KLM672 From United States of America, joined Oct 1999, 2577 posts, RR: 3 Posted (6 years 8 months 4 days ago) and read 2818 times:
After about 5 years of on and off again college (life got in the way but I don't regret it) I'll finally have enough credits to get my associates degree in liberal arts at the local community college. I'll be graduating in May '09 and I have all the intentions of continuing on to a technical college for my BS in Business technology and management. This spring I will be taking extra classes to speed up the process and I have a meeting with the Business Chair person tomorrow to discuss classes. It has taken so long to get my associates I don't feel like walking and even going to graduation. I don't feel proud of getting the associates or of the college I attended. I mostly did it because it was cheap and the credits could be easily applied to all of my state's schools. Most of the teachers were OK but the rest of the staff aren't very helpful. In most of my classes I was one of the youngest ( I was 19-22 depending on the year). Please correct me if I am wrong, but there is very little advancement with just an associates degree in the work place not to mention that I will be attending college full time so I won't have time for a full time job afterward. My problem is my grandmother from Germany is planning on coming over to America to see me graduate. She usually comes every year, or every other year but the long flight gets harder each time.
She is getting pretty old (early 80's??) and I don't think she'll be around for another few years to see me walk at my bachelors. She doesn't seem to get the concept of the associates and I think she thinks that I will be getting my bachelors in May instead, I've tried to tell her that I still need to take more classes but she doesn't seem to understand, she always ask (and sometimes interrupt when I'm trying to explain) "tell me the date when it will be so I can book my ticket". I don't have the heart to tell her "listen Oma (German for Grandma for those of you who don't know), I don't want to go to graduation, its not that special to me". I don't really want to walk at graduation but should I just because she will be there? Put on that fake smile and pretend that that piece of paper means the world to me. I would rather be working (making money) on that day then that. In years past they have given a flower to each person and we are requested to give it to someone that has helped us along the way but really, i have no one to give it to. The college I attend is geared towards working adults and most of the speeches are about adults with kids who are married and who over come the odds of going back to college. When I receive my bachelors in a few years, that would be an accomplishment and will mean the world to me. Honestly, I am getting goosebumps just thinking about it.
FLY2HMO From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 1, posted (6 years 8 months 4 days ago) and read 2794 times:
I am graduating in 2 weeks and I'm in almost the same boat as you. I'm honestly not too excited about it, and it's not like there's going to be a huge party with loads of gorgeous women afterwards (because there's only like two girls in my school). I rather they just give me my diploma and get on with my life. My parents and grandparents are coming too and they too are more excited about it than I am but I've made it clear to them that I am not all honky dory about it and they understand where I'm coming from.
Quoting KLM672 (Thread starter): I don't have the heart to tell her "listen Oma (German for Grandma for those of you who don't know), I don't want to go to graduation, its not that special to me".
You have to be honest with her. Just tell her how you feel about it. If she still doesn't understand because she's not as mentally sharp as she used to be (been there done that), I suggest you tell her that she come see you on a different occasion.
ShyFlyer From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 2, posted (6 years 8 months 4 days ago) and read 2794 times:
Quoting KLM672 (Thread starter): I don't really want to walk at graduation but should I just because she will be there?
She obviously thinks it an important event, so much so that she is traveling all the way from Germany for it. Do it for her.
Quoting KLM672 (Thread starter): In years past they have given a flower to each person and we are requested to give it to someone that has helped us along the way but really, i have no one to give it to.
Yes you do, your Grandmother. Do it as a thank you for coming to see you.
KLM672 From United States of America, joined Oct 1999, 2577 posts, RR: 3
Reply 3, posted (6 years 8 months 4 days ago) and read 2788 times:
I'm glad I'm not the only one. As mean as it sounds, she can't and won't be there for every occasion in my life like marriage or my first child. Should I get married and have a kid this summer too?? She also asked this morning (I just got off the phone with her hence this thread) if I am going to even graduate if I am passing all my classes and such.. I just said yes and got the urge to just hang up on her.
YOWza From Canada, joined Jul 2005, 4999 posts, RR: 14
Reply 4, posted (6 years 8 months 3 days 20 hours ago) and read 2693 times:
Just go, it may not mean anything to you but it clearly means something to her. If she's willing to come all the way over even at her age clearly it's a worthwhile exercise. I almost didn't go to my graduation for my B.Eng and but my Mom got very upset so to keep the peace I went. IT's not going to kill you to go...
Quoting KLM672 (Reply 3): she can't and won't be there for every occasion in my life like marriage or my first child.