4holer From United States of America, joined Feb 2002, 2939 posts, RR: 10 Posted (11 years 10 months 9 hours ago) and read 1014 times:
I just learned something that has upset me more than I would have expected and would like some input as to whether I am out of line or not.
A long time ago in a world far, far away (In about 1986 when I was in college), I dated this pretty cool girl named Amy. Amy was a good egg, and we had a ton of fun. As I remember it, we broke up over, well I can't remember why, but I remember her being emotional/threatening suicide when we broke up. I went on with life without looking back and have been married to a girl I love for 7 years. I found Amy's email address at our alumni website recently, wrote a "HI!" email, and we've sent some emails since.
Here's where it gets interesting. Apparently, we never broke up. That year, playing intramural football, I took a knee to the back of the head which sent me to the hospital with a bad concussion. Absolutely knocked me senseless. You hear about amnesia and think it's BS, but I tell ya folks, it happens and it sucks!!! I couldn't remember the names of my family members, but knew our insurance company. Very weird. Well, Amy just told me that we had not broken up, but when she saw me in the hospital, I said I didn't recognise her, so she went home and waited for me to call. I never did. I have no recollection of events several days prior to the injury, and forgot a whole lot of stuff, needing to relearn everything up to that point of the semester, so I believe her.
It breaks my heart that I did that to someone, although in a way, I didn't really do anything knowingly. Why am I so upset by this? Should I be? I don't "want her back" at all, but can't get past this?
So. Am I an ass?
4holer From United States of America, joined Feb 2002, 2939 posts, RR: 10 Reply 2, posted (11 years 10 months 9 hours ago) and read 983 times:
It does seem bizarre, and I would paste the email exerpts, but I don't think it's appropriate.
BTW, I don't expect anyone to give a s**t about it, but if a few of you have thoughts about it, I'd be happy to hear them.
4holer From United States of America, joined Feb 2002, 2939 posts, RR: 10 Reply 4, posted (11 years 10 months 8 hours ago) and read 970 times:
Amy isn't mad about it, she said it's ancient history, and she's right. She was actually kinda relieved to hear that I remembered it differently, so I can take some comfort that alot of my behavior from her point of view was explained. I didn't blow her off for something she did as she may have felt.
Also, she's a blonde, as tall as me (6' 1'') and there are some aspects of our relationship that I couldn't forget if I tried!
I'm just sad anyway.
American_4275 From United States of America, joined Aug 1999, 1076 posts, RR: 0 Reply 5, posted (11 years 10 months 8 hours ago) and read 957 times:
That is a shame. But, you seem like you are happy with your relationship now and you have marrie a nice girl so look at the bright side of things! Also, it doesn't seem like she took it personally so just let it go. It wasn't your fault.