Silver1SWA From United States of America, joined Mar 2004, 4772 posts, RR: 26 Posted (5 years 2 months 1 week 7 hours ago) and read 7890 times:
So long story short, apparently in my ridiculous schedule of work, school etc. I have slipped and somehow managed to make my girlfriend of two years very unhappy to the point she needed to end things. Says we need space and time apart in order for any chance of it continuing and she emphasized IF it becomes something she wants again. What the heck does that mean? Am I supposed to just sit around and wait for a day that may never come? Hell no...but why not just end it completely instead of leaving a form of hope?
Anyway, just needed to vent...reach out etc...
Pretty effin bummed right now...Feel free to cheer me up!
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StasisLAX From United States of America, joined Jul 2007, 3280 posts, RR: 6
Reply 1, posted (5 years 2 months 1 week 7 hours ago) and read 7874 times:
Sometime people need your time to feel valued - because your time is valuable. Personally, you've been working a lot of hours and going to school to improve yourself, so I think the ex-GF needs to recognize that.
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San747 From United States of America, joined Dec 2004, 4941 posts, RR: 12
Reply 2, posted (5 years 2 months 1 week 5 hours ago) and read 7802 times:
I'm real sorry to hear that, Ryan! Shit happens... I'd suggest a nice day of spotting at SAN or LAX! That's what I did when I broke up with my last ex when I was in BOS... it helped me emotionally, settled me down, and I got some great shots too!
Quoting Silver1SWA (Thread starter): What the heck does that mean? Am I supposed to just sit around and wait for a day that may never come? Hell no...but why not just end it completely instead of leaving a form of hope? cry
Best case scenario, she wanted to let you down easy. Worst case scenario, she's trying to fuck with you and make you feel like shit. Either way, don't let it get to you...
Gocaps16 From Japan, joined Jan 2000, 4338 posts, RR: 21
Reply 5, posted (5 years 2 months 1 week 3 hours ago) and read 7743 times:
Sorry about the news. Just stick to your pri's. School and work. I can understand your busy schedule, especially working with the airlines. It can be tough working full-time and going to school. I do it, so I know how it feels. Your girlfriend seems to not understand, so maybe it is best to cut her loose. If she really loves ya and wants to be with you, she will wait. Things are like that in the Navy with myself, my girlfriend, she's Japanese, understands that making money and a proper education is always number one, and of course, I do have plenty of time to chill with her. Keep your head high, do what you do best. I know a lot of guys quitting school/job to be with their girl. In that case, with today's economy, it is not worth it. Of course, there are plenty of fish in the seas, you just have to find them.
Connies4ever From Canada, joined Feb 2006, 4066 posts, RR: 13
Reply 7, posted (5 years 2 months 1 week 2 hours ago) and read 7702 times:
Quoting Silver1SWA (Thread starter): Says we need space and time apart in order for any chance of it continuing and she emphasized IF it becomes something she wants again.
Quoting San747 (Reply 2): Best case scenario, she wanted to let you down easy. Worst case scenario, she's trying to fuck with you and make you feel like shit. Either way, don't let it get to you...
Tend to agree with San747. Been there, done that. Move on. If she really wants to get back with you at some point, she'll start campaigning. Life is too short to dwell on the 'might have been'. Live in the moment. That doesn't necessarily mean hop in the sack with the first available skirt, but focus on what is important NOW.
I sometimes think that women regard us as flies and like to pull our wings off. Except when we pick up the tab.
Aaron747 From Japan, joined Aug 2003, 8034 posts, RR: 26
Reply 8, posted (5 years 2 months 1 week 2 hours ago) and read 7678 times:
Quoting Connies4ever (Reply 7): That doesn't necessarily mean hop in the sack with the first available skirt
I dunno, in similar situations when I was a little younger, I always took plenty of welcome solace in the arms, legs, whatever of the next available woman - preferably someone who looked in any way similar to whoever just pissed off/confused me.
