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User currently offlineMirrodie From United States of America, joined Apr 2000, 7443 posts, RR: 62
Posted (11 years 12 months 9 hours ago) and read 1343 times:
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OK, for the trip report, you can look in that respective forum b/c the flight itself was pretty cool.

Just asked my g/f to marry and she said yes.

Thanks to all for your proposal ideas a few weeks back.

Any mixed religion marriages out there? Care to comment?


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User currently offlineHepkat From Austria, joined Aug 2000, 2341 posts, RR: 2
Reply 1, posted (11 years 12 months 9 hours ago) and read 1337 times:

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

Does she know about this forum?

And she still wanted to marry you?


User currently offlineRai From Canada, joined Feb 2008, 0 posts, RR: 0
Reply 2, posted (11 years 12 months 9 hours ago) and read 1328 times:

Sure. My parents. My father is Jewish and my mother is Greek Orthadox. Highly unusual union, but it seems to have worked thus far...far better than any of the marriages on my father's side and they all married within the religion. My parents aren't too, too religious. We observed some of the holidays for both religions, but neither really cared too much about what path we chose to follow. How we ended up was completely up to us and my parents were very open-minded about it. I believe being open-minded about this and pretty much any other issue is paramount for any marriage. But anyways, I am the eldest of three children. I stray more to the Christian side and my sister, who is the youngest, seems to be more Jewish. My brother is sort of in the middle and doesn't really care. But regardless of what faith/path we chose, we all respect the religion of our parents and honor both of them come holiday time. Also meant more presents for us.  Smile

But congratulations! This is a momentous event in your life and it only gets more complicated from here. You have mentioned how much you really care for this girl and how you wanted to marry her. You are very lucky to have met the right person, especially at your age. A lot of people spend a lifetime trying to find someone worth spending the rest of their lives with. One word of advice, you're gonna have to get your kids a lot of presents! But they'll probably have a happier childhood this way.  Big grin


User currently offlineLubcha132 From United States of America, joined Feb 2001, 2776 posts, RR: 7
Reply 3, posted (11 years 12 months 8 hours ago) and read 1318 times:

Rai- technically you're not jewish at all.

Mirrodie is she Jewish or are you?


User currently offlineEGFF From UK - Wales, joined Sep 2001, 2201 posts, RR: 12
Reply 4, posted (11 years 12 months 8 hours ago) and read 1309 times:

Congratulations Mirrodie  Big thumbs up
EGFF



All together or not at all
User currently offlineB747skipper From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 5, posted (11 years 12 months 7 hours ago) and read 1289 times:

... and all our best wishes, and congratulations too...
(s) Skipper, Mrs. Skipper and family


User currently offlineMirrodie From United States of America, joined Apr 2000, 7443 posts, RR: 62
Reply 6, posted (11 years 12 months 7 hours ago) and read 1268 times:
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I'm the raised Catholic and she is the raised Jew. Raised implies that we are holiday capacity worshipers.

So we are you Judeo-Christian holiday couple.


My parents are fully supportive. Hers are gonna need more, um, talking to.



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User currently offlineLubcha132 From United States of America, joined Feb 2001, 2776 posts, RR: 7
Reply 7, posted (11 years 12 months 6 hours ago) and read 1246 times:

yeah well the dwindling numbers of jews in the world and the high rate of intermarriage..i can see why her parents aren't so happy.

any interest in converting?


User currently offlineRai From Canada, joined Feb 2008, 0 posts, RR: 0
Reply 8, posted (11 years 12 months 5 hours ago) and read 1234 times:

Rai- technically you're not jewish at all.

You know, that's the reaction I continuously got from the Canadian Jewish community when I was living there. Since I moved to the U.S., I've been welcomed by the Jews here with complete open arms...eventhough "technically I'm not Jewish." Whatever.

Mirrodie: My mother side had no problem with my parents' marriage. But my father's parents, at least my grandmother, was very skeptical at first. They eventually gave in and my grandmother even got to love my mother, eventhough she wasn't Jewish. My grandparents are dead now and we have absolutely no relations at all with my father's side of the family -- mostly because we aren't "Jewish enough". I think it varies.

yeah well the dwindling numbers of jews in the world and the high rate of intermarriage..i can see why her parents aren't so happy.

