Af773atmsp From United States of America, joined Aug 2006, 2607 posts, RR: 1 Posted (5 years 3 months 2 weeks 5 days 9 hours ago) and read 2380 times:
During a couple of days I've been really depressed. One of the reasons I will not say, but the other reason is I'm moving to a different school. I used to go to a private school and each class had eight students. All of my friends were at that school. Today I toured around the school (a public school) that I was going to. The school is huge! And there will be at least 1000 students attending that school! In the beginning of August when I decided to move to a different school I thought it would be a good idea. Make new friends, learn a lot more stuff, save money going to a public school, but now I'm just really depressed and sad because I'll barely ever see my friends. Tonight I'm just going to go outside, look at the stars, and try to remember the good times at my old school.
Mir From United States of America, joined Jan 2004, 20510 posts, RR: 56 Reply 1, posted (5 years 3 months 2 weeks 5 days 9 hours ago) and read 2376 times:
Sounds from the age in your profile like you're making a move from junior high to high school. I made a similar move, except from a school that was slightly larger than yours (25 in a class) to one that was larger than the one you are going to (800 per class, about 3200 total).
You'll probably feel kind of lonely at first, but it passes faster than you think. You'll make new friends quickly (especially if you join clubs and the like, so do that), and you'll have a great time. I can understand how you'd feel depressed now, but try to think about the upcoming positive rather than the present negative.
As for you barely seeing your current friends, that doesn't have to be the case. It's not hard to keep in touch with them, especially these days with all the communication options (wow, that makes me sound like a ).
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ACDC8 From Canada, joined Mar 2005, 7623 posts, RR: 38 Reply 2, posted (5 years 3 months 2 weeks 5 days 8 hours ago) and read 2376 times:
Its part of life, you learn to deal with it. According to your profile, you're still a young lad, so you've still got a lot of ups and downs on the road ahead.
Moving and going to new schools/jobs is something we all do. You'll miss your friends, but you'll make new ones. You'll still be able to stay close with all your old friends through internet, cell phones and stuff. You'll lose contact with some, but we all do.
I like your idea about going out and just looking at the stars and remembering the good times at your old school. Thats one thing you should never let go of, the memories. Keep them with you as your closing one chapter in your life and starting the next where you will make new memories.
SlamClick From United States of America, joined Nov 2003, 10062 posts, RR: 69 Reply 3, posted (5 years 3 months 2 weeks 5 days 8 hours ago) and read 2365 times:
That sounds pretty much like the conditional depression that is so common with big life-changes. Moves, new schools, new jobs all have a lot in common, and exciting as they may be will often have a depressive effect too.
I experienced it when I decided to take this job which keeps me away from home about half of the time.
I experienced it before that when I retired and found myself at home all the time but with no big purpose each morning.
And before that when I left a good job to go back to flying...
The initial excitement wears off at some point, often before you actually get underway in the new course of action. You have a quiet moment (or hour or day) and you sort of crash. You don't have any new tasks yet, or new friends yet, or whatever, and the ones you left behind get artificially better and more important.
It will pass.
If it doesn't talk to a counselor - seriously.
Clinical depression sucks! No shame in getting it but really dumb to hang onto it.
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Af773atmsp From United States of America, joined Aug 2006, 2607 posts, RR: 1 Reply 4, posted (5 years 3 months 2 weeks 5 days 6 hours ago) and read 2336 times:
I joined the soccer team but I was one of the players cut from the team. And I saw some people that I knew before I went to a private school. Most of them weren't friends with me and weren't nice to me.
PlymSpotter From Spain, joined Jun 2004, 11502 posts, RR: 62 Reply 10, posted (5 years 3 months 2 weeks 4 days 17 hours ago) and read 2120 times:
Not exactly depressed, just a bit hacked off currently, to say the least! Don't worry about the new school though, each big step 'up' you worry about making new friends - I did when it was time to start secondary school, and when it was time to head off to University, but people will know that you're new and probably feeling like that, so there's bound to be a bunch of them who go out of their way to help you settle down and show you around.
...love is just a camouflage for what resembles rage again...
