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Anyone Here Never Been In A Relationship?  
User currently onlineaf773atmsp From United States of America, joined Aug 2006, 2633 posts, RR: 1
Posted (1 year 3 weeks 5 days 20 hours ago) and read 3787 times:

I have never had a girlfriend, and throughout middle school and high school I dreaded that fact. However I'm starting to not care. Its nice being free and talking to any girl I want to without restriction. It just sucks when all of my friends are talking about their relationship stories and I'm silent the entire time.

I have talked to plenty of girls but most of them I never see again. I only have a couple lady friends but I am in their friend zone, which I don't mind.

So, has anyone else never had a girlfriend/boyfriend?


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User currently offlineANITIX87 From United States of America, joined Mar 2005, 3292 posts, RR: 13
Reply 1, posted (1 year 3 weeks 5 days 19 hours ago) and read 3743 times:
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Dude, your profile says you're 16-20. The fact that your friends already have relationships long enough for you to feel uncomfortable is scary.

I didn't have a serious girlfriend until I was 22. There's no reason to. Have fun while you're young, esperially if you're in college.

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User currently offlineOA260 From Ireland, joined Nov 2006, 26509 posts, RR: 58
Reply 2, posted (1 year 3 weeks 5 days 19 hours ago) and read 3728 times:

Quoting ANITIX87 (Reply 1):
Dude, your profile says you're 16-20. The fact that your friends already have relationships long enough for you to feel uncomfortable is scary.

Its all changed at least in certain places. Here in Ireland my work colleagues kids who are around 16-19 all have long term GF/BF and go on vacations together visit each others parents on Xmas Day and Easter etc...

They all seem very happy and content. Maybe its not such a bad thing.



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User currently offlineANITIX87 From United States of America, joined Mar 2005, 3292 posts, RR: 13
Reply 3, posted (1 year 3 weeks 5 days 18 hours ago) and read 3712 times:
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Quoting OA260 (Reply 2):
They all seem very happy and content. Maybe its not such a bad thing.

Oh, I'm not saying it's bad to be in something long-term at that age, but it certainly isn't a problem to not have had a serious relationship yet.

In fact, despite not having had a serious girlfriend until the age of 22, I almost wish she'd come along a couple of years later so I could have had a bit more fun and independence before settling down. This will likely be my "last relationship" so I'm not about to go do something stupid like ask for a break so I can go mess around a bit more.

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User currently offlineSoJo From UK - England, joined Nov 2012, 169 posts, RR: 0
Reply 4, posted (1 year 3 weeks 5 days 18 hours ago) and read 3704 times:
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Quoting OA260 (Reply 2):
Its all changed at least in certain places. Here in Ireland my work colleagues kids who are around 16-19 all have long term GF/BF and go on vacations together visit each others parents on Xmas Day and Easter etc...

They all seem very happy and content. Maybe its not such a bad thing.

But, at the end of the day, how long do these young relationships last? To me, just grow up enjoying what YOU want to do and nature will take its course. What your friends do has no influenece on YOUR life. Seek and ye shall find. No I'm not a religious nutter, just an older man that has found someone to love at the ripe old age of 21 (big fib) Just to give you a hint, I feel 46 everynight   



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User currently offlineDocLightning From United States of America, joined Nov 2005, 18704 posts, RR: 58
Reply 5, posted (1 year 3 weeks 5 days 18 hours ago) and read 3692 times:

Go mess around. Wear condoms. Have fun. Wear condoms. Be casual. Wear condoms. Don't constantly wonder where this particular one is going; it will go where it goes and you should simply remain open to possibilities. Wear condoms. Don't be afraid to date more than one person at a time as long as none of the dates are serious. Wear condoms.

One day you will settle down with one woman. She will probably appreciate any experience you have gained from your exploits with other women (just don't tell her about them explicitly; I hear women don't like that). I'm not just talking about bedroom experience, but social experience.

Just... condoms.


User currently offlinefalstaff From United States of America, joined Jun 2006, 5968 posts, RR: 27
Reply 6, posted (1 year 3 weeks 5 days 18 hours ago) and read 3681 times:
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Quoting ANITIX87 (Reply 1):
The fact that your friends already have relationships long enough for you to feel uncomfortable is scary.

I agree....

I'm 37 and I've never had a serious relationship and I like it that way. I have been involved with several women (including one right now) that don't really want a serious relationship. Maybe when I'm 40.....

The woman I see now is someone I see exclusively (she is the same with me) and we get together fairly often and go places and "do stuff"      , but neither one of us really want to get married, have kids or live together. We both have been single so long we like our lives how they are. If I were to get married I would marry her and I think she feels the same, but we haven't been serious for eight years now and I don't think we will get serious any time soon.


