Lehpron From United States of America, joined Jul 2001, 7028 posts, RR: 21 Posted (12 years 6 months 4 weeks 1 day 18 hours ago) and read 1099 times:
Not divorced officially, for some legal backlash will ensue according to my brother; he's really into legal stuff, he knows these things.
Anyway, I cannot tell if I'm tired, in shock, or anything else. I did hate my father bu right now I can't talk about it. These days I barely get to get online so I will reply more productively in a few days/weeks, promise.
Until then, if I ever get overly emotional, please excuse me.
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777-200 From United States of America, joined Mar 2000, 1020 posts, RR: 7
Reply 1, posted (12 years 6 months 4 weeks 1 day 17 hours ago) and read 1066 times:
I was happy when my dad left my mom i mean all he would do all day is sit on his ass and cuss me out and then he would get all his dumbassed kids ( he was married before and had like 7 kids) to steal all MY stuff while i was at school.
Whew ok ill stop now.
but what im saying is you would be better off if you just put all that stuff about you father in the past and live the rest of your life.
174thfwff From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 4, posted (12 years 6 months 4 weeks 1 day 16 hours ago) and read 1036 times:
This may sound hard, but if I were you, I would be happy. I went through the same thing. I got a say as to who's house I went to at what time (dad or moms), nobody is paying support since they are both very good money wise. They fought over the dumbest things, so stupid. My mom wanted to donate less to charity, my father wanted to take more wild trips (gosh I love those), more stuff that I can't even remember ...yet it was those little things that made them so different. They were two different people.
I am happy now that they are divorced. It is so much easier on my family. My parents get along great now whenever they see eachother, both are re-married, both love me.
It may be tough now, but in the long run, it works out awesome.
When I go home from school (now I go to a private boarding school, my choice) I make the 300 mile trip from Syracuse (mom) to New York city (dad) just about evey week or so.
I hope this helped some. Email me if you have any questions or need some help in any way. I will try my best.
Alpha 1 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 5, posted (12 years 6 months 4 weeks 1 day 7 hours ago) and read 998 times:
That's a bummer, Lephron. I can't say that I know what you're going through, as I've been lucky in that regard.
All I guess you can do is just take it a day at a time. Hopefully, you get along with both your folks, and if that's the case, just remember they care about you. Words are lame, for sure, but hang in there.
LH423 From Canada, joined Jul 1999, 6501 posts, RR: 54
Reply 6, posted (12 years 6 months 4 weeks 3 hours ago) and read 968 times:
It's often for the best. I know that I am infinitely more happy. My parents are infinitely more happy. Life is infinitely better since they split up 5 years ago. These things happen for a reason, and while there are tough times (like the holidays when it tears you up to think of one of your parents to be all alone on Christmas), but you work through them and you become stronger for it.
Good luck, man.
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Pba_durst From United States of America, joined Apr 2001, 15 posts, RR: 0
Reply 9, posted (12 years 6 months 3 weeks 4 days 14 hours ago) and read 941 times:
I can't offer much experiential advise, but I can wish the best for you.
Hang in there!
It hurts. It stinks. It's not fair.
We all have to live through being hurt -- to different degrees, at different times, in different ways -- but we all get hurt. If you work your way through the hurt, you'll be a better man for it. So, let it out. Tell us or someone you love (or hate) how you feel. Process your feelings and learn from them. Seek help if you can't do it by just talking to us or your mom or someone else. If you can't talk to your father, write him a letter and tell him how you feel (you can get it off your chest and then if you still can't tell him, you can always throw the letter away.) From experience, he will respect you more for telling him how you feel than from just ignoring him, even if you have only bad news for him. Most of all, don't let someone else's problem make you a worse person. Finally, you can email me at yahoo.com if you can't find anyone else to talk to.