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User currently offlineA318 From Bahamas, joined Jan 2008, 244 posts, RR: 0
Posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 1 day 4 hours ago) and read 1888 times:

Anyone here have any success stories? Cause I sure as hell dont...

I recently joined an online dating website and thought it was going to be so easy to meet other men. I went on three 'dates' and I was disappointed with all three. None of the guys acted and looked as their profiles made them out to be. One guy lied about his height which really bothered me. Another even asked me if he looked the same as he does in his pictures- to which I responded with a big fat no. Why don't people just tell the truth?

Then I started talking to a guy who was really cool. We talked for hours and hours and I thought that maybe I was lucky finally. We decided to meet up for lunch and I swear to you, I was never so nervous in my entire life! That was really strange, but it went very, very well. We both agreed that we wanted to see each other again. I was literally one block away and he already started sending me text messages telling me how awesome it was blah blah blah blah. Of course, I was very excited.

Naturally, the next day he asked me if he could 'be honest' with me. I said sure, and he told me that deep down he was still hung up on his ex and that the thought of dating/being in any sort of relationship scared him. I told him we had met up for lunch just one time! At no point did I mention any sort of relationship, etc.

Why can't people just be honest from the getgo????????

Yours truly,
online dating sucks


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User currently offlineWILCO737 From Greenland, joined Jun 2004, 8899 posts, RR: 76
Reply 1, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 1 day 4 hours ago) and read 1881 times:
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Quoting A318 (Thread starter):
Why can't people just be honest from the getgo????????

Because it is the internet. This is the place where almost everybody isn't telling the truth... Especially on these dating sites... Everybody wants to be presented better than they actually are to get more attention.

I never tried these online dating sites and I intend to keep it that way.

wilco737



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User currently offlineMBMBOS From United States of America, joined May 2000, 2597 posts, RR: 1
Reply 2, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 1 day 4 hours ago) and read 1862 times:

I am of the opinion that online dating is not very different than dating in any other form. In my experience I have met many people who, a) lacked self awareness; b) did not possess the traits of character I value (honesty, directness, fairness, etc.); or, c) simply did not have chemistry with me.

I just think in the world of dating you've got to kiss a lot of frogs no matter what. The advantage of online dating is you can weed through a portion of the toads without expending additional time and money (as in meeting for dinner).

It's a numbers game and I think a part of you has to be smart about how you play it, leaving room for what your heart says too.

I have a couple of friends who have had very successful experiences meeting love interests online. They also met their share of creeps, but they understood they had to manage to process in order to find the occasional prince or princess hidden amongst all those tadpoles.

- MBM


User currently offlineFLY2HMO From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 3, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 1 day 3 hours ago) and read 1855 times:



Quoting A318 (Thread starter):
Anyone here have any success stories? Cause I sure as hell dont...

Eh, I've dated several online. All the girls had serious issues. The most I went with many of them was as f-buddies. Most of them were fun in bed but elsewhere they were just downright creepy. And one thing that pissed me off is that, if I hadn't put the effort to contact girls myself, I only seemed to attract the fat chicks. And I'm sorry, but I'm not a fan of cushion for the pushin'  yuck  I guess it has a lot to do with where you are located as well. I did most of my online dating in PRC which is full of trailer trash, crackwhores, and other very desirable women.  Yeah sure

All of my most memorable and successful dates were done the old fashioned way. I guess that goes to say something.


User currently offlineMarSciGuy From United States of America, joined Jun 2007, 549 posts, RR: 0
Reply 4, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 1 day 3 hours ago) and read 1836 times:



Quoting A318 (Thread starter):
Anyone here have any success stories? Cause I sure as hell dont...

I think my fiancee would think so  Wink

We met on Myspace, not really through an online dating site, and emailed back and forth for nearly a year before actually meeting and starting dating, so not sure if you would qualify that as online dating, but we did initially meet via the net. Everything is going great  Smile

Originally I was rather nervous as I wasn't so sure about the whole dating over the net concept, but it all worked out in my case at least.

