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Embarrassed To Be Shirtless In Public  
User currently offlinerooty613 From United States of America, joined Jun 2012, 5 posts, RR: 0
Posted (2 years 6 months 3 days 1 hour ago) and read 9928 times:

I'm not over weight. But for whatever reason, I have a really hard time taking my shirt off if someone I know will see me (particular women, particularly family members). It's uncanny how nervous it makes me. I had hoped to be over this years ago, but at 41, the nerves are still very real!

Anyone else suffer the same?

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User currently offlineKiwiRob From New Zealand, joined Jun 2005, 7819 posts, RR: 5
Reply 1, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 23 hours ago) and read 9862 times:

I'm now a touch over weight (my wife would say more than a touch) but I have big arms, shoulders and chest so it balances out my beer gut, I couldn't care less about going shirtless.

User currently offlineHAWK21M From India, joined Jan 2001, 31702 posts, RR: 56
Reply 2, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 22 hours ago) and read 9816 times:

Its a habit.....it will be overcomed over time....make a start.
However not sure about the law there....here its not permitted except at the beach, pool & confines of the home.



Think of the brighter side!
User currently offlineAF1624 From France, joined Jul 2006, 665 posts, RR: 0
Reply 3, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 22 hours ago) and read 9801 times:

Just walk around with no shirt in your own home, all the time. You'll eventually get used to it. Then when comes the time where you actually need to do stuff without a shirt, such as swimming, going to the beach, etc. it'll feel a lot more natural. To be honest, whether you are overweight or not wouldn't really have been the point.

It's more a question of being comfortable showing certain parts of your body - some people feel that showing skin is displaying part of their intimacy - getting used to displaying it can play a major part in actually making you feel comfortable in the future.

EDIT : one thing that has truly helped me with this is Camping. I hate it, I'm a hotel kind of guy, the more luxury the better. But I wanted to try anyway, and I now feel a lot more comfortable walking around shirtless in some shorts in public (on a beach or swimming pool or similar places) then I used to before. The point is, when camping, you don't really have a choice (you share showers, bathrooms and stuff....).

[Edited 2012-06-19 02:41:51]


Cheers
User currently offlineSmittyOne From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 4, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 22 hours ago) and read 9782 times:

You say you are 41...have you started getting those tiny red spots on your body yet? Between that and the hair and the blubber I sure as hell wouldn't go shirtless in public, but more out of consideration for those around me than anything else  

The neighbor kids (late high school/college age)...not sure they even own shirts. I tell them to enjoy it while it lasts.

Quoting HAWK21M (Reply 2):
here its not permitted except at the beach, pool & confines of the home.

SmittyOne starts packing to move to India...


User currently offlinePs76 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 5, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 22 hours ago) and read 9762 times:

Hi!

I remember when I started going out with a girl at 16 I was a little overweight and was quite embarassed about her seeing my body. So I started jogging. I got really into it and got really lean and even had a six pack. I felt much better about her seeing me but also others at the beach and stuff. Even after we broke up I kept it up. Now I've been single for a very long time I stopped. I'm not too bad but I have a bit of a belly. I only go shirtless when I have to like swimming and stuff!

Many thanks,

Pierre


User currently offlineSuperfly From Thailand, joined May 2000, 40066 posts, RR: 74
Reply 6, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 22 hours ago) and read 9755 times:

Quoting rooty613 (Thread starter):
But for whatever reason, I have a really hard time taking my shirt off if someone I know will see me (particular women, particularly family members).

Go to a nude beach with a bunch of fat old guys. No one would even notice you. . .



Bring back the Concorde
User currently offlineeinsteinboricua From Puerto Rico, joined Apr 2010, 3365 posts, RR: 8
Reply 7, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 21 hours ago) and read 9757 times:

I thought I was the only one who felt like that. I'm not fat, but I do have a bit of a belly, plus I have a hairy chest and many dark spots from acne on my back. I usually compare myself with other guys on the beach and that usually gets me down, so whenever I'm at the beach or a pool I wear a surf shirt. The only time I'm ever shirtless is when I sleep or when I'm alone. I don't even like going with sleeveless shirts in public (though I've been meaning to take that first step some time in the near future).


