. But her mum wanted the big white wedding in church, so they had to do that at a later date having fallen for the emotional blackmail of "after all I've done for you". And his family had to have their ceremony because they couldn't come to the UK for the others.



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User currently offlineManuCH From Switzerland, joined Jun 2005, 3011 posts, RR: 47
Reply 3, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 17 hours ago) and read 3353 times:
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Me and my partner are waiting to get married until we can afford what we want to organize... we want to charter a Saab 2000 for a sightseeing flight. The only limit is that we can't invite more than 48 people (50 seats  Smile)

You can figure out yourself how much this can possibly cost, but that's something we've always wanted to do.



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User currently offlineBananaBoY From United Kingdom, joined Oct 2004, 1578 posts, RR: 22
Reply 4, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 17 hours ago) and read 3351 times:

Quoting Cxsjr (Thread starter):
So, what are your thoughts on big, flashy and costly weddings?

Not my thing, but certainly don't want to criticise those who choose to have a big wedding. It certainly never figured in my wish list, but I know a few people who have been planning / hoping for a massive white wedding their entire lives!


Our civil partnership is going to cost all in about £5000.

Yes, it's more money than I've ever spent on anything, but it's going to be the biggest party I've ever organised. We are spending very little on the actual "ceremony" - ie no flashy suits or venue, everything else is going toward the "important" stuff, in my mind. I've never had the chance to have so many family and friends together at one time, and want to show them a good time, so the money is going towards feeding them and entertaining them.

It has surprised me how much it has cost though, considering we wanted to keep it fairly simple. There have been more things to provide for than I initially thought of...


  • DJ
  • Cake(s)
  • Champagne
  • Welcome cocktails
  • Favours
  • Presents for parents / special friends, particularly those who have travelled a long way
  • Fortune cookies (not totally essential, but we liked the idea!)
  • Photographer (man, they can be expensive - nearly 20% of the total cost!)
  • Flowers
  • Activity packs to keep the kids happy
  • Meal post - ceremony
  • Canapes during the evening
  • Guestbook
  • Wedding website
  • Flights for family / friends from US to UK
  • Invites / stationery
  • Rings


I didn't want a flashy "do", and was hoping to get it done for less. However, came to a point that, although we know it is only one day, and we have other more important priorities ahead (don't want to bankrupt ourselves over this), we also want to look back at a day we can be proud of.

Our philosophy for the day has been that we want to get the ceremony over and done with pretty quickly, then get to enjoying the rest of the day with our family and friends.

Can't wait... 2 weeks to go.  bouncy 

Mark



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User currently offlineCxsjr From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 5, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 16 hours ago) and read 3343 times:

Quoting ManuCH (Reply 3):
we want to charter a Saab 2000 for a sightseeing flight



Quoting ManuCH (Reply 3):
but that's something we've always wanted to do

..... but that's cool and very different!

Think about the majority of weddings you'll have been to:

- boring service in a church that the celebrants have only ever been to once before and will probably never go to again

- reception which cost a fortune - sitting on a table with people you don't know eating mass produced tasteless crap

- evening disco where the DJ thinks it's cool to play the Birdie Song  mad  for all the kids followed by the Beatles for the rest

- the following morning ....  vomit 

- the whole day forgotten in a week

Chartering a plane is a much cooler idea because it's what you want and your guests will see it as a day to remember too .... go for it ManuCH!


User currently offlineCfalk From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 6, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 16 hours ago) and read 3341 times:

My wedding cost a little bit more than $200,000.

But there was a lot of family involved, and we basically took over a 5-star hotel for the event (The Palace in Luzern, Switzerland, for those of you who might know it)


User currently offlineManuCH From Switzerland, joined Jun 2005, 3011 posts, RR: 47
Reply 7, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 15 hours ago) and read 3318 times:
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Quoting Cxsjr (Reply 5):
Chartering a plane is a much cooler idea because it's what you want and your guests will see it as a day to remember too .... go for it ManuCH!

Thanks, I'll make sure to post a trip report when it happens  Smile

Quoting Cfalk (Reply 6):
My wedding cost a little bit more than $200,000.

