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Does Age Matter For Relationships  
User currently offlineMCOflyer From United States of America, joined Jun 2006, 8675 posts, RR: 15
Posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 4 days 1 hour ago) and read 2137 times:

I have heard that age matters and doesn't matter for relationships. Besides holly wood, what are some differences you have noticed over the years?

Hunter


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User currently offlineAndz From South Africa, joined Feb 2004, 8453 posts, RR: 10
Reply 1, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 4 days 1 hour ago) and read 2137 times:
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you're only as old as the woman you feel.


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User currently offlineEK20 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 2, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 4 days 1 hour ago) and read 2132 times:

Depends. Are you planning on dating Joan Rivers?  scratchchin 

User currently offlineFalcon84 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 3, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 4 days 1 hour ago) and read 2127 times:

Quoting Andz (Reply 1):
you're only as old as the woman you feel.

 rotfl  That's pretty good.

I don't think it matter to a degree. I know several couples where there are 10 or more years different in age, and I don't think it matters in such relationships.

Now, if you're talking about an 80 year old man, and a 35 year old woman, then, in most cases, there's an ulterior motive for being married-Anne Nicole Smith and that rich old fart are case in point. But in most relationships, I don't think it matters.


User currently offlineSan747 From United States of America, joined Dec 2004, 4943 posts, RR: 12
Reply 4, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 4 days 1 hour ago) and read 2106 times:

When you're a teen, it sure can... The difference in maturity in these short years means that two people in a relationship with more than a 2 or 3 year gap can be inappropriate... I've personally seen this with a LOT of people.


Scotty doesn't know...
User currently offlineKmh1956 From Bermuda, joined Jun 2005, 3324 posts, RR: 7
Reply 5, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 4 days 1 hour ago) and read 2097 times:

if you're 35, and the girl on question is 14...yeah, age matters. Especially if you don't want to do 10-15 in state prison!!

Seriously, though, when you get up into your 30s and 40s (and more) I think age differences don't matter AS much. I think maturity, self-confidence, humor, really good sex, mutual respect and a common intelligence leverl are more important than age.



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User currently offlineFalcon84 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 6, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 4 days 1 hour ago) and read 2092 times:

"It's no problem for us"

Signed,

40 year old teecher and his 16 year old bride.

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User currently offlineRobK From United Kingdom, joined Sep 2004, 3948 posts, RR: 18
Reply 7, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 4 days ago) and read 2087 times:

Quoting MCOflyer (Thread starter):
I have heard that age matters and doesn't matter for relationships. Besides holly wood, what are some differences you have noticed over the years?

Hunter

 bigthumbsup  Having just had a look at the age specified in MCOflyer's profile, I reckon that the problem here is that Hunter's probably 19 or 20 and fancies the arse off a 15 or 16yr old chick and vv. and she wants him to become her b/f but Hunter's worried what people will think because of her age....

Come on Hunter, tell me I'm wrong!!  biggrin 

R


User currently offlineKmh1956 From Bermuda, joined Jun 2005, 3324 posts, RR: 7
Reply 8, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 4 days ago) and read 2078 times:

Quoting Falcon84 (Reply 6):
40 year old teecher and his 16 year old bride.

Snide comments aside, what can these two people POSSIBLY have in common? Sex? He's 40, for God's sake....give him another 20 years and either be begging for Viagra..if it's not too late. AND she'll still be in her mid-30s....in her prime.

Something seriously warped here. Ewwwww.



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User currently offlineMdodd From United States of America, joined Jul 2007, 348 posts, RR: 0
Reply 9, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 4 days ago) and read 2060 times:

Quoting San747 (Reply 4):
When you're a teen, it sure can... The difference in maturity in these short years means that two people in a relationship with more than a 2 or 3 year gap can be inappropriate... I've personally seen this with a LOT of people.

Totally true.


User currently offlineBofredrik From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 10, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 3 days 22 hours ago) and read 2014 times:

It is a advantage to have more or less similar age.
All memories that you have together from the same
time period. And that you both usually have friends
at the same age makes it a much easier. Remember
that it is always difficult to be different. Blue (!) hair,
driving a russian Lada OR having a wife that is 20
years younger OR older... It is easier to be one of
the crowd. But you make your choice!


