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Anyone Here Never Been In A Relationship?  
User currently offlineaf773atmsp From United States of America, joined Aug 2006, 2633 posts, RR: 1
Posted (1 year 3 weeks 3 days 2 hours ago) and read 3783 times:

I have never had a girlfriend, and throughout middle school and high school I dreaded that fact. However I'm starting to not care. Its nice being free and talking to any girl I want to without restriction. It just sucks when all of my friends are talking about their relationship stories and I'm silent the entire time.

I have talked to plenty of girls but most of them I never see again. I only have a couple lady friends but I am in their friend zone, which I don't mind.

So, has anyone else never had a girlfriend/boyfriend?


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User currently offlineANITIX87 From United States of America, joined Mar 2005, 3292 posts, RR: 13
Reply 1, posted (1 year 3 weeks 3 days 1 hour ago) and read 3739 times:
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Dude, your profile says you're 16-20. The fact that your friends already have relationships long enough for you to feel uncomfortable is scary.

I didn't have a serious girlfriend until I was 22. There's no reason to. Have fun while you're young, esperially if you're in college.

TIS



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User currently offlineOA260 From Ireland, joined Nov 2006, 26497 posts, RR: 58
Reply 2, posted (1 year 3 weeks 3 days 1 hour ago) and read 3724 times:

Quoting ANITIX87 (Reply 1):
Dude, your profile says you're 16-20. The fact that your friends already have relationships long enough for you to feel uncomfortable is scary.

Its all changed at least in certain places. Here in Ireland my work colleagues kids who are around 16-19 all have long term GF/BF and go on vacations together visit each others parents on Xmas Day and Easter etc...

They all seem very happy and content. Maybe its not such a bad thing.



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User currently offlineANITIX87 From United States of America, joined Mar 2005, 3292 posts, RR: 13
Reply 3, posted (1 year 3 weeks 3 days 1 hour ago) and read 3708 times:
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Quoting OA260 (Reply 2):
They all seem very happy and content. Maybe its not such a bad thing.

Oh, I'm not saying it's bad to be in something long-term at that age, but it certainly isn't a problem to not have had a serious relationship yet.

In fact, despite not having had a serious girlfriend until the age of 22, I almost wish she'd come along a couple of years later so I could have had a bit more fun and independence before settling down. This will likely be my "last relationship" so I'm not about to go do something stupid like ask for a break so I can go mess around a bit more.

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User currently offlineSoJo From UK - England, joined Nov 2012, 169 posts, RR: 0
Reply 4, posted (1 year 3 weeks 3 days 1 hour ago) and read 3700 times:
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Quoting OA260 (Reply 2):
Its all changed at least in certain places. Here in Ireland my work colleagues kids who are around 16-19 all have long term GF/BF and go on vacations together visit each others parents on Xmas Day and Easter etc...

They all seem very happy and content. Maybe its not such a bad thing.

But, at the end of the day, how long do these young relationships last? To me, just grow up enjoying what YOU want to do and nature will take its course. What your friends do has no influenece on YOUR life. Seek and ye shall find. No I'm not a religious nutter, just an older man that has found someone to love at the ripe old age of 21 (big fib) Just to give you a hint, I feel 46 everynight   



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User currently offlineDocLightning From United States of America, joined Nov 2005, 18696 posts, RR: 58
Reply 5, posted (1 year 3 weeks 3 days ago) and read 3688 times:

Go mess around. Wear condoms. Have fun. Wear condoms. Be casual. Wear condoms. Don't constantly wonder where this particular one is going; it will go where it goes and you should simply remain open to possibilities. Wear condoms. Don't be afraid to date more than one person at a time as long as none of the dates are serious. Wear condoms.

One day you will settle down with one woman. She will probably appreciate any experience you have gained from your exploits with other women (just don't tell her about them explicitly; I hear women don't like that). I'm not just talking about bedroom experience, but social experience.

Just... condoms.


User currently offlinefalstaff From United States of America, joined Jun 2006, 5962 posts, RR: 27
Reply 6, posted (1 year 3 weeks 3 days ago) and read 3677 times:
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Quoting ANITIX87 (Reply 1):
The fact that your friends already have relationships long enough for you to feel uncomfortable is scary.

I agree....