"You haven't seen a tree until you've seen its shadow from the sky."
User currently offline4holer From United States of America, joined Feb 2002, 3046 posts, RR: 9
Reply 8, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 18 hours ago) and read 9636 times:

The Onion weighs in:
http://www.theonion.com/video/fat-ki...oids-ridicule-by-swimming-w,14190/

If the link doesn't start...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xH7kKnHpgus



Ghosts appear and fade away.....................
User currently offlineWingsFan From India, joined Oct 2009, 132 posts, RR: 0
Reply 9, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 17 hours ago) and read 9571 times:

Quoting HAWK21M (Reply 2):
....here its not permitted except at the beach, pool & confines of the home.

Really? I did not know that. Are you sure its the law and not just social thing?

I used to occasionally ride my bike with the shirt removed when I was is school after a long evenings spent at sports grounds.

WingsFan


User currently offlineseb146 From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 11793 posts, RR: 15
Reply 10, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 16 hours ago) and read 9528 times:

Quoting Superfly (Reply 6):
Go to a nude beach with a bunch of fat old guys.

That is redundant. All we ever see are old, fat guys at Red Rocks and Hagmeier Pond!

Yes, I go to clothing optional beaches and I am very comfortable wearing only shoes there. There is very little judgement out loud. Problem is: people in town don't have a problem judging out loud. I am trying very hard to lose fat. The straight people don't seem to mind if I go without a shirt. Its the gays that are the meanest and worst.



Life in the wall is a drag.
User currently offlineconnies4ever From Canada, joined Feb 2006, 4066 posts, RR: 13
Reply 11, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 16 hours ago) and read 9519 times:

Quoting seb146 (Reply 10):
Quoting Superfly (Reply 6):
Go to a nude beach with a bunch of fat old guys.

That is redundant. All we ever see are old, fat guys at Red Rocks and Hagmeier Pond!

Yes, I go to clothing optional beaches and I am very comfortable wearing only shoes there. There is very little judgement out loud. Problem is: people in town don't have a problem judging out loud. I am trying very hard to lose fat. The straight people don't seem to mind if I go without a shirt. Its the gays that are the meanest and worst.

Interesting observation. I've found at nude beaches that the people you WANT to see naked never do so in front of you. It's always those that have a fair bit of blubber and liver spots.



Nostalgia isn't what it used to be.
User currently offlineSuperfly From Thailand, joined May 2000, 40066 posts, RR: 74
Reply 12, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 16 hours ago) and read 9502 times:

Quoting connies4ever (Reply 11):

You're going to the wrong nude beaches.



Bring back the Concorde
User currently offlineKiwiRob From New Zealand, joined Jun 2005, 7819 posts, RR: 5
Reply 13, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 15 hours ago) and read 9475 times:

Quoting SmittyOne (Reply 4):
have you started getting those tiny red spots on your body yet?

Eeek I'm 39, what are those spots?

Quoting seb146 (Reply 10):
Its the gays that are the meanest and worst.

Easy solution go straight, we accept chubbies in our world.


User currently offlineCharles79 From Puerto Rico, joined Mar 2007, 1331 posts, RR: 6
Reply 14, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 14 hours ago) and read 9430 times:

Oh boy, if you want to be embarrassed being shirtless try being me about 12 years ago: about 6 feet/1.8 meters tall, weighing in at 330lbs/150kg. I grew up as an obese kid and spent most of my childhood/teenage years avoiding ANY situations which would have required me to undress in front of another living soul. By the time I was in college I decided to take charge of my life and dropped to my current weight (about 85kg).

I'm still extremely self conscious when it comes to going shirtless but I’ve learned that no one’s body is perfect and we all have areas of our bodies that we wish to improve. I think what makes the difference (and gives you a bit of confidence) is the knowledge that you have at least decided to do something about your body and your image. Also, it helps to know for whom you are doing it: IMHO, you should always strive to have a better body not because of what others might say but because of the health benefits for yourself.

That said, although I don’t think I look terribly bad without shirt on but I haven’t done so in over three years!


User currently offlineconnies4ever From Canada, joined Feb 2006, 4066 posts, RR: 13
Reply 15, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 14 hours ago) and read 9416 times:

Quoting Superfly (Reply 12):
Quoting connies4ever (Reply 11):

You're going to the wrong nude beaches.

   OK, I'll let Janice make the holiday decisions from now on !