 Wow!  Wow!  Wow!

Quoting Cfalk (Reply 6):
But there was a lot of family involved, and we basically took over a 5-star hotel for the event (The Palace in Luzern, Switzerland, for those of you who might know it)

You... took... over the Palace in Luzern?? OH MY! How cool is that? Congratulations  Silly



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User currently offlineLHMARK From United States of America, joined Jan 2000, 7255 posts, RR: 46
Reply 8, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 14 hours ago) and read 3304 times:

Mine cost $42.36. We even had an open bar.

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User currently offlineBanco From United Kingdom, joined Oct 2001, 14752 posts, RR: 53
Reply 9, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 14 hours ago) and read 3280 times:

Went to Australia, had a holiday, got married on the beach there. Total number of guests = 0.

So on that basis, it was basically the cost of the celebrant.



She's as nervous as a very small nun at a penguin shoot.
User currently offlineGkirk From UK - Scotland, joined Jun 2000, 24928 posts, RR: 56
Reply 10, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 14 hours ago) and read 3270 times:

Quoting Banco (Reply 9):
Went to Australia, had a holiday, got married on the beach there. Total number of guests = 0.

So on that basis, it was basically the cost of the celebrant.

So much for ye being a posh Sussex git  Wink



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User currently offlineBanco From United Kingdom, joined Oct 2001, 14752 posts, RR: 53
Reply 11, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 13 hours ago) and read 3254 times:

Quoting Gkirk (Reply 10):
So much for ye being a posh Sussex git

Ahem. I never mentioned which beach, or which hotel it was though, did I?  snooty 



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User currently offlineGkirk From UK - Scotland, joined Jun 2000, 24928 posts, RR: 56
Reply 12, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 13 hours ago) and read 3245 times:

Quoting Banco (Reply 11):
Ahem. I never mentioned which beach, or which hotel it was though, did I? snooty

Let me guess...QFF's "private" beach?  duck 



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User currently offlineCornish From United Kingdom, joined Feb 2005, 8187 posts, RR: 54
Reply 13, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 13 hours ago) and read 3233 times:

Quoting Banco (Reply 11):
Ahem. I never mentioned which beach, or which hotel it was though, did I?

It was this beach and hotel Big grin



Quoting Gkirk (Reply 12):
Let me guess...QFF's "private" beach?

He may have been a good few thousand miles away but he could still hear QFF in Canberra  Wink



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User currently offlineBanco From United Kingdom, joined Oct 2001, 14752 posts, RR: 53
Reply 14, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 13 hours ago) and read 3226 times:

Quoting Cornish (Reply 13):
It was this beach and hotel

No way I was getting married round your new house.



She's as nervous as a very small nun at a penguin shoot.
User currently offlineGkirk From UK - Scotland, joined Jun 2000, 24928 posts, RR: 56
Reply 15, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 12 hours ago) and read 3204 times:

Quoting Banco (Reply 14):
No way I was getting married round your new house.

Can't be Cornish's house...his new hubby JGPH1A would never be able to fit in it!



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User currently offlineEasternSon From United States of America, joined Jun 2006, 668 posts, RR: 1
Reply 16, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 12 hours ago) and read 3204 times:

My in-laws paid for the wedding, for which I will be forever grateful.

Weddings in the Northeast United States are a bit of a racket. Everything costs you money. Just as a starting point, I'll give you this:

We had 165 guests at $175.00 a plate. So, the reception alone cost almost $29,000.

Then, there was the cost of the church, the flowers, my wife's dress, transportation etc, etc,.

I believe the total cost of the wedding was close to $45,000.00

This is not far off from what most people pay in this part of the country. Both of my sister's weddings were much more expensive.



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User currently offlineYooYoo From Canada, joined Nov 2003, 6057 posts, RR: 50
Reply 17, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 12 hours ago) and read 3185 times:

Our weeding cost around $6,000 + $3,500 for the honeymoon if you want to include that.

We had 62 people, it was fun and memorable at i think, a reasonable cost.



