Mcdougald From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Posted (11 years 2 months 2 days 16 hours ago) and read 634 times:
The following are some excerpts from a USA Today article (Jan. 29, 2002) on 'starter marriages' which last "a few years and ends before children arrive." (Full article)
"Divorcing in the first couple of years is a common pattern," says David Popenoe, a sociologist at Rutgers University and a founder of the National Marriage Project. But labeling starter marriages as a trend or a phenomenon isn't helpful, he says. "It establishes marriage as a low-commitment relationship, and that is exactly what most people do not want."
But there is an upside if the starter marriage leads to future stability. "Those coming out of starter marriages really learn about themselves, how they function in a relationship, about what marriage really means. And they divorce before there are kids, making a purposeful decision if the marriage is getting worse." And, she says, they do not create problematic stepfamilies when they marry again."
Superfly From Thailand, joined May 2000, 38485 posts, RR: 80 Reply 1, posted (11 years 2 months 2 days 15 hours ago) and read 625 times:
Marriage is way over-rated!
Too many people do it for the dumbest reasons.
It's all material.
Women want it beside$ the obviou$ to show off a nice wedding, show off to there girlfriends and make there mothers, aunts and cousins get off there backs about doing it.
Some guys want it because they are afraid that someday they will become fat and bald and no lady will want them.
I think all marriages should she be a 3 year lease that would need to be renewed every three years untill there last child turns 18. Then they can get the 'lifetime' marrage.
Any guy who wants to do it before age 25 would need to be socked in the jaw and have a pep talk from a pimp.
Marco From United Arab Emirates, joined Jul 2000, 4161 posts, RR: 18 Reply 2, posted (11 years 2 months 2 days 15 hours ago) and read 621 times:
I totally disagree with Superfly. Marriage, if you know the person well enough, is a great thing. You always have someone there for you. Not everyone thinks about money. Money is just material. Also there's a word for those guys who want it because they are afraid that someday they will become fat and bald and no lady will want them, it's called insecurity. And superfly, not everyone's into prostitutes ya know, some of us actually find it disgusting.
Superfly From Thailand, joined May 2000, 38485 posts, RR: 80 Reply 5, posted (11 years 2 months 2 days 15 hours ago) and read 608 times:
Not at all.
Banging and commitment are two separate things myfriend.
I agree with you about the ideal marrage when it's all about love and commitment. Unfortunatly that is less than15% of all marrages.
How do most marrages end?
Many older married couples stay married only because they can't afford divorce.
Current stats is not a good testimony for marrages today.
I am all in favor of the so called marrage tax penalty!
Marco From United Arab Emirates, joined Jul 2000, 4161 posts, RR: 18 Reply 8, posted (11 years 2 months 2 days 15 hours ago) and read 599 times:
Well arranged marriage is the only way nationals get married here, after all they are not allowed to interact with members of the opposite sex that much! Ironically, a lot of them can usually be seen in far away beach resorts with other (ahem) male companions, secretly of course.
However the expats living in Dubai, including many Arabs do not face those problems, society is very modern here, relatively speaking of course!