Dragon-wings From United States of America, joined Apr 2001, 3942 posts, RR: 0 Reply 11, posted (5 years 3 months 2 weeks 4 days 16 hours ago) and read 2095 times:
Yes I am depressed (I have been depressed for a few weeks now). My mom is battling cancer and the doctors said she only has a year at most to live. If it weren't for my 3 cats I seriously think I would need to go see someone about this. They have made me laugh when I am in no happy/laughing mood.
KAUST From United States of America, joined Jun 2009, 93 posts, RR: 26 Reply 12, posted (5 years 3 months 2 weeks 4 days 16 hours ago) and read 2091 times:
I believe I may be a bit depressed, but more as a symptom of my bipolar condition, mixed in with a chronic indecision. (I never seem to be able to make up my mind when it comes to much anything. This ranges from what I should wear, to broader things such as what career path to attempt to follow.
SlamClick hit it right on the money: "It sucks!"
"Houston, this is Apollo 8. We are now in Lunar orbit."
I had the same problems with going to college last year. I'm really not a social person at all, so finding new friends has been really hard. A year later I still don't really have any new friends. I have several acquaintances, but we've never spoken outside of school.
I was with the same people through high school that I was in middle school. The transition was much easier because of that. When I joined marching band the summer before my freshman year, I already had a family when school started. Throughout high school, all of my friends were in band (aside from the one I knew through bowling). It was nice to have a hangout in the band room and we could all be losers together.
Now that I've gone to college, they've all been ripped away from me. It's hard. Hang in there and things will get better.
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MattRB From Canada, joined Apr 2005, 1624 posts, RR: 10 Reply 17, posted (5 years 3 months 2 weeks 4 days 10 hours ago) and read 1984 times:
Yeah, a little at the moment.
Short version goes like this.. injured my back in a workplace accident at the end of January. I've been rehabbing it ever since. Got well enough to go back to light duties at the end of May. Went to my Dr on Monday and he wants me on permanent light duties now.
That means no climbing in the bulk hold, no working on the bridge, no working on the loader, no working in the bagroom, no working in throw-in. It also means that the jobs that I will be doing from now on are mindless, boring jobs with no challenge to them.
So yeah, I'm a little depressed at that prospect..
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SkyGirl From United States of America, joined Nov 2007, 451 posts, RR: 4 Reply 18, posted (5 years 3 months 2 weeks 4 days 10 hours ago) and read 1982 times:
Mild Anxiety, moderate depression.
I found out today that I may or may not be out of a job come October. Bad news indeed, but it helped get me out of a traffic ticket, so I can honestly say (ever the optimist) that some good has come out of it, despite what the final outcome may be. I'm doing my best not to think about it, as it's something that I am unable to control. Que sera sera. And in the meanwhile, I intend to enjoy every minute of what I do have. However, this news topped with my ex's decision to let me know of his new girlfriend from tel aviv (nothing says I don't want a long distance relationship with you quite like dating a girl in another country) has made for a particularly trying week, and it's only wednesday ... I think.
Quoting Af773atmsp (Thread starter): I used to go to a private school and each class had eight students. All of my friends were at that school. Today I toured around the school (a public school) that I was going to. The school is huge! And there will be at least 1000 students attending that school!
Now it's time for a random seemingly pointlss SkyGirl story called I've been near there. Not quite that dramatic a change, persay, but I attended a private school from 4th - 8th grade where the entire student body was roughly 250 (prek - 8th). I was in public school before that, but my parents made the switch at the end of 3rd grade cause I was getting beaten up all the time. They figured that that wouldn't happen as much in a Catholic school.
Then when it came time for my high school years I had to return to city schooling, where my freshman class was roughly 700 students. Quite overwhelming. What friends I had had in elementary school remembered me, but no longer viewed me as friend potential, and I can't say I had too many friends from Catholic schooling. It sucked, but in time I did manage to find friends and I can say I had many memorable moments from all of it (some better than others). I'm really in no position to give advice, but if I was to do so, I would say keep your chin up, cause you never know what the day will bring. It's all an adventure, really, ne? Who knows, you could meet people in the next few days that will become life long friends, if you give it a good honest chance.