Good luck!



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User currently offlineDocLightning From United States of America, joined Nov 2005, 18681 posts, RR: 58
Reply 5, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 1 day 3 hours ago) and read 1825 times:



Quoting A318 (Thread starter):


Anyone here have any success stories? Cause I sure as hell dont...

Yes. My partner, the man who I love more than anyone in the world. We met on Manhunt.

Yup, we met on a gay hookup website. We really just got together to have dinner and then go and...uh...do what boys do. And we did. But it clicked and then he called me back. And there was a second date, and a third one, and a 4th one, and a 10th one and pretty soon we were spending every night together and we were madly in love.

We enjoy one of the most amazing relationships together that I've ever seen from any couple, straight or gay.

Online dating is like a thrift store (well, dating in general is). You can't go in with expectations. You have to go in with an open mind and a lot of patience and you would be amazed at what can happen.


User currently offlineGulfStreamGirl From Canada, joined Feb 2006, 203 posts, RR: 1
Reply 6, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 1 day 3 hours ago) and read 1820 times:



Quoting A318 (Thread starter):
Anyone here have any success stories? Cause I sure as hell dont...

I dont think the odds of succsess differ from friends trying to set you up on dates,i mean sure people can lie on thier profile , but so can a guy i meet in a club/bar/lounge its no different. I personally havent tried it , nor do i think i want to , one thing that gets me are the soooooooooooooo many guys now taking pictures of themselves in mirrors and posing , lol , i find those funny, its like the "in" thing to do now.



 conehead 



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User currently offlineLHR380 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 7, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 1 day 2 hours ago) and read 1802 times:



Quoting DocLightning (Reply 5):
and then go and...uh...do what boys do

Watch TV and drink beer?  Wink

Would you believe the first guy I fell for and dated, I actually met on this website.

Have tried the online dating thing, met one guy and had a few drinks, emailed and texted a lot, and then he said he was still hung up on his ex and did not want a relationship. Others just want 1 thing, and I don't meet with those ones.

Online for me helps with my shyness in a way, I cant chat easily with someone I have never met over the net, where as in person I would never be able to pluck up the courage to go and talk to a guy.

Life does throw some nice hurdles for us to jump over to get the guy/girl of our dreams.


User currently offlineSunshine79 From UK - England, joined Jan 2006, 1759 posts, RR: 31
Reply 8, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 1 day 2 hours ago) and read 1788 times:

I've tried online dating on and off for the past 8 years and I'm still single. I've only ever had one bf that I didnt meet online and he was the worst out of the guy's I've dated. Although I class myself as normal (well, I hope I am, lol), I seem to attract the stange and the weirdo's. I think I'm going to quit online dating and just wait until the right guy comes along.


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User currently offlineWILCO737 From Greenland, joined Jun 2004, 8899 posts, RR: 76
Reply 9, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 1 day 2 hours ago) and read 1789 times:
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Quoting Sunshine79 (Reply 8):
I think I'm going to quit online dating and just wait until the right guy comes along.

 wave  Have you tried here on a.net? Big grin Here are many men, and many not gay men Big grin

wilco737



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User currently offlineLHR380 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 10, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 1 day 2 hours ago) and read 1780 times:



Quoting WILCO737 (Reply 9):
   Have you tried here on a.net?  Here are many men, and many not gay men 

Start a dating thread Wilco  Smile

Good thing about meeting a guy (or girl) here, you have something to talk about instantly lol


User currently offlineWILCO737 From Greenland, joined Jun 2004, 8899 posts, RR: 76
Reply 11, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 1 day 2 hours ago) and read 1775 times:
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Quoting LHR380 (Reply 10):
Start a dating thread Wilco  

Why not? Posting if gay, straight or bi and then telling what you are looking for. Easy to contact the other and you know the location. Here we go Big grin

Quoting LHR380 (Reply 10):
Good thing about meeting a guy (or girl) here, you have something to talk about instantly lol