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User currently offlineCornish From United Kingdom, joined Feb 2005, 8187 posts, RR: 54
Reply 18, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 12 hours ago) and read 3174 times:

Quoting Gkirk (Reply 15):
Can't be Cornish's house...his new hubby JGPH1A would never be able to fit in it!

 yuck   yuck   yuck 

I hardly think so. there's no way I'd marry that old harpy.

Anyway JGP is already "owned" by his Ukrainian Mafia pimp down on the Riviera. Also not forgetting he is also already married to 49 Algerians, 36 Tunisians, 26 Moroccans, 15 from Chad, 11 Cote D'Ivoirians, 6 Maurtianeans, 3 Cameroonians and a Djiboutian great granddad with a gammy leg in order to help them get French citizenship in exchange for cash and favours:D



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User currently offlineRJdxer From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 19, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 12 hours ago) and read 3167 times:

10k in 1986 with 150 guests. We paid for basically the whole thing ourselves. It went by real quick too.

Quoting BananaBoY (Reply 4):
There have been more things to provide for than I initially thought of...

I know I'll probably get  flamed  for this but a woman would have no trouble thinking of all those things and much much more. I think they are taught it in little girl 101.


User currently offlineCornish From United Kingdom, joined Feb 2005, 8187 posts, RR: 54
Reply 20, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 12 hours ago) and read 3159 times:

Quoting YooYoo (Reply 17):
Our weeding cost around $6,000

Blimey. Gardeners are damn expensive in your part of the world  Wow!



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User currently offlineBanco From United Kingdom, joined Oct 2001, 14752 posts, RR: 53
Reply 21, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 12 hours ago) and read 3155 times:

Quoting Cornish (Reply 18):
I hardly think so. there's no way I'd marry that old harpy.

Just carry on living in sin instead, eh? Big grin



She's as nervous as a very small nun at a penguin shoot.
User currently offline707CMF From France, joined Mar 2002, 4885 posts, RR: 29
Reply 22, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 12 hours ago) and read 3142 times:

In France, the tradition is that the familly of the bride pays for the wedding.

In our case, though :
My familly and my wife's familly paid for the reception (room and food).
My wife and I paid for the Church (celebration and music - although the choir was not really expensive, as we asked a selection of friends/familly who knew how to sing to handle that).

I also paid for the honeymoon - and will probably paying for that for a long time, as the result of this trip is now starting to speak.

As for the cost, I think the cost by plate at the reception was around 100 euro.
Church costed us 150 euro, plus 100 euro for the organ player (no, not that organ willou).
Add another 100 euro for the photographer friend who did no want to get paid and ended up using that money maknig us a quite nice photo album.

Add to that the tux renting for me (don't remember the price), the dress for the wife (every price is possible from 99 euro to 10000 euro, and no, I'm not telling how much that costed)

We (wife and I ) also paid for the housing of the close friends (best men and al).

Cheers,
707


User currently offlineCornish From United Kingdom, joined Feb 2005, 8187 posts, RR: 54
Reply 23, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 12 hours ago) and read 3135 times:

Quoting Banco (Reply 21):
Just carry on living in sin instead, eh?

good god no. Believe me, his parents have offered me an absolute fortune to take the old slapper off their hands. But sometimes all the money in the world just isn't enough*





*Anyway I can get good money from Southern African hydroelectric projects without anywhere near the downsides of accepting a JGP mere et pere dowery.  Wink



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User currently offlineGkirk From UK - Scotland, joined Jun 2000, 24928 posts, RR: 56
Reply 24, posted (7 years 1 month 2 weeks 4 days 12 hours ago) and read 3123 times:

Quoting Cornish (Reply 23):
good god no. Believe me, his parents have offered me an absolute fortune to take the old slapper off their hands. But sometimes all the money in the world just isn't enough*