User currently offlineFalcon84 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 11, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 3 days 21 hours ago) and read 1997 times:

Quoting Bofredrik (Reply 10):
All memories that you have together from the same
time period.

Over-rated. Love is the equalizer here, not age.

And I say that as a man who is married to a woman who is only 3 months young than I am.


User currently offlineN1120A From United States of America, joined Dec 2003, 26499 posts, RR: 75
Reply 12, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 3 days 21 hours ago) and read 1990 times:

Quoting Falcon84 (Reply 11):
Love is the equalizer here, not age.

I completely agree. One should never lead their love life by hard and fast rules regarding age. If you want to date someone, screw someone or marry someone, age should never come into the equation if your feelings are genuine.



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User currently offlineSan747 From United States of America, joined Dec 2004, 4943 posts, RR: 12
Reply 13, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 3 days 21 hours ago) and read 1977 times:

Quoting N1120A (Reply 12):
One should never lead their love life by hard and fast rules regarding age. If you want to date someone, screw someone or marry someone, age should never come into the equation if your feelings are genuine.

I agree with you, but only up to a point... If you or the other person is too young or immature to... differentiate between different feelings about the opposite sex, then that can be (and usually ends up being) a problem.

I say that based off a very messy ordeal that a 17-year-old female friend of mine went through when she started going out with a 20-year-old guy...



Scotty doesn't know...
User currently offlineN1120A From United States of America, joined Dec 2003, 26499 posts, RR: 75
Reply 14, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 3 days 21 hours ago) and read 1973 times:

Quoting San747 (Reply 13):
If you or the other person is too young or immature to... differentiate between different feelings about the opposite sex, then that can be (and usually ends up being) a problem.

Naturally that can be an issue. I was talking more about life in a vacuum, where people are acting rationally and reasonably. When dealing with younger people, you will of course get issues as to whether the feelings are actually genuine or are fueled by the proverbial puppy love.

Quoting San747 (Reply 13):

I say that based off a very messy ordeal that a 17-year-old female friend of mine went through when she started going out with a 20-year-old guy...

Honestly, neither 17 nor 20 is an age where one is ready for something particularly serious.



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User currently offlineKmh1956 From Bermuda, joined Jun 2005, 3324 posts, RR: 7
Reply 15, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 3 days 20 hours ago) and read 1952 times:

Quoting N1120A (Reply 14):
Honestly, neither 17 nor 20 is an age where one is ready for something particularly serious.

Or particularly mature enough...



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User currently offlineMCOflyer From United States of America, joined Jun 2006, 8675 posts, RR: 15
Reply 16, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 3 days 20 hours ago) and read 1951 times:

Quoting RobK (Reply 7):

Come on Hunter, tell me I'm wrong!!

Shes 21 my friend. I'm 20. i put it in my profile just so I can stare at it for another 6 months.

Hunter



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User currently offlineHalls120 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 17, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 3 days 19 hours ago) and read 1931 times:

Quoting N1120A (Reply 12):
Quoting Falcon84 (Reply 11):Love is the equalizer here, not age.
I completely agree. One should never lead their love life by hard and fast rules regarding age. If you want to date someone, screw someone or marry someone, age should never come into the equation if your feelings are genuine.

I agree, as long as you don't bring kids into the equation. Assholes in their late 50's who father children with women in their twenties or thirties are nothing more than self absorbent idiots who think about themselves first and foremost, and care little about the fact they might not be around to help their kids grow up.


User currently offlineKmh1956 From Bermuda, joined Jun 2005, 3324 posts, RR: 7
Reply 18, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 3 days 18 hours ago) and read 1920 times:

Quoting Halls120 (Reply 17):
Assholes in their late 50's who father children with women in their twenties or thirties are nothing more than self absorbent idiots who think about themselves first and foremost, and care little about the fact they might not be around to help their kids grow up.