Nostalgia isn't what it used to be.
User currently offlineSuperfly From Thailand, joined May 2000, 40066 posts, RR: 74
Reply 16, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 13 hours ago) and read 9392 times:

Quoting rooty613 (Thread starter):



No need to be ashamed of a beer gut. I have a huge beer gut and I worked very hard to get it.....
Most guys have beer guts anyway.
Personally I'm more grossed out by tattoos. Can't understand why it's such a fad.   
My best advice is to stay away from beaches with lots of buff dudes.
Come to the beaches here in Asia. A fat guy with a beer gut is just as attractive to females as the guy with muscles and a 6-pack. It's not your muscles they want anyway....  



Bring back the Concorde
User currently offlineconnies4ever From Canada, joined Feb 2006, 4066 posts, RR: 13
Reply 17, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 12 hours ago) and read 9332 times:

Quoting Superfly (Reply 12):
Quoting connies4ever (Reply 11):

You're going to the wrong nude beaches.

Tell you something, Fly, we need a decent nude beach today: heat index here (NORTH of Ottawa) is 108F. Supposed to stick around all week. Who said the Great White North was cold ???



Nostalgia isn't what it used to be.
User currently offlineseb146 From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 11793 posts, RR: 15
Reply 18, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 11 hours ago) and read 9290 times:

Quoting KiwiRob (Reply 13):
Easy solution go straight, we accept chubbies in our world.

Yeah, but there is that one little problem....

Quoting Superfly (Reply 12):
You're going to the wrong nude beaches.

I find that any nude beach is the right nude beach! Stick around long enough and you see what you want to see. Yes, I have a very nice umbrella and matching towel  



Life in the wall is a drag.
User currently offlineSmittyOne From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 19, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 10 hours ago) and read 9246 times:

Quoting KiwiRob (Reply 13):

Eeek I'm 39, what are those spots?

Rob -

Google "Cherry Hemangioma".

Not everybody gets them, but they are more prevalent as people age. As far as I've read (and my doctor confirmed) they're harmless. I've got a few on my torso...would have freaked me out except that my stepfather had a bunch of them and he's eighty something and still kicking LOL.


User currently offlineKaiGywer From United States of America, joined Oct 2003, 12281 posts, RR: 35
Reply 20, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 4 hours ago) and read 9131 times:
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Quoting Superfly (Reply 16):
It's not your muscles they want anyway....

No they want your money  



“Once you have tasted flight, you will forever walk the earth with your eyes turned skyward, for there you have been, an
User currently offlineDocLightning From United States of America, joined Nov 2005, 20334 posts, RR: 59
Reply 21, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 3 hours ago) and read 9104 times:



User currently offlinerooty613 From United States of America, joined Jun 2012, 5 posts, RR: 0
Reply 22, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days 1 hour ago) and read 9066 times:

Ok, here I am.... I shudder to think about it!



User currently offlineAF1624 From France, joined Jul 2006, 665 posts, RR: 0
Reply 23, posted (2 years 6 months 2 days ago) and read 9045 times:

Quoting Charles79 (Reply 14):
By the time I was in college I decided to take charge of my life and dropped to my current weight (about 85kg).

Congrats man, it's never easy to lose that much weight when you've gone that high at some point - some people can't do it without surgery.



Cheers
User currently offlineeinsteinboricua From Puerto Rico, joined Apr 2010, 3365 posts, RR: 8
Reply 24, posted (2 years 6 months 1 day 20 hours ago) and read 8974 times:

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 21):

I'm currently doing Insanity. If I do notice some definition I'll be more than happy to open a Summer Shirtless thread. Needless to say that for now I still shudder at having to post a shirtless picture with flab and barely abs.