Well, no offence, but Jewish girls (except for the ones from Israel or Russia) are pretty nasty. I wouldn't marry one either. Israeli girls are hot, but they age really bad after they hit 30. None of my Jewish friends is dating a Jewish girl either, as a matter of fact. One is dating an Italian/Irish girl and the other is dating a Chinese/Japanese. The others are still single.  Smile


User currently offlineRedngold From United States of America, joined Mar 2000, 6907 posts, RR: 44
Reply 9, posted (11 years 12 months 3 hours ago) and read 1216 times:

Congrats Mirrodie!

 Smile redngold



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User currently offlineGoodbye From Australia, joined Jan 2001, 913 posts, RR: 10
Reply 10, posted (11 years 12 months 3 hours ago) and read 1206 times:

Congratulations Mirrodie!!

:D

Ash


User currently offlineMirrodie From United States of America, joined Apr 2000, 7443 posts, RR: 62
Reply 11, posted (11 years 12 months 3 hours ago) and read 1205 times:
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First off, thanks for the words all. Feeling good.

Lubcha/ Josh, right? Yes, the world may be dwindling Jews, but my fiance and I have agreeed already that our kids would be raised Jewish. I feel that is a HUGE concern that we decided together and I feel good about it. I embrace the religion and learning about it.

Her mother asked me what I felt about converting and I told her that I was a Catholic that had issues with my own faith. That my simply converting would not be the best way to clear those concerns.

She said she respected that. So overall, I am not contributing to the dwindling amount of Jews worldwide (not that I am saying you said that to me.  Smile/happy/getting dizzy)


Personally, I think we took a big step in deciding that with the kids. Yet why the push to convert me?



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User currently offlineTrickijedi From United States of America, joined May 2001, 3266 posts, RR: 4
Reply 12, posted (11 years 12 months 3 hours ago) and read 1204 times:

Just want to say Congrats Mirrodie!



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User currently offlineLubcha132 From United States of America, joined Feb 2001, 2776 posts, RR: 7
Reply 13, posted (11 years 12 months 3 hours ago) and read 1203 times:

actually i do know a jewish woman who married a catholic guy and the kids are really into judaism. so its not really an issue as long as you get them circumsized and make them legit jews (oh shit i said the C word here comes the holy war). if the boys don't have "milah" (circumcision, the word Bris means covenant more on that later) they're not technically jewish.


the real problem would be non jewish woman and jewish man because unless she converts the kids aren't jewish.


J


User currently offlineBlink182 From Azerbaijan, joined Oct 1999, 5482 posts, RR: 15
Reply 14, posted (11 years 12 months 3 hours ago) and read 1202 times:

I think as long as none of you are extremely religious and let your future offspring decide for themselves, it really shouldn't be a big deal. I'd say maybe do some things with your religion and do some things with hers. Celebrate both, that way both sides are happy and your kids get full exposure to both sides as well. For the Jewish things, you don't have to actively participate, but be there and have fun and same story with your Fiancee and Christian holidays.

Anyway, congrats  Smile.

blink



Give me a break, I created this username when I was a kid...
User currently offlineIMissPiedmont From United States of America, joined May 2001, 6293 posts, RR: 33
Reply 15, posted (11 years 12 months 1 hour ago) and read 1193 times:

She said yes? Lord, the world is indeed ending.  Smile/happy/getting dizzy

Can you give me a hint or 2 that might work with my lover? I want the woman as my wife so bad that I can taste it. Wait a minute, that's not what I mean. I mean that I am so in love with her that all I want to do is eat her up. Oh wait a minute, that came out wrong also. I give up.

Seroiusly, congatulations on the upcoming nuptials.



