Rai From Canada, joined Feb 2008, 0 posts, RR: 0
Reply 2, posted (13 years 7 months 2 weeks 2 days 16 hours ago) and read 1849 times:
Sure. My parents. My father is Jewish and my mother is Greek Orthadox. Highly unusual union, but it seems to have worked thus far...far better than any of the marriages on my father's side and they all married within the religion. My parents aren't too, too religious. We observed some of the holidays for both religions, but neither really cared too much about what path we chose to follow. How we ended up was completely up to us and my parents were very open-minded about it. I believe being open-minded about this and pretty much any other issue is paramount for any marriage. But anyways, I am the eldest of three children. I stray more to the Christian side and my sister, who is the youngest, seems to be more Jewish. My brother is sort of in the middle and doesn't really care. But regardless of what faith/path we chose, we all respect the religion of our parents and honor both of them come holiday time. Also meant more presents for us.
But congratulations! This is a momentous event in your life and it only gets more complicated from here. You have mentioned how much you really care for this girl and how you wanted to marry her. You are very lucky to have met the right person, especially at your age. A lot of people spend a lifetime trying to find someone worth spending the rest of their lives with. One word of advice, you're gonna have to get your kids a lot of presents! But they'll probably have a happier childhood this way.
Rai From Canada, joined Feb 2008, 0 posts, RR: 0
Reply 8, posted (13 years 7 months 2 weeks 2 days 12 hours ago) and read 1755 times:
Rai- technically you're not jewish at all.
You know, that's the reaction I continuously got from the Canadian Jewish community when I was living there. Since I moved to the U.S., I've been welcomed by the Jews here with complete open arms...eventhough "technically I'm not Jewish." Whatever.
Mirrodie: My mother side had no problem with my parents' marriage. But my father's parents, at least my grandmother, was very skeptical at first. They eventually gave in and my grandmother even got to love my mother, eventhough she wasn't Jewish. My grandparents are dead now and we have absolutely no relations at all with my father's side of the family -- mostly because we aren't "Jewish enough". I think it varies.
yeah well the dwindling numbers of jews in the world and the high rate of intermarriage..i can see why her parents aren't so happy.
Well, no offence, but Jewish girls (except for the ones from Israel or Russia) are pretty nasty. I wouldn't marry one either. Israeli girls are hot, but they age really bad after they hit 30. None of my Jewish friends is dating a Jewish girl either, as a matter of fact. One is dating an Italian/Irish girl and the other is dating a Chinese/Japanese. The others are still single.
Mirrodie From United States of America, joined Apr 2000, 7459 posts, RR: 60
Reply 11, posted (13 years 7 months 2 weeks 2 days 10 hours ago) and read 1726 times:
First off, thanks for the words all. Feeling good.
Lubcha/ Josh, right? Yes, the world may be dwindling Jews, but my fiance and I have agreeed already that our kids would be raised Jewish. I feel that is a HUGE concern that we decided together and I feel good about it. I embrace the religion and learning about it.
Her mother asked me what I felt about converting and I told her that I was a Catholic that had issues with my own faith. That my simply converting would not be the best way to clear those concerns.
She said she respected that. So overall, I am not contributing to the dwindling amount of Jews worldwide (not that I am saying you said that to me. )
Personally, I think we took a big step in deciding that with the kids. Yet why the push to convert me?
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Lubcha132 From United States of America, joined Feb 2001, 2776 posts, RR: 7
Reply 13, posted (13 years 7 months 2 weeks 2 days 10 hours ago) and read 1724 times:
actually i do know a jewish woman who married a catholic guy and the kids are really into judaism. so its not really an issue as long as you get them circumsized and make them legit jews (oh shit i said the C word here comes the holy war). if the boys don't have "milah" (circumcision, the word Bris means covenant more on that later) they're not technically jewish.
the real problem would be non jewish woman and jewish man because unless she converts the kids aren't jewish.
Blink182 From United States of America, joined Oct 1999, 5499 posts, RR: 14
Reply 14, posted (13 years 7 months 2 weeks 2 days 10 hours ago) and read 1723 times:
I think as long as none of you are extremely religious and let your future offspring decide for themselves, it really shouldn't be a big deal. I'd say maybe do some things with your religion and do some things with hers. Celebrate both, that way both sides are happy and your kids get full exposure to both sides as well. For the Jewish things, you don't have to actively participate, but be there and have fun and same story with your Fiancee and Christian holidays.
Anyway, congrats .
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IMissPiedmont From United States of America, joined May 2001, 6544 posts, RR: 29
Reply 15, posted (13 years 7 months 2 weeks 2 days 9 hours ago) and read 1714 times:
She said yes? Lord, the world is indeed ending.
Can you give me a hint or 2 that might work with my lover? I want the woman as my wife so bad that I can taste it. Wait a minute, that's not what I mean. I mean that I am so in love with her that all I want to do is eat her up. Oh wait a minute, that came out wrong also. I give up.
Seroiusly, congatulations on the upcoming nuptials.
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Ryanb741 From United Kingdom, joined Mar 2002, 3222 posts, RR: 15
Reply 17, posted (13 years 7 months 2 weeks 2 days ago) and read 1682 times:
I am Roman Catholic by birth and my wife is a devout Buddhist. We have no problems ever about religion - I guess the only slight bone of contention is when we have kids - what religion will they be brought up as. We both agreed that the fairest thing to do is bring them up with no religion, and when they are old enough let them make their own choice.
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Stretch 8 From United States of America, joined May 1999, 2568 posts, RR: 15
Reply 20, posted (13 years 7 months 2 weeks 1 day 23 hours ago) and read 1664 times:
Good luck with the marriage. The part about raising your children as Jewish should be viewed as a concession to her parents. As for conversion yourself, I suggest you continue to learn about her faith. Don't reject your Christian beliefs casually. She love and respects you, and will still if you decide not to convert. Best wishes!
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