I'm 37 and I've never had a serious relationship and I like it that way. I have been involved with several women (including one right now) that don't really want a serious relationship. Maybe when I'm 40.....

The woman I see now is someone I see exclusively (she is the same with me) and we get together fairly often and go places and "do stuff"      , but neither one of us really want to get married, have kids or live together. We both have been single so long we like our lives how they are. If I were to get married I would marry her and I think she feels the same, but we haven't been serious for eight years now and I don't think we will get serious any time soon.


Being tied down would be a serious crimp in my style.



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User currently offlinefr8mech From United States of America, joined Sep 2005, 5098 posts, RR: 12
Reply 7, posted (1 year 3 weeks 3 days ago) and read 3663 times:

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 5):
Go mess around. Wear condoms. Have fun. Wear condoms. Be casual. Wear condoms. Don't constantly wonder where this particular one is going; it will go where it goes and you should simply remain open to possibilities. Wear condoms. Don't be afraid to date more than one person at a time as long as none of the dates are serious. Wear condoms.

One day you will settle down with one woman. She will probably appreciate any experience you have gained from your exploits with other women (just don't tell her about them explicitly; I hear women don't like that). I'm not just talking about bedroom experience, but social experience.

Just... condoms



I couldn't have said it better.

I didn't have my first real relationship until I moved out of the house at 20. Up until then, I just hung around and messed around. In fact, I wouldn't even classify any of my pre-21 dating as serious, at all.

Go out, have fun...when it happens, it will happen.

And, if you're having trouble meeting new people, try new places.



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User currently offlinefalstaff From United States of America, joined Jun 2006, 5962 posts, RR: 27
Reply 8, posted (1 year 3 weeks 3 days ago) and read 3656 times:
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Quoting DocLightning (Reply 5):
Wear condoms.

I agree 100%. Condoms are a must!

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 5):
just don't tell her about them explicitly; I hear women don't like that

You heard right.

Hey Doc; Do guys like hearing about that? I would think not.



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User currently onlinestlgph From United States of America, joined Oct 2004, 9235 posts, RR: 26
Reply 9, posted (1 year 3 weeks 3 days ago) and read 3654 times:

Quoting falstaff (Reply 6):
Being tied down would be a serious crimp in my style.

Absolutely. My friends are always going out on dates or getting themselves tied down -- I've no interest. The best part is, my friends are still readily available even if they're committed to someone. I don't do the whole "oh, suddenly I don't have time to be your friend because I'm dating someone crap."

And then while we're on top of it, New York City is the worst place to meet people.



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User currently onlineeinsteinboricua From Puerto Rico, joined Apr 2010, 2677 posts, RR: 8
Reply 10, posted (1 year 3 weeks 3 days ago) and read 3640 times:

I'm 23 years old and nothing so far. I know how it feels when your friends are all in a relationship and you feel like the third wheel with all of them. Bright side? Don't have to spend $$$ on holidays to keep that certain someone happy (let's get real, sometimes a girlfriend/boyfriend can be materialistic and cares only about what he/she can take from you).


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User currently offlineCadet985 From United States of America, joined Mar 2002, 1513 posts, RR: 4
Reply 11, posted (1 year 3 weeks 3 days ago) and read 3612 times:

I'm not mentioning my exact age, but I've never had a girlfriend.

Marc


User currently offlineFallap From Denmark, joined Jan 2009, 237 posts, RR: 0
Reply 12, posted (1 year 3 weeks 2 days 23 hours ago) and read 3558 times:

I'm 22 and I've only been in two short relationships, I feel very uncomfortable in a relationship; like I'm being locked up and frankly I'm having a hard time sticking to one girl only. I currently have a fun-buddy, we do pretty much everything couples do, but we also have other partners of opposite sex (in her case both)

And it works pretty good  


User currently offlineDocLightning From United States of America, joined Nov 2005, 18696 posts, RR: 58
Reply 13, posted (1 year 3 weeks 2 days 23 hours ago) and read 3553 times:

Quoting falstaff (Reply 8):
Hey Doc; Do guys like hearing about that? I would think not.

