Airstud From United States of America, joined Nov 2000, 2958 posts, RR: 4 Posted (2 years 1 month 3 weeks 5 days 13 hours ago) and read 3032 times:
One interesting thing about the gay marriage issue is that a lot of people who say they are opposed to gay marriage say they have no problems with civil unions/domestic partnerships, even that they support expanding the legal parameters of civil unions so that they are fully equivalent to marriage (hospital visitation, power o' attorney, etc). It is apparently the "M" word that sets some people off.
With that being so, I thought it would be fun to come up with a new word to describe the legal marriage-equivalent for same-sex partnerings. "Gayrriage" is the first one that comes to my mind but it's lame.
Even though I find myself no longer opposed to legalizing gay marriage, I frankly don't like it when a dude says "my husband." Does anyone want to try to invent a new word for a gay dude's...well, spouse; and/or of course one for lesbian spouses?
EDIT: Based on some of what I've read in the first five replies; I failed to make it clear that this thread is just for fun. I'm not advocating that legislative bodies should adopt new terminology instead of just legalizing gay marriage. Some states have done so and more are likely going to and I for one am not opposed to it.
I still think folks could just have some fun making up new words!!
Ken777 From United States of America, joined Mar 2004, 8682 posts, RR: 9
Reply 3, posted (2 years 1 month 3 weeks 5 days 12 hours ago) and read 3000 times:
Don't be afraid of change in this area. We used to be afraid of allowing women to vote - My mother was 10 years old before women could vote and both my kids were past the primary school years when the last state ratified the Amendment giving women the right to vote. It was even sooner when we finally passed equal rights laws. No more "White" and "COlored" signs on bathroom doors or water fountains.
We have gone through changes in the past that appeared "scary" to some, but looking back all we can really ask is why it took so long to correct those wrongs.
We don't need new "names" for "marriage" or "wife" or "husband". We need to let these citizens enjoy the same acceptance, legal rights and benefits (and responsibilities) that I have enjoyed for 44 years.
And, if the SCOTUS decides in favor of the Gay Side maybe we will rapidly develop the maturity to as why it also took so long.
AirAfreak From United States of America, joined Apr 2012, 750 posts, RR: 0
Reply 8, posted (2 years 1 month 3 weeks 5 days 9 hours ago) and read 2924 times:
Let me preface this by saying I am a single gay male:
Playful term: "DOG DINNER!" (And then we bark at each other at the altar). It's degrading and I'm really not serious, but I use this term when I refer to men because gay men (in my neck of the woods) tend to take care of their bodies. lol!
Serious term: "Husband." It's a little weird for me to say (especially since I love being single), however, I am all for equality within the human race.
mt99 From United States of America, joined May 1999, 6760 posts, RR: 6
Reply 17, posted (2 years 1 month 3 weeks 5 days ago) and read 2788 times:
The anti-gay marriage crowd is all about the word "marriage".
But call it "marriage" , "civil union" "gamarrrigae" or whatever at the end of day you have consenting men and women living with others of the same sex. The practical effect to society is exactly the same!
They will still go to dinner together, they will still hold hands, they will still go to work.. The anti-gay crowd woulds still have to explain to their kids why 2 people live together.
Aesma From Reunion, joined Nov 2009, 7592 posts, RR: 14
Reply 18, posted (2 years 1 month 3 weeks 4 days 23 hours ago) and read 2775 times:
Well the words husband and wife just mean "my other half who is a man/woman". So I don't see other words taking their place especially if there is a "gay marriage". If there was an union, alliance, partnership, then you could have new words.
In French there isn't a word for wife ! We say "ma femme" (my woman). If you like formal speech you can use "spouse" and this is gendered (époux/épouse). Then there is the PACS, a civil partnership less binding than a marriage, with less benefits, and open to 2 adults regardless of gender. PACS is an acronym, it exists since 2000 and there are no words commonly associated with it for "partners". The most common is "pacsé(e)", which is problematic for some since you can't hear if you're talking about a man or a woman. Some could be embarrassed that others would assume they're LGBT when they're not, or vice versa.
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zckls04 From United States of America, joined Dec 2011, 1703 posts, RR: 4
Reply 19, posted (2 years 1 month 3 weeks 4 days 22 hours ago) and read 2751 times:
Quoting iMissPiedmont (Reply 4): I confess to a bit of cringe hearing that also but it's the best word to use.
I agree, I don't like hearing gay people use the word husband, but bizarrely that applies to straight people too; I just don't like the word. I cringe a bit when I hear anybody use it, and I have no idea why.
I think it's just an unpleasant set of sounds to my ear.
If you're not sure whether to use a piece of punctuation, it's best not to.
vikkyvik From United States of America, joined Jul 2003, 10959 posts, RR: 26
Reply 20, posted (2 years 1 month 3 weeks 4 days 21 hours ago) and read 2738 times:
Quoting zckls04 (Reply 19): I just don't like the word. I cringe a bit when I hear anybody use it, and I have no idea why.
Ya know, now that I think about it, you're kind of right. I'm not sure why either - I feel like maybe there's some inherent smugness or possessiveness attached to it. I don't know why "wife" doesn't bring up those same feelings.
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fr8mech From United States of America, joined Sep 2005, 5989 posts, RR: 15
Reply 22, posted (2 years 1 month 3 weeks 4 days 20 hours ago) and read 2718 times:
Quoting Airstud (Thread starter): With that being so, I thought it would be fun to come up with a new word to describe the legal marriage-equivalent for same-sex partnerings. "Gayrriage" is the first one that comes to my mind but it's lame.
I understand that this is a "for fun" thread and quite simply, I can't think of any term that would make me giggle without being derogatory...actually, I can't think of any of those either.
If you go hunting for new terms, it becomes something "different". As I understand it, that's the last thing that it needs to be: different.
Quoting Ken777 (Reply 3): We don't need new "names" for "marriage" or "wife" or "husband". We need to let these citizens enjoy the same acceptance, legal rights and benefits (and responsibilities) that I have enjoyed for 44 years.
Your dad must have been her husband. I hear husbands are known for the list of features I listed.
Quoting vikkyvik (Reply 20): Ya know, now that I think about it, you're kind of right. I'm not sure why either - I feel like maybe there's some inherent smugness or possessiveness attached to it. I don't know why "wife" doesn't bring up those same feelings.
Friends of mine (straight married couple), call each-other "Wife" and "Husband" all the time.
"WIFE!!! Where are the scissors??"
"They're in the drawer to the left of the sink, Husband!"
"HUSBAND!!! I need you to change a lightbulb!"
I think they started it off as a sort of joke with each-other and now it's become quite a thing. Especially because both of them (and especially her) can pack a whallop of a bellow when they scream it out. "HUSBAND!!!"