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User currently offlinefr8mech From United States of America, joined Sep 2005, 5470 posts, RR: 14
Posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 1 day 1 hour ago) and read 2255 times:

The previous thread has been archived.

I just got an email from the BSA with the following link referring to a change in policy effective Jan. 1, 2014.

http://www.scouting.org/sitecore/con...andards/Resolution/Resolution.aspx

Good news.

I find it interesting that they did not provide religious organizations a specific "out". I guess the "Declaration of Religious Principle" may be read as such, but funny the exemption wasn't specifically written in.

[Edited 2013-04-20 06:20:53]


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User currently offlineMir From United States of America, joined Jan 2004, 21654 posts, RR: 55
Reply 1, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 1 day 1 hour ago) and read 2229 times:

It's a bit of a strange statement to make to say that gay kids can be in the scouts, but that they cannot be scout leaders once they get older and might want to give back. Isn't that a big part of scouts, teaching people the skills they need to be leaders later in life?

-Mir



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User currently offlinefr8mech From United States of America, joined Sep 2005, 5470 posts, RR: 14
Reply 2, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 1 day ago) and read 2211 times:

Quoting Mir (Reply 1):
It's a bit of a strange statement to make to say that gay kids can be in the scouts, but that they cannot be scout leaders once they get older and might want to give back. Isn't that a big part of scouts, teaching people the skills they need to be leaders later in life?

I agree, but in cases of ingrained predjudices that are derived from religious dogma and/or social traditions, baby steps are required. I think within the next decade, we'll see a shift away from a ban on homosexuals being Scout Leaders.

I think that ramming too much change, in too short of time, would be counter-productive.



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User currently offlineBraniff747SP From United States of America, joined Oct 2008, 2988 posts, RR: 1
Reply 3, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 1 day ago) and read 2209 times:

Welcome to the 21st century, BSA. One hurdle out of the way, but this is still ridiculous as

Quoting Mir (Reply 1):


It's a bit of a strange statement to make to say that gay kids can be in the scouts, but that they cannot be scout leaders once they get older and might want to give back. Isn't that a big part of scouts, teaching people the skills they need to be leaders later in life?

   Absolutely.

I've been a youth member of the BSA for eight years or so; I've always said that this policy is absurd and I'm glad they have come around somewhat. However, the exclusion of gay leaders remains despicable and contrary to all of the values that National 'instills' in us Scouts.

Imbecilic.



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User currently offlineAeroWesty From United States of America, joined Oct 2004, 20685 posts, RR: 62
Reply 4, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 1 day ago) and read 2206 times:

The BSA keeps sticking their foot in it, don't they.


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User currently offlineMir From United States of America, joined Jan 2004, 21654 posts, RR: 55
Reply 5, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 1 day ago) and read 2202 times:

Quoting fr8mech (Reply 2):
I agree, but in cases of ingrained predjudices that are derived from religious dogma and/or social traditions, baby steps are required.

I see where you're coming from, but what if they had just not included that last phrase about continuing the policy for leaders and left it open? You'd likely still have some troops that would continue to ban gays from being scout leaders, but at least it wouldn't be an institutionalized policy that would hang over the heads of the gay kids.

-Mir



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User currently offlineBraniff747SP From United States of America, joined Oct 2008, 2988 posts, RR: 1
Reply 6, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 1 day ago) and read 2190 times:

Quoting fr8mech (Reply 2):
I agree, but in cases of ingrained predjudices that are derived from religious dogma and/or social traditions, baby steps are required. I think within the next decade, we'll see a shift away from a ban on homosexuals being Scout Leaders.

That shouldn't be up to National. National should set the standard and say everyone is welcome. The troops chartered to the religious organizations (which run rather independently of the BSA anyway) would still be able to ban gays---National, however, should stay out of it and take the high road.

Quoting Mir (Reply 5):

I see where you're coming from, but what if they had just not included that last phrase about continuing the policy for leaders and left it open? You'd likely still have some troops that would continue to ban gays from being scout leaders, but at least it wouldn't be an institutionalized policy that would hang over the heads of the gay kids.

Agreed fully.



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User currently offlinefr8mech From United States of America, joined Sep 2005, 5470 posts, RR: 14
Reply 7, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 1 day ago) and read 2186 times:

Quoting Mir (Reply 5):
but what if they had just not included that last phrase about continuing the policy for leaders and left it open?


I suspect the wording is as it is because of a compromise.

Take a look at the FAQ.

Question 5, bullet point 2 and question 6 are quite telling. The parents are pushing this change, not the Council.