Damn, this website is getting worse daily.
User currently offlineAWspicious From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 16, posted (11 years 11 months 4 weeks 1 day 23 hours ago) and read 1183 times:

Gonna need help with what - Skipping the country?  Laugh out loud

User currently offlineRyanb741 From United Kingdom, joined Mar 2002, 3221 posts, RR: 15
Reply 17, posted (11 years 11 months 4 weeks 1 day 17 hours ago) and read 1161 times:

I am Roman Catholic by birth and my wife is a devout Buddhist. We have no problems ever about religion - I guess the only slight bone of contention is when we have kids - what religion will they be brought up as. We both agreed that the fairest thing to do is bring them up with no religion, and when they are old enough let them make their own choice.


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User currently offlineTincan From United States of America, joined Apr 2000, 224 posts, RR: 2
Reply 18, posted (11 years 11 months 4 weeks 1 day 17 hours ago) and read 1158 times:

I agree with what Ryanb741 said "We both agreed that the fairest thing to do is bring them up with no religion, and when they are old enough let them make their own choice."

It's too hard to make a choice between the two religions and choose which one you should raise your kids with.


User currently offlineFlyboy36y From United States of America, joined Mar 2000, 3039 posts, RR: 7
Reply 19, posted (11 years 11 months 4 weeks 1 day 16 hours ago) and read 1154 times:

Congrats Mirrodie!

Aww!!! Forger telligion. Forget it exists. All my GF's were not jewish and I love it! No problems. It's all 'bout love.


User currently offlineStretch 8 From United States of America, joined May 1999, 2568 posts, RR: 16
Reply 20, posted (11 years 11 months 4 weeks 1 day 15 hours ago) and read 1143 times:

Good luck with the marriage. The part about raising your children as Jewish should be viewed as a concession to her parents. As for conversion yourself, I suggest you continue to learn about her faith. Don't reject your Christian beliefs casually. She love and respects you, and will still if you decide not to convert. Best wishes!


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User currently offlineLindy From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 21, posted (11 years 11 months 4 weeks 1 day 14 hours ago) and read 1134 times:

Hey, I'm going to propose this weekend  Smile

User currently offlineMirrodie From United States of America, joined Apr 2000, 7443 posts, RR: 62
Reply 22, posted (11 years 11 months 4 weeks 1 day 7 hours ago) and read 1113 times:
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Good luck on your proposal.

Yep, I am so wanting and willing to learn about Judaism and yes, talk about concession(the ultimate sacrifice) with respect to raising the kids Jewish.

I want to raise the kids Jewish. I want to learn about Judaism but I don't think pressuring me into converting is right. Meanwhile, I think her parents are still trying to brainwash her.

I'm even reading books on interfaith marraige/relationships and subscribe to www.dovetailinstitute.org. I am doing all I can here.

Thanks for your support.

mirrodie




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User currently offline777236ER From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR:
Reply 23, posted (11 years 11 months 4 weeks 1 day 7 hours ago) and read 1111 times:

If A.net mods can get married there's hope for us all. Well, except Matt D.

Anyway, why the fuck does religion come into all this? Yknow everyone would be a lot happier if they just worshiped me.


User currently offlineMirrodie From United States of America, joined Apr 2000, 7443 posts, RR: 62
Reply 24, posted (11 years 11 months 4 weeks 1 day 5 hours ago) and read 1100 times:
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Now that is an effective and unbiased solution!


Thanks 777236ER.

longer stressed,  Smokin cool -M



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25 Mirrodie : Is anyone on the site in a mixed marraige?
26 USAFHummer : My 1st cousin, a Jew, married a Christian (Im not sure what denomination she was, I think Lutheran but Im not positive)...they agreed to raise their k
27 Mirrodie : We definitely want both officiants of both faiths there as well.
28 Propatriamori : My wife was raised Islamic, I was raised in a strict Protestant denomination. Things work out extraordinarily well in our household. In my experience,
29 Rapo : My wife is Irish Catholic while I'm Lutheran. Not a too big of a gulf between those two, but the reason for my post if my friend's most mixed of all m
30 Krushny : My wife and me were raised as Catholics (as 99% of Spaniards my age). Not really a curious religious combination. But one of my greatest childhood fr
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