Most gay men I know are not interested in the pretense that their partners are blushing virgins. Most of the men I've dated (including my husband) have spoken openly about past sexual exploits. In my experience, it seems to be a heterosexual phenomenon. I assume any man I'm fooling around with has ample experience (at least, I hope he does!).


User currently offlinepanam330 From United States of America, joined Mar 2004, 2660 posts, RR: 9
Reply 14, posted (1 year 3 weeks 2 days 23 hours ago) and read 3540 times:

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 13):
I assume any man I'm fooling around with has ample experience (at least, I hope he does!).

You'd find out if they didn't about 30 seconds in, anyway.  

Live a little. You'll thank yourself later in life. I'm 24 and have had one 3 year relationship (as well as another yearlong one) that started when I was a college freshman. Gay guys my age were hard to come by where I grew up so college sort of opened the door for a relationship. In hindsight, I wish I'd stayed single and enjoyed my earlier youth more, but I learned a lot so it wasn't all for nothing.


User currently offlineOA260 From Ireland, joined Nov 2006, 26497 posts, RR: 58
Reply 15, posted (1 year 3 weeks 2 days 22 hours ago) and read 3520 times:

Quoting ANITIX87 (Reply 3):
so I'm not about to go do something stupid like ask for a break so I can go mess around a bit more.

No indeed . I dont understand people that want to do that when they have someone good and loving.

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 13):
Most gay men I know are not interested in the pretense that their partners are blushing virgins.

But on the flip side I dont want to know all the ins and outs and sadly alot of Gay people love to brag about it. Sad state of affairs really and quite disrespectful to someone when your dating them.



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User currently offlinejoacocifuentes From Argentina, joined Sep 2012, 109 posts, RR: 0
Reply 16, posted (1 year 3 weeks 2 days 20 hours ago) and read 3435 times:

I have 16 year old friends that are dating for over a year, another friend (16year) for 2 year and lots of friends, girl and boys, like. Here in Argentina you fin both types of people

User currently offlineTheCol From Canada, joined Jan 2007, 2032 posts, RR: 6
Reply 17, posted (1 year 3 weeks 2 days 8 hours ago) and read 3248 times:

Quoting falstaff (Reply 6):
Being tied down would be a serious crimp in my style

  

I don't get why anyone under 30 would choose to settle down with a gal/guy. I guess people don't realize that it's highly unlikely their items left on the bucket list will get done. I don't get a lot of down time as it is, so I rather spend my free time doing what I want with enough cash to spare. If I decide to get married in the near future, or enter into serious relationship, then that's 50% of my hard earned money and time down the drain.



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User currently offlineWestJet747 From Canada, joined Aug 2011, 1779 posts, RR: 10
Reply 18, posted (1 year 3 weeks 2 days 7 hours ago) and read 3235 times:

Quoting TheCol (Reply 17):
I don't get why anyone under 30 would choose to settle down with a gal/guy. I guess people don't realize that it's highly unlikely their items left on the bucket list will get done. I don't get a lot of down time as it is, so I rather spend my free time doing what I want with enough cash to spare.

I totally agree. During highschool and my first year of university, I had plenty of girlfriends, but I haven't had a serious relationship since (going on 4 years now). Frankly, I don't really need/want a girlfriend right now. I'm very good at keeping myself quite busy, so I don't require a girlfriend to fill any voids in my schedule. If I find a great girl in the near future, I would absolutely pursue a relationship, but I can guarantee there won't be wedding bells or pregnancy tests until I'm about 30.

There's too much living to do in the mean time!  



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User currently offlineFlyingfox27 From United Kingdom, joined Jul 2007, 423 posts, RR: 0
Reply 19, posted (1 year 3 weeks 2 days 3 hours ago) and read 3152 times:

Im 32 and young (well.....) free and single, i much rather enjoy my planes on a cold sunny day than be in bed or the shops with a girlfriend spending all my money but thats just me  

I have had a few relationships but found that they didnt like planes or the things i did so i decided to stay single, yeah my family members might get married and have families and everything which is great because i can still join in the fun but its a nice feeling not being committed to someone else.

