Sponsor Message:
Non Aviation Forum
My Starred Topics | Profile | New Topic | Forum Index | Help | Search 
Why Are People So Afraid To Say "dies"  
User currently offlineKiwiandrew From New Zealand, joined Jun 2005, 8549 posts, RR: 13
Posted (5 years 1 month 1 week 2 hours ago) and read 2859 times:
Support Airliners.net - become a First Class Member!

I cant help but notice that there are several threads on the topic of " person XYZ passes" and I wonder why the euphemism ?

Don't people die anymore ?

Personally when I go I dont want people tiptoeing around the subject ( although of course when I am dead I wont actually be in a position to comment on it ) .


Moderation in all things ... including moderation ;-)
13 replies: All unread, jump to last
 
User currently offlineStealthZ From Australia, joined Feb 2005, 5689 posts, RR: 44
Reply 1, posted (5 years 1 month 1 week 2 hours ago) and read 2827 times:
Support Airliners.net - become a First Class Member!

Is it just me... or did you tiptoe around the subject as well??

Quoting Kiwiandrew (Thread starter):
Personally when I go




If your camera sends text messages, that could explain why your photos are rubbish!
User currently offlineKiwiandrew From New Zealand, joined Jun 2005, 8549 posts, RR: 13
Reply 2, posted (5 years 1 month 1 week 2 hours ago) and read 2828 times:
Support Airliners.net - become a First Class Member!



Quoting StealthZ (Reply 1):
Is it just me... or did you tiptoe around the subject as well??

Quoting Kiwiandrew (Thread starter):
Personally when I go

touché ! ... and wouldnt you know it , I am just outside the 'edit' DEADline


Ok , to rephrase without use of euphemism :

when I die , I dont want people tiptoeing around it



Moderation in all things ... including moderation ;-)
User currently offlineFr8Mech From United States of America, joined Sep 2005, 5396 posts, RR: 14
Reply 3, posted (5 years 1 month 1 week 2 hours ago) and read 2819 times:

The simple, yet complex, reason, in my opinion, is that when someone says the word die or dead or whatever, they are forced to face their own mortality.


When seconds count...the police are minutes away.
User currently offlineTheGov From United States of America, joined Apr 2003, 414 posts, RR: 3
Reply 4, posted (5 years 1 month 1 week 1 hour ago) and read 2796 times:

As someone in the funeral business, I prefer to use the phrase "pass away" versus "die". "Die" to me tends to be a little harsh. In my business, while we don't tend to tiptoe around death, we do attempt to make it a little more palatable, so to speak. I mean, people don't tend to visit a funeral home for grins and giggles, so we want to make their experience (as bad as it is) as comforting and reassuring as possible. So if the term "pass away" makes it a little easier to stomach, then I'm okay with it. Just as an aside, most hospitals, when they call us to come pick someone us, use the word "expired". Milk and cheese expire - not people.


Always a pallbearer, never a corpse.
User currently offlineElite From Hong Kong, joined Jun 2006, 2796 posts, RR: 10
Reply 5, posted (5 years 1 month 1 week 1 hour ago) and read 2783 times:

Different ways to say the same thing; some think it is more polite, some are just used to saying it one way or another. Doesn't really matter - you know what they're talking about.

User currently offlineSA7700 From South Africa, joined Dec 2003, 3431 posts, RR: 26
Reply 6, posted (5 years 1 month 6 days 22 hours ago) and read 2723 times:
AIRLINERS.NET CREW
HEAD MODERATOR



Quoting Kiwiandrew (Thread starter):
Don't people die anymore ?


I'm going out on a limb here... Maybe it has to do with the circumstances. My sister died due a self inflicted gunshot wound. It is/was violent and extremely traumatic. There was nothing peaceful about the event. I normally use the word "passed" when the end of a person's life was expected.


Rgds

SA7700



When you are doing stuff that nobody has done before, there is no manual – Kevin McCloud (Grand Designs)
User currently offlineLTU932 From Germany, joined Jan 2006, 13864 posts, RR: 50
Reply 7, posted (5 years 1 month 6 days 16 hours ago) and read 2623 times:

Must be something with the English speaking world though. In Germany, we mostly say "dead" and don't use any other word to avoid "dead", obviously in German. We try to avoid being "PC" about it, because it seems to me that avoiding the word "dead" in English is because otherwise, it's simply not "politically correct", even if "dead" is spot on accurate. That's just me speculating though.