Being tied down would be a serious crimp in my style.



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User currently onlinefr8mech From United States of America, joined Sep 2005, 5098 posts, RR: 12
Reply 7, posted (1 year 3 weeks 5 days 18 hours ago) and read 3667 times:

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 5):
Go mess around. Wear condoms. Have fun. Wear condoms. Be casual. Wear condoms. Don't constantly wonder where this particular one is going; it will go where it goes and you should simply remain open to possibilities. Wear condoms. Don't be afraid to date more than one person at a time as long as none of the dates are serious. Wear condoms.

One day you will settle down with one woman. She will probably appreciate any experience you have gained from your exploits with other women (just don't tell her about them explicitly; I hear women don't like that). I'm not just talking about bedroom experience, but social experience.

Just... condoms



I couldn't have said it better.

I didn't have my first real relationship until I moved out of the house at 20. Up until then, I just hung around and messed around. In fact, I wouldn't even classify any of my pre-21 dating as serious, at all.

Go out, have fun...when it happens, it will happen.

And, if you're having trouble meeting new people, try new places.



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User currently offlinefalstaff From United States of America, joined Jun 2006, 5968 posts, RR: 27
Reply 8, posted (1 year 3 weeks 5 days 18 hours ago) and read 3660 times:
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Quoting DocLightning (Reply 5):
Wear condoms.

I agree 100%. Condoms are a must!

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 5):
just don't tell her about them explicitly; I hear women don't like that

You heard right.

Hey Doc; Do guys like hearing about that? I would think not.



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User currently offlinestlgph From United States of America, joined Oct 2004, 9237 posts, RR: 25
Reply 9, posted (1 year 3 weeks 5 days 18 hours ago) and read 3658 times:

Quoting falstaff (Reply 6):
Being tied down would be a serious crimp in my style.

Absolutely. My friends are always going out on dates or getting themselves tied down -- I've no interest. The best part is, my friends are still readily available even if they're committed to someone. I don't do the whole "oh, suddenly I don't have time to be your friend because I'm dating someone crap."

And then while we're on top of it, New York City is the worst place to meet people.



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User currently onlineeinsteinboricua From Puerto Rico, joined Apr 2010, 2682 posts, RR: 8
Reply 10, posted (1 year 3 weeks 5 days 18 hours ago) and read 3644 times:

I'm 23 years old and nothing so far. I know how it feels when your friends are all in a relationship and you feel like the third wheel with all of them. Bright side? Don't have to spend $$$ on holidays to keep that certain someone happy (let's get real, sometimes a girlfriend/boyfriend can be materialistic and cares only about what he/she can take from you).


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User currently offlineCadet985 From United States of America, joined Mar 2002, 1515 posts, RR: 5
Reply 11, posted (1 year 3 weeks 5 days 17 hours ago) and read 3616 times:

I'm not mentioning my exact age, but I've never had a girlfriend.

Marc


User currently offlineFallap From Denmark, joined Jan 2009, 238 posts, RR: 0
Reply 12, posted (1 year 3 weeks 5 days 17 hours ago) and read 3562 times:

I'm 22 and I've only been in two short relationships, I feel very uncomfortable in a relationship; like I'm being locked up and frankly I'm having a hard time sticking to one girl only. I currently have a fun-buddy, we do pretty much everything couples do, but we also have other partners of opposite sex (in her case both)

And it works pretty good  


User currently offlineDocLightning From United States of America, joined Nov 2005, 18704 posts, RR: 58
Reply 13, posted (1 year 3 weeks 5 days 17 hours ago) and read 3557 times:

Quoting falstaff (Reply 8):
Hey Doc; Do guys like hearing about that? I would think not.

Most gay men I know are not interested in the pretense that their partners are blushing virgins. Most of the men I've dated (including my husband) have spoken openly about past sexual exploits. In my experience, it seems to be a heterosexual phenomenon. I assume any man I'm fooling around with has ample experience (at least, I hope he does!).


User currently offlinepanam330 From United States of America, joined Mar 2004, 2660 posts, RR: 9
Reply 14, posted (1 year 3 weeks 5 days 16 hours ago) and read 3544 times:

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 13):
I assume any man I'm fooling around with has ample experience (at least, I hope he does!).

You'd find out if they didn't about 30 seconds in, anyway.  

Live a little. You'll thank yourself later in life. I'm 24 and have had one 3 year relationship (as well as another yearlong one) that started when I was a college freshman. Gay guys my age were hard to come by where I grew up so college sort of opened the door for a relationship. In hindsight, I wish I'd stayed single and enjoyed my earlier youth more, but I learned a lot so it wasn't all for nothing.