Now if i could marry a plane that would be a different story......LOL! :P


User currently offlineAesma From France, joined Nov 2009, 6108 posts, RR: 9
Reply 20, posted (1 year 3 weeks 2 days 2 hours ago) and read 3131 times:

Well if you think you want a relationship then follow the others' lead, otherwise it's no trouble. Now, at your age I was quite shy and ended up in the "friend zone" easily when I definitely wanted to be in the "naked zone", and that's a big waste of time. Pick up you dick, prepare yourself to never talk to those girls again, and go for it. If you think there is no chance in hell it'll work, you can alternatively become real friends and ask them to help you out in your quest for a girlfriend/sex friend.

The longer the friend zone lasts the worst it becomes, I mean with one she was asking my opinion about her thongs, making lingerie shows in her room for me, pretty horrible. With another it ended up in an orgy, which is not what I was looking for since I had feelings for her.



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User currently offlinefalstaff From United States of America, joined Jun 2006, 5962 posts, RR: 27
Reply 21, posted (1 year 3 weeks 1 day 23 hours ago) and read 3072 times:
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Quoting Aesma (Reply 20):
ended up in the "friend zone"

A bad place to be.... It happened to me too many times.

Quoting Aesma (Reply 20):
I definitely wanted to be in the "naked zone

The best place to be. I hate when they think you're too good of friends to have sex; I wouldn't want to have sex with my enemies.



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User currently offlineSmittyone From United States of America, joined Feb 2012, 1275 posts, RR: 3
Reply 22, posted (1 year 3 weeks 1 day 9 hours ago) and read 2956 times:

Quoting WestJet747 (Reply 18):
I can guarantee there won't be wedding bells or pregnancy tests until I'm about 30.

My father never gave me much advice except this hard-won nugget:

"You don't want to be hanging wallpaper from day one."

LOL



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User currently onlineKiwiRob From New Zealand, joined Jun 2005, 6641 posts, RR: 3
Reply 23, posted (1 year 3 weeks 1 day 2 hours ago) and read 2885 times:

dude this is a.net I'm sure there are guys here who have never even spoken to a woman who wasn't family.

User currently offlineSmittyone From United States of America, joined Feb 2012, 1275 posts, RR: 3
Reply 24, posted (1 year 3 weeks 23 hours ago) and read 2817 times:

Quoting KiwiRob (Reply 23):
dude this is a.net I'm sure there are guys here who have never even spoken to a woman who wasn't family.

Other than to ask a flight attendant what the aircraft reg# is...  



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User currently offlinePHX787 From Japan, joined Mar 2012, 6942 posts, RR: 18
Reply 25, posted (1 year 3 weeks 17 hours ago) and read 2850 times:

Yeah im 21 and i haven't had a relationship longer than 5 months......and i absolutely hated being in that relationship   

To me, most people use "relationships" and "love" as stepping-stones to improve their self-image or self-esteem, especially within the relm of their peers. its pathetic.

Plain and simple- im 21, and im in Japan. I have the rest of my life to worry about getting married (well, at least in 10 years)..... I am going to go out and bang as many chicks as I can, BECAUSE i can, because I'm not tied down to one chick.

Dont worry about it.



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User currently offlineAirstud From United States of America, joined Nov 2000, 2557 posts, RR: 1
Reply 26, posted (1 year 3 weeks 17 hours ago) and read 2831 times:

Quoting PHX787 (Reply 25):
Plain and simple- im 21, and im in Japan. I have the rest of my life to worry about getting married (well, at least in 10 years)..... I am going to go out and bang as many chicks as I can, BECAUSE i can, because I'm not tied down to one chick.

Dont worry about it.

But do use condoms.



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User currently offlinejoffie From Australia, joined Mar 2006, 802 posts, RR: 2
Reply 27, posted (1 year 3 weeks 14 hours ago) and read 2855 times:

Quoting KiwiRob (Reply 23):

 


User currently offlineaerorobnz From Rwanda, joined Feb 2001, 6900 posts, RR: 13
Reply 28, posted (1 year 2 weeks 6 days 21 hours ago) and read 2775 times:

I've had long term relationships, but never moved in with anyone. I'm content within myself. I don't like the burden of being in a loving relationship, all that constant compromise drags me down.

Quoting TheCol (Reply 17):
then that's 50% of my hard earned money and time down the drain.

Kid 1 - You 33%
Kid 2 - You 25%
Kid 3 - You 20%

Bugger that for a joke, especially it becomes a child support issue.

