toby25 From Hong Kong, joined May 2008, 81 posts, RR: 0 Posted (3 years 1 month 1 week 4 days 2 hours ago) and read 2417 times:
I have just moved to HK and want to take advantage of being in this part of the world. I have always wanted to travel to Singapore and explore the city. However my partner is busy working and I haven’t made many friends here – or friends close enough to go abroad with.
So would you rather travel alone or with someone else? I suppose it’s fun travelling with a friend but then maybe you wouldn’t have the freedom to do what you want (?).
Are there any advantages to travelling alone? – do you prefer it?
Just trying to decide whether to venture out alone or stay back ^^
aloges From Germany, joined Jan 2006, 8956 posts, RR: 41
Reply 1, posted (3 years 1 month 1 week 4 days 1 hour ago) and read 2407 times:
I travel a lot on my own and yes, it does have its advantages. For instance, you're completely free to do whatever you want - whether that is sleeping in to get rid of your jet lag or catching that boat at five in the morning. You can find peace and quiet when you want it without being rude by ignoring your travel companion(s), you can spend as much time as you please anywhere you want and you can change plans on a whim - the only one ever affected is you. You are of course on your own when you're travelling alone, but since many other people do the same, you do get to chat.
It may seem daunting at first, but once you've got some experience, it does become natural.
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AF1624 From France, joined Jul 2006, 689 posts, RR: 0
Reply 2, posted (3 years 1 month 1 week 4 days 1 hour ago) and read 2401 times:
I love travelling alone, for the above reasons, and for the fact that you can think for yourself without having to be disturbed by anyone. You can get a deeper "feel" of the places you visit simply because of the total absence of peer pressure.
And when you don't want to be alone anymore, you can always go to a pub/bar/restaurant/shop and talk to the people. I find it is easier to talk to the locals when you're alone then when you're in a group. Groups have a strong tendency to stay together and do everything together. That, you can avoid.
So yes, travelling alone has its advantages. As does travelling with a significant other, a friend, or friendS. Ideally, I would do a bit of all these types of trips along the year.
SOBHI51 From Saudi Arabia, joined Jun 2003, 4025 posts, RR: 23
Reply 3, posted (3 years 1 month 1 week 4 days ago) and read 2380 times:
I do travel a lot alone and i enjoy my time. Also used to travel with my two boys and that was fun also.
Lately i am now stuck with traveling with my wife and daughter, a nightmare, they are never ready on time, plans always are changed in the last minute, among other things.
Few years ago i took my wife on a 3 days visit to Rome, well the only thing we saw there were shops, shops and shops.
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Cadet985 From United States of America, joined Mar 2002, 1828 posts, RR: 4
Reply 4, posted (3 years 1 month 1 week 4 days ago) and read 2372 times:
I travel alone mainly because I have no one to travel with. As others have said...it allows me to set my own pace, go to bed/get up when I want to, etc. I enjoy travelling, but would love to have someone to share it with, be it a friend or a romantic partner.
Alex22 From Switzerland, joined Jan 2005, 72 posts, RR: 3
Reply 6, posted (3 years 1 month 1 week 4 days ago) and read 2359 times:
I do love to travel alone too. I used to do it a lot and like it's been said before it's full of advantages. What I like the most is the fact you have tons of time to actually think for yourself, kinda strange but feeling no pressure from somebody else seems to fill me up with positive energy.
I find it actually hard to travel with other people without any problem. My girlfriend is GREAT for traveling with, almost never complains and half a day of shopping is more than enough. we have a deal, half a day of shopping for her = half a day of spotting for me
I gotta a couple of friends I travel with a lot but there's actually only one of them I would go everywhere with. Always positive guy, agrees to sleep only 1h if needed, likes beer, even when in deep shit finds a way to smile...
There are advantages and disadvantages. The advantages include being with someone with whom you can share some good times (and who is there should anything go wrong) and you can share the cost of accommodation, etc. The disadvantages are that you may have compromise and do things that you might not want to.
My only suggestion, given that I don't know how long you will be in the region or how long your partner will be unable to travel with you, is do it so that you don't come to resent missed opportunities later.
Exactly points I would say myself. I did a lot of travelling a couple of months ago. I missed out on things because I was with people for some of it, did things I wanted to do when I wanted by myself but then again missed having company for some of it, someone to help share costs of things like accommodation and someone else to take photos of each other etc. I suppose it depends on what you're into and if you'd enjoy company of others.