User currently offlineOA260 From Ireland, joined Nov 2006, 26509 posts, RR: 58
Reply 15, posted (1 year 3 weeks 5 days 16 hours ago) and read 3524 times:

Quoting ANITIX87 (Reply 3):
so I'm not about to go do something stupid like ask for a break so I can go mess around a bit more.

No indeed . I dont understand people that want to do that when they have someone good and loving.

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 13):
Most gay men I know are not interested in the pretense that their partners are blushing virgins.

But on the flip side I dont want to know all the ins and outs and sadly alot of Gay people love to brag about it. Sad state of affairs really and quite disrespectful to someone when your dating them.



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User currently offlinejoacocifuentes From Argentina, joined Sep 2012, 109 posts, RR: 0
Reply 16, posted (1 year 3 weeks 5 days 14 hours ago) and read 3439 times:

I have 16 year old friends that are dating for over a year, another friend (16year) for 2 year and lots of friends, girl and boys, like. Here in Argentina you fin both types of people

User currently offlineTheCol From Canada, joined Jan 2007, 2032 posts, RR: 6
Reply 17, posted (1 year 3 weeks 5 days 1 hour ago) and read 3252 times:

Quoting falstaff (Reply 6):
Being tied down would be a serious crimp in my style

  

I don't get why anyone under 30 would choose to settle down with a gal/guy. I guess people don't realize that it's highly unlikely their items left on the bucket list will get done. I don't get a lot of down time as it is, so I rather spend my free time doing what I want with enough cash to spare. If I decide to get married in the near future, or enter into serious relationship, then that's 50% of my hard earned money and time down the drain.



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User currently onlineWestJet747 From Canada, joined Aug 2011, 1789 posts, RR: 10
Reply 18, posted (1 year 3 weeks 5 days 1 hour ago) and read 3239 times:

Quoting TheCol (Reply 17):
I don't get why anyone under 30 would choose to settle down with a gal/guy. I guess people don't realize that it's highly unlikely their items left on the bucket list will get done. I don't get a lot of down time as it is, so I rather spend my free time doing what I want with enough cash to spare.

I totally agree. During highschool and my first year of university, I had plenty of girlfriends, but I haven't had a serious relationship since (going on 4 years now). Frankly, I don't really need/want a girlfriend right now. I'm very good at keeping myself quite busy, so I don't require a girlfriend to fill any voids in my schedule. If I find a great girl in the near future, I would absolutely pursue a relationship, but I can guarantee there won't be wedding bells or pregnancy tests until I'm about 30.

There's too much living to do in the mean time!  



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User currently offlineFlyingfox27 From United Kingdom, joined Jul 2007, 423 posts, RR: 0
Reply 19, posted (1 year 3 weeks 4 days 21 hours ago) and read 3156 times:

Im 32 and young (well.....) free and single, i much rather enjoy my planes on a cold sunny day than be in bed or the shops with a girlfriend spending all my money but thats just me  

I have had a few relationships but found that they didnt like planes or the things i did so i decided to stay single, yeah my family members might get married and have families and everything which is great because i can still join in the fun but its a nice feeling not being committed to someone else.

Now if i could marry a plane that would be a different story......LOL! :P


User currently offlineAesma From France, joined Nov 2009, 6114 posts, RR: 9
Reply 20, posted (1 year 3 weeks 4 days 20 hours ago) and read 3135 times:

Well if you think you want a relationship then follow the others' lead, otherwise it's no trouble. Now, at your age I was quite shy and ended up in the "friend zone" easily when I definitely wanted to be in the "naked zone", and that's a big waste of time. Pick up you dick, prepare yourself to never talk to those girls again, and go for it. If you think there is no chance in hell it'll work, you can alternatively become real friends and ask them to help you out in your quest for a girlfriend/sex friend.

The longer the friend zone lasts the worst it becomes, I mean with one she was asking my opinion about her thongs, making lingerie shows in her room for me, pretty horrible. With another it ended up in an orgy, which is not what I was looking for since I had feelings for her.



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User currently offlinefalstaff From United States of America, joined Jun 2006, 5968 posts, RR: 27
Reply 21, posted (1 year 3 weeks 4 days 17 hours ago) and read 3076 times:
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Quoting Aesma (Reply 20):
ended up in the "friend zone"

A bad place to be.... It happened to me too many times.

Quoting Aesma (Reply 20):
I definitely wanted to be in the "naked zone

The best place to be. I hate when they think you're too good of friends to have sex; I wouldn't want to have sex with my enemies.



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User currently offlineSmittyone From United States of America, joined Feb 2012, 1290 posts, RR: 3
Reply 22, posted (1 year 3 weeks 4 days 3 hours ago) and read 2960 times:

Quoting WestJet747 (Reply 18):
I can guarantee there won't be wedding bells or pregnancy tests until I'm about 30.