Buy Morning After Pills over the counter, and travel with one in your wallet. Condoms are great, but trust me you want to have an instant backup if it breaks. I have had narrow escapes that I have avoided that way.

Quoting Aesma (Reply 20):
With another it ended up in an orgy, which is not what I was looking for since I had feelings for her.

You were compensated handsomely for your pain... 


User currently offlineTheCol From Canada, joined Jan 2007, 2032 posts, RR: 6
Reply 29, posted (1 year 2 weeks 6 days 13 hours ago) and read 2686 times:

Quoting aerorobnz (Reply 28):

Kid 1 - You 33%
Kid 2 - You 25%
Kid 3 - You 20%

Bugger that for a joke, especially it becomes a child support issue.


  

Yup, a one night stand can easily turn into a lifetime commitment.

[quote=PHX787,reply=25]Dont worry about it.[/quote

I've heard that one before. Soon followed by: "Sh*t dude, what I'm I going to do now???".   



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User currently offlinesteffenbn From Denmark, joined Apr 2010, 263 posts, RR: 0
Reply 30, posted (1 year 2 weeks 6 days 11 hours ago) and read 2648 times:

Quoting Flyingfox27 (Reply 19):
Im 32 and young (well.....) free and single, i much rather enjoy my planes on a cold sunny day than be in bed

I've always said nearly the same thing   I always tell my friends that I would rather go flying/spotting than sex, if I had to choose one of them!



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User currently offlineNAV20 From Australia, joined Nov 2003, 9909 posts, RR: 36
Reply 31, posted (1 year 2 weeks 6 days 8 hours ago) and read 2624 times:

Quoting af773atmsp (Thread starter):
However I'm starting to not care. Its nice being free and talking to any girl I want to without restriction.

God, af773atmsp, I'm no youngster, you've got me thinking back to something like 50 years ago! Two bits of advice I can offer.

First, try to avoid 'talking to them' as far as possible. By which I mean, don't talk AT them - just ask the odd question about their situation, get them talking to - and hopefully confiding in - you. Make yourself a 'good listener.' And then respond sensibly/constructively.

Secondly, at a suitable point, 'put the question.' I don't mean whether they'd like to go to bed with you - just whether they'd like to see a movie or have dinner..........

Anyway, relax - it'll all 'happen' sooner or later. Probably sooner.   And after that, you'll never look back......

[Edited 2013-03-29 05:27:38]


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User currently offlineTWA772LR From United States of America, joined Nov 2011, 1150 posts, RR: 1
Reply 32, posted (1 year 2 weeks 6 days ago) and read 2554 times:

Quoting PHX787 (Reply 25):
Plain and simple- im 21, and im in Japan. I have the rest of my life to worry about getting married (well, at least in 10 years)..... I am going to go out and bang as many chicks as I can, BECAUSE i can, because I'm not tied down to one chick.

Damn son! You got it made! 

But seriously af773atmsp, chicks take up WAY too much time and money. I haven't experienced it myself, but I've seen plenty of good friends who have. I presume you are in college, use that time to study then party, and the money to buy food. I personally think we should follow PHX787s example! 



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User currently offlinePHX787 From Japan, joined Mar 2012, 6942 posts, RR: 18
Reply 33, posted (1 year 2 weeks 5 days 12 hours ago) and read 2476 times:

Quoting Airstud (Reply 26):
But do use condoms.

yeeeeeeeeeeep

Quoting TheCol (Reply 29):
I've heard that one before. Soon followed by: "Sh*t dude, what I'm I going to do now???".

Thaaats when I turn 29 and my life gets all settled down and job-by

Quoting TWA772LR (Reply 32):
I personally think we should follow PHX787s example!

LOL I now know why we're on eachother's respected user's list.

BUT- Unless you're Superfly, you gotta work for the ladies 



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User currently offlineCXB77L From Australia, joined Feb 2009, 2539 posts, RR: 5
Reply 34, posted (1 year 2 weeks 5 days 8 hours ago) and read 2430 times:
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I'm still single at the ripe old age of 31 and have never been in a relationship. But that's more by choice than any lack of success with the ladies. I'm enjoying being single at the moment, because the way I see it, being single means I have the freedom to be myself, without the need to compromise on anything.