Reading into number 6 tells me that the Council wants to see the effect of the change before they proceed any further. Like I said...baby steps.

The Executive Summary shows a major shift in attitudes over the last 3 years. After reading through it, I suspect an adult change is less than 10 years coming.

Quoting Braniff747SP (Reply 6):
The troops chartered to the religious organizations (which run rather independently of the BSA anyway) would still be able to ban gays---

Not according to the FAQ, number 19.

[Edited 2013-04-20 07:43:15]

[Edited 2013-04-20 07:44:28]


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User currently offlineBraniff747SP From United States of America, joined Oct 2008, 2988 posts, RR: 1
Reply 8, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 23 hours ago) and read 2154 times:

Quoting fr8mech (Reply 7):

Not according to the FAQ, number 19.

Not officially, of course...



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User currently offlineBongodog1964 From United Kingdom, joined Oct 2006, 3604 posts, RR: 3
Reply 9, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 19 hours ago) and read 2051 times:

Admitting gays - whatever next ?

Well the Scout Association in the UK even admits Girls, any chance of the US ever being so daring ?

Seriously I find all this quite absurd, I was a Scout leader here in the UK for 19 years, and I can say that the rule book doesn't even mention homosexuality, let alone rule on whether its acceptable for members adult or youth to have such leanings. Nor was it ever mentioned on any training courses.


User currently offlineBraniff747SP From United States of America, joined Oct 2008, 2988 posts, RR: 1
Reply 10, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 17 hours ago) and read 2017 times:

Quoting Bongodog1964 (Reply 14):
Well the Scout Association in the UK even admits Girls, any chance of the US ever being so daring ?

There is a separate Scouting association for girls; the Girl Scouts. It has been that way for over a hundred years, so that is not likely to change.

Additionally, the Boy Scouts of America runs the Venturing program which admits males and females ages 14-21. Many run alongside troops.



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User currently offlinetugger From United States of America, joined Apr 2006, 5630 posts, RR: 8
Reply 11, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 17 hours ago) and read 2004 times:

Quoting Mir (Reply 1):
It's a bit of a strange statement to make to say that gay kids can be in the scouts, but that they cannot be scout leaders once they get older and might want to give back. Isn't that a big part of scouts, teaching people the skills they need to be leaders later in life?

Yeah I very much think that and agree... but without making excuses for the essential wrongness/ridiculousness of it, I also feel this way:

Quoting fr8mech (Reply 2):
I agree, but in cases of ingrained predjudices that are derived from religious dogma and/or social traditions, baby steps are required. I think within the next decade, we'll see a shift away from a ban on homosexuals being Scout Leaders.

I think that ramming too much change, in too short of time, would be counter-productive.

Fr8mech, I agree with you too.

Quoting AeroWesty (Reply 4):
The BSA keeps sticking their foot in it, don't they.

Yes, they do. But like all of us, they are only human. And we talking about humans here, ones that are fighting a losing battle with ideals (that are exactly not ideal) based on old concepts that they find written down in a text they revere. They may ignore many "directions" in that text but that has occurred over many, many years and this is no different as they learned and became better humans. For better or worse.

Quoting Bongodog1964 (Reply 14):
Seriously I find all this quite absurd, I was a Scout leader here in the UK for 19 years, and I can say that the rule book doesn't even mention homosexuality, let alone rule on whether its acceptable for members adult or youth to have such leanings. Nor was it ever mentioned on any training courses.

 Wow!   
Shirley you can't be serious! And have GAYS possibly INFLUENCING our youth and making them think that perhaps being gay is OK!?! Perish the thought! My God, you want good straight leaders teaching good straight things so that even those gays that do join will see and learn the righteousness of being normal and good and straight!

I mean seriously....

Tugg

[Edited 2013-04-20 14:35:31]


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User currently offlineDocLightning From United States of America, joined Nov 2005, 19807 posts, RR: 59
Reply 12, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 16 hours ago) and read 1979 times:

Quoting Mir (Reply 1):

It's a bit of a strange statement to make to say that gay kids can be in the scouts, but that they cannot be scout leaders once they get older and might want to give back. Isn't that a big part of scouts, teaching people the skills they need to be leaders later in life?

That's what drives me nuts. I was an assistant scoutmaster during my Senior year of HS because I was 18. I became an Eagle Scout at 14, was the Senior Patrol Leader at 15, and then was a Junior Assistant Scoutmaster (JASM) from 16 to 17 and then an Assistant Scoutmaster (ASM).

So the new policy is: "If you're an Eagle who wants to stay involved, you're kicked out when you turn 18."