My father never gave me much advice except this hard-won nugget:

"You don't want to be hanging wallpaper from day one."

LOL



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User currently offlineKiwiRob From New Zealand, joined Jun 2005, 6680 posts, RR: 3
Reply 23, posted (1 year 3 weeks 3 days 19 hours ago) and read 2889 times:

dude this is a.net I'm sure there are guys here who have never even spoken to a woman who wasn't family.

User currently offlineSmittyone From United States of America, joined Feb 2012, 1290 posts, RR: 3
Reply 24, posted (1 year 3 weeks 3 days 17 hours ago) and read 2821 times:

Quoting KiwiRob (Reply 23):
dude this is a.net I'm sure there are guys here who have never even spoken to a woman who wasn't family.

Other than to ask a flight attendant what the aircraft reg# is...  



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25 Post contains images PHX787 : Yeah im 21 and i haven't had a relationship longer than 5 months......and i absolutely hated being in that relationship To me, most people use "relati
26 Airstud : But do use condoms.
27 Post contains images joffie :
28 Post contains images aerorobnz : I've had long term relationships, but never moved in with anyone. I'm content within myself. I don't like the burden of being in a loving relationship
29 Post contains images TheCol : Yup, a one night stand can easily turn into a lifetime commitment. [quote=PHX787,reply=25]Dont worry about it.[/quote I've heard that one before. Soo
30 Post contains images steffenbn : I've always said nearly the same thing I always tell my friends that I would rather go flying/spotting than sex, if I had to choose one of them!
31 Post contains images NAV20 : God, af773atmsp, I'm no youngster, you've got me thinking back to something like 50 years ago! Two bits of advice I can offer. First, try to avoid 't
32 Post contains images TWA772LR : Damn son! You got it made! But seriously af773atmsp, chicks take up WAY too much time and money. I haven't experienced it myself, but I've seen plent
33 Post contains images PHX787 : yeeeeeeeeeeep Thaaats when I turn 29 and my life gets all settled down and job-by LOL I now know why we're on eachother's respected user's list. BUT-
34 CXB77L : I'm still single at the ripe old age of 31 and have never been in a relationship. But that's more by choice than any lack of success with the ladies.
35 wardialer : Same here. Never had a girlfriend or make that friends "in general" including guy friends. Pretty much a big time LONER. It sucks most of the time, bu
36 tommy767 : My friend who is 24 (almost 25) has never had a relationship. He might be asexual.
37 KiwiRob : Fly appears to go for quantity rather than quality.
38 Post contains images 3DoorsDown : I wouldn't worry about it too much. Enjoy life. Don't get saddled down by a relationship at your age. You have years to go before that needs to happe
39 zippyjet : Have fun and project a devil may care attitude. When you least expect it, somewhere, sometime...etc it could very well happen. If you are desparate,
40 3DoorsDown : Sometimes when you least expect it, evil shows. She's beautiful, she's alot, ALOT, of fun and will make you think you are in a darker side of Heaven.
41 Post contains images TheCol : People have different priorities in life. Education, Careers, Family obligations, sports and other hobbies, charity work, Friends, etc.
42 FlyingBattery26 : I'm 26 and never had a girlfriend. I try not to let it get me down. Basically I've had depression and anxiety problems since I was 15, and after I lef
43 FlyingBattery26 : Please don't blame yourself. You are who you are. Everyone is different, with different likes and dislikes. There's no "right" way to be. Obviously t
44 klm672 : Hi everyone. Much like most of you, I've only had a handful of gf's (not much of a handful of anything else, though). I tried the online dating thing,
45 kiwiinoz : My advise to the thread starter: 1: You definitely need to be comfortable, somewhat, with yourself before you start sharing that self with others 2: d
46 Post contains images SXDFC : What ever you do, DO NOT GET HER A SNOWGLOBE!!!!! I remember when I first started working for WN, I took this girl I was talking with to MDW, had a gr
47 Post contains images PHX787 : Is this another FLAirport reference? I feel sorry for the lad. He deleted his profile too :D Well actually I'm holding back right now because I have
48 KiwiRob : I agree they are often very hot, although Japanese girls generally have weird legs, they all look like they've been riding horses from birth.
49 Post contains images PlymSpotter : Some also have this weird pixelated area down there. Must make it difficult to see what you're doing. Dan
50 FlyboyOz : Doc... I guess it's not right to have sex BEFORE marriage and also it's not right time to push further or cross the border when they got to know each
51 kiwiinoz : Serious? If so I think you need to re-calibrate your fish-sizer
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