And in agreement with SlamClick - If things don't pass, talk to a counselor.
...Now they face an even greater danger...Tyrannousaurs in F-14's!!
KAUST From United States of America, joined Jun 2009, 93 posts, RR: 26 Reply 19, posted (5 years 3 months 2 weeks 4 days 10 hours ago) and read 1977 times:
Quoting SkyGirl (Reply 18): However, this news topped with my ex's decision to let me know of his new girlfriend from tel aviv (nothing says I don't want a long distance relationship with you quite like dating a girl in another country)
SkyGirl, I know it is not quite the same, but I oh so feel your pain there. I met a young lady, on Myspace (maybe that was mistake #1) who lived in Houston. We got really close. I moved to Houston (but lived with an uncle), and on our first real emotional moment in person, she said how she is madly in love with a guy in Mississippi and plans to move there. D'oh! But, I learned from it, it made me stronger, and this shall make you stronger, as well.
"Houston, this is Apollo 8. We are now in Lunar orbit."
LHboyatDTW From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Reply 20, posted (5 years 3 months 2 weeks 4 days 10 hours ago) and read 1967 times:
I'm a bit bummed out now. Target may be terminating me due to them thinking I make for a crappy cart attendant since I'm not fast enough. Truth of the matter is that you have to do at least six things at once on the dot every hour, on the hour for 8 hours so I'd might as well have a little well deserved respect from the managers that want to see me fired by now. I've been applying for different jobs left and right for the past week now. I haven't heard back from any of them and I really don't want to put down on any job application that I was terminated, but would feel better about myself if I at least tried to rough it out. Though I feel all my attempts have been in vain and that nothing will change for the better in the short term. My classes start in a week so between that and the job hunt I'm feeling rather stressed from the time crunch.
I'd might as well go in to work tomorrow and give two weeks notice. I feel that anything I do at work, I will be terminated regardless. I've had this job for 4 months, not even and I hope to have a job that lasts me for at least 6 months. It's a little frustrating knowing that people think you slack off when you really do bust your ass off.
FlyDeltaJets87 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Reply 21, posted (5 years 3 months 2 weeks 4 days 9 hours ago) and read 1951 times:
If you would call slowly realizing you're probably not going to be medically qualified to fly for the USAF depressing, than yea, I've been rather bummed over that since going to the eye-doctor back in July. I was hoping I would be qualified for LASIK, and I technically am and the surgery can correct me to 20/20 in each eye, but the doctor can't guarantee it will get correct my depth perception problem - something the Air Force kinda' wants its pilots to have. The news wasn't unexpected and I still don't know for sure if it's totally correctable or not, so in the mean time I'm still fighting to keep my GPA up and work hard in school and ROTC (all factors that will count on my packet that I'll use to compete for a pilot slot). My feeling is still I'd rather earn the pilot slot on my own and then lose it on a medical disqualification - something beyond my control - then to have given up and never earned it all. On top of that, hopefully the hard work I've put in will still help me compete favorable to get into the FLEP, or Funded Legal Education Program to go to law school after college and then join USAF JAG Corps (Our Legal Program) and be a lawyer for the USAF.
I've grown up in a military family so I've done the whole changing school bit before. Looking at your age profile, you're at the age where it's most difficult. The last move we made was really difficult on my sister (who was in your age bracket when we made the move three years ago). I was actually lucky - we spent 10 years in Georgia. I was able to graduate from the same high school I started at. My dad waited till I graduated to retire from the USAF and take a new job in NC. Since I was done with school it didnt matter a whole lot to me - other than being really bored that summer with no friends in North Carolina until I moved down to Florida to start college. But my sister was in 7th grade when we made the move. Her best friend in Georgia lived right next door, and my sister was going to the same school her friend was. She had a pretty miserable summer as well and was often crying "I want to go back to Georgia! I hate you for making me move!", but once school started up in August, she got involved with the band and other school clubs and made friends pretty quickly and is now doing okay. Hopefully you'll adjust to the new environment and make friends quickly. So the best advice I can give you to help meet new people is get involved at school. Join clubs or play sports. They don't have them in high school but I joined a fraternity (not a Greek one, but a military one - National Society of Pershing Rifles), and the members of my pledge class and my fraternity are some of my closest friends.