FingerLakerAv8r From United States of America, joined May 2011, 259 posts, RR: 0
Reply 10, posted (3 years 1 month 1 week 3 days 22 hours ago) and read 2291 times:
First things first. After reading all the other above posts we really seem to be a bunch of loaners lol.
As for me I travel for work so I am constantly by myself. Sometimes I look forward to it, other times not so much.
Case in point when I went to DUB this past January I went by myself and loved it because I planned out everything and made decisions when I wanted to. I kinda felt that by being alone I sorta blended in a bit when walking down the streets and no one really paid me much notice. Same thing when I was in YQB. I just walked and obviously didn't talk to myself so no one really even saw me. If I was with co-workers or firends then yeah, obvious tourist since my French is beyond horrid.
On the other side I am going to Vegas next week with a friend (who's pretty much like a sister. The GF is cool with this lol). She's never been before so it will be fun and exciting for her. Plus she will keep me from drinking and gambling the whole time. I've done Vegas alone and didn't really enjoy it but I would do Eurpoe alone any day of the week.
Ken777 From United States of America, joined Mar 2004, 8682 posts, RR: 9
Reply 11, posted (3 years 1 month 1 week 3 days 18 hours ago) and read 2237 times:
When I was working I traveled extensively on business, but never really spent time doing the tourist bit. After long flights it was more important for me to clear out the jet lag and get ready for meetings.
These days I get to travel with the wife and normally we go strictly as tourists. The rest of the time we take the grandkids, enjoying that experience while we can.
If your partner doesn't mind you taking side trips alone I'd say go for it. Gives you the experiences as well as letting you find places to share later when your partner can travel with you.
asuflyer05 From United States of America, joined Feb 2004, 2373 posts, RR: 3
Reply 12, posted (3 years 1 month 1 week 3 days 12 hours ago) and read 2173 times:
I've travelled alone in the past when I was single. Definitely fun. Definitely different than traveling with my fiance. Sometimes I wish I knew then what I know now. I'd probably get into a bit more trouble. Not sure which is "better" since she is a pretty good travel companion.
Rara From Germany, joined Jan 2007, 2306 posts, RR: 2
Reply 13, posted (3 years 1 month 1 week 3 days 12 hours ago) and read 2156 times:
I don't travel alone, it makes me feel insecure and self-conscious. Also I like to share whatever I'm looking at with my girlfriend or whoever I travel with. I should add that I don't find it easy to talk to strangers or locals, say in a bar, so if I don't have a travel companion I usually do stay alone all the time.
However, when I travel on business I actually prefer to travel alone. Having a purpose to travel makes all the difference, I guess. Just for sightseeing I wouldn't like it.
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Yes, 80-90% of my travel is by myself. I swear by it.
1) You have veto rights on anything you do. No negotiation with friends working out where/when to go, where to stay, where/what to eat etc. No relationship stresses = good holiday.
2) because of point 1, you can act on spur of the moment and not think about how it will affect your companions. If you want to change your mind based on other travellers current experiences (rather than dated Lonely Planet books) you can. If you don't feel like getting out of bed and just blobbing for the day you can do that also. Also when you're low on cash, your friends generally object to the starvation day, just before payday... whereas I'm happy to sleep in train stations and $1 a night rooms to get by.
I was able to budget around $10 a day in South East asia for what I was happy with, whereas I think you naturally spend more when you are with others and visiting places you don't really want to visit, but have to as part of the negotiation with the party to get what you want.
3) You never get sick of traveling with the same person for weeks on end, I meet people, then go travelling with them for a few days, then part ways, then meet new people, part ways and sometimes meet up with them for a drink later in the trip. (I ran into/met up/shared costs with the same traveller in Ho Chi Minh City, Seam Reap and in Bangkok.)
Keep in mind that I am actually very shy and reserved back home, but being by yourself overseas in an unfamiliar place forces you to make the effort if you want human contact.
4) Nobody worries about you or asks annoying questions when you meet a pretty young lady who speaks no English at a New Year's gathering and walk across Caracas back to her apartment and return the next afternoon.