True... Big grin

wilco737



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User currently offlineLHR380 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 12, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 1 day 2 hours ago) and read 1762 times:



Quoting WILCO737 (Reply 11):
Why not? Posting if gay, straight or bi and then telling what you are looking for. Easy to contact the other and you know the location. Here we go 

Go on then  Smile


User currently offlineWILCO737 From Greenland, joined Jun 2004, 8899 posts, RR: 76
Reply 13, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 1 day 2 hours ago) and read 1759 times:
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Quoting LHR380 (Reply 12):
Go on then  

Nah... I guess there aren't a lot of women from Germany here on a.net. Actually I don't know of any... And relationships over huge distances aren't good... not good...

I read in the newspaper lately that more and more people find their loved ones over the internet. So it is a trend which is getting stronger and stronger. I mean, we all use the internet, most of us use Facebook, myspace or something like that to meet people or to talk to people. And I guess a lot of relationships grew out of that.
I am sure you can meet a lot of weird people there, but MAYBE the one and only you are looking for is there Big grin

wilco737



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User currently offlineSunshine79 From UK - England, joined Jan 2006, 1759 posts, RR: 31
Reply 14, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 1 day 2 hours ago) and read 1755 times:



Quoting WILCO737 (Reply 9):
Have you tried here on a.net?

Yes, once and failed miserably, lol.



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User currently offlineWILCO737 From Greenland, joined Jun 2004, 8899 posts, RR: 76
Reply 15, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 1 day 2 hours ago) and read 1752 times:
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Quoting Sunshine79 (Reply 14):
Yes, once and failed miserably, lol.

Oops, ok Big grin I hope the next will be better and with more luck  crossfingers 

wilco737



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User currently onlineBMI727 From United States of America, joined Feb 2009, 15459 posts, RR: 26
Reply 16, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 1 day 2 hours ago) and read 1749 times:



Quoting Sunshine79 (Reply 14):
Yes, once and failed miserably, lol.

Let me guess, you forgot the snowglobe didn't you.  Cool



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User currently offlineSunshine79 From UK - England, joined Jan 2006, 1759 posts, RR: 31
Reply 17, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 1 day 2 hours ago) and read 1746 times:



Quoting BMI727 (Reply 16):
Let me guess, you forgot the snowglobe didn't you.

Yep, I totally forgot the snowglobe. No snowglobe, no date, fact!  Big grin



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User currently offlineHAWK21M From India, joined Jan 2001, 31568 posts, RR: 57
Reply 18, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 1 day 2 hours ago) and read 1732 times:



Quoting A318 (Thread starter):
Why can't people just be honest from the getgo????????

Thats cause this is the Internet.Ever wondered why many don't reveal their true Identities or facts.Look at Anet itself.
Probably they are scared of getting into trouble while posting or just have something to hide.

Finally speaking of these dating sites....You'll need to meet the person to know them better,so its just a bridge to the boat & not the boat to cross the river  Smile

If you ask me better to join a local club.

regds
MEL.



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User currently offlineShyFlyer From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 19, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 20 hours ago) and read 1660 times:

The way I see it, online dating has two advantages over traditional methods. 1) You have the opportunity to meet people that otherwise you might not have had the chance to come into contact with either due to geography or different social circles and 2) You have at least a pretty good chance that they are in fact single and looking.

As for myself, online dating has been a valuable learning experience, even though I didn't meet "the one" through such methods.

Quoting HAWK21M (Reply 18):
You'll need to meet the person to know them better,so its just a bridge to the boat & not the boat to cross the river

Very clever way of phrasing it.  bigthumbsup 


User currently offlineAdam T. From United States of America, joined Jun 2000, 957 posts, RR: 6
Reply 20, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 20 hours ago) and read 1650 times:

I've had mixed results as well - to be honest, most "dates" i've had from meeting guys on the internet were not that good - however two of the last men that I dated I did meet on the internet and we hit it off great.