[Edited 2009-07-18 15:14:28]

User currently offlineN229NW From United States of America, joined Sep 2004, 1945 posts, RR: 32
Reply 8, posted (5 years 1 month 6 days 13 hours ago) and read 2565 times:

I plan to croak, myself.

Not for a long time though, I hope.



It's people like you what cause unrest!
User currently offlineSmithAir747 From Canada, joined Jan 2004, 1628 posts, RR: 28
Reply 9, posted (5 years 1 month 6 days 10 hours ago) and read 2528 times:

The funeral business itself, at least here in the USA, uses so many euphemisms:

"Casket" is the word we use for what really is a coffin; the word "casket" comes from a French word describing a box for jewelry or other valuable items. Our caskets are fancy, frilly metallic or wood boxes (usually rectangular, with domed lids) costing as much as a used car (or in the case of Batesville Casket Company's "Promethean" gold-plated bronze casket, which Michael Jackson now lies in; this costs as much as a new US-made car).

In the UK and Europe, I have seen simpler, wooden coffins with anthropoidal or hexagonal shapes, which are more elegant in their simplicity. I would really rather be buried in a simple, Anglo/Irish-style wooden coffin (see Remeire, http://www.remeire.com ) or one like the Trappist monks at New Melleray Abbey in Iowa build (Trappist Caskets, http://www.trappistcaskets.com ).

In a US funeral home, the embalming room is called the "preparation room"; the casket (I mean coffin) showroom is called the "selection room" where coffins are arrayed like luxury cars in a showroom; the room where the wake is held is called a "chapel"...the list goes on.

Even the US hearse has been called often a "funeral coach"!

Do funeral homes in Europe have similar euphemisms or practices?

SmithAir747



I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made... (Psalm 139:14)
User currently offline7324ever From Serbia, joined May 2009, 563 posts, RR: 2
Reply 10, posted (5 years 1 month 6 days 10 hours ago) and read 2519 times:

Idk alota people dance around I guess passes just makes it sound more peaceful.


Anything the US and EU build the Russians do it better! i.e. TU-144 vs Concorde and TU-154 vs The 727...
User currently offlineFlyMIA From United States of America, joined Jun 2001, 7140 posts, RR: 9
Reply 11, posted (5 years 1 month 6 days 9 hours ago) and read 2498 times:

Just listen to the news, when something unexpected happened to someone or a violent death they say XXX died today, from gunshot etc.. But when someone who was 95 years old dies they say passed away etc.. But really I see the news using died a lot more. I think the circumstances do matter. It is just a nicer way to say it that's all.


"It was just four of us on the flight deck, trying to do our job" (Captain Al Haynes)
User currently offlineAlexEU From Serbia, joined Oct 2007, 1817 posts, RR: 2
Reply 12, posted (5 years 1 month 6 days 9 hours ago) and read 2495 times:

Because in Christianity death doesnt exist. Death is just a way to defeat death. The term ´´past out´´ should be used better.

User currently offlineIAirAllie From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 13, posted (5 years 1 month 6 days 8 hours ago) and read 2479 times:

I typically say my brother died. I'm not afraid of the term or death itself it's all very natural to me. Although passed on to me indicates moving on to the next phase of existence. I don't believe death is final I think it is the start of something better.

Top Of Page
Forum Index

This topic is archived and can not be replied to any more.

Printer friendly format

Similar topics:More similar topics...
Why Are People So Offended By Everything posted Fri Nov 26 2004 00:15:32 by Planespotterx
Why Are People Afraid Of Clowns? posted Sat Apr 22 2006 22:02:58 by SmithAir747
Talking Elevators - Why Are They So Rare? posted Fri Aug 15 2008 18:21:55 by 1337Delta764
Why Are Soldiers Coming Home To Kill Others? posted Sun Jan 13 2008 12:28:47 by EvilForce
Why Are Women So Complicated? posted Sun Jul 8 2007 20:28:34 by Wolverine
Why Are People Offended By A Second Grade Riddle? posted Wed Nov 8 2006 19:46:08 by Matt D
Are You So Greedy To Pickup 1c & 2c Coins? posted Tue Aug 1 2006 01:31:47 by Rammstein
Why Are Hatchbacks So Popular In Europe? posted Tue Apr 25 2006 04:06:35 by Fanoftristars
Why Are Women So Moody? posted Thu Dec 8 2005 20:03:53 by Dc10s4ever
Why Are They Not Allowed To Loot The Stores? posted Mon Sep 5 2005 19:09:31 by Airlinerfreak