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All Ready To Leave And Then I Meet Someone!  
User currently offlineKLM672 From United States of America, joined Oct 1999, 2441 posts, RR: 3
Posted (6 years 5 months 2 weeks 4 days 13 hours ago) and read 1953 times:

One year ago I got hired as a Flight Attendant and had to move from home (Vermont) to Cleveland, OH. I've always wanted to become a pilot and figured I'd do the Flight Attendant thing to see how I like it. Nothing against Cleveland but I just didn't make very many friends, found the city dirty and felt very unsafe walking around. I've met a few friends online but without a car (I brought it up for a week and it got broken into and all my cd's were stolen) it made it hard to meet people. Many of the Cleveland girls thought I was "too nice" and something must have been wrong with me or there must be some sorta catch (whats up with the Cleveland guys?). The friends I have here are the other Flight Attendants and either I am on a trip or they are on a trip so it is very hard to organize a day to meet. Last time I went to hang out with a friend, we had plans to go to the beach! I decided to go back to becoming a commuter chunking my time on and off and staying in a crashpad on the days when I couldn't go home.

I've recently applied to several colleges for the fall semester. i am five credits away from getting my associate degree and I could do that this summer. I am torn between continueing with my state college and majoring in business (or whatever) and flying on the side (closest FBO is an hour drive) or going to a school like DWC but thats another post. Anyways, the commuting nipped me in the butt and I had to call in and "dinged" for it. I don't want to lose my job as a flight attendant as that would hurt very much on my resume and as my dreams of becoming a pilot.

With help from a pilot, I have a meeting coming up at my local (local in Vermont is one hour away) to see if there are any jobs around there. I am real sick of commuting and not making any friends. I had it all planned out. Within two weeks, I'd go back home, live with the parents until I found my own place, get a full time job doing "whatever" and fly (lessons) everyday and work that this local airport ("very part time work I was told) whenever I can. The other day I meet a new flight attendant. I was sitting waiting for my flight home and she walks into the crew room. We get to talking and she is trying to get home too. We both had a few hours to spare so we decided to do dinner together and wonder around the airport. I think we hit it off. We exchanged numbers and she told me she'd call me as soon as she landed back home, which she did. She gave me a big hug when she left and thanked me for hanging out with her. I was told from another flight attendant that she thinks I'm "very cute". We talk daily and she always calls me hunny. As I stated above the hanging out or lack there of applies here too. Either I am working or she is. So, I am wondering if it will just be the same. We had plans to hang out a few days ago but that didn't really work out. I really like her and she is very nice. My ordeal is, now that I met her, should I stay here in Cleveland, move here full time, find a part time job, fly (both lessons and work) or do as I had planned and have the mentality that "well I'll meet someone else anyways." Who knows if this will even work out, if she likes me "like that". I am just so torn because I had it all planned out, all ready to move home and now I meet a girl. I know I should never rearrange my life "just for a girl" but it is very hard. Any advice?

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User currently offlineDL021 From United States of America, joined May 2004, 11447 posts, RR: 75
Reply 1, posted (6 years 5 months 2 weeks 4 days 13 hours ago) and read 1920 times:
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If she's worth it then see what happens.

You don't seem to have any other plans graven in stone.



Is my Pan Am ticket to the moon still good?
User currently offlineNoUFO From Germany, joined Apr 2001, 7949 posts, RR: 12
Reply 2, posted (6 years 5 months 2 weeks 4 days 13 hours ago) and read 1904 times:

Welcome to the club.
I had a wisdom tooth removed two weeks before I left Berlin and, don't laugh, fell in love with the dentist. My Godchild found a g/f shortly before he moved to the U.S. for a year. Now his younger brother is approaching her. Hopefully we both have more luck.



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User currently offlineMD11Engineer From Germany, joined Oct 2003, 13985 posts, RR: 62
Reply 3, posted (6 years 5 months 2 weeks 4 days 11 hours ago) and read 1839 times:

I met my fiancee in Dublin about two weeks before I was to return to Germany (I already had accepted a new job in Germany and handed in my resignation from my old one in Ireland). Returning to Germany I found my marriage in shambles, a divorce followed shortly afterwards.
On the other hand, my fiancee and myself (she still lives in Dublin) are together now for almost 8 years and plan to tie the knot within the next few years.

Jan


User currently offlineJoshSixtySeven From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 4, posted (6 years 5 months 2 weeks 4 days 10 hours ago) and read 1796 times:

It's not worth it, don't think about it.

I had similar exepriences and chose to stay behind for the girl, yeah, sure, great while it all lasted and I had a good four years with her, but in the end the inevitible happened.

I knew a guy a while back, in his fifties, one of the male race's more "aware" specimens shall we say, and he always used to say the same thing to me:

"Josh mate, women are good for only two things:
1) Bringing the coal in and,
2) F***ing..
..and we don't use coal anymore *wink*"

My advice, follow your career dreams, while it's not set in stone and you may change your mind, atleast you have the freedom to do as you so wish.

J


User currently offlineWunalaYann From Australia, joined Mar 2005, 2839 posts, RR: 25
Reply 5, posted (6 years 5 months 2 weeks 4 days 6 hours ago) and read 1749 times:



Quoting NoUFO (Reply 2):
don't laugh, fell in love with the dentist

Don't laugh... You must admit that you are asking for much here, mate...  Smile

More seriously, I hope things work out on both your sentimental and dental situations...


