Ps76 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Posted (3 years 11 months 4 weeks 2 hours ago) and read 2779 times:
I don't intend for this thread to be too serious but just wanted to ask if anyone else here has had such an experience. Basically my brother's wife thinks my family is like total losers and tries to spend as little time as possible with us. For example this weekend they drove the 3 hour trip over to spend like 4 days with her family and spent about 4 hours with us. This is very typical. In fact 4 hours proved a bit long so they cut it down to 3 and a half. And my bro seems happy to go along with it as I think he thinks her family is much cooler too. And when she is here she barely says a word to me, I always have to initiate the conversation and then she cuts it off. I know in the grand scheme of things this in not the World's biggest problem but I just wish I had a sister in law who was a bit more friendly and didn't look at us like we're rodents or something.
Anyone else have a similar experience or something related?
babybus From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 6, posted (3 years 11 months 3 weeks 6 days 10 hours ago) and read 2535 times:
That thing of 'my family are wonderful and your family are just scumbags' is a control device. You should tell your brother not to go along with it.
Anyway, why should you think you need to be friends with your brothers wife and her family? I would just let them get on with it. Maybe you and your brother could go to a football match together or something instead for some quality family time.
I've never liked my sisters' partners. Why should I. I'm nice to them but never make a big fuss of them.
Ps76 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 8, posted (3 years 11 months 3 weeks 4 days 9 hours ago) and read 2229 times:
Many thanks for the replies. I think I will just hang out with my brother more. He's a good guy. Maybe it's also like you said we have nothing in common. I mean my bro's wife is not really into engineering or film music!
HAWK21M From India, joined Jan 2001, 31875 posts, RR: 54
Reply 9, posted (3 years 11 months 3 weeks 2 days 14 hours ago) and read 2131 times:
Look at it this way.....If Someone does not choose to talk to your family & your family is actually ok.Then that person would struggle with others too.
If your bro's wife hates spending time with you folks,at least your bro should have spent a lot more time with your family instead.
BrouAviation From Netherlands, joined Jun 2009, 985 posts, RR: 0
Reply 11, posted (3 years 11 months 3 weeks 2 days 12 hours ago) and read 2100 times:
I am happy to have the best inlaws I could wish for, we get along very well. Also, the partners of my sisters-in-law and I get along very well as well. In fact, I just returned from a vacation with the whole family in law including partners and it was one of the best vacations in my life until now.
Especially when the relationship with your own family isn't perfect, having a good relationship with your inlaws can be a real blessing and adds a nice dimension to your relationship.
Quoting ManuCH (Reply 1): I think that's actually a classic. I've seen more families where inlaws don't like each other, than the opposite.
Well. the classic version is the one of the male not getting along with his mother in law, whereas without exception all the people I know who don't get along with their mother in law, are females! Mothers tend to interfere with their son's relationship more than they do with their daughters'..
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Ps76 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 12, posted (3 years 11 months 3 weeks 2 days 9 hours ago) and read 2074 times:
Thanks for the replies. Interesting to hear people's thoughts. We don't really see much of each other anyway so I guess it's not too bad a problem. My mum seems to like my sister in law though which is good and she doesn't interfere at all. I guess they kinda have their own thing going on and maybe I should try and do the same.