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User currently offlinewardialer From United States of America, joined Sep 2001, 1182 posts, RR: 0
Reply 35, posted (1 year 2 weeks 5 days 7 hours ago) and read 2407 times:

Same here. Never had a girlfriend or make that friends "in general" including guy friends. Pretty much a big time LONER.
It sucks most of the time, but I can only blame myself. Im not that outgoing nor making friends. I guess I dont have the communication skills to make friends. But I like being alone too. However, I just ended a 3 month relationship with a girl. It felt very bad as she dumped me. I told her the real truth about me that I dont like to hang out and go to places. Im just a "stay at home" guy. And I guess she though I was real boring. So that was her ordeal which I can understand. We met at work. Yes, work. Not at a bar or on facebook.

But to sum it up, Its a pain being dumped by a girl, but the pain was really strong for me since that was my very first serious relationship with a girl. Being dumped the first time is very very hard, esp. if it is your first relationship.

But I also told her that I do not want any kids.

[Edited 2013-03-30 06:39:37]

User currently offlinetommy767 From United States of America, joined Aug 2003, 6584 posts, RR: 11
Reply 36, posted (1 year 2 weeks 5 days 1 hour ago) and read 2337 times:

My friend who is 24 (almost 25) has never had a relationship. He might be asexual.


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User currently onlineKiwiRob From New Zealand, joined Jun 2005, 6641 posts, RR: 3
Reply 37, posted (1 year 2 weeks 5 days 1 hour ago) and read 2320 times:

Quoting PHX787 (Reply 33):
BUT- Unless you're Superfly, you gotta work for the ladies

Fly appears to go for quantity rather than quality.


User currently offline3DoorsDown From United States of America, joined Oct 2005, 376 posts, RR: 0
Reply 38, posted (1 year 2 weeks 4 days 21 hours ago) and read 2276 times:

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 5):
Go mess around. Wear condoms.    Have fun. Wear condoms.    Be casual. Wear condoms.  

I wouldn't worry about it too much. Enjoy life. Don't get saddled down by a relationship at your age. You have years to go before that needs to happen.

If your 40 and still single though, you may want to look into a snow globe and say Flairport...Flairport...Flairport and he should appear, at which time you can go stalk a girl together.         

edit: changed 30 to 40

[Edited 2013-03-30 17:05:55]

User currently offlinezippyjet From United States of America, joined Sep 2001, 5401 posts, RR: 12
Reply 39, posted (1 year 2 weeks 4 days 19 hours ago) and read 2236 times:

Quoting af773atmsp (Thread starter):

Have fun and project a devil may care attitude. When you least expect it, somewhere, sometime...etc it could very well happen. If you are desparate, it will be like hearding cats! This applies to almost anything in life except death and taxes.



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User currently offline3DoorsDown From United States of America, joined Oct 2005, 376 posts, RR: 0
Reply 40, posted (1 year 2 weeks 4 days 18 hours ago) and read 2220 times:

Sometimes when you least expect it, evil shows. She's beautiful, she's alot, ALOT, of fun and will make you think you are in a darker side of Heaven. But do yourself a favor and the first time you get a chance to escape...RUN LIKE THE WIND!!!

User currently offlineTheCol From Canada, joined Jan 2007, 2032 posts, RR: 6
Reply 41, posted (1 year 2 weeks 4 days 7 hours ago) and read 2159 times:

Quoting KiwiRob (Reply 37):

  

Quoting tommy767 (Reply 36):

People have different priorities in life. Education, Careers, Family obligations, sports and other hobbies, charity work, Friends, etc.

Quoting 3DoorsDown (Reply 40):

        



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User currently offlineFlyingBattery26 From UK - Scotland, joined Mar 2013, 25 posts, RR: 0
Reply 42, posted (1 year 2 weeks 4 days 1 hour ago) and read 2091 times:

I'm 26 and never had a girlfriend. I try not to let it get me down. Basically I've had depression and anxiety problems since I was 15, and after I left school, I spent the vast majority of my time in the house. I did go out quite a lot when I was about 16-18, but girls simply weren't interested in me, and I was very shy and uncomfortable talking to them. I still am, though not quite as much. I don't ever get noticed by girls when I'm out and about though, and wouldn't have a clue what to say to them. I get very depressed and worried that I'll go through the rest of my life alone, never experiencing one of the most beautiful things in life, but I'm just trying to be positive. I've been extremely unwell and it peaked last year to the worst it's ever been. Only now am I starting to be more social and I feel I've gained a bit of confidence lately.