User currently offlineNoUFO From Germany, joined Apr 2001, 7949 posts, RR: 12
Reply 6, posted (6 years 5 months 2 weeks 4 days 6 hours ago) and read 1735 times:



Quoting WunalaYann (Reply 5):
don't laugh, fell in love with the dentist

Don't laugh... You must admit that you are asking for much here, mate...

Then at least believe me that I'm not into this S/M thing. Big grin
Thanks, pal.



I support the right to arm bears
User currently offlineDan2002 From United States of America, joined Dec 2002, 2055 posts, RR: 5
Reply 7, posted (6 years 5 months 2 weeks 4 days 6 hours ago) and read 1712 times:



Quoting KLM672 (Thread starter):
Many of the Cleveland girls thought I was "too nice" and something must have been wrong with me or there must be some sorta catch (whats up with the Cleveland guys?).

Welcome to my life. The suburban girls are where its at  Wink



A guy asks 'What's Punk?'. I kick over a trash can and its punk. He knocks over a trash can and its trendy.
User currently offlineEICVD From Ireland, joined Mar 2008, 2152 posts, RR: 4
Reply 8, posted (6 years 5 months 2 weeks 4 days 6 hours ago) and read 1704 times:

You should give it a go & stay in Cleveland. You have nothing to lose.

Recently I started to like this Polish girl who worked in a restaurant. Very beautiful & very mannerly (unlike many of the eastern europeans here in Ireland). So just as I get confident to ask her out I found out she left that restaurant but she also returned home as she was homesick. So back to the topic, if things dont work out you can always remain as friends with her.


User currently offlineWunalaYann From Australia, joined Mar 2005, 2839 posts, RR: 25
Reply 9, posted (6 years 5 months 2 weeks 3 days 22 hours ago) and read 1628 times:



Quoting NoUFO (Reply 6):
Then at least believe me that I'm not into this S/M thing.

Hey, maybe SHE is... And you are on the receiving end of her, um, practices... biggrin 

Quoting NoUFO (Reply 6):
Thanks, pal.

Most welcome. Been there, done that... All the best!


User currently offlineSTLGph From United States of America, joined Oct 2004, 9328 posts, RR: 25
Reply 10, posted (6 years 5 months 2 weeks 3 days 20 hours ago) and read 1593 times:

you just met this person!!!!

food for though, if you're that hard up you may have more problems than you let on to in the original paragraph.



Eternal darkness we all should dread. It's hard to party when you're dead.
User currently offlineDL021 From United States of America, joined May 2004, 11447 posts, RR: 75
Reply 11, posted (6 years 5 months 2 weeks 3 days 13 hours ago) and read 1533 times:
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Dude...seriously...there's nothing you're planning on doing that can't wait to let this develop a bit. Just hang in there.

See what's what. Otherwise you'll always wonder.



Is my Pan Am ticket to the moon still good?
User currently offlineFLY2HMO From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 12, posted (6 years 5 months 2 weeks 3 days 4 hours ago) and read 1485 times:



Quoting KLM672 (Thread starter):
I am just so torn because I had it all planned out, all ready to move home and now I meet a girl.

Dude I feel you! I'm going through the exact same thing!

Long story short I went on a blind date with this one girl two nights in a row, we were out for more than 6 hours each night, we hit it off so well I've never had so much fun, and I've never seen a girl being so genuinely interested in me before. And she is beyond gorgeous, I received jealous stares like mad everywhere I went with her, from both girls and guys lol.

But of course with the f'in luck I have the next day after our last date was the day I left for my-semester long internship, so now everything is on hold. All I can do is call her every once in a while, and basically now we're "just friends". Which is fine for now, I kinda got the impression she'll be there for me when I get back, but I'm not counting on it, that'd be foolish of me. And I'm not closing my doors to other girls I may come across in the internship either (though I've had no luck so far). Also, for now, my career is my major priority, but not my only one.

So my advice is: do what you can to keep in touch, but don't put all your eggs in one basket, and DO NOT put a girl before your career at this point in your life. I've seen close friends do that, and they missed out on many great career opportunities. Plus, if she really likes you "like that" she'll be willing to wait, but don't count on it to avoid an unpleasant surprise.


 twocents 


User currently offlineAsuflyer05 From United States of America, joined Feb 2004, 2371 posts, RR: 3
Reply 13, posted (6 years 5 months 2 weeks 3 days 2 hours ago) and read 1463 times:

You may want to consider getting your life in order (career, education, etc.) before you start letting people into it. Just my $.02.

User currently offlineQFA380 From Australia, joined Jul 2005, 2061 posts, RR: 1
Reply 14, posted (6 years 5 months 2 weeks 2 days 18 hours ago) and read 1407 times:

I know I probably know nothing about what you're going through but wouldn't it be better to just stay with it for a few weeks or so? In a month you'd be in a much better place to decide what you think of this girl and its not like the planes are going to fly away and you'll never be able to fly.

I read what you said 3 times but from what I can fathom, you're still not sure what you want to do after you move back home.

Give it a shot and see what happens, the worst thing that could happen is you'll lose a month of your life, but you never know you could have ended up regretting not taking it further and the stress could make you live 6 months less. Remember you only live once and this could be it.

Although please take in to account I know nothing...


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