"You haven't seen a tree until you've seen its shadow from the sky."
25 Post contains images Charles79 : Well Doc no one's stopping you from leading the way... Thanks! Though I honestly feel that for 90% of the people you can do it without surgery; surge
26 daviation : To Rooty 613 - not bad at all if you're over 30! To Superfly - yeah, what's with the tattoos? My kids want them now. I ask them if they're so bored th
27 Post contains links and images zkojq : Ever since birth I have had a condition called Pectus Excavatum, essentially a large hole in the middle of my chest. When I was young this wasn't at a
28 Post contains images daviation : Yeah, that's me (and my son). The trick is to dip into the water so no one can see all the drooping flesh! If you notice on my left side (above the h
29 Post contains images DocLightning : 1) I was trolling (and people trolled back... I'm so proud!). 2) Still under construction. Check back in a few months. Gained a lot of weight after I
30 connies4ever : Good friend of mine had to have a mechanical valve placed in his heart due to a long-term congenital condition. Going in they had to break more or le
31 DocLightning : More like bolt cutters. Bone is stronger than concrete, volume-per-volume.
32 Post contains images Charles79 : Geez, I cannot even imagine. After I lost over 60kg I had to have surgery to remove the excess skin and that was painful enough without being that in
33 Post contains images gsoshutout55 : Nope. I work out 4x a week. I am 6' and 185lbs, around 14% bf...I don't yet have a 6 pack, but I have some nice muscle definition and get complimented
34 Post contains images DocLightning : Ahem... pics? (Yes, I'm trolling)
35 Post contains images WrenchBender : Sooooooo predictable WrenchBender
36 PHX787 : Oh Doc -_- Ok to put this in perspective (and to possibly drive Doc off the deep end) I have no problem going shirtless, even though i'm an underweig
37 Post contains images DocLightning : And it amuses all of you to no end.
38 Post contains images dc9northwest : I. Just. Don't. Give. A. F*ck. That's right. I don't care if anyone sees me. Although, if I'm in a city, maybe I'll abstain. So pretty much the same
39 Post contains links PHX787 : perfect: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D4NubXXg5Rk ahem....Doc, we've never seen photos of you recently!
40 einsteinboricua : Do any of you guys have bacne or bacne scars? That probably another reason why I don't like taking off my shirt. Though I'm not breaking out like I us
41 Post contains images zkojq : I fainted/passed out when the surgeon decided to show me the photos he had taken during the operation at one of the monthly check-ups. It wasn't pret
42 DocLightning : You could just click on my profile.
43 Post contains links PHX787 : http://www.airliners.net/ufview.file?id=27545&filename=phpYtWsxL.jpeg Doc.....uh....... alrighty
44 DocLightning : You know I'm a pediatrician, right? "Goofy" is part of my job description.
45 Post contains images Charles79 : I bet you can reduce a lot of kids to tears...... .....of laughter, of course!
46 Post contains images DocLightning : Pretty quickly, actually.
47 type-rated : Years ago I had to have a operation after a major car accident. The procedure was rather risky and the doctor video taped the entire procedure. He as
48 fridgmus : My back blew out and blew out in style last November in Kuwait. Seems my bulgings discs ran out of room to bulge! So, the only Nuerosurgeon in Kuwait
49 HAWK21M : its a law.....In fact an old unupdated law.
50 Max Q : Zkojq, all I have to say is that took a hell of a lot of guts to go through. You are one brave Man. Good for you.
51 Post contains images jetblueguy22 : I never really was until about a year ago when I went to the beach with a couple friends. My buddy is a pro MMA fighter and this kid is in shape. He s
52 FlyboyOz : Haha...true... when i was at the beach with my friends who are surfers, I was the only one wear t-shirt to cover up my top. My friend made me to take
53 chepos : This might come across as bitchy but here it goes, If you want to feel better about going shirtless do something about it, hit the gym and eat less. A
54 rooty613 : Well, this is what I would probably say to others.... But my issues is much deeper than that. I work out 4-5 times a week, mostly cardio. But in the
55 einsteinboricua : And besides, there are other issues that make a person feel embarrassed about being shirtless. In my case, I'm covered in acne scars on my back and i
56 SHAQ : I don't have any problem with my body when I'm shirtless! like it really! Panama is very hot and sometimes its better to be shirtless. I'm fit, but I'
57 777way : I too feel very uncomfortable shirtless around people, in particular people I know, all ages and both genders, perhaps its called modesty.
58 September11 : Spent today at water park -- shirtless. Many were. Some had water shirts on.
59 3DoorsDown : More people, and I mean just about everybody, should think about NOT going shirtless. Especially the men you see on COPS who have CCs dragging down th
60 HAWK21M : Finally after keeping fit with proper eating diet & regular exercise.A toned chest/abs does remove all inhibitions of removing ones shirt off at p
61 FlyboyOz : At gym, i saw a guy took his clothes - He looks fit but he has got lots of hair on his body - That's disgusting ewwww!
62 HAWK21M : A problem I face.....fit but hair on the body........Its not too much,but I can't convince myself to remove the hair.
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