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Cure For Homesickness  
User currently offlineKLM672 From United States of America, joined Oct 1999, 2471 posts, RR: 3
Posted (7 years 2 months 4 weeks 1 day ago) and read 1329 times:

Hello. I am a 21 yr old FA based in CLE. I call BTV my home and my job allows me to fly home for about a week at a time. I have been an FA for almost 4 months now. This is my first time away from home, not counting college which was 45 minutes away and I could easily go home. Everytime I return from home I tend to get really home sick. Thoughts start running through my head like "is this worth it" and "Lets pack the bags and go home". I stick with it and within a week I am fine. I love the job, I love the people and flying. The funny thing is, within 10 minutes of getting into my apartment here in CLE it feels like I am back, like i never left. As if I have two seperate lives. The one at home where I help with chopping wood, haying and hanging out with my friends and the one here in CLE where I fly, sleep and hang out with my friends here. I must admit, that I am not in the best area. I assumed it was "just CLE" but I was told from a few local FA's that its my area and there are nicer areas, which i am now looking into. I do have my car here which will allow me to go explore. My question is, how do I get rid of this home sickness. Its an aweful feeling, and I am feeling it right now (arrived back in CLE about 24 hrs ago) hence the post.
Thanks!

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User currently offlineVikkyvik From United States of America, joined Jul 2003, 10107 posts, RR: 26
Reply 1, posted (7 years 2 months 4 weeks 1 day ago) and read 1312 times:
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Going back and forth between LA and Boston, I've found the same thing at times. What's always helped is to get immersed back in my life as quickly as possible.

Furthermore, I'd make time to hang out with friends as soon as I could - that always helps with adjustment. It's good that you have friends in both places - they can really make transitions much easier.



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User currently offlineAsuflyer05 From United States of America, joined Feb 2004, 2373 posts, RR: 3
Reply 2, posted (7 years 2 months 4 weeks 18 hours ago) and read 1255 times:

I went through a terrible period of homesickness my freshman year of college. I grew up in New Jersey and went to college out in Arizona. When I moved out here, I did not have a car and my roommate and I didn't really get along. I felt like a prisoner. Over Christmas break, I quickly found out how much I adjusted to AZ. I wanted to go back to AZ the second I landed in New Jersey.

In reality, time heals all pain. Do your best to build a life for yourself in CLE and start extending the time periods you stay in CLE. If you go home once a month, try going every other month.

And remember, there comes a time in every young man's life when he must leave the nest. Good luck!


User currently offlineHAWK21M From India, joined Jan 2001, 31684 posts, RR: 56
Reply 3, posted (7 years 2 months 4 weeks 15 hours ago) and read 1238 times:

Get busy.As long as you keep thinking of home,it will get you impatient.
regds
MEL



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User currently offlineFlyer732 From Namibia, joined Nov 1999, 1367 posts, RR: 21
Reply 4, posted (7 years 2 months 4 weeks 14 hours ago) and read 1220 times:

Quoting HAWK21M (Reply 3):
Get busy.As long as you keep thinking of home,it will get you impatient.

I agree with that statement. I spend quite a lot of time on the road. (Many thousands of miles from home) and the more you think of being at or getting home, the worse you feel. If you keep busy, come up with things to do when not working, you'll feel better. The problem I run into, is when I get close to the date that I'm going home, I start to get more and more frustrated when I'm working, and when I'm close to leaving home to go to work, I get more frustrated then...


User currently offlineWolverine From Germany, joined Aug 2006, 412 posts, RR: 0
Reply 5, posted (7 years 2 months 4 weeks 13 hours ago) and read 1207 times:

I know this as well. I already had 2 Jobs away from home. The first of them, I really could go home only every second month. At the other Job I could go every month, sometimes twice.
It really was a strange feeling, when I was home, and I had to leave, I didn't want to go. Then I felt homesick for a few days. After this few days, it was ok, I had my Job, my friends, my life away from home. Sometimes there where situations, when I thought 'bout packing my stuff and going home, but it didn't last long.
When it was time to go back home, it also felt strange, sure I was glad to see my family and friends again, but it was like leaving one life for another..

Last Job I had was an hour away from home. But right now I'm thinking of getting another Job, maybe in the north of Germany, and if I'll do, I'll get this problem again...



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User currently offlineJafa39 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 6, posted (7 years 2 months 4 weeks 12 hours ago) and read 1199 times:

Just remember all the times when your parents were a pain in the butt...soon brings on the reality check!  Wink

If you ensure that you are having lots of positive experiences away from home, you'll get over it soon enough. Also, try staying away for longer, say, 6 months or so, it will help a lot.


User currently offlineTrekster From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 7, posted (7 years 2 months 4 weeks 11 hours ago) and read 1184 times:

I guess im KINDA lucky.
Having moved around so much as a Kid, and going to boarding school, i dont have a true place to call home. I class Lincoln as my home city as its where i was born, and lived first off for 2 months when i was born, and then 3/4 years with my mother. Manchester is my 2nd Home where i live and where all my friends are. My mother lives in Grantham, Father in Gloucester, so am torn between places.


User currently offlineFURUREFA From United States of America, joined Feb 2004, 805 posts, RR: 2
Reply 8, posted (7 years 2 months 4 weeks 9 hours ago) and read 1153 times:

My parents are divorced and my mom lives in BOS and my dad in LHR. I have gone between the two every six weeks since I was 8 years old. There really is no cure for homesickness, but you can make yourself feel better by bringing things from one of your homes into the other...

Matt


User currently offlineCaptaink From Mexico, joined May 2001, 5109 posts, RR: 12
Reply 9, posted (7 years 2 months 4 weeks 6 hours ago) and read 1126 times:

Homesickness is normal but eases with time. When I first moved to Mexico, I was extremely homesick, 1. becuase I was very far from home, 2. extreme culture shock, seeing few things that I am familiar with, 3. could not speak spanish very well.

But I know call Mexico home, it has been 2 years, I now speak the language, have friends and a new life. And that is the key, you basically have to create a new life for yourself. And until that happens, you wo uld always be reflecting on the life you left behind.

Take your time, get busy, get out, meet people, but bear in mind that what you are feeling is entirely normal.



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User currently offlinePilotdude09 From Australia, joined May 2005, 1777 posts, RR: 4
Reply 10, posted (7 years 2 months 4 weeks 5 hours ago) and read 1115 times:

When we first moved to Western Australia from NZ it was a big Adjustment we had lived on the east coast for a couple of years but it felt stange being so far away and its not easy getting from KTA to DUD trust me!

I guess the best way i cope being away from family/friends is phone calls, emails, photos and msn/yahoo.

Think the worst thing is that if something happens eg a death or something similar its not easy to get home and that makes me worry and feel home sick.



Qantas, Still calling Australia Home.........
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