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Gay PDA - Accepted Where You Live?  
User currently offlineozglobal From France, joined Nov 2004, 2711 posts, RR: 4
Posted (2 years 4 months 4 days 15 hours ago) and read 2112 times:

So it's spring in Paris and there are plenty of beautiful sunny days starting to appear. Paris has 12,5 Million inhabitants and 35 Million annual visitors. The PDA (public displays of affection) were out in force this sunny weekend and a noticeable amount of it between gay couples. My guess its that they're about 40% locals and about 60% visitors, which begs the question: do people come to Paris as gay couples to feel freer than they do back home to indulge in a little PDA, or is it because they're on vacation and it's a 'romantic weekend away'?

A little PDA (hetro or homo) can be charming; too much and it's quickly in the 'get a room' category.

Anyway, is gay PDA pretty much accepted were you live or is it still taboo. Here, no-one even seems to notice it in the street or the parks.

[Edited 2012-03-25 15:20:35]

[Edited 2012-03-25 15:22:16]


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User currently offlineeinsteinboricua From Puerto Rico, joined Apr 2010, 2993 posts, RR: 8
Reply 1, posted (2 years 4 months 4 days 15 hours ago) and read 2084 times:

It's a taboo. But I get irked when people say they are disgusted when they see a pair doing some PDA. If a man and woman can show some, I don't see why gays and lesbians can't show some as well. It's love and I fully support it.


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User currently offlineWestJet747 From Canada, joined Aug 2011, 1830 posts, RR: 10
Reply 2, posted (2 years 4 months 4 days 15 hours ago) and read 2081 times:

I see it quite a bit where I live (I split my time between two mid-sized cities in Southern Ontario) so I'd say it's freely accepted. I've never seen any confrontation come from it. I'm sure it helps that I live in a country where homosexuals are free to marry. Either way, it doesn't bother me in the slightest.

But it doesn't matter whether they're gay or straight, too much PDA is annoying. I can deal with holding hands, some kisses here and there...but if you're going to start putting your tongue down the other's throat it needs to be taken elsewhere. Last week I witnessed a teenage boy and girl almost rounding second base on a bench by my office building and I was not particularly fond of seeing it. My company's campus is within a "technology park" so it was a bit of a surprise to see teenagers there at all, let alone aggressively showing their affection for one another.



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User currently offlineajd1992 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 3, posted (2 years 4 months 4 days 15 hours ago) and read 2059 times:

Not really accepted. It's kind of a "we know it's there but we don't want to see it" sort of attitude in this country.

Although, that's being said, regardless of gay or not gay, I do not want to see people playing tonsil tennis. Not appropriate for out in public.


User currently offlineRara From Germany, joined Jan 2007, 2057 posts, RR: 2
Reply 4, posted (2 years 4 months 4 days 15 hours ago) and read 2059 times:

Here in Berlin: no issue.


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User currently offlineBAViscount From United Kingdom, joined Mar 2004, 2338 posts, RR: 4
Reply 5, posted (2 years 4 months 4 days 15 hours ago) and read 2041 times:

Quoting WestJet747 (Reply 2):
But it doesn't matter whether they're gay or straight, too much PDA is annoying.

Agreed, but that's probably just the British in me! We generally don't like to see things happening publically that we think should only happen in the privacy of our own homes!

However, as a gay man I would have to say that there are only certain areas of London (and other major cities) where gay PDA would be tolerated. I certainly wouldn't dare hold my partner's hand in most areas of London, let alone give him even as much as a peck on the cheek! In certain areas of the West End and some other areas it would be a different matter. Being gay is generally tolerated more here than it ever was, although it seems that we've yet to reach the stage where publically showing affection for someone of the same sex is acceptable. It's a case of "What you do behind closed doors is your business, just don't let me see it"!



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User currently offlinealoges From Germany, joined Jan 2006, 8689 posts, RR: 43
Reply 6, posted (2 years 4 months 4 days 14 hours ago) and read 2025 times:

Honestly, I have no idea. I live in what's considered the gay capital of Germany, so I suppose it's fine with most people. But since my only long-term memory of a "PDA" is of two people being very affectionate indeed near a light rail stop in Hamburg, I don't seem to care about that sort of thing or other people's reactions to it.   


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User currently offlinevegetables2001 From UK - England, joined Mar 2012, 93 posts, RR: 0
Reply 7, posted (2 years 4 months 4 days 13 hours ago) and read 2000 times:

Quoting ozglobal (Thread starter):
A little PDA (hetro or homo) can be charming;

It's childish, unless you're 16 or under there's really no excuse for it. Don't want to see it gay or straight.

Quoting ozglobal (Thread starter):
is gay PDA pretty much accepted were you live or is it still taboo

Where I live I'd give gay guys about 10 nano-seconds before something was said or worse. The locals might tolerate lesbians, but only if they're pretty.



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User currently offlineltbewr From United States of America, joined Jan 2004, 13039 posts, RR: 12
Reply 8, posted (2 years 4 months 4 days 10 hours ago) and read 1903 times:

Working in NY City (Manhattan specifically) as I have for many years, a place with sections that are among the most 'Gay Friendly' one can find, I would say certain reasonable expressions of PDA are generally accepted.