You're not alone on this one. I guess it's just a case of living your life, and not thinking about it... just keep meeting people, going places, talking to people.. it's easier said than done, especially if you have social anxiety and are shy. I think when the time is right, I'll just happen to meet someone. I believe in the law of attraction, so that kind of helps. Obviously she's not going to turn up on my doorstep, but through some situation I think someone will come along, the circumstances for potentially connecting with someone should happen at the right time.

I got really messed up over a girl last year, it was someone I hadn't even met, but we'd been talking on the phone for two years, planning to meet and we both had feelings, and were planning to be together if the meeting went well. But eventually she then met someone else and just stopped speaking to me altogether. It was awful, and I was devastated. It took me over a year to get over... but the whole experience changed me as a person. It made me get into spirituality (not religion), and it actually helped me to mature and grow. I lost a lot of my ego. I don't know why I'm telling you guys all this, I hope someone reads it though.

I just try and be grateful for each day, but it's very hard. Sorry for babbling, I just felt like getting that off my chest. It eats at me sometimes, especially when you see couples my age together... makes me feel so bad because of what I'm missing out on... but I try not to be too negative about it.

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User currently offlineFlyingBattery26 From UK - Scotland, joined Mar 2013, 25 posts, RR: 0
Reply 43, posted (1 year 2 weeks 4 days 1 hour ago) and read 2079 times:

Quoting wardialer (Reply 35):

Same here. Never had a girlfriend or make that friends "in general" including guy friends. Pretty much a big time LONER.
It sucks most of the time, but I can only blame myself. Im not that outgoing nor making friends. I guess I dont have the communication skills to make friends. But I like being alone too. However, I just ended a 3 month relationship with a girl. It felt very bad as she dumped me. I told her the real truth about me that I dont like to hang out and go to places. Im just a "stay at home" guy. And I guess she though I was real boring.

Please don't blame yourself. You are who you are. Everyone is different, with different likes and dislikes. There's no "right" way to be. Obviously this girl wasn't compatible with you, that's why it didn't work out. But it's not because there's anything wrong with you that you need to change. Just be yourself and one day you'll meet a girl who appreciates you for who you are.

EDIT: Sorry for the double post, but I didn't know how to put his quote in my previous message, because it didn't show when I pressed "edit"

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User currently offlineklm672 From United States of America, joined Oct 1999, 2417 posts, RR: 3
Reply 44, posted (1 year 2 weeks 3 days 23 hours ago) and read 2034 times:

Hi everyone. Much like most of you, I've only had a handful of gf's (not much of a handful of anything else, though). I tried the online dating thing, but it stressed me out. You'd think I just interviewed for a top job at a top company. When are they going to contact me back? Should I call or text them back? Did they like me? She did this and that with her hair..so that must mean something, right? I made her laugh X amount of times, that's good, right? I was mentally making myself SICK! I just stopped and started doing something for ME. I joined a gym yesterday and started going daily (ok, ok so two days in a row, but have plans to go tomorrow). I am on a diet, and not only do I notice, but I am getting compliments as well.

I have joined new organizations at my job, to stay ahead of everyone and to network. I joined several meetup groups and even created my own one called Cle Aviation group. I was just like you. I was so shy, I saw people get into relationships. I saw assholes get the pretty girl. I HEARD all the shit the asshole did to the pretty girl, and how awesome of a FRIEND I am, my amazing qualities, and everything a girl could want in a FRIEND.

You're time will come. Now that I'm older, the assholes get left in the dirt and its very refreshing to find a nice, smart guy. Some of them might even be amazed at your aviation knowledge. Yes, seriously, I could spout off what aircraft and airline was flying above us and, on some occassions even tell where it was going to or from.


