Da man From United States of America, joined Sep 2001, 887 posts, RR: 12 Posted (12 years 3 months 14 hours ago) and read 932 times:
There is a girl at my school that has been in a few of my classes and one of her friends recently called me and told me that she liked my personality but she thought that I was ugly. Any help in what this means and/or if I should persue a relationship would be greatly appriciated.
Aloha 737-200 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 2, posted (12 years 3 months 14 hours ago) and read 873 times:
Physical attractiveness has nothing to do with it though, at least not for me. If I'm goign to pursue a relationship with someone its because I like them for who they are inside. Isn't that what relationships are supposed to be about? About finding someone you really like and love? And spending as much time as you can with them?
However, the fact that she said your ugly does make her sound rather shallow, and I think you can do better. Why woudl you want to be in a relationship with someone who cuts you down?
IT wouldn't, you can do better, wait for someone who really likes you to come along.
VapourTrails From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 5, posted (12 years 3 months 12 hours ago) and read 838 times:
Do you believe the girl's friend? I think there is more to it than that. Maybe the friend was trying to put you off her by saying that, the fact that this girl confided in her friend, so then the friend took it upon herself to do something about it, maybe for her own interests! Who knows, but it doesn't really sound like a sure thing.
Twa902fly From United States of America, joined Dec 1999, 3100 posts, RR: 4
Reply 6, posted (12 years 3 months 12 hours ago) and read 830 times:
I agree Blink182... Even though I value personality very much, a sweet caring, awesome overall person, there is still a need for physical attractiveness. So for it to work you need both. But once you get past thinking someone is hot... its almost an insult to say they're hot once you really get to know them. But that is one of the first things people notice, looks.
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JetService From United States of America, joined Feb 2000, 4798 posts, RR: 12
Reply 7, posted (12 years 3 months 10 hours ago) and read 811 times:
Da man, it just means she values your friendship. I think its nice. Next time you see her tell her that you, too, value your friendship with her and will be there for her always. Tell her you know that unlike romances, friendships are forever. Then tell her that you are in the market for bigger tits, anyway.
Lehpron From United States of America, joined Jul 2001, 7028 posts, RR: 21
Reply 10, posted (12 years 2 months 4 weeks 9 hours ago) and read 729 times:
For her to tell ya you're ugly is mean, anybody can like your personality; it takes one to know one.
It's always looks first, those who say it isn't are either cute themselves or have a confidence level through the roof. No one who doesn't know you in the first place can be attracted to your personality, you appearance is quite literally the representation to your whole self.
I guess though if somehow she really likes your personality, then you should use it, maybe she'll oneday forget you're "ugly" and take a small interest in you that might lead somewhere, you never know.
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Acidradio From United States of America, joined Mar 2001, 1867 posts, RR: 10
Reply 12, posted (12 years 2 months 3 weeks 5 days 1 hour ago) and read 690 times:
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There happens to be lots of women in the world if you look around (by the last report, there are a few more women on the earth than guys if you can believe that [51%/49% F/M]). Don't settle for one who is not all you want her to be. If she doesn't like you that way, it can be a painfully pointless road to travel.
Vafi88 From United States of America, joined Apr 2001, 3116 posts, RR: 17
Reply 15, posted (12 years 2 months 3 weeks 4 days 17 hours ago) and read 642 times:
I have a guess for this. Ok I'll start..... now.
The girl you like knows that you like you and probably told her friend that you like her and now that girl's friend is trying to make you not go after this chick (because you'll think you're too ugly) and instead will get you by playing hard-to-get. So don't go after that girl's friend. go after that girl.
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Strickerje From United States of America, joined Feb 2001, 723 posts, RR: 1
Reply 17, posted (12 years 2 months 3 weeks 3 days 12 hours ago) and read 590 times:
OK, I think I agree with Vafi88, and now that I've reread it 4 times, I think I almost understand what he's talking about. Now the test to see if I'm right-- Did you perhaps mean to say "The girl you like knows that you like her" instead of "The girl you like knows that you like you"? If so, then I understand. If not, then I'm lost... (Sorry, but I'm bored and I really want to figure this out)
See, the same thing happens when I make a complicated speech-- I make a mistake of some sort and confuse myself and everyone else!
Toadpipe From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 18, posted (12 years 2 months 3 weeks 3 days 12 hours ago) and read 591 times:
I think he means this
I think this girl (girl A) told you that this other girl (girl B) thinks you are ugly, because Girl A knows you like Girl B. Girl A really wants to discourage this, because she (Girl A) want's you to like her not Girl B. So, if I was you I would say forget girl B, so you can get some A.