I just recently moved again to Houston and decided to try a different approach. I am meeting people online but instead of saying I want to meet specifically for a date I just say "Hey, lets meet for a drink and just see if there is any interest" - if so, very cool, if not, no worries, maybe we can be friends. I am finding that is working out better than before because I have made some friends in the process without burning bridges.

I will say I actually prefer online dating, chatting as opposed to the whole walking around the bar wondering if that good looking guy will talk to you or if the guy he is hanging out with is his bf.

Just my two cents on the issue


User currently offlineSuperfly From Thailand, joined May 2000, 39478 posts, RR: 75
Reply 21, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 19 hours ago) and read 1631 times:

I am so good looking I've never had to use a dating site.
All I have to do is walk outside and the women flock to me.

Quoting A318 (Thread starter):

Seeing that you live in the Bahamas and work as a flight attendant, shouldn't it be easy to hook up as well as find a partner?



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User currently onlineTSS From United States of America, joined Dec 2006, 3047 posts, RR: 5
Reply 22, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 18 hours ago) and read 1604 times:



Quoting A318 (Thread starter):
One guy lied about his height which really bothered me.

That's the case with ALL personal ads. It's also the reason why when I tell people I'm 6'1 I make sure to add "that's 'reality' 6'1, not 'personal ad' 6'1 which is more like 5'9". Big grin

Quoting A318 (Thread starter):
Why don't people just tell the truth?

I've done so, and got absolutely zero responses.

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 5):
Online dating is like a thrift store (well, dating in general is). You can't go in with expectations. You have to go in with an open mind and a lot of patience and you would be amazed at what can happen.

Absolutely brilliant analogy! Right on, Doc!  bigthumbsup 

Quoting Superfly (Reply 21):
All I have to do is walk outside and the women flock to me.

It's that wicked grin of yours, 'Fly.  Wink

Quoting Superfly (Reply 21):
Seeing that you live in the Bahamas and work as a flight attendant, shouldn't it be easy to hook up as well as find a partner?

Hook up, yes, find a partner, no. Everybody is fun when they're on vacation, but how many of those fun guys are willing or able to relocate to the Bahamas full-time, let alone self-confident enough to deal with a partner who's job (I assume) requires them to stay overnight away from home a few nights a week?



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User currently offlineVaporlock From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 23, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 16 hours ago) and read 1586 times:



Quoting Superfly (Reply 21):
I am so good looking I've never had to use a dating site.
All I have to do is walk outside and the women flock to me.

Mr. Fly.... thanks for making my day!!! You always tell it like it is... hehe

Oh, and don't forget about that amazing car of yours with the huge back seat!!!  bouncy 

Vaps


User currently offlineOA412 From United States of America, joined Dec 2000, 5225 posts, RR: 25
Reply 24, posted (4 years 7 months 1 week 15 hours ago) and read 1564 times:

I've found online dating to be a mixed bag. I've met some nice guys but a lot have also been major letdowns. I definitely agree with others who say that you can't go in with too many expectations.

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 5):
We met on Manhunt.

Yup, we met on a gay hookup website. We really just got together to have dinner and then go and...uh...do what boys do. And we did.

Slut!  Big grin  duck 



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25 MadameConcorde : This would be a nice idea! The only trouble is we are all in different parts of the world. Other than that I would not trust online dating. People ca
26 Superfly : Hmmmm sounds like he's getting lots of sex without the drama and dealing with that persons flaws. Sounds like the ideal relationship. That does help.
27 TSS : Very true! I can't tell you the number of times I've seen guys try to pass off photos from 1980s issues of Torso or Advocate Men as current photos of
28 DocLightning : You rang?
29 RGElectra80 : When I lived in Miami most of last year, I managed to go on a few dates through an online dating site. Then I moved back to Austin and decided to chec
30 Superfly : I do. The only difference is that I'm 165 pounds heavier than I was in August of 1985. Still have the same smile though.
31 TSS : Best laugh I've had all day!
32 OA412 :
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