SIA fan From Indonesia, joined Aug 2000, 728 posts, RR: 1 Posted (11 years 10 months 3 weeks 6 days 18 hours ago) and read 807 times:
Okay here goes,
I have a friend say his name is D..who was also my x-roommate during my boarding school days..and now we went to the same college. We were good friends but now kinda drifted apart from each other up to the point that i'm not that comfortable anymore being left alone with him in the same room without our friends. We stay in the same social circles and basically have the same friends.
Well my best friend (let's call him N) also considers D as his best friend...hmm..but I think I'm closer to N than N to D. N knows that I don't like D that much.
Anyway last night, one of my friends (we call her M) told me that D also doesn't like me. In fact he was trying to spread some bad things about me. Well M's best friend, M2, is having an affair with some married guy, and M2 is also close to D so she told D all about it.
D warned M2 not to say much to M because M might tell me the whole story and then the whole city will know about M2's affair. So D is now accusing me of having a big mouth who spread gossips.
Now, I'm like very mad at D. I think he's like the biggest hypocrite on earth. I mean I helped him a lot..then and now...and even sometimes he's still asking me for help and I gladly help him...sincerely (even though I don't like him a bit)
So now I'm dying to tell this to N. I want to know what is his reaction? Coz I think he's overly impressed by D. I want him to know that D is the biggest hypocrite on earth. Or maybe N already knows that D doesn't like me. Who knows?
Well I really really really want to tell N about D but my other friend (R) advises me against it. Coz it involved M too, and M could get in trouble if N told D about it.
So what do you guys think? Should I tell N or not? Please help!
TNboy From Australia, joined Mar 2002, 1131 posts, RR: 20
Reply 1, posted (11 years 10 months 3 weeks 6 days 18 hours ago) and read 789 times:
When I read this, I thought you were 14! Just forget about reacting to everyone and everything, and try to be yourself. Be mates with the ones you like and are comfortable with, and be polite but more distant to the others. Stop being stretched about by everyone - and give up on the alphabet, you've given me a headache!
RogueTrader From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 2, posted (11 years 10 months 3 weeks 6 days 10 hours ago) and read 770 times:
I can't understand the algebraic use of letters, but goodness knows that TNboy's advice has got me this far. It sounds trite, but whenever I'm not sure how to treat others, I try to think how I would like to be treated.
If you try to do things to hurt others, I've found that you yourself can expect to get hurt. This is what my sophomore principal told me when she caught me skipping class for the 603rd time, "RogueTrader, what comes around goes around."