A step in the right direction, but a very problematic step. I don't think this policy will last long once the obvious issue becomes apparent.

You have no idea what Scouting was for me. We had a troop of 70 kids, and almost all of our dads were educated and professional. Doctors and engineers and lawyers and businessmen. Our scoutmaster, Brian Wicke, had no sons of his own (two daughters) and yet had volunteered to run this troop. We continually won awards at our summer camp. Most boys reached Eagle by age 14. Many of those dads became like auxiliary dads for me. Our scoutmaster was a huge mentor for me. I count him among my three great life "heroes." (Him, my high school swim coach, my residency program director). I learned leadership, organization, and basic skills like how to light a fire, how to use a knife, how to pitch a tent, etc.

It won't last.

To think that a policy like this means that I could never give back to Scouting what it gave to me is so frustrating.


User currently offlineAeroWesty From United States of America, joined Oct 2004, 20685 posts, RR: 62
Reply 13, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 16 hours ago) and read 1957 times:

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 17):
To think that a policy like this means that I could never give back to Scouting what it gave to me is so frustrating.

As you get older, you'll realize that you don't have to give something back in every instance beyond a thank you. It leaves room for others to contribute and be recognized for their value too, while you give of your talents elsewhere. It also allows those who want to give selflessly, asking for nothing in return, to do so unfettered without having to find something for you to do.



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User currently offlineBraniff747SP From United States of America, joined Oct 2008, 2988 posts, RR: 1
Reply 14, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 16 hours ago) and read 1953 times:

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 17):

To think that a policy like this means that I could never give back to Scouting what it gave to me is so frustrating.

...under National policy.

Many troops ignore (and have ignored for a long time) this 'requirement'.

I'm happy I'm in such a troop.



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User currently offlinetugger From United States of America, joined Apr 2006, 5630 posts, RR: 8
Reply 15, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 15 hours ago) and read 1938 times:

Quoting AeroWesty (Reply 18):
It leaves room for others to contribute and be recognized for their value too, while you give of your talents elsewhere. It also allows those who want to give selflessly, asking for nothing in return, to do so unfettered without having to find something for you to do.

Only as long as they are straight or at least not known to be gay.... only straight people get to "give selflessly", gays need not apply.

I agree with Doc that this policy will ultimately fail under the weight of its own fallacy.

Tugg

[Edited 2013-04-20 16:21:40]


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User currently offlineAeroWesty From United States of America, joined Oct 2004, 20685 posts, RR: 62
Reply 16, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 14 hours ago) and read 1925 times:

Quoting tugger (Reply 20):
only straight people get to "give selflessly", gays need not apply.

I'm not talking about just the Boy Scouts though. You can give selflessly, accept with one's thanks, or let someone else be recognized for their worth everywhere in life. It does tie into the scouting ethic as well—your role models teach you for life, they don't follow you around doing everything for you. They watch as you grow to become independent, self-capable and able to share glories in life. Sometimes 'giving back' is simply allowing someone else to be recognized and valued, too.



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User currently offlineseb146 From United States of America, joined Nov 1999, 11678 posts, RR: 15
Reply 17, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 13 hours ago) and read 1908 times:

Quoting Braniff747SP (Reply 13):
That's fine. But they should listen to their membership, which they don't.

They will soon enough. They can keep up the ban, but not for much longer. I don't think the government should force it, though.



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User currently offlinevikkyvik From United States of America, joined Jul 2003, 10049 posts, RR: 26
Reply 18, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 12 hours ago) and read 1900 times:
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Quoting AeroWesty (Reply 18):
As you get older, you'll realize that you don't have to give something back in every instance beyond a thank you.

I'm certainly not speaking for Doc, but it's not always about having to give something back. It's about wanting to give something back. And it's certainly not always related to wanting to be recognized for it.



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User currently offlineAeroWesty From United States of America, joined Oct 2004, 20685 posts, RR: 62
Reply 19, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 12 hours ago) and read 1881 times:

Quoting vikkyvik (Reply 23):
It's about wanting to give something back.

But you don't have to give it back from whence it came or where you want to give it back.

Quoting vikkyvik (Reply 23):
And it's certainly not always related to wanting to be recognized for it.

Where does the desire to want to give back come from? Within oneself. There's a satisfaction fulfilled in some people in terms of self-recognition, "I gave back to the Scouts", for instance.



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User currently offlineBraniff747SP From United States of America, joined Oct 2008, 2988 posts, RR: 1
Reply 20, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 11 hours ago) and read 1872 times:

Quoting seb146 (Reply 22):
I don't think the government should force it, though.