Truth is, I've found the anticipation of change and new things is far worse than the change itself. Try to keep that in mind over the next couple days.
Quoting SkyGirl (Reply 18): Who knows, you could meet people in the next few days that will become life long friends, if you give it a good honest chance.
Although they say college is where you make your friends for life, I have a few friends from high school who I still keep in regular contact with well over three years since graduation - still the sort of friends I can talk to about anything anytime I need to.
Some of the best friends I've made have been when I've been thrown into life's twisted situations where I'm thrown in with a bunch of random strangers. Besides pledging Pershing Rifles, some of my best friends have come from when I attended Field Training last summer. Here you are dropped off by bus in Maxwell Air Force Base Alabama with 350 other cadets and you're thrown into a flight with 24 of them and you're being yelled out to get things done and to do it quickly. You bond quickly - maybe because you're forced to but you still bond a personal level and the relationships last well beyond gradutation day.
So trust me (and us). You will make friends. You'll probably find at least some, if not many, other students are in the same situation as you, and if you can bond through that - chances are you'll make friends rather quickly.
Nice! Yeah, mine didn't want a long distance relationship when I moved out here to DEN, but was kind enough to text me to tell me about his new girl overseas. Haha. I'm definatly better off without him, ne?
...Now they face an even greater danger...Tyrannousaurs in F-14's!!
KAUST From United States of America, joined Jun 2009, 93 posts, RR: 26 Reply 23, posted (5 years 3 months 2 weeks 4 days 9 hours ago) and read 1951 times:
Quoting SkyGirl (Reply 22): Nice! Yeah, mine didn't want a long distance relationship when I moved out here to DEN, but was kind enough to text me to tell me about his new girl overseas. Haha. I'm definatly better off without him, ne?
Exactly! That is how I look at it. Just remember, God does not close a door without first opening a window.
Incidentally, I am Rockies fan by association. Two of the greatest weeks I spent were in Colorado Springs/Denver, plus I have strong family ties to the area.
"Houston, this is Apollo 8. We are now in Lunar orbit."
HAWK21M From India, joined Jan 2001, 31457 posts, RR: 57 Reply 24, posted (5 years 3 months 2 weeks 4 days 3 hours ago) and read 1911 times:
Not me...But I have a buddy who gets frequently depressed very fast.I try to be the coach.
Its all in the mind.....Positive thinking is important.
Depression is the effect of a thought over a negative happening.....Change the outlook to positiveness & the Depression will weaken.
Think of the brighter side!
25 MattRB: Oh, yes, I forgot about that little tidbit as well. I may also be facing a layoff come October. Gotta love the airline industry. Oh well, it's only s
26 Dougloid: Is that how the young folks deliver the cold shoulder these days, Skygirl? Talk about a serious lack of huevos. You're better off without the mutt.
27 SkyGirl: Haha, I could tell you some fairly hilarious breakup stories that make this one look tame! Unfortunatly, I'm on my way to SFO for a couple of hours (
28 FLY2HMO: My ex just suddenly pretended she died. Literally. I wasn't gonna let her just suddenly act like that so I eventually tricked her into picking up the
29 ShyFlyer: The dude's seriously geographically challenged.
30 Af773atmsp: I just got back from orientation. Very fun and I met some people that look like good friends. The only problem is getting around school to my class is
31 AGM100: A little , I have something wrong with my feet. I am not sure what the hell is wrong but my feet ache all the fu***** time now. I have not changed sho
32 FlyDeltaJets87: That or he's just not a good liar. Take your pick. I have a similar story from high school. It wasn't a relationship because it never got that far, b
33 ShyFlyer: Oh he's something alright. I'd get banned if I posted it, though I have told her (I think).
34 Dougloid: I think he's a cowardly prick. Skygirl, you're better off without people who don't have the spine to tackle tough assignments in person. A text messa
35 FlyDeltaJets87: Yea, I've told her too, and I almost added it as option number 3, but I'll refrian and keep from posting my thoughts any further (out of respect for