KLM672 From United States of America, joined Oct 1999, 2548 posts, RR: 3 Posted (7 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 20 hours ago) and read 2294 times:
One year ago I got hired as a Flight Attendant and had to move from home (Vermont) to Cleveland, OH. I've always wanted to become a pilot and figured I'd do the Flight Attendant thing to see how I like it. Nothing against Cleveland but I just didn't make very many friends, found the city dirty and felt very unsafe walking around. I've met a few friends online but without a car (I brought it up for a week and it got broken into and all my cd's were stolen) it made it hard to meet people. Many of the Cleveland girls thought I was "too nice" and something must have been wrong with me or there must be some sorta catch (whats up with the Cleveland guys?). The friends I have here are the other Flight Attendants and either I am on a trip or they are on a trip so it is very hard to organize a day to meet. Last time I went to hang out with a friend, we had plans to go to the beach! I decided to go back to becoming a commuter chunking my time on and off and staying in a crashpad on the days when I couldn't go home.
I've recently applied to several colleges for the fall semester. i am five credits away from getting my associate degree and I could do that this summer. I am torn between continueing with my state college and majoring in business (or whatever) and flying on the side (closest FBO is an hour drive) or going to a school like DWC but thats another post. Anyways, the commuting nipped me in the butt and I had to call in and "dinged" for it. I don't want to lose my job as a flight attendant as that would hurt very much on my resume and as my dreams of becoming a pilot.
With help from a pilot, I have a meeting coming up at my local (local in Vermont is one hour away) to see if there are any jobs around there. I am real sick of commuting and not making any friends. I had it all planned out. Within two weeks, I'd go back home, live with the parents until I found my own place, get a full time job doing "whatever" and fly (lessons) everyday and work that this local airport ("very part time work I was told) whenever I can. The other day I meet a new flight attendant. I was sitting waiting for my flight home and she walks into the crew room. We get to talking and she is trying to get home too. We both had a few hours to spare so we decided to do dinner together and wonder around the airport. I think we hit it off. We exchanged numbers and she told me she'd call me as soon as she landed back home, which she did. She gave me a big hug when she left and thanked me for hanging out with her. I was told from another flight attendant that she thinks I'm "very cute". We talk daily and she always calls me hunny. As I stated above the hanging out or lack there of applies here too. Either I am working or she is. So, I am wondering if it will just be the same. We had plans to hang out a few days ago but that didn't really work out. I really like her and she is very nice. My ordeal is, now that I met her, should I stay here in Cleveland, move here full time, find a part time job, fly (both lessons and work) or do as I had planned and have the mentality that "well I'll meet someone else anyways." Who knows if this will even work out, if she likes me "like that". I am just so torn because I had it all planned out, all ready to move home and now I meet a girl. I know I should never rearrange my life "just for a girl" but it is very hard. Any advice?
NoUFO From Germany, joined Apr 2001, 7975 posts, RR: 12
Reply 2, posted (7 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 20 hours ago) and read 2245 times:
Welcome to the club.
I had a wisdom tooth removed two weeks before I left Berlin and, don't laugh, fell in love with the dentist. My Godchild found a g/f shortly before he moved to the U.S. for a year. Now his younger brother is approaching her. Hopefully we both have more luck.
MD11Engineer From Philippines, joined Oct 2003, 14476 posts, RR: 62
Reply 3, posted (7 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 18 hours ago) and read 2180 times:
I met my fiancee in Dublin about two weeks before I was to return to Germany (I already had accepted a new job in Germany and handed in my resignation from my old one in Ireland). Returning to Germany I found my marriage in shambles, a divorce followed shortly afterwards.
On the other hand, my fiancee and myself (she still lives in Dublin) are together now for almost 8 years and plan to tie the knot within the next few years.
EICVD From Ireland, joined Mar 2008, 2229 posts, RR: 5
Reply 8, posted (7 years 2 months 2 weeks 5 days 12 hours ago) and read 2045 times:
You should give it a go & stay in Cleveland. You have nothing to lose.
Recently I started to like this Polish girl who worked in a restaurant. Very beautiful & very mannerly (unlike many of the eastern europeans here in Ireland). So just as I get confident to ask her out I found out she left that restaurant but she also returned home as she was homesick. So back to the topic, if things dont work out you can always remain as friends with her.
FLY2HMO From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 12, posted (7 years 2 months 2 weeks 4 days 10 hours ago) and read 1826 times:
Quoting KLM672 (Thread starter): I am just so torn because I had it all planned out, all ready to move home and now I meet a girl.
Dude I feel you! I'm going through the exact same thing!
Long story short I went on a blind date with this one girl two nights in a row, we were out for more than 6 hours each night, we hit it off so well I've never had so much fun, and I've never seen a girl being so genuinely interested in me before. And she is beyond gorgeous, I received jealous stares like mad everywhere I went with her, from both girls and guys lol.
But of course with the f'in luck I have the next day after our last date was the day I left for my-semester long internship, so now everything is on hold. All I can do is call her every once in a while, and basically now we're "just friends". Which is fine for now, I kinda got the impression she'll be there for me when I get back, but I'm not counting on it, that'd be foolish of me. And I'm not closing my doors to other girls I may come across in the internship either (though I've had no luck so far). Also, for now, my career is my major priority, but not my only one.
So my advice is: do what you can to keep in touch, but don't put all your eggs in one basket, and DO NOT put a girl before your career at this point in your life. I've seen close friends do that, and they missed out on many great career opportunities. Plus, if she really likes you "like that" she'll be willing to wait, but don't count on it to avoid an unpleasant surprise.
QFA380 From Australia, joined Jul 2005, 2084 posts, RR: 1
Reply 14, posted (7 years 2 months 2 weeks 4 days 1 hour ago) and read 1748 times:
I know I probably know nothing about what you're going through but wouldn't it be better to just stay with it for a few weeks or so? In a month you'd be in a much better place to decide what you think of this girl and its not like the planes are going to fly away and you'll never be able to fly.
I read what you said 3 times but from what I can fathom, you're still not sure what you want to do after you move back home.
Give it a shot and see what happens, the worst thing that could happen is you'll lose a month of your life, but you never know you could have ended up regretting not taking it further and the stress could make you live 6 months less. Remember you only live once and this could be it.
Although please take in to account I know nothing...