User currently offlinekiwiinoz From New Zealand, joined Oct 2005, 2165 posts, RR: 5
Reply 45, posted (1 year 2 weeks 3 days 17 hours ago) and read 1972 times:

My advise to the thread starter:

1: You definitely need to be comfortable, somewhat, with yourself before you start sharing that self with others

2: don't for a moment believe that the "burden" identified by some is not worth the benefits of sharing your life with someone. Humans live a long time and we get enough opportunity in life to be a ratbag when we are young and look for something deeper when older. People who claim to live a better life because they are free of the "burden" simply are not aware of the higher state of human existence that comes with a loving relationship. Sure, there are occasions where we would like a day or 2 of freedom, but I doubt they happen as often as the days of regret ahead for those who choose to go it alone


User currently offlineSXDFC From United States of America, joined Dec 2007, 2226 posts, RR: 19
Reply 46, posted (1 year 2 weeks 3 days 15 hours ago) and read 1952 times:

What ever you do, DO NOT GET HER A SNOWGLOBE!!!!!  

I remember when I first started working for WN, I took this girl I was talking with to MDW, had a great time, and even took her up in the cockpit of a -700, every time I work N917WN always think of her..

Have fun, I am 23, working on becoming a pilot, and have a ton of things I want to do in my life.. Many people my age tend to settle too quick, and in the long run you miss out on all the fun stuff to do in life.. At the end of the day, everything happens for a reason and what is meant to be is GOING TO BE..

Quoting PHX787 (Reply 25):
I am going to go out and bang as many chicks as I can, BECAUSE i can

Your profile says you like Japanese chicks, and you're currently in Japan, so I am sure you are in your glory..  



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User currently offlinePHX787 From Japan, joined Mar 2012, 6942 posts, RR: 18
Reply 47, posted (1 year 2 weeks 3 days 12 hours ago) and read 1918 times:

Quoting SXDFC (Reply 46):
What ever you do, DO NOT GET HER A SNOWGLOBE!!!!!

Is this another FLAirport reference?

I feel sorry for the lad. He deleted his profile too   

Quoting SXDFC (Reply 46):
Your profile says you like Japanese chicks, and you're currently in Japan, so I am sure you are in your glory..

:D

Well actually I'm holding back right now because I have bigger fish to fry (school related stuff, cleaning my apartment, securing some financial aide from my university, etc) but yes I am struggling in that regard to hold back...cuz the chicks here are so damn hot   



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User currently onlineKiwiRob From New Zealand, joined Jun 2005, 6641 posts, RR: 3
Reply 48, posted (1 year 2 weeks 3 days 4 hours ago) and read 1861 times:

Quoting PHX787 (Reply 47):
cuz the chicks here are so damn hot

I agree they are often very hot, although Japanese girls generally have weird legs, they all look like they've been riding horses from birth.


User currently offlinePlymSpotter From Spain, joined Jun 2004, 11572 posts, RR: 61
Reply 49, posted (1 year 2 weeks 3 days 1 hour ago) and read 1817 times:

Quoting KiwiRob (Reply 48):
I agree they are often very hot, although Japanese girls generally have weird legs, they all look like they've been riding horses from birth.

Some also have this weird pixelated area down there. Must make it difficult to see what you're doing.


Dan  



...love is just a camouflage for what resembles rage again...
User currently offlineFlyboyOz From Australia, joined Nov 2000, 1973 posts, RR: 26
Reply 50, posted (1 year 2 weeks 2 days 19 hours ago) and read 1742 times:

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 5):
Go mess around. Wear condoms. Have fun. Wear condoms. Be casual. Wear condoms. Don't constantly wonder where this particular one is going; it will go where it goes and you should simply remain open to possibilities. Wear condoms. Don't be afraid to date more than one person at a time as long as none of the dates are serious. Wear condoms.

Doc... I guess it's not right to have sex BEFORE marriage and also it's not right time to push further or cross the border when they got to know each other for 24 hours - no one night stand. It will takes some time understand each other before moving up to the next level - serious relationship. You know that.



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User currently offlinekiwiinoz From New Zealand, joined Oct 2005, 2165 posts, RR: 5
Reply 51, posted (1 year 2 weeks 2 days 18 hours ago) and read 1717 times:

Quoting PHX787 (Reply 47):
bigger fish to fry
Quoting PHX787 (Reply 47):
cleaning my apartment

Serious? If so I think you need to re-calibrate your fish-sizer


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