So you're sticking with Pe@rson then you old slag? Big grin



When you hear the noise of the Tartan Army Boys, we'll be coming down the road!
25 Post contains images Cornish : and i refuse to fly Ryanair.....
26 Post contains images Superfly : For chumps that allow there soon-to-be wives control them. It's for show off purposes only. Of the happiest married couple that I know, none of them
27 LHMARK : Our wedding, with around 100 guests, cost about $4000. We had the ceremony and the reception in the same hall, and an after party at my dad's house. W
28 Post contains images Banco : Oh, I do believe you. Ever wondered why his parents asked you?
29 Post contains images Gkirk : Skidmarks wasn't available?
30 Post contains images Saxdiva : No flames from me... it's a weird syndrome that seems to prey on the psyches of 18-25 year-old women. The wedding industry doesn't refer to many of i
31 Banco : Cradlesnatcher!
32 Post contains images Superfly : ...and a great guy with an awesome sense of humor! Glad you dragging him up to Las Vegas last year! That comes to only $40 per-person. A start man yo
33 Post contains images UH60FtRucker : I was married less than 2 years ago. Both my wife and I come from large, very close, families... so our wedding was large. I was also leaving for Iraq
34 IFEMaster : My wife and I had a smaller wedding than most - about 70 guests - and we kept it simple. We got married in a local wedding chapel, then had an evening
35 Post contains images LOT767-300ER : Alcohol in Florida and I wasnt invited? Im speechless. Thats fine dude I see how it is.
36 STT757 : Got married in October, it was about $185 per plate, almost 300 people. That does not include the photographer ($4000), Videograpger ($3-4000), Limo,
37 Banco : I can't believe some of this expense on one day. Put the money down on your house. Hell, go out and buy a decent car!
38 Post contains images Gkirk : Aye, but don't follow Cornish and JGPH1A's example:
39 Post contains images ScarletHarlot : Now this is one where I have to disagree with you, 'Fly, because the size and tone of our wedding was set by Mr. Harlot's family. We got married in 1
40 Post contains images Superfly : ScarletHarlot: Congrats and yes there is always exceptions such as in your case. $20,000 in and $17000 return, you two did very well. That comes out t
41 Post contains images AirTran737 : $25.00 for the cake his and hers outfits $85.00 thaks to a sale at Gander Mountain After the ceremony we all went fishing (free, thanks Katrina!!!) Th
42 Post contains images Gordonsmall : I've never actually been married, but I've now been engaged twice and bottled it both times at the last minute. Total cost even before the actual wedd
43 Post contains images Gkirk : Those wouldn't be weddings. I believe what you would have had is called a civil ceremony
44 Gordonsmall : Bitch say what?
45 Post contains images Banco : Still better than your best chance - a laboratory-enforced mating for the purposes of scientific research.
46 Dougloid : $30. $25 for the marriage license and $5 for the special county commissioner of Clark County to officiate. That was 27 years ago.
47 Post contains images Allstarflyer : I'm sure there's women out there who read that and went . Hey, it's an expensive day - why not figure out the economics of it. -R
48 Superfly : In ScarlotHarlot's case, it was a cultural thing and most gave her & her husband money and nice gifts. Many here in the US do it show off. Too many s
49 MCOflyer : I do not want a big wedding, just one on the beach and doesn't cost a fortune. My sisters was about 100 something a plate and trust me, this was consi
50 Post contains images ScarletHarlot : Hey, my bridesmaids' dresses were $25 each, so don't laugh. We spent a day looking and looking and coming up with the usual $200 and $300 suspects, w
51 Post contains images Superfly : I've met a few guys like that. They were total freaks! Not in a good way either. They were the Norman Bates types, if you know what I mean.
52 JFK69 : My wedding cost about $125,000. It was 350 people and involved lots of family and friends flying from NY to SEA. Lots of rooms in the Seattle Sheraton
53 Post contains images Superfly : Earth Wind & Fire? Most have been a cool band to see.
54 MD11Engineer : Still cheaper than the divorce! Jan
55 Post contains images Allstarflyer : You're right. Most guys just want to get it over with and get onto the honeymoon. -R
56 AndesSMF : My wedding was cheap in some ways, with only about 60 guests. Total was about $15,000, with more than half going for the ring and 2 week honeymoon. Th
57 Post contains images Jafa39 : I think they are the work of big, flashy and costly mothers'.....if i was getting hitched again I'd do it somewhere quiet with a few good mates and s
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