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Swiftski From Australia, joined Dec 2006, 2701 posts, RR: 2
Reply 10, posted (5 years 2 months 1 week 1 hour ago) and read 7648 times:
Quoting Silver1SWA (Thread starter): Says we need space and time apart in order for any chance of it continuing and she emphasized IF it becomes something she wants again. What the heck does that mean? Am I supposed to just sit around and wait for a day that may never come?
No - get on with things, and if you end up back together, all the better. I've had the same happen a few times. If you wait, it won't happen.
Dragon6172 From United States of America, joined Jul 2007, 1202 posts, RR: 0
Reply 11, posted (5 years 2 months 1 week ago) and read 7623 times:
Does she have a good looking friend or sister?
Seriously though... just keep on trucking. Work and educations is very important. If she can not see that you are trying to better yourself so that you can be a better provider for a family, then it is her loss. I would make a timeline for yourself. Allow a week for mourning and trying to get her back (if that is what you want.) Once that is up... move on and do not look back at all.
SOBHI51 From Saudi Arabia, joined Jun 2003, 3427 posts, RR: 17
Reply 12, posted (5 years 2 months 1 week ago) and read 7603 times:
So? She is not the only fish in the water. Go enjoy yourself. Find solace in the arms of another girl. I am sure one day you will look back at this episode and wonder why all this sadness was all about. Go find a nicer, more understanding and prettier one.
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Boeing74741R From United Kingdom, joined Apr 2007, 1157 posts, RR: 0
Reply 16, posted (5 years 2 months 6 days 21 hours ago) and read 7505 times:
Quoting FLY2HMO (Reply 4): That's BS. She's just not woman enough to tell you straight up its over. DO NOT make the mistake of hoping things will work out again because 99.99999% of the time they wont.
Same thing happened to my friend last year. Spent a few days apart, got back together, but was over for good a few days later after 3+ years.
Silver1SWA, don't let her mess you around. I think it's clear she wants to end it but doesn't know how to do it, so if she keeps things in suspense, just go for broke and blink first and make your own statement, then move on.
That said, I'm sorry to hear about it, but rest assured there are plenty of fish in the sea, and don't let this chapter put you off your work pattern or anything else.
RicciPettit From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 18, posted (5 years 2 months 6 days 20 hours ago) and read 7447 times:
A few months ago my girlfriend of three and a bit years ended things with me. At the time I was devastated because all I ever did was make time for her and do all I could to make her happy. Then one day she decided to just end it just like that, simply said she was bored.
But... now I'm so happy that those events transpired because it has made me realise just how horrible she was to me. Friends and family used to tell me, but I failed to see it, I was blinded. She never did anything for herself, she used me for allsorts and was just basically spoilt. She was horrible to me and I failed to see it until after we split. For example, when I took out a credit card she didn't speak to me for a day claiming I made a terrible mistake, she now has two credit cards maxed out. She also blew her lid when I bought my second car and traded in my first one, she now has done the same thing. I live 300 miles from any of my family and is quite a journey to go see them, so only get to see them once every two months or so, whereas she lives with her family. On our last visit down we went because my mother had been hospitalised, I delayed our return drive home by 30 MINUTES so I could visit my grandfather, she blew her fucking lid! Saying she just wanted to get home because she was homesick, we had only been on a quick visit for 2 days!
Worse thing was that she said basically she doesn't want to be in a relationship anymore and wants to enjoy the single life for a while but then two weeks afterwards was with someone else. Who she claims to have met just after we split.
Keep your head up high, because the whole breakup opened my eyes to a LOT of things, and lead me to meet Rachel, my new girlfriend, who makes me so much happier than the old one ever did and makes me realise all the things I was missing out on in the other relationship.
As a side note I've had a right chuckle recently, my ex recently put up pictures of her and her new boyfriend on Facebook. A large number of her "friends" have commented on them saying how she has downgraded so much and the new fellow looks like a fucking tortoise haha!!
So sorry to hear Ryan. Don't worry girls are like taxi cabs. You miss one, there is one coming along in a few mins. In the meantime Vegas is good advice. Plenty of women looking to do bad things with guys they don't know. In the meantime you get that lens worked out? You looked just as bummed about that than your gf!