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Starter Marriages: Good Or Bad?  
User currently offlineMcdougald From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 5 hours ago) and read 801 times:

The following are some excerpts from a USA Today article (Jan. 29, 2002) on 'starter marriages' which last "a few years and ends before children arrive." (Full article)

Any opinions?


"Divorcing in the first couple of years is a common pattern," says David Popenoe, a sociologist at Rutgers University and a founder of the National Marriage Project. But labeling starter marriages as a trend or a phenomenon isn't helpful, he says. "It establishes marriage as a low-commitment relationship, and that is exactly what most people do not want."

But there is an upside if the starter marriage leads to future stability. "Those coming out of starter marriages really learn about themselves, how they function in a relationship, about what marriage really means. And they divorce before there are kids, making a purposeful decision if the marriage is getting worse." And, she says, they do not create problematic stepfamilies when they marry again."





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User currently offlineSuperfly From Thailand, joined May 2000, 39898 posts, RR: 74
Reply 1, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 5 hours ago) and read 792 times:

Marriage is way over-rated!
Too many people do it for the dumbest reasons.
It's all material.
Women want it beside$ the obviou$ to show off a nice wedding, show off to there girlfriends and make there mothers, aunts and cousins get off there backs about doing it.
Some guys want it because they are afraid that someday they will become fat and bald and no lady will want them.



I think all marriages should she be a 3 year lease that would need to be renewed every three years untill there last child turns 18. Then they can get the 'lifetime' marrage.

Any guy who wants to do it before age 25 would need to be socked in the jaw and have a pep talk from a pimp.  Smile



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User currently offlineMarco From United Arab Emirates, joined Jul 2000, 4169 posts, RR: 12
Reply 2, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 5 hours ago) and read 788 times:

I totally disagree with Superfly. Marriage, if you know the person well enough, is a great thing. You always have someone there for you. Not everyone thinks about money. Money is just material. Also there's a word for those guys who want it because they are afraid that someday they will become fat and bald and no lady will want them, it's called insecurity. And superfly, not everyone's into prostitutes ya know, some of us actually find it disgusting.  Big grin


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User currently offlineSuperfly From Thailand, joined May 2000, 39898 posts, RR: 74
Reply 3, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 5 hours ago) and read 784 times:

Marco:
not everyone's into prostitutes ya know

When I say I was in favor of prosistutes?  Insane


Aren't you between ages 16-20?

I don't think you have much leverage in this debate kid.



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User currently offlineMarco From United Arab Emirates, joined Jul 2000, 4169 posts, RR: 12
Reply 4, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 5 hours ago) and read 781 times:

Aren't you between ages 16-20?

I don't think you have much leverage in this debate kid.


That was a cheap shot, eh superfly?

Anyway I'm 17, and not a kid. However I am quite surprised that you're between ages 26-35...

PS: Isn't the average age for losing one's virginity 15 in the USA now? Doesn't that sort of give me such leverage?  Smile




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User currently offlineSuperfly From Thailand, joined May 2000, 39898 posts, RR: 74
Reply 5, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 5 hours ago) and read 775 times:

Marco:
NOPE!
Not at all.
Banging and commitment are two separate things myfriend.

I agree with you about the ideal marrage when it's all about love and commitment. Unfortunatly that is less than15% of all marrages.
How do most marrages end?
Many older married couples stay married only because they can't afford divorce.
Current stats is not a good testimony for marrages today.



I am all in favor of the so called marrage tax penalty! Big grin



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User currently offlineMarco From United Arab Emirates, joined Jul 2000, 4169 posts, RR: 12
Reply 6, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 5 hours ago) and read 772 times:

LOL superfly you're something else  Smile/happy/getting dizzy

Anyways it's those 15% (low figure don't you think?) that I am talking about. If you get to know someone and get married to them, you have a good chance of living happily together forever! If not...



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User currently offlineSuperfly From Thailand, joined May 2000, 39898 posts, RR: 74
Reply 7, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 4 hours ago) and read 769 times:

Marco:
I agree!
I am sure Mrs. Marco will be a very lucky lady!  Laugh out loud

I noticed you live in U.A.E.
Is arranged marrage pretty common there?
Or are you on a westernized base there?




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User currently offlineMarco From United Arab Emirates, joined Jul 2000, 4169 posts, RR: 12
Reply 8, posted (12 years 6 months 2 weeks 5 days 4 hours ago) and read 766 times:

Thanks Superfly  Smile

Well arranged marriage is the only way nationals get married here, after all they are not allowed to interact with members of the opposite sex that much! Ironically, a lot of them can usually be seen in far away beach resorts with other (ahem) male companions, secretly of course.  Big grin

However the expats living in Dubai, including many Arabs do not face those problems, society is very modern here, relatively speaking of course!

Cheers!  Smile/happy/getting dizzy



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