User currently offlineAirCanada787 From Canada, joined Nov 2010, 281 posts, RR: 0
Reply 9, posted (2 years 4 months 4 days 10 hours ago) and read 1886 times:

In my city there are a few areas where you wouldn't have any gay PDA activity but for the most part its not an issue. That said I often feel like its the twinky types the run into the most issues with this type of thing. People seem more willing to make comments about two twinks holding hands than two beefy guys. This whole threat reminded me of this picture actually:

http://s3.amazonaws.com/data.tumblr....ure=O7gZbpkgGF9MelmQZr4wNPSQ0WE%3D

Quoting WestJet747 (Reply 2):
But it doesn't matter whether they're gay or straight, too much PDA is annoying. I can deal with holding hands, some kisses here and there...but if you're going to start putting your tongue down the other's throat it needs to be taken elsewhere.

  

I completely agree with that.

Quoting vegetables2001 (Reply 7):
Quoting ozglobal (Thread starter):
A little PDA (hetro or homo) can be charming;

It's childish, unless you're 16 or under there's really no excuse for it. Don't want to see it gay or straight.

That depends on what you define as a PDA. Is holding hands childish? I don't think it is at all.



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User currently offlinemariner From New Zealand, joined Nov 2001, 25006 posts, RR: 85
Reply 10, posted (2 years 4 months 4 days 9 hours ago) and read 1863 times:
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Quoting AirCanada787 (Reply 9):
That depends on what you define as a PDA. Is holding hands childish? I don't think it is at all.

My partner and I frequently walked arm-in-arm in Paris. Never quite went as far as these two footballers in France, though:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hIBz1elDLjk

 

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[Edited 2012-03-25 21:33:03]


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User currently offlineDocLightning From United States of America, joined Nov 2005, 19404 posts, RR: 58
Reply 11, posted (2 years 4 months 4 days 8 hours ago) and read 1828 times:

San Francisco, it's not only accepted, but I swear some of them have tip buckets!  

User currently offlineManuCH From Switzerland, joined Jun 2005, 3011 posts, RR: 47
Reply 12, posted (2 years 4 months 4 days 8 hours ago) and read 1827 times:
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Quoting ozglobal (Thread starter):
do people come to Paris as gay couples to feel freer than they do back home to indulge in a little PDA, or is it because they're on vacation and it's a 'romantic weekend away'?

Well, there's this idea that in a big city, PDA is widely accepted, be it hetero or homo. I'm inclined to believe that the steep growth of PDAs you see during the summer is by tourists coming from smaller towns where they're afraid to do it.

As far as I'm concerned, I think showing PDA is outside of the scope of a public place. The most I'd find acceptable is holding hands or an occasional cheek kiss, but I wouldn't do that either (regardless of whether it's with a man or with a woman). I'm not personally disturbed by what others do, though.



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User currently offlineFingerLakerAv8r From United States of America, joined May 2011, 259 posts, RR: 0
Reply 13, posted (2 years 4 months 4 days 2 hours ago) and read 1718 times:

Considering my nearest neighbor is 1/4 mile away I can say I haven't seen any pda where I Iive 

User currently onlineKiwiRob From New Zealand, joined Jun 2005, 7123 posts, RR: 3
Reply 14, posted (2 years 4 months 4 days 1 hour ago) and read 1706 times:

I've never seen a gay couple in my town, populations about 26,000 people so I guess there must be some gay folks here but I think they pretty much keep to themselves.

User currently offline1stfl94 From United Kingdom, joined May 2006, 1455 posts, RR: 0
Reply 15, posted (2 years 4 months 3 days 20 hours ago) and read 1623 times:

In Brighton it's pretty accepted for guys except on a couple of the main streets on a Saturday night. I've maybe had one piece of abuse in five years. For girls its a different story, quite a few of my lesbian and bi friends have had shouts an taunts from men and women for just holding hands.

User currently offlineRobertNL070 From Netherlands, joined Sep 2003, 4532 posts, RR: 10
Reply 16, posted (2 years 4 months 3 days 17 hours ago) and read 1565 times:

Quoting vegetables2001 (Reply 7):
Where I live I'd give gay guys about 10 nano-seconds before something was said or worse.



What's the "or worse"?

Remind me never to go to your neck of the woods.

(Gay) PDA's are pretty much accepted here. However, anything more major than holding hands and the occasional peck on the cheek I find a tad tacky.



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User currently offlineDocLightning From United States of America, joined Nov 2005, 19404 posts, RR: 58
Reply 17, posted (2 years 4 months 3 days 16 hours ago) and read 1544 times:

Quoting RobertNL070 (Reply 16):
What's the "or worse"?

Beatings, most likely. Possibly to death. For reasons that pass understanding, certain men feel that the very existence of gay men is a horror so threatening to their own masculinity that it must be literally stamped out.


User currently offlinemariner From New Zealand, joined Nov 2001, 25006 posts, RR: 85
Reply 18, posted (2 years 4 months 3 days 16 hours ago) and read 1536 times:
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Quoting DocLightning (Reply 17):
Beatings, most likely. Possibly to death. For reasons that pass understanding, certain men feel that the very existence of gay men is a horror so threatening to their own masculinity that it must be literally stamped out.

  

I know men in this neck of the woods (quite pleasant to me, some friends), who won't even go for a colonoscopy because they are so affronted by the idea of anything up their bum.

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User currently offlineDocLightning From United States of America, joined Nov 2005, 19404 posts, RR: 58
Reply 19, posted (2 years 4 months 3 days 16 hours ago) and read 1519 times:

Quoting mariner (Reply 18):
I know men in this neck of the woods (quite pleasant to me, some friends), who won't even go for a colonoscopy because they are so affronted by the idea of anything up their bum.

One wonders if they might benefit from it...


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