There is no legal basis for them to do so, so they won't.



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User currently offlineltbewr From United States of America, joined Jan 2004, 13121 posts, RR: 12
Reply 21, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 11 hours ago) and read 1861 times:

The problem is two-fold. One is the sponsorship of many, if not a majority of local and regional units by Christian religious groups that specifically see being GLTB as immoral. You need their money, sponsorships, meeting places and adult leaders. Second is the terrible history of sexual assault by adult male leaders upon minor males and per National policy was to keep hidden from the public and police.
I don't think the Girl Scouts have such a ban on Lesbian adult or minor members. Time for the BSA to stop trying to close the door back upon GLTB's.


User currently offlineDocLightning From United States of America, joined Nov 2005, 19807 posts, RR: 59
Reply 22, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 8 hours ago) and read 1841 times:

Quoting AeroWesty (Reply 13):
As you get older, you'll realize that you don't have to give something back in every instance beyond a thank you.

That does not justify this policy.

I am an Eagle Scout, a pediatrician with a Masters of Science from a prestigious university. My resumé is impressive, no false modesty.

And I'm a bad role model.


User currently offlinerampart From United States of America, joined Aug 2005, 3142 posts, RR: 6
Reply 23, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 8 hours ago) and read 1830 times:

Quoting tugger (Reply 15):
Only as long as they are straight or at least not known to be gay.... only straight people get to "give selflessly", gays need not apply.

A friend on a different forum said this about the implied modified rule: "It's OK to be a gay boyscout, but you'd better get your sh*t together by the time you become an adult."  

It will probably change to full acceptance, soon. Perhaps the conservative religious organizations will splinter off into their own thing. That would be sad, only because some of them might retain control of some very nice scout camps out there.

-Rampart


User currently offlinevikkyvik From United States of America, joined Jul 2003, 10049 posts, RR: 26
Reply 24, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 6 hours ago) and read 1815 times:
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Quoting AeroWesty (Reply 19):
But you don't have to give it back from whence it came or where you want to give it back.

Absolutely. But people want to give back to organizations that have given to them. It's natural, in a lot of cases, I think.

Quoting AeroWesty (Reply 19):
Where does the desire to want to give back come from? Within oneself. There's a satisfaction fulfilled in some people in terms of self-recognition, "I gave back to the Scouts", for instance.

Maybe, maybe not. I'll give an example:

When I was approaching 1 year sober, my sponsor mentioned something to me about it, and how they would celebrate it next week at the meeting. I said something like, "oh, I really don't want to celebrate it; that's not what I'm after." And that was absolutely true - I don't like making a big deal, or any deal, out of an achievement of mine like that. But my sponsor said to me (again paraphrasing, as this was 6 years ago), "I know you may not want or feel the need to celebrate it, but what if in doing so, you help someone else? What if someone else sees you achieve your 1 year, and it gives them a push to do the same?" And he was absolutely correct, so we did celebrate it, they gave me a card and my 1-year chip, etc. But I had never thought about it like that. So it wasn't about self-satisfaction, or self-recognition; it was about service to others, which also happens to be a form of self-help.

You even mentioned giving selflessly, and I see no reason that giving back to Scouts can't take that form. And even that is still denied to openly gay adults.

Honestly, recognition from others tends to embarrass me; I'm a pretty shy and private person. Of course it's nice to be noticed sometimes, but that's not necessarily always the case.



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User currently offlineAeroWesty From United States of America, joined Oct 2004, 20685 posts, RR: 62
Reply 25, posted (1 year 5 months 2 weeks 3 hours ago) and read 1795 times:

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 22):
That does not justify this policy.

Never said it did.

Quoting DocLightning (Reply 22):
And I'm a bad role model.

For now, by some ignorant bigots. That doesn't have to stop you from giving of your talents elsewhere or make you feel less of yourself. I'm sure someplace else deserving would feel fortunate for your help. Too bad for the Scouts missing out. Their loss.

Quoting vikkyvik (Reply 24):
You even mentioned giving selflessly, and I see no reason that giving back to Scouts can't take that form.

Never said you couldn't. Let me repeat my point—you don't have to give back to everyone and every place where you've received help. Sometimes all that's required or expected is a thank you. Sometimes your help in return isn't wanted or needed. So taking what you've built upon from the help you received and giving elsewhere isn't a bad thing.

Quoting vikkyvik (Reply 24):
And even that is still denied to openly gay adults.

For now, by some ignorant bigots. That doesn't have to stop anyone from giving of their talents elsewhere or give reason for anyone to feel less of themselves.



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