(The flipside is that if it all goes wrong, you could be missing for days/weeks before anyone notices - but not a major disadvantage)
Once you travel by yourself, you will struggle travelling with others in the future. I know I do.
canoecarrier From United States of America, joined Feb 2004, 2855 posts, RR: 12
Reply 17, posted (3 years 1 month 1 week 3 days 8 hours ago) and read 2065 times:
I travel quite a bit by myself. Have you considered staying in hostels while you travel? I've found that if I ever feel the need to see a site with someone else, if I'm at a hostel it's usually not that hard to stir up a new friendship and gain a companion or two.
zippyjet From United States of America, joined Sep 2001, 5601 posts, RR: 12
Reply 18, posted (3 years 1 month 1 week 3 days 8 hours ago) and read 2060 times:
Done both! Each has their advantages as others have pointed out. One situation where travelling solo is at an extreme disadvantage: Taking a cruise. Cruise ship bookings are based on double occupancy. They would lose money only charging a single traveler a single rate. Therefore you have to pony up. However if money is no object that is different. When I fly, I like to have me time! Meaning I get into enjoying the flight and views (like many fellow A-Netters) I sometimes will catch some Z's but most of the time I'm on my laptop sometimes using the Internet many other times just writing. For some reason at 36000 feet I get in a creative mood and like to write.
Well said. Solo travel is a totally different experience. It is a spiritual thing, almost like watching humanity, or exploring the world like it is some enchanted video game.
One time I nonrevved over to Paris for a day or so. It was a f---ing magical snowy day just as an anonymous wanderer. Been to Paris several other times, but that was the best one, because -- although lonely -- the experience was so real.
kiwiinoz From New Zealand, joined Oct 2005, 2166 posts, RR: 5
Reply 20, posted (3 years 1 month 1 week 3 days 6 hours ago) and read 2036 times:
I have a 2 year old daughter. So the few occasions I have to travel alone are like absolute luxury!! I mean I love the family trips but you can forget about movies on the plane, reading a book whilst sitting in the lounge, etc!!
I travel for work and often that is alone. The leisure trips that I take alone are usualy to go to watch sporting events. It definitely has it's benefits
L410Turbolet From Czech Republic, joined May 2004, 5790 posts, RR: 18
Reply 22, posted (3 years 1 month 1 week 3 days 4 hours ago) and read 1994 times:
Quoting zippyjet (Reply 18): One situation where travelling solo is at an extreme disadvantage: Taking a cruise. Cruise ship bookings are based on double occupancy. They would lose money only charging a single traveler a single rate.
I have noticed that as well. However, aren't they chasing away a huge crowd of singles - potential customers who'd like to take a cruise but are not willing to pay double the rate just because they are single at the moment?
Hotels do not charge full rate for a double room when occupied by a single guest and it seems to work just fine.
Braybuddy From Ireland, joined Aug 2004, 6042 posts, RR: 31
Reply 23, posted (3 years 1 month 1 week 3 days 4 hours ago) and read 1991 times:
When I was younger I used to almost always travel alone, now I always travel with one or more of my friends. I used to take more holidays than them at the time so it was more a case of having to rather than wanting to. As people above have mentioned, there are advantages to travelling alone, such as doing whatever you want to do, whenever you want, but I'm lucky with my travel companions (maybe it's the reason they ARE my travel companions) in that they are always up for anything (as I would be), so there are never any problems there. And, if there was something I wanted to do on my own, none of them would put their nose out or throw a strop if I wanted to head-off on a solo run for several hours (they'd probably be delighted).
I did have to travel alone on a weekend trip about six years ago when my mate had to cancel at the last minute. I wasn't looking forward to it, but seeing it was only a weekend I stuck with it. It was an interesting experience: I enjoyed it, but there was something missing. The worst part was eating out, particularly in the evenings. Whereas we'd normally take our time over a meal and bottle of wine (or two), and coffee, chatting, recounting the day and usually having a laugh, I was just eating the food and leaving.
So I wouldn't be pushed on travelling alone now (apart from anything else, it's more expensive). I probably would for a weekend, but not for anything longer.
AF1624 From France, joined Jul 2006, 689 posts, RR: 0
Reply 24, posted (3 years 1 month 1 week 3 days 3 hours ago) and read 1980 times:
Quoting Flighty (Reply 19): It is a spiritual thing, almost like watching humanity, or exploring the world like it is some enchanted video game.
This is so true. Couldn't have said it better. Well I tried but failed, ahah.
It's like those movies where you see a person standing there at 1x speed and the world around the person going at 500x speed. There's some kind of an essential freedom in travelling alone. Not caring, or caring less in general, comes to mind as well.
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