I feel the same way about these women recently who have had kids in their 60s. I'm only 50, and wouldn't dream of having a baby at my age. When the child is graduating from college, I'm well past retirement? I'd not be around to see grandkids...unless the child started having babies whie still a child.
It's not fair on the child, and I don't think anyone has the patience for scrreaming infants at later ages that they do when younger. The idea of getting up for a 3am feeding or diaper change now? No way. My child-bearing years are finished, thank you.



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User currently offlineWolverine From Germany, joined Aug 2006, 411 posts, RR: 0
Reply 19, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 3 days 10 hours ago) and read 1874 times:

My grandfather was 25 years older than my grandmother, she was 21 when they got married. They lived happily together and had 4 kids.So I would say in that case, it didn't matter.
I have a friend, she's 24 and lives with a 14 year older guy, they are also happy together.

My girlfriend is 11 years younger than me, for me it don't matter, but she sometimes say, that it is a problem for her. In some way she is childish, and she really needs to grow up.
So maybe at this point, it does matter. I'm not sure, what the future of our relationship will be... I just have to wait and see..



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User currently offlineRJ111 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 20, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 3 days 9 hours ago) and read 1846 times:

Age doesn't matter, all that matters is how well you get along. However, age can influence that, so in a way it does.

User currently offlineRobK From United Kingdom, joined Sep 2004, 3948 posts, RR: 18
Reply 21, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 3 days 9 hours ago) and read 1845 times:

Quoting MCOflyer (Reply 16):
Shes 21 my friend. I'm 20.

Nothing wrong with her being a year older than you. The difference is negligible anyway. Good luck and hope it works out!

R


User currently offlineGAIsweetGAI From Norway, joined Jul 2006, 933 posts, RR: 7
Reply 22, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 1 day 20 hours ago) and read 1742 times:

It's all math- the relative age difference is the key.

For example, she's 5 years younger than me. (imagining a situation here)
I'm 20, and she's 15. The relative age difference is either 25% or 33%.
Wait a bit- I'm 25 and she's 20. The relative age difference is 25% or 20%.

The number goes down as time goes.

By the time I'm 75, the relative age difference is 7.1428...% or 6.666666...%.

Math explains everything and is all that counts.  Wink



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User currently offlineFalstaff From United States of America, joined Jun 2006, 6104 posts, RR: 28
Reply 23, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 1 day 17 hours ago) and read 1709 times:
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I once had a great relationship with a woman who was 20 years older than me. She was 42/43 and I was 22/23. She was a great woman who never had any children and was never married. We had a lot in common and loved to spend time together. Her job transferred her 2000 miles away and I was still in college. So we broke it off. I still think about her. We got some odd looks from waiters and such when we went out, but neither one of us thought age was a big deal after we got to know each other. Susan was on only 4 years younger than my mom. It felt weird at first, but I got over it.

Quoting RobK (Reply 21):
Nothing wrong with her being a year older than you

A good friend of mine has a wife who is seven years older than him. They have been married for 16 years

My girlfriend is 5 years younger than me.

A man I work with is 60 and is wife is 33. She can't have kids and his are my age. They are perfect for each other. They both love golf and they met on the golf course.

Age means nothing when there is love. Kids can bring in a different train of thought. But not everyone is going to have or can have children.



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User currently offlineMCOflyer From United States of America, joined Jun 2006, 8675 posts, RR: 15
Reply 24, posted (7 years 1 month 3 weeks 1 day 17 hours ago) and read 1704 times:

Quoting RobK (Reply 21):

Nothing wrong with her being a year older than you. The difference is negligible anyway. Good luck and hope it works out!

Thanks man. I wanna have kids but not yet.

Hunter



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25 Post contains images FlyDeltaJets87 : I think it's really the percentage of age difference that matters. The difference between a 24 and 28 year old is far less than say a 16 year old and
26 San747 : You are totally right. You understand what is and is not off-limits, and you understand the difference in maturity between teens and adults...
27 Post contains images GAIsweetGAI : Indeed- a future engineer (hopefully). Interestingly enough, I got the relative difference from my physics class. Everything can be explained through
28 Post contains images HAWK21M : Mental Age does matter not physical Age regds MEL
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